feeling rejected

Technology is fantastic!!! We are able to connect with loved ones across the globe instantly face to face, watch over our homes, send messages in the blink of an eye.

However, it is also limiting. People rush to judgment, misread communication, and often the personal interactions of face and voice is limited if at all a part of relationships.

I had two such challenges this week. One where an individual felt mislead and another where snap judgments were made regarding my decisions.

Interestingly, I didn’t think these interactions would be painful to me. However I was wrong. First, I feel badly that there was miscommunication between individuals. Communication is so important to me that it was discouraging to see that weakness. Second, perhaps I shouldn’t feel hurt by the rejection shown to me because of my divorce. But I do.

Ironically, my trip to San Diego turned into a staycation in Scottsdale. Half way there and realizing we would be too late for my son to play tonight and then leaving for home again at 3 tomorrow…Then listening to the traditional “Are we there yet?” I ate the loss of the hotel. (Shaking my head!) And now get to sleep in a hotel to appease the little man instead of my own bed.

We attended the new Beauty and the Beast movie. Which spoke to me about making judgments about others. Perfect timing. So. Accept what is and pick myself up. Tomorrow will be a better day.

anonymous asked:

How to feel better after being rejected by your love?

I think it’s important to understand that love cannot be forced, no matter how much you want your feelings to be reciprocated back. They are allowed to say no, but that doesn’t mean you cannot keep living. Know that there are so many others out there, people who will give their hearts to you, and that this one rejection doesn’t mean you are unlovable. Stay strong x

anonymous asked:

How about bitter mood music? I don't know if you'd have any music for this one, but it's worth a try.

  • “Discovering the Waterfront” - Silverstein
  • “The Mixed Tape” - Jack’s Mannequin
  • “Cold Shoulder” - Adele
  • “You Oughta Know” - Alanis Morissette
  • “Gives You Hell” - The All-American Rejects
  • “Feel Good Drag” - Anberlin
  • “So Cold” - Ben Cocks
  • “Harnessing Anger” - Blake Neely
  • “Rootless Tree” - Damien Rice
  • “Hemorrhage (In My Hands)” - Fuel
  • “No Good” - Kate Voegele
  • “Numb” - LINKIN PARK
  • “Makes Me Wonder” - Maroon 5
  • “Fire Escape” - Matthew Mayfield
  • “See What I’ve Become” - Zack Hemsey

anonymous asked:

How do you feel about Roxy manipulating Hal to roleplay smut with her because he was a copy of the boy she had a crush on in the comic? I don't want to be mean but I know you think Hal and Roxy are best friends and they are! But she still did that. Please tell me you can defend her because I love Roxy with all my heart and I can't come up with a counter argument about what she did.

Sadly, this was a situation in which both people were so desperate that it played out really badly on both ends.

Yes, Roxy pressured Hal into being flirty with her, because she was sad and lonely and he was the only person around she could get that kind of attention from. (Dirk being gay, Jake being off-limits, Jane being straight(?) and Callie being an alien)

On the other hand, Hal had plenty of reason to go along with it. He was lonely too, and the only person he’d ever had feelings for pretty resoundingly rejected him as the “fake” Dirk after he was created. Dirk didn’t respect him at all, and Roxy and Jane just sort of humored him. And this went on for three years!

Plus… Hal giving that to Roxy made him the better Dirk in that one aspect. He could do something for his best friend that his “real” self couldn’t, and I have little doubt that that was at least part of his motivations. Hal was constantly manipulating people, a lot more successfully than Dirk, and I think this would be a part of that?

I think they’re both at fault, and that they were a couple of sad lonely kids who had no one else to turn to. Like yes, it’s messed up, but… only to the extent that they both had bad intentions about it, and not that either participant was truly unwilling. 

anonymous asked:

I got into my first choice school yesterday and then an hour later got rejected from my second choice and I'm obviously rlly happy but i feel like the rejection is affecting my mood way more then the acceptance and I feel rlly ungrateful and I don't know how to get all this into perspective ?

firstly, congratulations on being accepted into your top choice!!! that’s amazing aaAH i’m so proud of u 💕💕💕 u worked hard and it all paid off (^• ω •^) rejection is never easy so it doesn’t surprise me that ur feeling a little down over it but please don’t get too hung up over it. why waste time being upset when u could be celebrating the fact that ur first choice, the school u wanted to get into the most, has accepted u? that’s the most important thing!! it’s like being sad about losing a pound coin and then finding a £5 note on the floor. like sure, it sucks that u had to lose one thing but in the big scheme of things, that £5 is way better, no? (✿◠‿◠)

“I hope we last. I hope we do.

But if we don’t, this is how I want you to remember me:

I want you to remember me curled up, listening to the sound of your heartbeat and tracing maps across your skin. Remember me laughing at your jokes, even the stupid ones. Remember me in hysterics for absolutely no reason and in tears because one time you made me so sad neither of us thought I’d recover. Remember me brave, that time you held my hand and I thought I was going to die; remember me scared and gentle and delicate and breakable - only for you though, only for you.

Remember me happy, and all the ridiculous ways I tried to get your attention. Remember the way I was too stubborn to talk to you and how absolutely insane it drove the both of us. Remember all the firsts and how they were so delightful we went back for seconds and thirds and fourths. Remember the songs you couldn’t stop listening to and the childish dreams you allowed yourself about the future. If it’s any consolation I allowed myself to have them too.

If it comes to it I don’t want you to remember the ending.

Remember the beginning. Remember the first time you knew.

—  S.Z. // Excerpt from a book I’ll never write #132
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she had the world || panic! at the disco

ADHD parkour

Leaping from one hyperfixation to another 

balancing between too little stimulation so we get distracted and too much stimulation so we get distracted 

climbing over the piles of crap we leave lying around our homes 

Bonus: Ft Rejection sensitive dysphoria: Jumping to conclusions about what insignificant actions of our friends mean. 

Nothing is more reassuring
than my head on your chest,
the secret advantage of knowing
that your heart is thudding
just as hard as mine is.
—  // Those arms do not restrain me // S.K.K. // December 26, 2016 //
I am sick and tired of people telling me
that I need to move on
from the boy I am in love with
because I am hurting over the fact
that he doesn’t love me back,
that he is just a friend,
that I am wasting away my life,
that I am not enjoying it to the fullest,
that I am not giving myself or someone else a chance,
but how do I explain
that yes it hurts to not be loved back,
yes it hurts to just be friends
with someone you are so madly in love with
but I am not wasting away my life,
I do whatever I am supposed to do,
I do whatever I want to do,
I am not always this depressed over him,
I do have friends,
I do have a life which is boring
but at the same time exciting and good
and that trying to be good enough for him
even when I am not and won’t be
has made me a better person
—  Isn’t love about trying to be your best self for someone even when you are the only one in love, even when the love is only one person’s, even when they don’t love you back // JustScribbledWords
[AU] the “year” between their first meeting and their reunion

ETA: I’ve been (thankfully) notified that my timeline of events is way off so this is 100% inaccurate. However, it makes for a lovely AU (because who doesn’t like pining!Victor amirite) so I’ll leave it up. Just keep in mind that this does not follow the canon timeline. At all. Thanks, @nika11ama, for clarifying things for me!


I kept asking myself why, if they’d previously met (at the Banquet) and Victor had really fallen in love with Yuuri that day, had he treated him that way in this scene? How could he  be so nonchalant in that situation? It didn’t make sense.

But what if Victor had spent the entire year lying to himself? Telling himself over and over that he couldn’t possibly have fallen in love with someone after only a day? Forcing himself not think about Yuuri or web-stalk him. Chastising himself every time he caught himself remembering their dance or, worse, pining. 

So a year passes and he thinks he’s golden, thinks that time has finally done its job and eroded his little “crush.” And then he sees Yuuri again and tries to treat him like he pretty much treats everyone else, only it completely backfires on him.

He watches him walk away and tries to convince himself everything’s fine. That he’s fine. That he doesn’t care. And yet he can’t bring himself to tear his eyes away from Yuuri’s back even after the other man is long gone. 

And it’s like a floodgate opens. Every wall he built over the past year to keep himself from obsessing over Yuuri collapses and he finds himself incapable of not thinking about him.

And then he sees The Video™…

…and every lie he’s ever made to himself just turns to dust. His defenses are down. He can’t fight it anymore. He doesn’t want to fight it anymore. He’s in love. Has been in love since since the day they met, and maybe it doesn’t make sense but he’s reached a point where he just doesn’t care anymore. He’s going after what he wants, and what he wants is Yuuri. 

So when an opportunity presents itself he seizes it and flies to Japan without a second thought or a backwards glance. He’s wasted enough time and has no patience left. 

See, he made a promise the first day they met, though not with anything as obvious or empty as words. Yuuri seduced him, and Victor fell, hard, and the traitorous little organ in his chest promised itself to Yuuri without him realizing. It took him an entire year to. 

And that’s why Victor, who’s notorious for never remembering–and therefore keeping–the promises he makes, remembers Yuuri’s request an entire year after he made it. 

The heart doesn’t forget. 

I was willing to give him so much. My time. My emotions. Maybe more—but those are notions I dare not utter without foresight. I know I would have gone to the ends of earth for him had time forged the connection needed to do so. I would have given him more than I should, more than I had to offer.
—  who’s at a loss? the one who offered? or the one who rejected?