Fathers who abandon their children are walking out on the best thing to ever happen to them. It’s their loss & they don’t even know.

i love how adults make fun of their children’s crushes or ask them if they have a crush on every person of the opposite gender that they interact with and then turn around and wonder why their kids never tell them anything

and by love i mean fucking hate 

My father was a professional sailor who spent the first half of his life traveling the world and the second half raising me and being married to my mom. He died this past February, and as shall soon be made abundantly clear, I’m not really done dealing with that. Now, you might think that writing a Father’s Day column shortly after that loss is the most masochistic idea I can have that doesn’t involve a bottle of iced tea vodka and a industrial-sized bag of Flamin’ Hot Cheetos. But look at it from my perspective: I work on the Internet, and the Internet has spent the last two weeks taking every opportunity it has to remind me that Father’s Day is coming, and I would very much like to punch the Internet right in its stupid face.

Not because it had the audacity to remind me of the concept of dads – I get that the world doesn’t start and stop at my whim (yet). It’s infuriating because they’re peddling this shallow, simplistic version of fatherhood that doesn’t actually exist in the real world. And I’d like to clarify some things, but because I’m a man, the only way I know how to solve my problems is through violence. Hence, punching. With my words.

So square your jaw, ‘net. This is gonna sting.

“5 Things We Should All Remember This Father’s Day” by JF Sargent


Zun LeeFather Figure: Exploring Alternate Notions of Black Fatherhood

Widely hailed as a landmark project, Zun Lee’s monograph is at once documentary photography and personal visual storytelling. Through intimate black-and-white frames, Father Figure: Exploring Alternate Notions of Black Fatherhood provides insight into often-overlooked aspects of African-descended family life. 

Zun Lee’s Father Figure: Exploring Alternate Notions of Black Fatherhood is an incredible and necessary visual narrative. The images in this series provide balance and insight into a growing problem facing African American communities today. Zun’s critical eye has a deeply rooted connection to this story, allowing the viewer to see the often-invisible fathers, who strive to be providers and protectors for their children. All too often, these types of images never make the local news or mainstream media; however his work serves as a form of visual medicine to help in the healing process of so many in today’s society who are searching for answers to an ever growing concern. – Jamel Shabazz

The reader gains an intimate view into the daily lives of black men whom Lee has worked with since 2011 and who are parenting under a variety of circumstances – as married fathers, single fathers, social fathers, young and older, middle class and poorer. Lee brings into focus what pervasive father absence stereotypes have distorted – real fathers who are involved in their children’s lives. Men who may not be perfect but are not media caricatures. 

  • autistic onion having sensory issues with a great majority of food and swallowing it which leads to him spitting it out constantly
  • autistic onions special interest being gals and guys and wanting to have them all
  • autistic onion being found to not be able to talk at a young age and being asked if he wants to learn sign language or some other form of conventional communication but saying no because he finds himself able to convey himself fine, thank you very much
  • autistic onion keeping the mouse in his mouth because he saw how upset the notion of feeding it to the snake made steven
  • autistic onion trying his best to communicate with steven but constantly getting misunderstood because steven has a different manner of communication
  • autistic onion being the best understood by vidalia because he spends most of his time with either him or yellowtail
  • autistic onion is canon thank you and good night

The @theadvocatemag interviewed self-identified #trans #fathers — which includes both trans men and trans women — to share a photo of themselves and their loved ones, with an anecdote about what parenthood means to them. The responses reveal a beautiful array of family shapes, values, and hopes from these fathers and fathers-to-be.

Meet nine #dads, including my incredible husband Tiq, a thrilled expectant father; who are sharing their stories of #fatherhood.
“Unlike cis-hetero couples, our path to parenthood is never a pleasant surprise or the result of a reckless passionate night. Ours is a strategic endeavor with lots of moving parts, cautionary tales, and money spent. I am already so invested in the life of this child! … Our children will always know and respect that gender and sexuality are a spectrum of possibilities. They’ll be loved and supported no matter where on the spectrum they may fall. Planning our family and thinking about our future has been the best time of our lives, and we can’t wait to have little ones to share it with.” — Tiq Milan, #NewYorkCity
http://www.advocate.com/families/2015/06/21/9-trans-dads-share-what-they-love-about-fatherhood#.VYcHY68JOjM.facebook. #babymilan 👶🏽 #blackout