fat-sexuality

I’ve been sexually into fat for as long as I can remember- big bellies and butts, inflation, etc. have been fetishes of mine since before I could even masturbate. Recently my boyfriend has expressed that he’d like to see me gain some chub, as we both have a fetish for fat and distended bellies, and this has gotten me super excited. I feel like if I could actually gain weight, I’d end up going beyond just a little chub…

Researcher Looking for Self-Identified Fat Young Adults of Color

Fat studies researcher looking to pay $10 to self-identified fat young adults of color for interviews on fat identity, sexuality, race, and the Internet.

Hello everyone!

My name is Philippe Fradet and I am a graduate student at San Francisco State University in the Sexuality Studies program. I am seeking participants for a study with self-identified fat young adults of color who currently live in the United States. I’m looking to interview people of any gender and sexual identity, of any socioeconomic background, and of any physical and mental ability status. Interviews in this study will focus on four topics:
· fat identity, including self-acceptance and personal histories;
· sexuality, including sexual identity, sexual practices, and sexuality as a fat individual;
· race, including the interactions of race, fat identity, and sexuality;
· and the Internet, including how the Internet is used to build community and support.

If you are interested in participating in this research or if you have any questions, you can contact me either by email at pfradet@mail.sfsu.edu or by sending me an “ask” or “submission” on my Tumblr (fatdisid.tumblr.com) with your Tumblr account.

When you contact me, please let me know a bit about yourself and your interest in the project. In order to participate in this study, you must identify as a fat person of color and be between the ages of 18 and 25. Participants will be given a $10 gift card to Amazon.com for participating in the project. All interviews will be conducted using the voice chatting or phone call features of Skype, which means anyone in the United States is welcome to participate. Your name and participation in the project will be kept confidential, and you can contact me with any questions. I will be posting any pressing questions about the project on this blog.

Thank you for your interest!

 

Philippe Fradet
Master’s Candidate
Sexuality Studies Department
San Francisco State University
fatdisid.tumblr.com
fatdisid@gmail.com
(415) 799-7109

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Every Thursday we run a feature on Chubstr called Answerland. It’s basically a way for us to answer some of the questions we get from readers on a regular basis. The questions we get cover everything from food to fashion to sex. 

Last year, the amazing Hanne Blank asked me to write a blurb for the revised edition of her book, Big Big Love. If you’ve got questions about love, sex, or intimacy as it relates to being a person of size, I definitely recommend this book. You’d be hard pressed to come up with a question that isn’t somehow addressed within its pages. Learn more about the book at Chubstr, and follow Hanne on Twitter

Toxic People in the Feederism Community

-People who sexualize body positivity blogs and push their feederism fantasies onto non-feederism people.

-People who fatten up an unwilling partner . If they don’t like being fatter , don’t fucking do it .

-People who obnoxiously harass others for their kik or skype and insult them when they deny their request

-People who tell others with body issues that don’t feel comfortable being skinny that they don’t look like they’ve gained any weight , trying to invalidate their efforts .

-People who add horrifying captions to people’s pictures , telling them they’re going to die but thinking it’s okay because it’s a sexual quirk for them to say such things.

-Fatphobic assholes that will sexualize fat bodies one moment and make fun of them the next

If you fall under any of these categories , please eat a brick of rotten dog crap and reconsider your entire sad life .

I’ve seen every single one of these things on tumblr . It’s so frustrating to have a lovely community that is constantly tainted by cancerous people like this .

So like, I’m fine at playing along with the “girl talk” and whatever you call that when you’re all “OMG I would soooo do him. He’s fucking HOTTT” but then when we’re being real with how and who I’m attracted to it’s different because I feel like I have to really know someone and connect with them before I can really develop any romantic/sexual feelings. And then this leaves me in the awkward pool of being super confused because I can’t tell if I’m trying to befriend someone, or if I’m crushing on them.

Then there’s the awkwardness of last night where I may have had someone outwardly say they were flirting with me. But it was a joke. And idk. I’m usually the type to be like HAHAHA NO LIKES ME EVER so I don’t even think it’s possible. And on one hand, maybe I’m leading them on (though things felt awkward when I left, so that may be done) and on the other hand, maybe I want to lead them on because I’m attracted to them (but I don’t know if I can and I don’t want to be an asshole).

For basically all my life I’ve never had crushes returned so the idea that maybe, just maybe, I’m not completely delusional is putting me in a weird state.

[CW diet talk, discussion of consensual sex]

Two recent films, Nymphomaniac and Concussion, spend ample time exploring the marginalized sexualities of their (thin) female protagonists. Joe (Charlotte Gainsboug/Stacy Martin), the titular character of von Trier’s epic, labels herself as a nymphomaniac and constructs her life around her insatiable libido; Abby (Robin Weigert), the heroine of Passon’s directorial debut, is a lesbian who subverts her life as a mainstream upper middle-class homemaker by involving herself in sex work. Both women have fat sex partners over the course of their respective stories, neither of whom function as a source of comedy or disgust.

been thinking about my sexuality.  i’ve noticed i’m sometimes attracted to men, but it’s not as strong as women and only if they’re fat.  I’ve always preferred women fat too, but I still find them attractive thin, but not men.  Plus there are a lot of “traditionally masculine” things, like beards, body hair, big muscles and hard features that are big turn offs.  I wonder if the atraction is towards fat bodies regardless of gender, or I just have a type and it’s more pronounced with men. 

anonymous asked:

Worst: 'look at her, can you all see how disgusting she is? you shouldn't eat that. you're so fat aren't you embarrassed to be seen you fat pig?' - my sexual abuser and only person who has seen me naked. / 'liar, you loved it you whore' - my best friend after I told her I was abused'/ 'You're not my little girl anymore' - my mom after I came out. / 'Do you mind fucking off?' - my boyf when he brought another girl home.

i’m sorry you had so many gross people in your life. i hope you’re okay now and people started appreciating you.

im probably going 2 be talking about sex a little more openly on this blog bc like i have like six messages from fat girls wondering abt sex and asking for advice and like there honest to god is really no good resource for fat women and their sexuality so if you would prefer not to see posts like this i’m going to tag them with either “sex talk tw” or “sex mention tw” or both!!! 

anonymous asked:

Do you think you could have a relationship with someone who isn't into gaining or getting fatter or who didn't know about you being super into it yourself? I like your Tumblr btw.

That’s an interesting question. I can’t answer that for everyone, but for me that answer is a definite no. I spent all my 20’s and early 30’s dating men who didn’t know anything about gaining/encouraging/fat fetish-related sexuality, and it only led to an enormous amount of frustration, awkwardness, and dishonesty. They were also often uncomfortable with their bodies and one man I dated even angrily called me a freak when I tried to rub his belly.

Because I want to live a life of honesty and integrity from now on, I don’t think it’s possible for me to date someone who didn’t share my sexuality. It’s not exactly in the normative sexual spectrum to be attracted to/aroused by the idea of a man being fat/growing fatter. The same for a gainer–sexual arousal is elicited from the idea of themselves being fatter, so it’s a very unique and rare sexuality. If I didn’t date someone who felt like that and who understood this integral part of my sexuality, I would feel that I’m moving backwards. I want to move forwards and be true to my own self. I don’t want to live a lie.

Also, I’ve realized that I can only really and truly love someone who understands and appreciates ALL of me, which is probably why I have only ever loved one man with all of my heart and soul. It was the most special and beautiful time in my life because I was able to have that honesty and openness, and I am deeply grateful to him because of it. I wish you luck and I hope you can figure out the right answer for yourself. Thanks for following.

anonymous asked:

Where my fat ass bitches in da club. Fuck dem skinny bitches fuck da skinny bitchs in da club he love da fat ass muthafuckin booty dancin in de muthafuckin club booty bitchin give nigga boner des hoes are up on da flor gone crazy wit da fat ass Sexually aroused lookin ass

thanks for this

I’m sorry. I have never had someone not be on point because I was always hot enough to keep it that way. I guess I got fat and lost my sexual swag.

Going to bed after being completely degraded by my half brother and getting called a slut, which triggered my ptsd symptoms of my sexual assault, fat slut which triggered my eating disorder and then he made fun of my habits of self harm. So I’m really scared and paranoid he’s going to do something in my sleep. My family is so shitty. I just got out of a fucking psych ward and this shit happens. I don’t know how I’m gonna complete school by October if my happiness gets thrown at a bus every single day, but I’ll try.

beesbeesbees asked:

just wanted to let yall know that overweight lapis art you reblogged was unfortunately drawn by a fat fetishist/stuffing fetishist

Thanks for alerting me, I didn’t realize it because that particular drawing didn’t strike me as being fat fetishistic in and of itself. It doesn’t seem to have that unrealistically overdone fatness or sexualized feeling fetish art usually has, it just looks like a cute, cartoony drawing of a larger fat body (although I know that’s all entirely subjective).

That being said, unless you or any other followers object to that piece of art in particular, or to having a piece of art on your dash that was made by a fat fetish artist, I’m inclined to keep the fat lapis up. But objecting to it for those reasons is entirely fair, and if anyone speaks up that it makes them uncomfortable, I’ll take it down.

One reason I have for wanting to keep the art up tho, even after knowing about the artist, is because I’d want to encourage fat fetish artists to draw realistic and non-fetishistic and non-sexualized art of fat characters. If that drawing of lapis getting more notes means the artist feels inspired to draw more cute, non-fetishized and non-kink-related drawings of fat characters in the future, I’d be glad. I definitely don’t like fat fetish art, but I’d be a lot less unhappy with its existence or the artists that make it if they also made some art of fat bodies that wasn’t fetishistic or stereotypical or unrealistic. Like honestly, if I got a whole bunch of submissions of awesome/cute and realistic and non-fetishized fat art to queue up, and all of it was done by fat fetishis artists? The only reason I’d be inclined to turn down those submissions would be follower discomfort.

But I totally understand if other people disagree with my viewpoint on that, and I’d be very interested in hearing your opinions if anyone wants to discuss this more.