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My father has ignored my existence since he divorced my mom. He hasn’t called me for over a decade to wish me Happy Birthday or anything while I always call him on his. I even Western Unioned him $60 on his 60th birthday. I gave up on ever having a good relationship about two years ago. But I recently took him in because he was homeless. I only took him in because he had a stroke and doesn’t walk well. He also pees on himself everyday. I’m so pissed I have to take care of a dude who was content to not contact me otherwise. Fuck this. 

anonymous asked:

Heya admins of this blog :3 sorry if you don't want to answer this you don't have to;;; but I just wanted to say that I'm a tad worried about my dad being homophobic but I'm pan. But;; what if he's totally ok??;; Any tips or help about coming out?? Thank you so much for just being cool!! ( ^_^)//

I mean, the first thing I’d say about coming out is to be careful. You don’t need to come out, and not coming out isn’t a sign that you’re any less pan. You’re pan no matter who knows about it, it’s a part of you. If you want to come out, make sure you’re in a position where you’re safe if things go wrong. I can’t say anything specific here as I don’t know your exact situation, but the most important thing is that you’re safe and well.

I don’t know your dad, so I don’t know what he’s like, but I’d suggest thinking about how he’s acted about LGBT+ stuff in the past. Has he ever said any bad things about LGBT+ celebrities or TV characters, or members of your family if that applied? Has he shown any behaviour in the past that makes you worried about something bad happening if you did come out? On the other side, has he given the impression of being supportive towards LBGT+ people? How do you predict that he’d react?

None of this is meant to be me putting you off the concept of coming out entirely, of course, you just need to be careful at all times. The most important thing is that you’re safe, and that safety is more important than anything else. If you ever feel like you wouldn’t be safe to come out or suspect that doing so would put yourself in danger, I’d suggest not doing so. Obviously, it’s ultimately up to you and your situation! I can’t make that decision for you. But I’d advise caution if you think that coming out might put you in danger.

If you still want to go ahead, try and plan out what you want to say in your head, and be prepared for any questions that you might be asked. The more prepared you are, the less nervous you will be. When I came out to my parents I wrote them a note about it and left it out for them to read, and then we talked about it in the evening. This might not be the best way for everyone, but it’s what I did! My parents already knew a bit about LGBT+ stuff, so I knew they’d be supportive. Be aware that you may have to explain and define terms a little bit, and try and think of an answer for likely questions that might be asked.

Again, though, the bottom line is keeping yourself safe. If you’re worried that your dad might be homophobic, maybe leave it for a while until you’re in a position where his reaction doesn’t harm you if things go wrong. I know I’ve said it about a thousand times, but it matters more in the end that you’re safe!

I also want to add that I’m no expert in the subject! If any of our lovely followers can offer their own suggestions or blogs that anon might find useful in the notes, that would be great. Good luck whatever you choose to do, anon!

Sins of the Father, Vol. 2: The Good Samaritan Prelude

Characters: Reader…well, mostly. ;)

Word Count: 552

Warnings: language, brief sexual references 

A/N: Hello hello! I’m honestly excited to share this with you. It’s a prequel of sorts, because every story has a beginning. And though this story might have a hero, a villain, and a (soulless) damsel in distress, this is no fairy tale.

Anywho, I hope you enjoy this one.

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…I realized the thing that was missing was you.

I inherited
My mother’s words
My father’s nature
And both
Their loneliness
—  the jet lag chronicles

I’ve heard that many fans said that Toffee was a father figure to Ludo but what if he wasn’t? By that I mean that what if Ludo actually saw Toffee as his son rather than father? Ludo acted like a father figure towards all his monsters despite their age, so…
What if Ludo saw Toffee as his ‘very successful son’ whom he was willing to listen to and be proud of.
Ludo: “Look at my son, he’s achieved so much and I’m so proud of him, even though I just adopted him”
For example, he was constantly asking Glossaryck to say that he’s proud of Ludo, or to tuck him in before sleep and asking for advice like a child. None of that was asked from Toffee. With Toffee Ludo was acting like an old oversupportive father, I guess? “You want a chair? Of course you can sit and watch with me! What is it? A plan with fortune cookies? Of course sweetie, anything will work out as you planned”