7 Sugar Daddy Messaging Mistakes
The best part of the sugar-seeking process is finding someone who ‘clicks’ with all the special things you’re looking for. But what are you saying to draw those potential sugary sweet interests? Are your messages sending Sugar Babies for the hills, or is your verbiage ironed out to a Rico Suave-T? We’ve collected the top seven complaints from Sugar Baby users to beef up your messaging approach and snag some refined Sugar.
Dig For The Details
The biggest component of finding who you desire to spend time with is asking the right questions. If a darling Sugar Baby opens your message with anticipation only to find a wall of text with nothing but “I-I-I,” then a serious problem is occurring. There must be a balance between talking about yourself and learning about this beautiful person on the other side of the screen. Sugar Babies should actively contribute to the conversation, yet Sugar Daddies must put forth an effort to be genuine.
Keep The Insults To Yourself
Do you remember the old adage “If you have nothing nice to say, don’t say anything at all…”?
No possible leading [lady] wants to hear (or read) aggressive language. While some [ladies] do have a colorful vocabulary, take time to feel this characteristic out with potential Sugar Babies. Don’t overwhelm them with the full, in-living-color version of yourself before having a moment to say “hello” and maybe a first and last name.
Ignoring the Obvious
Commonly forgotten points such as names, or previously discussed topics, give the impression that you’re not focused and possibly even lazy. If the user has already answered your question, and all it takes is scrolling the page up to a previous conversation, then you will clearly look like someone who is inattentive. Save yourself the embarrassment and be “present” in the first go-round of messaging back and forth.
Look Out For Grammar
The hardest part of searching for someone special to share your time with, is not being able to translate the sentences within a message. This certainly applies both ways, Sugar Daddies! There is no single way to fix the faux paux of improper use. Especially if you are dealing with a Sugar Baby who is in college and attune to these types of errors. Consider drafting your messages in Word or Google Docs before you shoot off an essay riddled with typos.
Mixing Up Convos
Every guy wants to have that moment in life where they have an opportunity to play the “sugar field.” The risk of your new found freedom is the possibility of mixing up conversations. If you really are on the fence with multiple potential Sugar Babies, be sure to scroll up for a quick reacquaintance before moving forward with a response. The best way to keep a story straight is to always tell the truth. When you claim false interests or elaborate certain details, then the likelihood of addressing Tanya as Amber and her adoration for strawberries instead of mangos become apparent. Do you catch my drift?
The Away From Desk Dater
If your Sugar Baby is receiving responses every 4-7 days instead of hours apart, her interest is going to wain. These are the moments where you will definitely need to explain yourself. If you message someone on a Tuesday and they do not hear from you until the following Monday, this makes you appear to be playing the field (which you may / may not be) or simply not interested. I always advise practicing some self control. Instead of messaging a potential Sugar Baby as soon as you see her, wait until you will be accessible before reaching out. That could mean waiting a few hours or days, but if a Sugar match is meant to be, she will be waiting for you.
My final, and perhaps greatest tip to all Sugar Daddies is the need to avoid LIES.
The Black Eyed Peas could not have said it any better. Lies will get you into trouble. If you are seeking discretion, lies will get you caught. Do not state in your first message that you are leaving your wife, if you know in the back of your mind that the conversation has never arose. Do not claim to have a wall of college degrees when all you possess is a GED. These are details that come up in conversation as you become more comfortable with each other. You’re bound to slip up at some point, especially if there are multiple Babies in the Sugar Bowl.