TIM: Someone took a picture of me outside the building in this outfit, walking - I had a cup of coffee in my hand, and my backpack. I looked particularly perplexed in the shot, and it went online. Our best friend called my wife and said, “Timmy’s doing drugs in Vancouver.”
The successful, pragmatic strategy of gay activists has been to assert that same-sex marriage will not change the institution itself. Their argument is that there is no need to defend marriage against loving same-sex couples, because these couples don’t want to alter it; they just want to participate in it. But as we race to a victorious finish, it is time to begin forcefully articulating that, in fact, maybe we do want to change marriage—because while marriage should be a choice, it should not be an imperative. For decades, LGBTQ communities have generated new forms of family built on foundations of shared commitments, collective responsibilities, nonconjugal love and parental devotion not predicated on shared genetics. Shut out of social-normative options for making families, they queered the very idea of family. It would be tragic to allow marriage equality to destroy or marginalize the pioneering work of queer families who have taught us that family is more complicated and more fulfilling than traditional models of marriage can ever capture.
Oh yeah. This job is a lot of rejection. A lot of times where you feel judged and feel like you’re not good enough. And how I persevere through that is you focus on what you love, I think. You focus on your passion. (x)
Sebastian Stan is the sweetest and kindest person I have had the chance to meet. He was really sweet about how nervous I was, was genuinely appreciative when I told him how great I thought he was and how much I admired him. And thank GOD I am looking at the camera because I 1000000% couldn’t remember if i did.