While I think it’s fantastic we the rp community (or some of us, at least) are working towards diversity in ethnicity, gender, and sexual orientation, I think there is still one facet of diversity we as a whole are completely over-looking. And it actually makes me really angry. 

About a month ago, I posted this: reblog if you’ve ever played a character who wears a size 20+

Do you know how many notes it got? Thirteen. Thirteen people that saw that post have played someone considered ‘fat’. I think that’s disgusting. Just as we as a society are conditioned to think certain things about race and sexuality, we are also conditioned to think things about size. And no one cares. No one is outraged that there are actually tv shows soley dedicated to making people feel like they are wrong, or ugly because of their size. And please do not come back at me with the “it’s a health issue!”, because I will hit you on the backside of your head so damned fast. Weight =/= health. Some people are naturally bigger built people, yet are still healthy. Some people are slender, yet have a ton of health issues because they don’t look after themselves. So you can stop right there with that bs. 

I’ve never seen anyone review a rp and suggest they need more diversity in the sizes of their face claims. And you want to know why? Because we are still taught to think that being fat is 'wrong’. 

I challenge you all, right now, to fight that. I challenge you all to stand up and say “no.” to this. I challenge you all the stand up and truly diversify your roleplays by including plus size characters. 

I challenge you all, right now, to play a 'fat’ character yourself. I challenge you to play a body confident person who loves who they are, but just happens to be plus size. I challenge you to get involved in a romantic plot with a plus size character. 

Lets not push this discrimination under the rug any longer. 

7 things I hate like about us ❤

Tomorrow we will be celebrating our 20th month as a couple and I just want to post something before that day. So I thought of listing down the 7 things about us. Actually dapat 20 things yun kaso magiging sobrang haba na.

  1. Mahilig kaming mag wacky kapag nag pi-picture together. I don’t know pero halos lagi na lang kaming may wacky at never yun nawala. Wala sa amin kung mag mukha man kaming ewan o katawa-tawa sa harap ng isa’t isa basta para sa amin nag eenjoy kami. :)
  2. We cooked together. Fried chicken, pan cake, pancit canton, mga pritong ulam haha at maski nga mango graham cake gumawa na kami before. Aamin ko failed luto namin minsan pero ayos lang kasi masaya naman. :D
  3. Mahilig kaming manuod ng movies, mapa-online man o mismong sa sinehan. Kapag may gusto akong panuodin sasamahan niya ko (Twilight for example haha) saka ganun din naman siya kapag may gusto siyang panuodin, sasamahan ko siya syempre.
  4. Nag kakantahan kami. Trip na trip namin kumanta ng kaming dalawa lang. Minsan kapag nag de-date kami, talagang kasama sa plano namin ang kumanta sa KHUB o sa Timezone.
  5. We play games together. Sa Timezone nakahiligan naming laruin yung sa gitara. Pataasan pa kami ng score niyan. Nuon naman kapag nasa bahay nila ako, nag do-dota kami. Tinuturuan niya ako dati kasi sabi ko din naman sa kanya yun. Nakapag laro na din kami ng LOL (league of legends) tapos sa Facebook din yung ibang games dun minsan napag ti-tripan naming laruin. :)
  6. Nag sasakitan kami. Oo yung sabunutan, kurutan, hampasan, tadyakan at kung anu-anu pang sakitan. Enjoy kaya yun kahit mukha kaming mga tanga tapos after nun sweet-sweet-an na naman. 
  7.  Nag de-date pa din kami minsan. Basta may pera kami pareho, lumalabas kami. Hindi nawawala samin yun. Kahit kami na, nag pa-plano pa din kami mag date pa minsan-minsan. :“>
an open letter to the RPCHA community

This may lose me followers, I don’t mind. This may bring me anon hate, I’m prepared for that. There are things that I need to say though. I won’t put this under a read more. You can, if you’re going to reblog and respond, but I won’t. I think this needs to be seen. I’m not ashamed to post this. I think a lot of us need to wake up, and smell the bullshit. If you made a rpcha for any other reason than to help people, you did it for the wrong reason. This is not your own personal device to use as a way of promoting your roleplay. This is not your way of becoming popular. This is not a place to have endless conversations with your friends about personal jokes. I think it’s great people form friends through their rpcha blog. I have, but you need realize that while you are talking to those friends, the things you say on the dash are not private. They will be seen by others.

 Hiding behind the excuse that it was a joke won’t change anything. If it offends, upsets, or comes across a certain way to someone, own that. No, we are not all perfect. In fact I was in a situation where what I said was upsetting to someone and I didn’t deal with it very well and I can own that, and say that yeah, could have dealt with it better and I’m sorry. But you know what I see all too often here? People genuinely not caring the effects they have on other people. Making comments that make others feel bad, then ignoring the people they have made feel bad, and turning the situation around when people try to point things out. Acting like the martyr and saying everyone is nit-picking them. Let me put this as bluntly as I can; if several people (who aren’t all only just jumping on the bandwagon to support a friend)  all find the things you are saying offensive/arrogant/upsetting, then maybe you need to stop, and think about the way you are coming across.

If we are going to call ourselves a community, let’s start acting like one, instead of a school hierarchy. People shouldn’t be worried about expressing an opinion that differs from someone else’s. People shouldn’t feel in the wrong for talking about something that should be open slather. People shouldn’t gang up and railroad others. Just because you have more followers, doesn’t mean you should win an argument, or that your voice should be louder than anyone else’s. It’s one thing to like someone’s sassy reply to an anon hate message, because anon hate is pointless, but when ten people all like an ask someone sent with good intentions and it gets an upsetting reply, that’s a pack mentality and it’s not okay. Two people should be allowed to talk about a touchy subject without having one of them (or both of them) feeling ganged up on by all the support the other person is getting. Just stay out of it, and let them talk it out.

When a community full of should be mature people starts to show the same pack mentality of preschool  children, things need to change. Sure, it’s your blog and you can do what you like, but remember there are actually people at the end of the other computer reading your posts, and whether you want to or not, your actions on your blog influence the type of person you are perceived as. So instead of making excuses, let’s all think about what we are doing, and who we might be hurting in the process. 

Shemay coincidence ‘to! :D 

Natuwa ako sa picture na ‘to. Eh kasi ganito yan, kasama namin sa picture na yan yung 2 tao na malaki ang naging ambag kung bakit hindi na ko single ngayon. Si Dan saka si Bens, sila yung may pakulo nung “phone conference” na naging dahilan ng pag uumpisa ng ligawan stage namin ni Willfred. :”) Mahabang kwento siya, pero basta thankful ako sa kanila at saka never kong makakalimutan yung ginawa nila for us. Part na sila ng love story namin. Kung wala sila, baka wala din “kami”. Sa lahat lahat nang nakasaksi at naging part ng love story namin, sila yung may pinaka malaking part dun at forever kong aalahanin yun. 

Parting Glass ft. Woodsman and The Beast (Over The Garden Wall Parody)
  • Parting Glass ft. Woodsman and The Beast (Over The Garden Wall Parody)
  • Perfectlyvindicitive

Written and Sung by: Perfectlyvindictive

Instrumental by: fawi-music


Of all the mistakes that I’ve made
I’ve spent years making up for them
And all the people, that i’ve chopped up
Alas they’re all dead and gone
And all i’ve done, for the girl I carry
For her memory, is still with me
So hide from me, for lantern burns
Good night and peace be with my dear

Oh all the friends that i’ve abandoned
They are all gone with my sanity
And all the days i’ve watched them walk
They are lost and within the woods, they’ll stay
And since they’ll fall, the trees will wait
So they shall die, and she will not
I’ll help you woodsman, i’ll keep her soul
Good night and work be with my host
Good night and peace be with my slave

(i’m glad this was requested!) :)


Just because you can make a roleplay, doesn’t mean you should. Making a roleplay is a long term deal, and you shouldn’t do it for the wrong reasons. So here are my top ten reasons not to make a roleplay.

  1. Because you are bored: Throwing together a quick thing because you have nothing better to do is not the brightest idea. If you are bored, take on a new character, or join a new roleplay
  2. On a whim: We all get rp ideas. I know I get several a day, but if I made a rp on every fleeting idea I’ve had, there was no way I’d keep up with it all. Not to mention, there is no guarantee every idea is a good one, and will work in the long run. 
  3. Because you can do it better: We’ve all been there. Seen a roleplay with potential, but thought we could improve on things. For one, if it’s an original idea, it’s not exactly yours to use. Second, ‘better’ is subjective, and not everyone will agree on what’s the best way to go. Don’t think everyone interested in the first rp will just flock to your 'better’ one. 
  4. Out of spite or revenge: Never, I repeat, never make a roleplay out of spite or revenge. You are just inviting drama. If you are only trying to one up someone who’s wronged you, you are literally building a roleplay on a foundation of drama and angst, and seriously, who needs that?
  5. So you can play a specific character or fc: If you create a roleplay with a one track mind, the roleplay will reflect that. If all you are worried about is the particular character you are jonsing to play, and you put more effort into that, negleting other characters and aspects, it will leave a bad taste in potential member’s mouths.
  6. So you can play out a particular ship: Shipping should never be the basis of any decison you make in the rp world, least of all, the decision to make a rp. 
  7. Because your old rp is dead or inactive: Unless you are aware of the reasons why it died, and can adress those reasons in the new roleplay, the new one will more than likely suffer the same fate. Making a new rp every time your current one is lagging will get you nowhere. 
  8. Because someone else wants you to: If your heart isn’t in it, no amount of tempting and coaxing from other people will change that. Your passion for the project must be there, or you commitment will be lacking. 
  9. To follow the latest fad/trend: Fads and trends are just that.. Tossing your hat into the already over crowded fad ring will just lead to frustration. If you want to be apart of a new trend, join a roleplay, don’t just create even more competition for members. 
  10. For any other reason than the fact you are fully committed to, passionate, and excited about your new project. Only then will you be willing to put in the work in planning, creating, and maintaining an active, thriving roleplay. 
❤❤❤ 2 years na kami tomorrow :")

Yung countdown timer ko sa blog ko, nababawasan na ng oras. Hihi. Naaalala ko noong unang beses kong nilagay yun sa blog ko, hundred plus days pa ang naka indicate dun pero ngayon ilang hours na lang. :D Sobrang bilis ng panahon. Parang nung isang araw lang kaka-18 ko palang tapos bukas anniversary na naman uli namin. Yay! :) Ang saya lang. 

We all get hate.

I’m sure there isn’t a single person reading this who hasn’t received hate before. Sadly, it’s the nature of the internet to forget an actual person is behind the screen. It’s how we deal with that hate that defines us. Do we ignore it, and hold our head up high with dignity? Do we perpetuate hate and retaliate? Do we post it, wanting some public sympathy? Do we respond to legit concerns (even those not framed well) with care? When dealing with hate, remember two things. You are not the only one, and you can decide if it stops there, or you let it snowball. 

overused verses underused face claims

I see a lot of talk about overused and underused roleplays, and I just really want to voice my opinions on this. While yes, it does get annoying seeing the same face claims over and over, and it’s great to see different face claims, but honestly, when it comes down to it, here are a few home truths.

  • No one will join your rp if you use really obscure fc’s for your premades.  
  • Certain face claims have more resources and are easier accessible. It’s probably what makes them over used.
  • Your fc will hold connotations for other people, both negative and positive

To be honest, it shouldn't matter if the fc is overused, or underused. Pick who suits the character the best. Not who is prettiest, who has more gifs, who is obscure and trendy, or any other reason. 

Okay, I in no way want to start an ethnicity debate

However. There is a thing that is bugging me. Yes, it is important to stay true to the ethnicity of a face claim, and not have ridiculous family templates where they are all very different ethnically. However lets consider something here. America Ferrera’s parents are from Republic of Honduras. So does that mean every character she represents as an actress also has to be from Republic of Honduras, or we are dishonoring her ethnic heritage? Well, her two most known roles are Betty (ugly Betty), a Mexican-American and Carmen (Sisterhood of the Traveling Pants), a half Puerto-Rican. Neither of which anyone worried about as racially incorrect. Nina Dobrev’s character on The Vampire Diaries is clearly not Bulgarian, yet no one gets up in arms. Jared has Polish ancestors, while Jensen has Irish and Scottish, but we readily accept them as brothers on SPN. 

Is my point becoming clear? If not, let me explain. Limiting an actor to their specific ethnicity doesn’t need to occur in order to avoid ‘white-washing’ or any other racial thing you want to call it. (Lets not even start on the fact that I’ve never once heard anyone utter 'They can’t be related, she’s Polish and she’s Irish’ or 'No! Why couldn’t they cast a Welsh actor as that Welsh character!’ - what’s good for the goose should be good for the gander, guys.) I think that while, yes, keeping in mind the general ethnicity is key, and never write a canon character’s ethnicity out, there are some face claims that have played a diverse range of ethnicities in their career. Part of being an actor is being diverse. We as rpers don't necessarily need to ignore that. 

over dramatic backstories.

DON’T. DO. IT. It doesn’t give a character depth. It doesn’t make us feel sympathetic to your character. It doesn’t make us go ‘wow what a strong character for dealing with all that’. It’s unnecessary, and just really stupid. Especially when it isn’t important to your character at all. Cause and effect. Nature and Nurture. If your character’s personality hasn’t been changed, shifted, or informed by their past, you’re doing it wrong. 

I don't get the 'don't make a character blog before accepted' hoopla.

I really don’t. I can guarantee you that about ninety percent of the time people aren’t doing it to be cocky. If they start posting and following people, or send asks for the ooc- yes, that’s cocky. However I prefer to send in my application from my character account because:

  • I haven’t logged into my personal in six months give or take
  • I feel like it’s confusing and a bit rude to send them from an active character account
  • I feel like it’s arrogant to send it from my RPH account
  • I like my privacy. Posts on the dash actually link you to the original submitter, and some themes do to, so when it’s rps that post the application, anyone and everyone can see the account
  • It’s neater and looks more professional when you do post applications. 

You can dislike it all you want, but I think your outright hate and claims of it being cocky are not called for. Neither is denying someone just because they made the character account first.

ten reasons for original characters

Let me precursor this with the following: I am in no way saying that premade only roleplays are inferior, or that people don’t put as much effort into them, or anything else negative. I have used premades before. In fact, I started using them long before people roleplayed on tumblr, and long before they were the ‘in’ thing. I get why you use both, and I will be posting a guide on making effective premades after this.So if you want to argue anything about this post, I suggest you keep the above in mind.

So, that being said, here are 10 reasons why oc characters and oc roleplays shouldn’t be a thing of the past. They range from simple, to in-depth, and are presented in the order my brain offers them, none is more important than another.

Keep reading

lets clear up a few gender/sexuality misconceptions
  • The gender you were born is not set in stone - but the gender you identify as is. Suggesting people’s gender is not set in stone and they are free to hop between them is really offensive, and makes the ‘it’s just a phase’ argument seem valid when no, it’s not. 
  • Gay people weren’t straight before they came out, they just weren’t out. Suggesting that because someone dated, fucked, had a relationship with someone of the opposite sex is proof that they could be straight for the right person is only showing how truly ignorant you are, and how you have no idea what it’s like to force yourself to date someone society thinks you should. 
  • Sexuality isn’t fluid. For some people, it might be, but for most people, they know if they want a taco or a banana and you can’t change their mind. 
  • You have a social obligation to be a decent person in everything you do. When you erase a character’s gender or sexuality, you are adding to the very hurtful and harmful message that it’s ‘wrong’ and you need to stop, take a step back, and realize that it doesn’t matter if you are the media or not. Queer people, Trans* people, people who are different, are bombarded on a daily basis from all aspects of their life with negative messages made to make them feel like they are wrong, or weird, or not normal. Don’t be a dick and add to that. Lets make our community a safe place. For everyone. 

I think that far too many people take the term AU to mean that absolutely everything canon can be thrown out the window. I, personally, think this is complete crap. For one, you may as well slap a new name on the character and call it a premade or an oc. What’s the point in playing a canon that has no resemblance at all to the original? The key to AU’s are to think about exactly what factors have changed in this universe and making the changes you make to the characters justified.

For example, if say, you have an AU Harry Potter rp in which Neville was the chosen one, Lily and James are alive and Sirius never got sent to azkaban. Well it stands to reason Harry will be a lost less broody, and a bit cocky. However if you try to tell me that Draco is suddenly now a Hufflepuff at heart, I will probably ask what drugs you are on and if I can have some. 

Some factors about a person are determined by the environment, but others, my friend, or inherent and will not change.