society has demonised lesbians for years. we’ve been sexualised. young lesbians have been forced to deny themselves for years because they’ve been taught that feeling no attraction towards men is unnatural and that lesbians are more of a porn category than real living breathing individuals. i called myself gay up until recently because the word lesbian dripped with the venom that people spat whenever it was mentioned around me as a child. i was straight up told by my best friend’s mother not to say the word lesbian as an 8 year old and it stuck with me now as an almost 20 year old. it has taken me years of self denial and fear of my own identity to even utter it to myself, let alone anyone else. the struggle that it has taken me and so many others to get to a place of comfort with our identity is the direct result of a negative image of lesbians perpetuated throughout history based on the sheer fact they have no desire to be with men in any capacity. the label encompasses something society has been unable to fathom and has thus rejected and treated as provocative and devious even today. to say that now that label is dynamic and bears no weight is so disrespectful and dismissive of the hardships people have endured to simply become comfortable with identifying as it. I’m so tired!!! Of these ridiculous debates!!!!