Being fat in a swimsuit is a political statement as long as it’s seen as “brave” or “courageous” to wear one. I know ppl mean well when they tell me “I wish I could be that confident”, but really it’s just reaffirming the societal notion that fat bodies are not supposed to visible or shown off 👙 We all deserve to feel confident wearing what we feel comfortable in 💗
You are allowed to be as large as you are and larger. You are allowed to use your voice. You are aloud to live your truth. You are allowed to be broken and strong and vulnerable and exhausted and ambitious and smart and talkative and anxious and sad and angry. You are allowed to feel whatever you are feeling. You are allowed to bear those feelings to the world. You don’t have to hide. You don’t have to make yourself less then. You don’t have to starve yourself out of existence.
You are allowed to be you.
This is a big, wide world. And there is more than enough room for everything you have to offer.
“These questions are necessary for me to ask out of self-care. At this point in my life, and at this point in my consciousness of what culture, society, and the world thinks about my body, I’m beyond giving more latitude to other people than I am for myself. I deserve to know what level of respect someone is able to give to me before I decide to invest in them. My body and identity isn’t a learning lesson. And as a fat Black queer femme trying to survive, I’m not willing to suffer through a relationship with someone who might be detrimental to my mental health and survival. Fat Black girls like me aren’t asking for too much, we just want to be fully and radically loved.” - Ashleigh Shackelford, Dating While Fat: 5 Things I Consider Before Commitment
P.S. I created this also to fund the bad financial situation I’m in. I’m currently in the worst housing situation in which my landlord skipped town before I moved out to avoid giving me my security deposit right before the holidays. I’m just a Black fat, disabled queer femme trying to survive, y’all. Please support by buying a shirt or donate @ PayPal.me/ashleighthelion