feel obligated

Rules: Answer the 20 questions and tag 20 followers who you would like to know better.
Tagged by @thenicodiangelo ♥

Name: Mimi
Nickname: Mimi
Zodiac sign: Cancer
Height: 5′0″ 
Orientation: 💘
Nationality: Australian/American
Fav fruit: Guava
Fav season: Spring
Fav flower: (Dixie Knight Supreme) Camellia
Fav scent: Chocolate-chip cookies, freshly baked
Fav colour: Red and green
Fav animal: Dogs?
Coffee, tea or hot cocoa: Coffee
Average hours of sleep: 6
Fav fictional character: Violet Baudelaire, Holly Short, Will Treaty
Number of blankets you sleep with: 1
Dream trip: To Canada or Sweden
Blog created: 10 Mar 2016

Tagging: @lunaloved @matthishelvar @katie-bell @pctter @faeheys @valxyries @scourgify @ravehclaw @empathetically @howlingremus @muqqlestudies @puveblood @charlesbeckendorf @lunnies @ofskatesandwatercolor

so @remusjohnlvpin tagged me to do a thing and by some miracle, I am actually doing it because as you all probably know (or will learn) I love being tagged in stuff but I’m useless at actually passing it along. I’m very sorry, I love you I really do

Rules: list 10 songs you’re currently vibing on and tag 10 people

(some of these are super current on my listening list because I’ve only discovered them in the last few days or so)

1. Sincerely Me - Dear Evan Hansen (Mike Faist, Ben Platt, Will Roland)

2. Voldemort - In Confidence

3. Andrew’s Song - I The Mighty

4. New Heights - Shorelines

5. The Devil You Know - X-Ambassadors

6. Bad At Love - Halsey

7. Ground Control - All Time Low feat Tegan and Sara

8. Tell Me I’m A Wreck - Every Avenue

9. The Good Book - Quietdrive

10. December - Neck Deep

I’m tagging
@everythingthatmatters @jadedskylark @stuckatsix @poze-laceen @danielzharman @bvccvrdi @cigarettesmokeandexyracquets @still-waiting-for-godot @mrs-storm-andrews @flintxwood

anonymous asked:

Hey, Squigg! I finally wrote my fic for you! Just wanted yo check if it reached you! I did tag it Squigglydigglydoo and squigglydigg in the first tags, but because Tumblr is weird, and I have the worst luck getting my messages to reach other people I was wondering if you could confirm? PS. Please don't feel obligated to read it immediately! Please do when you actually feel like it and have the time! (That... Kind of sounded passive aggressive, haha, but I do mean it!)

No no, I got what you meant!  I’m sorry for not seeing it right away – when I’m at work, I don’t actually have all the add-ons to my XKit that I do at home, and so I don’t see my tracked tags on my sidebar.  I’d have seen it when I got home, but now I have it saved to my drafts to read when I get the chance.  Thank you so much for tagging me so I could see it! :D

anonymous asked:

hey ur beautiful and i lov u!! also im mormon too!! have u listened to Book of Mormon? i havent but i feel obligated

so many mormons this is the Mormon blog now (pls follow @transgaymormon i post religion shit there)
i HAVE and it’s so good i love tbom it’s funny as heck

medicalmystry  asked:

Hey, I just kinda discovered your blog today and your little comics brought a smile to my face. I just wanted to let you know how happy and relaxed these made me after a really long and emotionally taxing day. It looked like you were feeling bad, too, so I wanted to try and cheer you up somehow. So, would you be okay with me writing a little fanfic based on your comics?

It’s awesome they brought a smile to your face, I’m really glad to hear it. You’re free to do as you like, but don’t feel obligated to do so just because I’m feeling down. It’s been this way for quite a while so I wouldn’t want to waste your time or anything.

Archived

This has been a long time coming, but I’ve decided to move Siegbert over to a multi-muse blog. Thank you everyone that took the time to write with me here!

I completely understand the general aversion to multi-muse blogs, so please don’t feel obligated to follow just because we were mutuals here. I’ll continue any threads there if people are still interested, but if not, that is also fine. Take care, everyone. I wish you all the best. ♡

We would like to address something with y'all - so please forgive me for my rant.

I am still filled to the brim with anger over Baekhyun feeling obligated to disable commenting from his Instagram so that he would stop getting hate.

I get on social media and STILL see people saying pretty terrible things about his hair. I’ve seen people start to say some pretty terrible things about Sehun’s hair. People are bashing Junmyeon. And we aren’t quite sure how.

Admin A and I would like to remind everybody that we are NOT here for the hate of ANY idols. We just want to take this time to remind everyone that idols are people with feelings, too.

We, as fans, create this world of entitlement in our minds by reading and writing about them as if we know them. We pretend that we should have this unlimited access to their lives, as though they don’t actually deserve privacy.

We just ask that everybody remember to be nice. Just be nice. That is all that you have to do. It is not difficult to just choose to not say anything vs saying something mean to an idol’s social media.

It doesn’t matter if you support them or not. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t a fan of BTS or Monsta X or SHINee. Don’t. Be. Cruel. To. Them. Or. Their. Fans.

If you don’t stan a member of EXO - don’t. Be. Mean. About. It.

Hair color will fade. Their fame will fade. But, the lasting effect of fans’ words to them will resonate with them forever.

We aren’t accusing any of our followers of being responsible for the spread of unkind words or actions. Just a friendly reminder to keep up kindness everywhere you go. ❤

-Admin T✨

Edit: I want to throw in - there’s a difference between harmless memes and commenting between friends that you may or may not like the hair. Admin A pointed out the Willis Weasley meme of Sehun to me and I cracked up. Things like that are DIFFERENT than harassing an idol. I know that seems obvious. But I felt the need to clarify in case someone thought otherwise. ❤❤

gammapulse  asked:

ITS OKAY I NAP A LOT TOO. Also shh dont feel obligated to draw anything i just feel like I have somewhere to dump some of my silly ideas (to you) and i ACTUALLY LIKE READIN UP THE STUFF YOU COME UP WITH TOO I hope Im not being too forward sometimes with stuff. Youre not obligated 2 respond to stuff I say either btw bc like I knwo that Feel too.

im honestly eternally flattered that people would come to me with these things like! thank you for involving me in your ideas and rambles and stuff. it feels good, feels organic. by all means, tell me what you’d like–if i don’t respond i guarantee its because im a fucking dumbass and/or tired but not because im annoyed at you or anything like that.

I just wanted to quickly say that I’ve really appreciated everything you guys have done for me. I care about each and every one of you. You’re amazing! I just don’t know how to express how I feel sometimes but please know even if I didn’t response, I either haven’t read it, or don’t know how to respond. I appreciate all the messages you send and I hope that you don’t think I’m being mean or cold by not responding. I’m also trying to spend less time on the internet, so I’m not online as often as I was before. Also, please don’t feel obligated to message me back immediately. I understand that you have lives outside of me and I don’t expect you guys to just drop everything you’re doing and talk to me. I’m sorry if I ever made you feel like you had to put me before your lives. Afterall, I’m just a stranger across the world. The fact that you guys seem to care so much about me makes me very emotional, especially since my own family doesn’t care nearly as much as you guys. I love you all very much ❤️❤️

Yuri On Ice Themed Asks
  • Michele Crispino: What makes you jealous?
  • Kenjiro Minami: Who do you look up to?
  • Sueng Gil Lee: Are you an introvert or extrovert?
  • Guan-Hong Ji: Describe a time when you were brave.
  • Christophe Giaccometti: What's your most embarrassing memory?
  • Emil Nekola: What do you do for fun?
  • Georgi Popovich: Have you ever had your heart broken?
  • Leo de la Iglesia: What was the last song you listened to?
  • Yuri Katsuki: What is something other people tell you you're good at?
  • Jean-Jacques Leroy: Do you consider yourself a confident person?
  • Phichit Chulanont: Describe one of your firsts (first kiss, first date, first love etc)
  • Viktor Nikiforov: Describe a time when you were spontaneous.
  • Otabek Atlin: What do you look for in a friend?
Internal Conflict:  Five Conflicting Traits of a Likable Hero.

1.  Flaws and Virtues 

I’m sure you’ve heard this before, but characters without flaws are boring.  This does not, as many unfortunate souls take it to mean, imply that good, kind, or benevolent characters are boring:  it just means that without any weaknesses for you to poke at, they tend to be bland-faced wish fulfillment on the part of the author, with a tendency to just sit there without contributing much to the plot.

For any character to be successful, they need to have a proportionate amount of flaws and virtues.

Let’s take a look at Stranger Things, for example, which is practically a smorgasbord of flawed, lovable sweethearts.

We have Joyce Byers, who is strung out and unstable, yet tirelessly works to save her son, even when all conventional logic says he’s dead;  We have Officer Hopper, who is drunken and occasionally callous, yet ultimately is responsible for saving the boy’s life;  We have Jonathan, who is introspective and loving, but occasionally a bit of a creeper, and Nancy, who is outwardly shallow but proves herself to be a strong and determined character.  Even Steve, who would conventionally be the popular jerk who gets his comeuppance, isn’t beyond redemption.

And of course, we have my beloved Eleven, who’s possibly the closest thing Stranger Things has to a “quintessential” heroine.  She’s the show’s most powerful character, as well as one of the most courageous.  However, she is also the show’s largest source of conflict, as it was her powers that released the Demogorgon to begin with.  

Would Eleven be a better character if this had never happened?  Would Stranger Things be a better show?  No, because if this had never happened, Stranger Things wouldn’t even be a show.  Or if it was, it would just be about a bunch of cute kids sitting around and playing Dungeons and Dragons in a relatively peaceful town.

A character’s flaws and mistakes are intended to drive the plotline, and if they didn’t have them, there probably wouldn’t even be a plot.

So don’t be a mouth-breather:  give your good, kind characters some difficult qualities, and give your villains a few sympathetic ones.  Your work will thank you for it.

2.  Charisma and Vulnerability

Supernatural has its flaws, but likable leads are not one of them.  Fans will go to the grave defending their favorite character, consuming and producing more character-driven, fan-created content than most other TV shows’ followings put together.

So how do we inspire this kind of devotion with our own characters?  Well, for starters, let’s take a look at one of Supernatural’s most quintessentially well-liked characters:  Dean Winchester.

From the get-go, we see that Dean has charisma:  he’s confident, cocky, attractive, and skilled at what he does.  But these qualities could just as easily make him annoying and obnoxious if they weren’t counterbalanced with an equal dose of emotional vulnerability. 

As the show progresses, we see that Dean cares deeply about the people around him, particularly his younger brother, to the point of sacrificing himself so that he can live.  He goes through long periods of physical and psychological anguish for his benefit (though by all means, don’t feel obligated to send your main character to Hell for forty years), and the aftermath is depicted in painful detail.

Moreover, in spite of his outward bravado, we learn he doesn’t particularly like himself, doesn’t consider himself worthy of happiness or a fulfilling life, and of course, we have the Single Man Tear™.

So yeah, make your characters beautiful, cocky, sex gods.  Give them swagger.  Just, y’know.  Hurt them in equal measure.  Torture them.  Give them insecurities.  Make them cry.  

Just whatever you do, let them be openly bisexual.  Subtext is so last season.

3.  Goals For the Future and Regrets From the Past

Let’s take a look at Shadow Moon from American Gods.  (For now, I’ll have to be relegate myself to examples from the book, because I haven’t had the chance to watch the amazing looking TV show.) 

Right off the bat, we learn that Shadow has done three years in prison for a crime he may or may not have actually committed.  (We learn later that he actually did commit the crime, but that it was only in response to being wronged by the true perpetrators.)  

He’s still suffering the consequences of his actions when we meet him, and arguably, for the most of the book:  because he’s in prison, his wife has an affair (I still maintain that Laura could have resisted the temptation to be adulterous if she felt like it, but that’s not the issue here) and is killed while mid-coital with his best friend.

Shadow is haunted by this for the rest of the book, to the point at which it bothers him more than the supernatural happenings surrounding him.  

Even before that, the more we learn about Shadow’s past, the more we learn about the challenges he faced:  he was bullied as a child, considered to be “just a big, dumb guy” as an adult, and is still wrongfully pursued for crimes he was only circumstantially involved in.

But these difficulties make the reader empathize with Shadow, and care about what happens to him.  We root for Shadow as he tags along with the mysterious and alternatively peckish and charismatic Wednesday, and as he continuously pursues a means to permanently bring Laura back to life.

He has past traumas, present challenges, and at least one goal that propels him towards the future.  It also helps that he’s three-dimensional, well-written, and as of now, portrayed by an incredibly attractive actor.

Of course (SPOILER ALERT), Shadow never does succeed in fully resurrecting Laura, ultimately allowing her to rest instead, but that doesn’t make the resolution any less satisfying.  

Which leads to my next example…       

4.  Failure and Success 

You remember in Zootopia, when Judy Hopps decides she wants to be cop and her family and town immediately and unanimously endorse her efforts?  Or hey, do you remember Harry Potter’s idyllic childhood with his kindhearted, adoptive family?  Oh!  Or in the X-Files, when Agent Mulder presents overwhelming evidence of extraterrestrial life in the first episode and is immediately given a promotion?  No?

Yeah, me neither.  And there’s a reason for this:  ff your hero gets what they want the entire time, it will be a boring, two-dimensional fantasy that no one will want to read.  

A good story is not about the character getting what they want.  A good story is about the character’s efforts and their journey.  The destination they reach could be something far removed from what they originally thought they wanted, and could be no less (if not more so) satisfying because of it.

Let’s look at Toy Story 3, for example:  throughout the entire movie, Woody’s goal is to get his friends back to their longtime owner, Andy, so that they can accompany him to college.  He fails miserably.  None of his friends believe that Andy was trying to put them in the attic, insisting that his intent was to throw them away.  He is briefly separated from them as he is usurped by a cute little girl and his friends are left at a tyrannical daycare center, but with time and effort, they’re reunited, Woody is proven right, and things seem to be back on track.

Do his efforts pay off?  Yes – just not in the way he expected them to.  At the end of the movie, a college-bound Andy gives the toys away to a new owner who will play with them more than he will, and they say goodbye.  Is the payoff bittersweet?  Undoubtedly.  It made me cry like a little bitch in front of my young siblings.  But it’s also undoubtedly satisfying.      

So let your characters struggle.  Let them fail.  And let them not always get what they want, so long as they get what they need.  

5.  Loving and Being Loved by Others

Take a look back at this list, and all the characters on it:  a gaggle of small town kids and flawed adults, demon-busting underwear models, an ex-con and his dead wife, and a bunch of sentient toys.  What do they have in common?  Aside from the fact that they’re all well-loved heroes of their own stories, not much.

But one common element they all share is they all have people they care about, and in turn, have people who care about them.  

This allows readers and viewers to empathize with them possibly more than any of the other qualities I’ve listed thus far, as none of it means anything without the simple demonstration of human connection.

Let’s take a look at everyone’s favorite caped crusader, for example:  Batman in the cartoons and the comics is an easy to love character, whereas in the most recent movies (excluding the splendid Lego Batman Movie), not so much. 

Why is this?  In all adaptions, he’s the same mentally unstable, traumatized genius in a bat suit.  In all adaptions, he demonstrates all the qualities I listed before this:  he has flaws and virtues, charisma and vulnerability, regrets from the past and goals for the future, and usually proportionate amounts of failure and success.  

What makes the animated and comic book version so much more attractive than his big screen counterpart is the fact that he does one thing right that all live action adaptions is that he has connections and emotional dependencies on other people.  

He’s unabashed in caring for Alfred, Batgirl, and all the Robins, and yes, he extends compassion and sympathy to the villains as well, helping Harley Quinn to ultimately escape a toxic and abusive relationship, consoling Baby Doll, and staying with a child psychic with godlike powers until she died.

Cartoon Batman is not afraid to care about others.  He has a support network of people who care about him, and that’s his greatest strength.  The DC CU’s ever darker, grittier, and more isolated borderline sociopath is failing because he lacks these things.  

 And it’s also one of the reasons that the Lego Batman Movie remains so awesome.


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