“This food won’t kill me, but an eating disorder definitely will.”
“I’m HERE, NOW, with people I love and who love me. I am living in the present. I do not need my eating disorder’s validation to live.”
“I have come a long way; I have proven how strong I am. I’m a recovery warrior! This [insert food] is no match for me!”
“Purging is definitely not healthy for my body OR my mind. PLUS, if I purge, then I will have that much less time to [insert fun activity].”
“This is one step of a recovery process. If I do this challenge, hooray! I move forward a few steps in recovery! If I struggle, I have an opportunity to learn more about myself/challenge myself in the future. This is a positive step REGARDLESS of how it turns out!”
“I know my [insert supporter] will support me either way, but imagine how proud they will be when I tell them I did it!”
“Sorry ED, I can’t hear you over how awesome I am.”
Imagine your ED as the food being munched away, faintly hollering “nooooooOooOOOooo!”
Think of the space where you are as a FUN-ONLY ZONE. Your eating disorder is barred from entry; if it shows up anyway, mentally imagine having it escorted out, and the door shutting behind it. This is YOUR safe space.
Ask if it’s okay first, but if you’re with friends you could also try holding a friend’s hand, and squeezing lightly when you need reassurance. It’s especially helpful if they know why/if they squeeze back. Nonverbal support PLUS physical reinforcement of positive steps!
That, my friends, is what we call an achievement. It’s my absolute childhood favourite: Nana’s Mac and Cheese *u*
I saw just how much cheese and milk and butter goes into it and guess what? I didn’t give a shit. All that mattered is how delicious it was. I had all of this AND finished off loads of Nana’s portion too! Can I get a freakin round of applause??