feel so safe

I hate antis so fucking much… I hate what they have turned fandom into and I hate what lengths they are willing to go just for some fucking moral crusade about a GODDAMN FICTIONAL PAIRING.

I try my best to enjoy fandom, I try my best to ignore and block all the nasty people who just keep bullying because of no reason. I do my best I swear, but… seeing artist being driven away from fandoms they love, seeing fans hating the original material because of the fandom, seeing creators horrified at what their fans are and feeling unmotivated to continue, seeing people being driven TO DELTETE THEIR BLOGS OUT OF FEAR AND HARRASMENT it’s… too much…

I try to keep positive, to think nothing is 100% bad and they have some kind of… reasoning behind all this malice. I want to motivate people to love fandom and fan content as much as I did back all those years ago, when fandom saved my life and helped me become a better person. But a place where suicide bating is acceptable is… not the place I grew up in.

I miss the times where you could say something fucked up and someone would be into the same thing, and even if there was none you could just laugh it off, not fear for your privacy or mental health… I like dark content, I always have, and being censored like this hurts SO MUCH.

I’m sorry I got so negative… I just needed to vent, I’m angry right now I just… I hate antis so fucking much

my prof commented that my presenting style is really good and that it makes her wish i would speak more in class (she said this on my written feedback, not in conversation). so i think i’m gonna tell her about my avpd bc i really don’t want my participation mark to plummet my grade. plus i’ve been trying really hard to speak in class and so far i’ve spoken at least once every class which is HUGE for me, so i want her to know that this is me being really talkative lmao


Even “casually wearing my boyfriend’s clothes long before we were official Bech Naesheim


#these two scenes imo show exactly why shaw considers root her safe place #let me explain why #so the first gif is just the most serene and content i’ve ever seen shaw #like ever #she’s in eternal bliss and all root is doing is rubbing her back #look at her lip bite #she couldn’t be more of a cat purring in this moment #and then onto the second gif #shaw would legit be on her death bed swearing she’s ok or that nothing is wrong #that’s just how stubborn she is #but in the second gif she actually admitted that she didn’t know if she was ok #the only person she felt comfortable enough to admit that to was root #she’s never been this vulnerable with anyone else #but she loves root and she trusts her so it was just easy for her #what i’m saying is… #they will never not fuck me up


The Grasp™


such a tough little fellow.

Thanksgiving: How to Deal With Difficult People

Visiting family for Thanksgiving can be challenging. Your dinner companions may say hurtful, offensive things about race, gender identity, sexual harassment and assault, birth control coverage, abortion, or any number of topics — which can feel stressful, isolating, or enraging.

So this Thanksgiving, we’re giving you some tips on how to deal with your family when things get hard:

  1. Self care: Make decisions about what to do around Thanksgiving so you feel safe, whether that means not going home at all, going home with a friend or partner by your side, or only visiting for dinner.
  2. Build allyship with family members who love and respect you: The more people in your family who can call people out (or even better, call people in) on their problematic behavior, the less acceptable it will be.
  3. Engage people in conversation: If you feel safe doing so, start with a mutual value (like freedom, respect, or love). For example, if someone says they don’t think businesses should have to cover birth control, ask why from a place of curiosity. Maybe they think business owners are people who should be free to make decisions based on their religion. You can agree that people should be free to make decisions based on their beliefs — whether you’re a CEO or an employee, you should have the ability to make your own personal health care decisions. So you explain (calmly) how that mutual value informs your stance. Practice asking questions, finding a value in their sentiment you can agree on, and starting from there. This is hard work, but you only get better at it if you keep trying.
  4. Take a stand: It’s totally ok to tell someone that their language or behavior is hurtful and unacceptable to you. Tell them about the impact it has on you and why, and what the consequences of their actions are to the larger community. Tell them you expect better, and what the consequences are if they don’t change (like cutting off contact with them or leaving). And you’re allowed to end the conversation, leave the room, and set whatever boundaries you need to feel safe.

There are lots of great resources out there to help guide you in tough conversations, here are a few to get you started:

In support and solidarity,

-Julia at Planned Parenthood




— favourite One and Only lyrics (ft. Sehun)