Being fat in a swimsuit is a political statement as long as it’s seen as “brave” or “courageous” to wear one. I know ppl mean well when they tell me “I wish I could be that confident”, but really it’s just reaffirming the societal notion that fat bodies are not supposed to visible or shown off 👙 We all deserve to feel confident wearing what we feel comfortable in 💗

Advice for Plus Sized and Bigger Girls this Summer
  • Don’t be afraid to enjoy food and drink like ice cream and soda
  • Don’t be afraid to wear a cropped top, shorts, skirts or anything tight or reveling because its your body and nobody elses!
  • Wear plenty of Sun Cream and drink plenty of liquids to keep hydrated
  • Ignore nasty comments by other narrow minded people 
  • Don’t be ashamed of your stretch marks and cellulite 
  • Keep your head up high and ignore the haters
  • If people judge you for what you wear or eating certain foods in public, ignore them and think “ they have a problem not me”
  • Double Chins are cute and all bodies are good no matter your size
  • Fat is not a bad word
  • Be careful not to get sun stroke
  • Eat plenty of fruit so your body has extra water meaning you won’t get dehydrated as easy.
  • Just enjoy the summer any other person would and remember you don’t need to diet for the summer as your body is great :)

You are allowed to be as large as you are and larger. You are allowed to use your voice. You are aloud to live your truth. You are allowed to be broken and strong and vulnerable and exhausted and ambitious and smart and talkative and anxious and sad and angry. You are allowed to feel whatever you are feeling. You are allowed to bear those feelings to the world. You don’t have to hide. You don’t have to make yourself less then. You don’t have to starve yourself out of existence.

You are allowed to be you.

This is a big, wide world. And there is more than enough room for everything you have to offer.

Take up as much damn space as you need.

“These questions are necessary for me to ask out of self-care. At this point in my life, and at this point in my consciousness of what culture, society, and the world thinks about my body, I’m beyond giving more latitude to other people than I am for myself. I deserve to know what level of respect someone is able to give to me before I decide to invest in them. My body and identity isn’t a learning lesson. And as a fat Black queer femme trying to survive, I’m not willing to suffer through a relationship with someone who might be detrimental to my mental health and survival. Fat Black girls like me aren’t asking for too much, we just want to be fully and radically loved.” - Ashleigh Shackelford, Dating While Fat: 5 Things I Consider Before Commitment


((Ignore this white man wearing my shirts, y’all. It was the only way to create the campaign without ordering the shirts first because no one has money out of pocket, y’all.))

#FuckYourGaze is a campaign created to address violence in voyeurism, street harassment, and racialized gender violence.

These shirts are specifically designed for marginalized folks, especially BiPOC queer and trans folks, disabled folks, Black fat/ non-fat femmes, fat femmes of color, and folks who are tired of being fetishized/ stared at/ gazed upon disgustingly.

This is for creating conversations around implicit violence that permeates all of our lives, and destroying a culture of rape, sexualization, fetishization, and entitlement over certain bodies. 


P.S. I created this also to fund the bad financial situation I’m in. I’m currently in the worst housing situation in which my landlord skipped town before I moved out to avoid giving me my security deposit right before the holidays. I’m just a Black fat, disabled queer femme trying to survive, y’all. Please support by buying a shirt or donate @ PayPal.me/ashleighthelion