feelings of abandon

anonymous asked:

I told all my friends that I was pan, then came to a realization a few days ago at 3am and realized I wasn't interested in men/male aligned nb. Is there a comfortable way to tell them that? I feel like some that are pan would feel I'm abandoning them and those that are lesbian would feel I'm joining them or copying them. I'm just worried they'll get the wrong idea. I'm also a demigirl, and I'm not sure how to come out as that. Any protips??

best bet is to kinda explain the way you did here and just come out to them again as bi/ply (or lesbian if thats the direction you were heading). chances are, if theyre your friends they wont feel betrayed or copied, and will definately support you in the long-run

as for coming out as a demigirl, if nobody is up to date with nb stuff or whatnot kinda explain it as being part girl, part [ins your other gender here]. if you feel comfortable enough to, bring it up at the same time youre discussing your orientation

hope this helped + best of luck to you!

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Ah, so you DO know his true name. But then… why list his name as Yugi Mutou in your simulation? 

Clearly Seto isn’t used to Atemu’s real name (he has to correct himself), but maybe this is also his way of clinging to the hope that the pharao’s spirit is still earth-bound and thus retrievble. By aknowledging his name, he’s aknowledge the event that went with it: Atemu’s passing into the afterlife.

This stream of consciousness dovetails with the post I reblogged earlier, of Seto feeling abandoned by Atemu. Atemu is gone, but he still haunts Seto’s thoughts, because he never had any closure.
In the anime, he was present during the ceremonial battle, even though he “lost” the preceeding quarrel over who gets to fight Atemu and send him off. Naturally, Seto thought it should be him, as his strongest rival (which, from his point of view totally makes sense, if you take into account what Ishizu said about this being the pharao’s hardest test). Yugi fighting Atemu makes sense from a narrative point of view, but after all nobody (not even Yugi himself) had any idea on how to stage that. Once that was resolved, Seto can accept that he will not get his final match and move on. Besides, the anime had them fighting together much more than against each other already, so the balance had already shifted in that direction.

 In the manga, the Memory World Arc smashcuts right after Seto’s defeat in Battle City, so the wound was still fresh. Here too, Seto had resolved to move on (and build Kaiba Land with Mokuba and possibly resign from duelling). But the events of the MW Arc came too shortly after this, and dragged Seto back into his old obsessions. In the anime, already see him taking a step towards his future - he opens Kaiba Land, which occupies him too much to even participate in his own tournament that he invited Yugi to. And he seems to be ok with that. 

How to deal with your borderline's feelings of abandonment: a guide for outsiders

1. If they confront you about their fears, usually all they want to hear are those four glorious words. “I’m not abandoning you”
2. Since we borderlines are class-A overanalysers, then go into detail. You have reassured that they are wrong and you are not abandoning them. Now is the time to explain. “I was just hanging out with friends” “I needed to get coffee with [this person] because I needed to talk to them about something.” “I haven’t seen this person in a long time. It was nice to catch up”
3. Since jealousy is a main characteristic of someone with borderline, proceed to reaffirm the person. “Besides, we hung out two days ago” “we have plans tomorrow remember?” “I was hoping to make plans with you over the break remember?”

These are positive ways to reaffirm and reassure a borderline with abandonment issues.

dont rb unless u have a cluster b pd thanks
  • <p> <b>friend:</b> responds with one word<p/><b>me:</b> ok i see how it is. i see how much you hate me. i guess ill never speak to you again since you're leaving, lol. jesus you could've made a cleaner break but i do see how it is and although i resent the fact that you dislike me and dont respect you anymore in the slightest i will accept your decision. but really, fuck. you.<p/><b>friend:</b> hey sorry i was busy<p/><b>me:</b> !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i loev you!!!!!!!!! ilove you hi!!!! how are you?!?!!<p/></p>

I was going to draw something cute/happy/romantic after finishing Season 2 but… (╥﹏╥)

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One day, I will fully accept that you can’t be mine.
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Just wait. // Excerpt from the book I’ll never write #7

23/09/2015

u ever just thinking…. im v lonely lol but tryna stay calm abt it cuz otherwise u would have a breakdown..but like…everyone has other ppl but u and ur like a lost bitter lemon who is laying in bed feeling so lame. other ppl r out havin fun. dancing. living life. smiling. talking to other ppl. and ur.. just..with the long legged flying spider creature in ur room thinking too hard abt how actually ur just alone and miserable and forgotten and a bit pointless…

I wonder if you ever felt like I abandoned you….  
If you ever thought I should have fought for you…

The truth of it is I never left.  
I’m still here.  
And I do fight for you - every single day.   
Not to win you…. not to trap you or cage you…  
But for your happiness.

I wage war on myself day in and day out for you.  
Tearing strips off myself, swallowing hatred and tears….  
So if you hate me because I abandoned you…. don’t worry…  
….. I hate myself for it too…
—  Ranata Suzuki

saturn in the 6th house: mental compulsion that becomes paralysis 
moon in the 8th/4th/12th: inherits mother’s psychic abilities 
mars/sun in the 5th house: rapid, bounding pulse 
planets in the 8th house: cold body temperature or frequent chills 
moon in the 2nd, venus in the 2nd: glandular issues 
moon in the 1st, cancer rising, moon in the 4th: fluid retention 
neptune in the 5th: phantom or sympathy pregnancy 
neptune in the 4th: feeling of existential abandonment