feel-good-about-yourself

anonymous asked:

An hc where the reader always covers up with big sweaters and sweatshirts bc she's on the curvier side and one day she wears like a cropped sweatshirt and Ethan is really proud and happy to see her out of her comfort zone 😊

Of course!! Please enjoy 😊💕

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- He’d always say that he loves you no matter your size but you’re still very self conscious of your body

- Wearing his bigger hoodies because everything is big on him so it’ll be big in you too

- You being upset when you dry your sweaters and they shrink

- He’d always give you praise about you and your body and you’d appreciate it but it takes a bit to make you really feel good about yourself

- Eventually though it happens and you wear a form fitting shirt and he just stares at you

- ‘You’re so beautiful… I’m proud of you’

- Kisses and praise and hugs and just being a sweet blueberry

agreed 100%! i hate when i see somebody online videotaping them giving a homeless person, less fortunate person, etc. something they are in need of. i understand you feel good about yourself when doing something kind, but those people are still people. do something kind because you want to, not because you want the internet karma.

for @thenewbard who loves the hell out of this rarepair

Steps to Self-forgiveness

1. Take responsibility for what you said or did.

2. Think about how you were feeling at the time, or what was driving you to act in that way.

3. Related to this, try to identify the underlying need, or the motive behind the thing you now regret. (For example, respect from others, approval from others, wanting to feel good about yourself, wanting to pay another back, and so on.)

4. Express your regrets and attempt to make amends if your words or your actions have affected someone else.

5. Think of how you’ll change and will act differently, if the same situation occurs again. This is the real person that you truly want to be.

6. Write yourself a caring and empathic letter where you forgive yourself, and tell yourself you can move on.

7. Remember that your human – and we all have deep regrets; and we’re all on a journey – for there’s non-one who is perfect.

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When I started dating I had this kind of Romeo and Juliet, fateful romantic idea about love which was almost that you were a victim and there was a lot of pain involved and that was how it should be. Shakespeare said the course of true love never did run smooth, and I had this sense that it had to be painful. It was such a revelation to realize that it shouldn’t be that way and that you get to choose who you love and who you decide to give your heart to. It sounds like a cliché but I also learned that you’re not going to fall for the right person until you really love yourself and feel good about how you are.

We fall in love and we fall out of love
both, so frightenly consuming
make us feel alive
all the joy, the pain
the mistakes and the feelings
make us human

It’s okay to cry when you’re sad
it does not make you weak
It’s okay to say no
if it’s for your own souls health
It’s okay to kiss the boy on that party
even though some people judge you for it
It’s all okay

None of these people will matter in ten years
you’re only 16, maybe 17
This is the time to become who and what
you want
The time to do the things that fill your heart,
even the time to make mistakes

It’s not selfish to put yourself
before anyone else
it gives you inner peace
and power
I promise
You matter
You are important
You play the leading part
in your life

Life is short - do what you want
Life is long - there will always be second chances and detours, but you will reach your aim

—  things i learned, please never forget these
How to Deal with Rejection, or Being Victimised

1. Remind yourself of who you really are – and use positive self-talk to change the way you feel.

2. When you have to speak to someone who outwardly rejects you, or makes you feel bad about yourself, try to act as if you love and feel good about yourself. Fake courageous feelings, and act self confident. (“Fake it till you make it” – and you’ll find your feelings change.)

3. Respond in a friendly, self respecting way – and they’re likely to treat you the same way too. Control your interactions by setting the tone. You be the one to have the upper hand.

4. Use humour in uncomfortable and awkward situations. Humour defuses tension, and puts people at ease. If someone is rude or insulting try to find a way of turning it into a joke. People who have bullying tendencies expect you to get anger or act in a defensive way. When you respond with humor, they don’t know what to do.

5. Overlook small stuff. It’s not worth get upset over every little thing. They’re not worth the effort and energy.

6. Always believe in yourself. You know the truth about who you really are. You’re not stupid; you’re not a victim. You are one who is charge of your life, and is at the helm of your destiny. You have plenty of things to feel good about, and you’re going to make something really wonderful of life.

Listen.

 I’ve already accepted that this is probably gonna end with Teru being like ‘haha sorry Kageyama-kun I just wanted you to feel good about yourself’.

But you CANNOT convince me that Teruki “Thinks It’s Acceptable To Wear Red Shorts Over Black And White Camo Pants” “Can Only Think About How Amazing Mob Is While Being Blasted Off Like Team Rocket” Hanazawa was actually lying about anything he said.

Which lazytown character should you fight

Sportacus

Who wins: Sportacus

The bad news is this guy has over 4000 confirmed jumps and boundless energy, strength, and speed. The good news is he probably won’t hurt you too badly. You will lose, though.

Robbie

Who wins: ???

Robbie has a bad track record with winning fights, but that doesn’t mean he won’t give you a run for your money. This could go either way. But if you win you will feel awful about yourself.

Stephanie

Who wins: you

Stephanie has good speed and stamina, but she is lacking in brute strength. If you can hit her hard early on, this one goes to you.

Stingy

Who wins: Stingy

Fight Stingy. He fights dirty and he’ll go right for the eyes, but he deserves to get roughed up a bit.

Ziggy

Who wins: you

Ziggy is erratic and pretty weak, as well as quite annoying. But he is a little kid and you probably won’t earn many bragging rights (or much satisfaction) from beating up a four-year-old.

Pixel

Who wins: ???

The outcome of this fight completely depends on if you’re fighting irl or a video game. But why would you want to fight Pixel?

Trixie

Who wins: Trixie

Trixie will obliterate you without breaking a sweat. Do not fight Trixie.

The Mayor

Who wins: you

It is actually physically impossible to fight the mayor. He does the job himself by tripping over his own feet before you can even make a move.

Miss Busybody

Who wins: Miss Busybody

Your greatest mistake is to underestimate Miss Busybody. When it comes down to it she has what it takes to deliver a smackdown, verbal or physical.

Bonus:

Íþróttaálfurinn

Who wins: Íþróttaálfurinn

Do you have a death wish. There is no way you come out of this fight with your dignity or your ribcage intact.

Glanni

Who wins: ???

It depends what you mean by “winning.” There is no way this goes how you were expecting. Also, if he beats you he will step on your face in high heels.

Benefits of not being around abusive people:
  • Not having to listen to them
  • Not having to exhaust yourself making them feel good about themselves
  • Not having to listen to lies and twisted re-telling of events
  • Not getting shut down, insulted and humiliated when you try to speak
  • Not having your emotions invalidated and ridiculed
  • Not having everything about you used against you
  • Not being treated like an object or a property
  • Not being yelled and screamed at when you try to stand up for yourself
  • Not having to second guess your every thought and opinion
  • Not having everything you know to be true denied to you constantly
  • Not having to imagine worst case scenarios constantly
  • Not having to bottle up all the fear, pain, and anger
  • Not being self-conscious about your appearance
  • Not having to worry about being degraded, called out or insulted based on your appearance
  • Not being stared at and feeling like you’re being watched and judged no matter what you’re doing
  • Not being glared at and addressed with hatred and scorn
  • Not being forced to compete for attention
  • Not being denied attention
  • Not feeling pathetic and horrible about your needs
  • Not feeling like everyone hates you and you’re unnecessary
  • Liking yourself
  • Loving your body
  • Gaining confidence in yourself
  • Knowing what you can do and how capable you are
  • Being aware of your talents and virtues and feeling proud and content
  • Being able to point out what’s wrong without getting shut down
  • Being able to call anyone out on their shit without getting attacked
  • Being able to express your pain, fear, anger, without getting abused
  • Being accepted
  • Being good enough as you are
  • Being important to yourself and other people
  • Having your feelings and opinions matter
  • Having your point of view matter
  • Having your work and care valued and reciprocated
  • Talking about whatever you feel like talking about
  • Being heard and listened and validated
  • Being allowed to complain and rant and cry 
  • Feeling comfortable asking for what ever you need
  • Feeling entitled to what you need to be alive, healthy, and content
  • Having a clear mind and knowing exactly what is the truth and what isn’t
  • Feeling safe and knowing that nobody is about to attack you