feeling obligated

My dear lgbt+ kids, 

If very general lgbt+ positivity does not speak to you, that’s okay. 

You’re not required to reblog “All trans boys are handsome!!” posts, just because you are a trans boy. You don’t need to share aesthetic edits stating “Relationships between two girls are lovely and sweet”, even when you are a girl who dates a girl.

If that kind of positivity means nothing to you or even feels rather forced and fake, do not feel obligated to put it on your blog because that’s what a “good person” is supposed to do. This goes twice if there are guilt-tripping comments (such as “Watch all the homophobes not reblogging this” or “If you don’t reblog this, unfollow me”). 

There’s no such thing as a post all good people are required to share. 

With all my love, 

Your Tumblr Mom 

I feel artistically emotionally deprived.

Bingo bongo.

Wynonna Earp is here with Kat and Dom telling us how important the WayHaught relationship is and how they feel such an obligation to make it as real as possible, we have Melanie telling us how wonderful it feels to play a badass even while pregnant, and we have Emily telling us she loves all of us and says “You can ship whoever you want! We all love you all” like honestly I couldn’t ask for a better fandom 😭❤️

Navigator and Wild Card

Mahiru and Impostor for dangan thieves AU

A lot of extra sass quotes for Mahiru because navi’s talk a lot apparently and Twogami has a different kind of mementos chats hmm…

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o shit waddup here comes that depression

anonymous asked:

I feel like your speculations are so stupid. Darren may by gay or bisexual but I doubt the reason he would hide it is legal or contractual. Even if you don't want to accept it darren is dating a girl

Anon, your ignorance is astounding.  Wow.  

A little quote from Stranger than Fanfiction. Chapter 1

Unfortunately, your definition of youth is a breach of contract,” one of the male executives said. “You and your representation agreed to the studio’s morality clause when you were hired, and then again during renegotiations in the sixth season. If your behavior doesn’t change, we’ll be forced to take legal action.”

Morality Clause.  Something Chris is so affected by he even slipped a reference into TLOS6, Chapter 17  

I’m more than willing to break some morality clauses if it means saving the world,” Charlotte said. “Who’s got a pen?”

Another quote from Stranger, Chapter 15 that further explains the concept:

Look, you’re right, I don’t know what it’s like to be in your shoes,” he said. “I’ve had people telling me what to do my whole life, too, so I sympathize with you. But you aren’t under a studio contract! You don’t have legal obligations to a network! No one is going to sue you for everything you have if you don’t follow their orders! Your world is as open and free as this road—you just don’t see it!”

Please educate yourself.  And please don’t return unless you have an intelligent argument  

anonymous asked:

Hi, I want to say your blog is amazing and your oz+ posts are really the only thing I look up to. Truth is my entire week was terrible as my boyfriend broke up with me and I don't know really but, is it possible I can request where the MC wants to take a "break"from the guys? I just want to share the pain a little with someone too... Sorry if this is too depressing, you don't have to do it if you don't to. Please don't feel obligated to do it, but thanks for taking the time to read my note

Oh, I’m so sorry I didn’t get this up on time. I hope things are better now. Don’t be afraid to drop a message if you want to talk.
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CROWLIE
*When MC mentions wanting a break, Crowlie just stops.
*He asks if he heard her right, and gets really, really upset when she repeats it.
*He doesn’t know what to say at first other than ask why.
*When MC tells him that she just needs some time, Crowlie begins to close up. Think about how he gets distant in his route.
*He tells her that she can have all the time she wants, and he also swears he is ok. (He’s not).
*In the end, he avoids MC like the plague and becomes really aloof when she approaches him. It’ll take a while to get him to break out of his shell afterwords.
*He just keeps wondering what he did to make her need some distance.

HEARTMANN
*Being as empathetic as he is, Heartmann pretends to understand.
*He lends MC a sympathetic ear and swears he’s okay with her needing help. To him, her wellbeing and comfort is important, so he’ll give her space.
*He’s really crushed but won’t show it.
*Like Crowlie, Heartmann does try to avoid MC. He won’t go as far as becoming aloof, but he will show her a politeness that is as real as Trump’s toupee.
*He’s really hurt and angry at himself. In his mind, he must have done something to hurt MC. It’s so frustrating that he doesn’t know what.
* In the end, Heartmann just keeps hoping MC will change her mind eventually. If she does, she’ll be welcomed with open arms.

LEONARDO
*Is it something he did? Is it something he said? Does he smell? Is his self control that bad? Did she find out Leonardo accidentally dropped her toothbrush in the toilet? What is it?!
*This boy panics and practically begs MC not to do it and apologizes.
*Leonardo is so hurt that he becomes desperate and makes a bunch of promises. It makes MC feel pity, but she remains firm.
*In the end, he’ll calm down and will be able to sit with her and listen to her speak.
*He doesn’t want to go through with it, but MC has the final say in that.
*And, so, even thought it hurts, Leonardo will agree to taking a break. He’ll pretend to be less hurt than he was a while ago and will tell MC that he’ll wait however long it takes.
*He really will, but he doesn’t want to wait forever. It hurts too bad.
*And he’ll keep wondering what it is he did wrong through the entire ordeal.

OZ
*Oz and Wesley are masters at hiding their emotions when they want to. (Or at least they try to be). For this reason, Oz is as cool as can be when MC gives him the ultimatum.
*He takes it in stride and puts up an air of confidence that doesn’t really match the way his eyes seem to be in pain.
*(“If you want some time off, fine. I need a vacation too.”)
*Oz tells MC he has been thinking the same thing for a long time, and is glad she brought it up first.
*(Liar, liar)
*He does this as a ploy to save face and hurt MC as much as he is hurting. A cowardly thing to do, but he’s not at his best right now.
*Oz will also make an offhanded remark about being bored of just one person and will express interest in being open to others again. This will REALLY hurt MC, and he doesn’t mean it, but fuck it just came out and he can’t take it back.
*He has serious word vomit and he can’t stop it, so he’ll just excuse himself to keep from hurting MC.
*After the confrontation, he feels really guilty for saying things he didn’t mean, but he’s too prideful to apologize or beg MC to reconsider.
*No matter how much it hurts, he’ll bear through it and hope MC will come back to him.

WESLEY
*Wesley is great at hiding his emotions…or so he thinks.
*When MC tells him she needs a break, he puts on a facade and takes it in stride.
*Like Oz, he’ll make offhanded comments about agreeing, but it is not to save face. Oz makes those comments to appear confident and independent, but Wesley does it to hide from himself how much it hurts.
*It doesn’t really work because he can still feel his heart aching.
*Anyway, he’ll tell MC that a villain doesn’t need anyone by his side and this is probably best. She needs someone who doesn’t have a criminal record, and he needs someone who isn’t an immature little goody-goody. This will hurt MC, but he doesn’t think about it then.
*The more Wesley thinks about it, maybe this is a good thing? MC deserves better, and villains aren’t supposed to get happy endings. Maybe this is just poetic justice?
*In the end, Wesley pretends to be all for it and will do his best to not be around MC. Unlike Oz who will want to see her as often to make her believe he is feeling better than what he is, Wesley can’t fake it. Staying away and in his private home is the best solution.
*Isolation may hurt him because he’s finally opened up but he tells himself he deserves it.

SOLOMON
*Solomon is really good at manipulation. A few sweet words and smiles go a long way for him, so MC will really reconsider her choice. There may be ways he can use to make her forget needing a break.
*For this reason, it’ll be unlikely that anything really happens.
*Although, if MC is able to see through his tricks, he will accept it.
*When Solomon realizes MC is serious, he will be surprisingly understanding. He has a serious discussion with MC and agrees to take some time off to process things.
*Even though it hurts, he’ll go with what MC wants because he wants her to have no regrets in their relationship.
*All in all, he’ll be supportive and won’t say anything he’ll regret. He won’t avoid MC either and will prefer to see her often. Solomon does this to reassure her that he still cares and is waiting patiently.
*And he will wait for MC forever if he has to.

NORTON
*Since Norton is relatively mature like Solomon, he’ll want to have a discussion with MC. This discussion will be serious and at length.
*Once he becomes aware that MC really wants a break, he’ll resignedly agree.
*It hurts to go through with it, but Norton will do it if MC wants to. Her wishes are more important than his heartbreak.
*Like Crowlie, he’ll become a little more aloof with her, like Heartmann he’ll put on a facade of politeness around her and try to avoid her. It hurts to see her so he wants some distance between them.
*As time goes on, however, he begins to inch closer to her like Solomon. He wants her to know that he is still waiting and hasn’t given up on them.
*And, once MC wants to get back together, he’ll welcome her with open arms. They’ll have another lengthy discussion, but he won’t hold any resentment or heartache.

LET HONESTY DAY BEGIN!

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Don’t Mess with Miss Anderson

‘I am, frankly, cantankerous; always was. Shows on my face. Most of the members of my gender aren’t permitted to be the least bit cantankerous until they’re old, divorced or widowed. I never waited for anyone to give me permission to reveal what I felt. If I felt moody or angry, I damn well showed it!’
- Dame Judith Anderson interviewed in 1990

There are two reasons why I love this quote and hope you will too. Firstly, Judith’s candour is refreshing: she not only freely admits to having always been ‘cantankerous’ but makes clear that she’s proud of it. Why should she pretend to be some passive little thing when that’s not her true nature?

Secondly, she articulates an important point about the way women often feel obliged to behave. Many of us wait for someone to ‘give [us] permission’ to express our feelings, especially when we’re young, so that we don’t risk being labelled hormonal or hysterical (or cantankerous). Not Judith; she ‘damn well showed’ her emotions, no matter how powerful or disruptive. The way she felt was written all over her face.

So, ladies, in the spirit of one of the twentieth century’s most talented, gutsy actresses, let’s all resolve to be more cantankerous! It’s what Judith would’ve wanted.

BTS AUDIO TAG GAME
Courtesy of ur local bogan fuck aka: @larryflippedthebird

I was tagged by @lesbianblossomjimin to do the bts audio tag (thank you ya cutie <3). There is a fair amount of swearing btw sorry about that.

1. name + username
2. who’s your bias and why? any bias wreckers?
3. when did you become a fan?
4. favorite album?
5. favorite song?
6. favorite vocalist?
7. favorite rapper?
8. favorite era?
9. favorite bangtan bomb?
10. rookie king vs. ahl vs. bon voyage
11. have you ever seen them in person? any special memories?
12. tag your friends!

I just realised i dont have many kpop mutuals but here goes: tagging @ilisam-sana @kingkookies @minimalmint @jun-kookie @sergeantbuckaroo  @swishyhairbarnes (don’t feel obliged Ads <3) and @amaranthhime (because i tag you in everything any way so may as well) as well as anyone else who wants to do this!

Sorry again that you all had to listen to my shitty voice i love you all…

Yuri On Ice Themed Asks
  • Michele Crispino: What makes you jealous?
  • Kenjiro Minami: Who do you look up to?
  • Sueng Gil Lee: Are you an introvert or extrovert?
  • Guan-Hong Ji: Describe a time when you were brave.
  • Christophe Giaccometti: What's your most embarrassing memory?
  • Emil Nekola: What do you do for fun?
  • Georgi Popovich: Have you ever had your heart broken?
  • Leo de la Iglesia: What was the last song you listened to?
  • Yuri Katsuki: What is something other people tell you you're good at?
  • Jean-Jacques Leroy: Do you consider yourself a confident person?
  • Phichit Chulanont: Describe one of your firsts (first kiss, first date, first love etc)
  • Viktor Nikiforov: Describe a time when you were spontaneous.
  • Otabek Atlin: What do you look for in a friend?