fat-sexuality

anonymous asked:

a guy told me i looked like i had cute nipples while we were sexting ,,,,,,,,, why do guys think that's a hot thing to say

i honestly dont know like i hate boob play or any reference to my boobs like they’re there to feed kids and break my falls not for u to fondle and sexualize they’re literally balls of fat so stoP SEXUALIZING MY FUCKING BOOBS-

Researcher Looking for Self-Identified Fat Young Adults of Color

Fat studies researcher looking to pay $10 to self-identified fat young adults of color for interviews on fat identity, sexuality, race, and the Internet.

Hello everyone!

My name is Philippe Fradet and I am a graduate student at San Francisco State University in the Sexuality Studies program. I am seeking participants for a study with self-identified fat young adults of color who currently live in the United States. I’m looking to interview people of any gender and sexual identity, of any socioeconomic background, and of any physical and mental ability status. Interviews in this study will focus on four topics:
· fat identity, including self-acceptance and personal histories;
· sexuality, including sexual identity, sexual practices, and sexuality as a fat individual;
· race, including the interactions of race, fat identity, and sexuality;
· and the Internet, including how the Internet is used to build community and support.

If you are interested in participating in this research or if you have any questions, you can contact me either by email at pfradet@mail.sfsu.edu or by sending me an “ask” or “submission” on my Tumblr (fatdisid.tumblr.com) with your Tumblr account.

When you contact me, please let me know a bit about yourself and your interest in the project. In order to participate in this study, you must identify as a fat person of color and be between the ages of 18 and 25. Participants will be given a $10 gift card to Amazon.com for participating in the project. All interviews will be conducted using the voice chatting or phone call features of Skype, which means anyone in the United States is welcome to participate. Your name and participation in the project will be kept confidential, and you can contact me with any questions. I will be posting any pressing questions about the project on this blog.

Thank you for your interest!

 

Philippe Fradet
Master’s Candidate
Sexuality Studies Department
San Francisco State University
fatdisid.tumblr.com
fatdisid@gmail.com
(415) 799-7109

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Every Thursday we run a feature on Chubstr called Answerland. It’s basically a way for us to answer some of the questions we get from readers on a regular basis. The questions we get cover everything from food to fashion to sex. 

Last year, the amazing Hanne Blank asked me to write a blurb for the revised edition of her book, Big Big Love. If you’ve got questions about love, sex, or intimacy as it relates to being a person of size, I definitely recommend this book. You’d be hard pressed to come up with a question that isn’t somehow addressed within its pages. Learn more about the book at Chubstr, and follow Hanne on Twitter

more fat ladies in the media, please. make them fat for no reason. make them super mega fat and only a little fat and a middle ground level of fat. make them fat businesswomen and fat athletes and fat waitresses and the fat president.

make them fat because they have thyroid conditions or fat because their whole family is fat or fat because they don’t want to lose weight. make their fatness incidental and unproblematic. make their fatness unfetishized but still sexualized. make their fatness totally unsexualized whatsoever.

fat teenagers. fat adults. fat children. the fat elderly.

more fat ladies in the media.

all the tall, willowy women with heart-shaped faces are getting repetitive.

So like, I’m fine at playing along with the “girl talk” and whatever you call that when you’re all “OMG I would soooo do him. He’s fucking HOTTT” but then when we’re being real with how and who I’m attracted to it’s different because I feel like I have to really know someone and connect with them before I can really develop any romantic/sexual feelings. And then this leaves me in the awkward pool of being super confused because I can’t tell if I’m trying to befriend someone, or if I’m crushing on them.

Then there’s the awkwardness of last night where I may have had someone outwardly say they were flirting with me. But it was a joke. And idk. I’m usually the type to be like HAHAHA NO LIKES ME EVER so I don’t even think it’s possible. And on one hand, maybe I’m leading them on (though things felt awkward when I left, so that may be done) and on the other hand, maybe I want to lead them on because I’m attracted to them (but I don’t know if I can and I don’t want to be an asshole).

For basically all my life I’ve never had crushes returned so the idea that maybe, just maybe, I’m not completely delusional is putting me in a weird state.

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NYMPHOMANIAC (2014, DIR. LARS VON TRIER); CONCUSSION (2013, DIR. STACIE PASSON)

[CW diet talk, discussion of consensual sex]

Two recent films, Nymphomaniac and Concussion, spend ample time exploring the marginalized sexualities of their (thin) female protagonists. Joe (Charlotte Gainsboug/Stacy Martin), the titular character of von Trier’s epic, labels herself as a nymphomaniac and constructs her life around her insatiable libido; Abby (Robin Weigert), the heroine of Passon’s directorial debut, is a lesbian who subverts her life as a mainstream upper middle-class homemaker by involving herself in sex work. Both women have fat sex partners over the course of their respective stories, neither of whom function as a source of comedy or disgust.

anonymous asked:

i get hard while imagining being big, but this is always short-lived. in my day-to-day, i never have desired to be fatter; i am satisfied with my body as it is now. i am coming to grips in therapy with the fact that i was abused many times by a fat man as a child and have sexually bonded with the image of being bigger. i am afraid that this kink, which i feel is not my authentic self but a trauma, will never go away. i am not aroused by fat men in sexual encounters, only in fantasy. thoughts?

Kink and Your Authentic Self

There are trees that grow along the California coast near where I’m from. One of them looks like this:

The trees there grow on the sides of cliffs where they’re beaten by winds and rain. The trees adapt, surviving any way they can, clinging tenaciously to the rock and what little dirt there is. You might say that the tree has been deformed by its harsh environment, or that it has been victimized by nature, which is uncaring and pitiless. Even so, these trees know how to survive there. They grow as they need to grow to thrive. They’ve been doing it for generations, for centuries.

But to me, what’s even more remarkable is how beautiful these trees are. In fact, they are visited and photographed for their unique and captivating beauty. They are among the most beautiful of nature’s creatures regardless of how or why they grew that way. They are marveled at for their magnificence and elegance just as they are. Not because of anything or in spite of anything. But simply as they are. Beautiful.

I am not suggesting that what happened to you was beautiful. I am suggesting that how you survived it is a part of you, and that every part of you is beautiful. There are no parts of you that are not you. You have no parts that are foreign or trash or wrong.

As with any sexual desire, yours will be with you for the rest of your life. This is no cause for despair, however. As I say repeatedly, gaining is not about getting fat. Gaining is merely the sexual desire to get fat. What you choose to do about it is completely separate. But you can choose nothing until you accept and embrace this part of yourself. Where there is fear, anger, or lust there is no choice. It’s like a moth drawn to a flame, but then retreating in pain and terror from being burned. I’ve seen gainers put themselves through this cycle of lust and fear for years, for decades. There’s no peace.

My work and private coaching is about helping people find clarity and freedom in order to choose a life for themselves that works.

People come to me to help them deal with their monsters. If you try to cage the monster, he will grow stronger until he breaks out of the cage and wrecks your life. If you hide from him, he will hunt you down until nowhere is safe and then devour you. The only way to defeat him is to make friends with him. For, in fact, he is you. And he is a powerful ally once you know and understand him.

The rant I just posted on Facebook:

It’s pretty bad that you can’t even escape misogyny, fat-shaming, transphobia, sexuality erasure, and racism in the gay community. You’d think a group such as ours who has been denied rights for ages and ages and treated like shit by the people society has been built around (AKA white, skinny/fit, cisgender, straight men, usually of middle age or older, and more specifically for us, straight people in general,) would be more empathetic towards the other people that society openly attacks.
And yet, what’s worse, if you have a personal issue, you’ll nit pick at THAT, but you don’t care about other people’s rights and happiness. For instance, and over weight person may agree with me on how horrible fat-shaming is, and yet still be incredibly transphobic to people on the trans spectrum. Or a feminine gay may agree about how misogyny has effected how gays view masculinity as a superior thing to be feminine when in fact it isn’t superior, and then turn around and make some dumb ass YouTube video about how “bisexuality doesn’t exist.”
You cannot pick and choose who gets rights and happiness. Women, people of color, trans people, gays, lesbians, bisexuals, pansexuals, asexuals, demisexuals, the old, the young, we all deserve basic rights.
It is not “your opinion” that men/masculine men are superior to women/feminine men, it’s a disgusting internalized misogyny that society has pushed into your head. We all have preferences, preferring a masculine or feminine man is one of those. Preferring a person who’s heavier set, fit, or skinny is one of those. But saying that one is BETTER than the other is wrong, and you are treating human beings like things to be bought.
Furthermore, excluding trans people from your “preferences” is ridiculous. Just because a man has a vagina or a woman has a penis should not effect how you view them. If genitals define someone for you, you’re shallow, and clearly know nothing about sex. There are other ways to have sex without involving genitals. I have seen some sexy trans men that I would totally date, do not take away their humanity. Do not take away a woman’s humanity either, do not cat call, do not sexualize things that are not inherently sexual.
Do not turn people into sex toys for your imagination to sort into categories. Do not judge someone by who they are. Do not strip someone of their humanity because of what society screams at you. Defy it, and just be a good person.
Because the only people who forfeit their humanity, are people who attempt to destroy the rights and lives of others. (Rapists, murderers, commiters of racist/sexist/LGBTQIAP+phobic hate crimes, basically all Republicans, etc.)

I am just so angry at this world where we deny the homeless shelter when we have plenty homes to house them, where we deny children fleeing from war a safe haven, where we sexualize a baby’s need to feed, where we sort people into dangerous, hateful categories based around what we call beauty, all just to market to a very specific group of people. The whiter, older, richer, straighter, more powerful, more masculine, and straighter you are, the better you are treated in this shit world. I am done watching people destroy this place and its inhabitants. I will fight with whatever small power and privilege I have to make this hell better before I leave.

Im homesick af im tired af im fat af im sexually frustrated single af kinda hate my course and questioning my life and what i wonna do with it and the semester started 3 days ago. Other than that … Im good

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Feed Me

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by ViciousInnocence

With his apparent total disgust for Macs new body, Dennis couldn’t suddenly go back on his word; he didn’t want to look weak in his resolve. He had started to fantasise though.

Words: 1819, Chapters: 1/1, Language: English



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Yikes!! Feelings again????

You ever just wonder why your family always makes fun of you because of your body hair, body fat, and sexuality??
Well ask me and you’ll find out from a hairy, genderfluid, pansexual!!

Ever stop to think that “what if my mom keeps telling me to shave and lose weight” every fucking time I put on a dress??!?!??!?
Don’t fret because I’ve got you covered just like a blanket on a cold night!!

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