fat-sexuality

Researcher Looking for Self-Identified Fat Young Adults of Color

Fat studies researcher looking to pay $10 to self-identified fat young adults of color for interviews on fat identity, sexuality, race, and the Internet.

Hello everyone!

My name is Philippe Fradet and I am a graduate student at San Francisco State University in the Sexuality Studies program. I am seeking participants for a study with self-identified fat young adults of color who currently live in the United States. I’m looking to interview people of any gender and sexual identity, of any socioeconomic background, and of any physical and mental ability status. Interviews in this study will focus on four topics:
· fat identity, including self-acceptance and personal histories;
· sexuality, including sexual identity, sexual practices, and sexuality as a fat individual;
· race, including the interactions of race, fat identity, and sexuality;
· and the Internet, including how the Internet is used to build community and support.

If you are interested in participating in this research or if you have any questions, you can contact me either by email at pfradet@mail.sfsu.edu or by sending me an “ask” or “submission” on my Tumblr (fatdisid.tumblr.com) with your Tumblr account.

When you contact me, please let me know a bit about yourself and your interest in the project. In order to participate in this study, you must identify as a fat person of color and be between the ages of 18 and 25. Participants will be given a $10 gift card to Amazon.com for participating in the project. All interviews will be conducted using the voice chatting or phone call features of Skype, which means anyone in the United States is welcome to participate. Your name and participation in the project will be kept confidential, and you can contact me with any questions. I will be posting any pressing questions about the project on this blog.

Thank you for your interest!

 

Philippe Fradet
Master’s Candidate
Sexuality Studies Department
San Francisco State University
fatdisid.tumblr.com
fatdisid@gmail.com
(415) 799-7109

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Every Thursday we run a feature on Chubstr called Answerland. It’s basically a way for us to answer some of the questions we get from readers on a regular basis. The questions we get cover everything from food to fashion to sex. 

Last year, the amazing Hanne Blank asked me to write a blurb for the revised edition of her book, Big Big Love. If you’ve got questions about love, sex, or intimacy as it relates to being a person of size, I definitely recommend this book. You’d be hard pressed to come up with a question that isn’t somehow addressed within its pages. Learn more about the book at Chubstr, and follow Hanne on Twitter

So like, I’m fine at playing along with the “girl talk” and whatever you call that when you’re all “OMG I would soooo do him. He’s fucking HOTTT” but then when we’re being real with how and who I’m attracted to it’s different because I feel like I have to really know someone and connect with them before I can really develop any romantic/sexual feelings. And then this leaves me in the awkward pool of being super confused because I can’t tell if I’m trying to befriend someone, or if I’m crushing on them.

Then there’s the awkwardness of last night where I may have had someone outwardly say they were flirting with me. But it was a joke. And idk. I’m usually the type to be like HAHAHA NO LIKES ME EVER so I don’t even think it’s possible. And on one hand, maybe I’m leading them on (though things felt awkward when I left, so that may be done) and on the other hand, maybe I want to lead them on because I’m attracted to them (but I don’t know if I can and I don’t want to be an asshole).

For basically all my life I’ve never had crushes returned so the idea that maybe, just maybe, I’m not completely delusional is putting me in a weird state.

• protect black fat girls
• protect white fat girls
• protect brown fat girls
• protect asian fat girls
• protect mixed fat girls
• protect trans fat girls
• protect disabled fat girls
• protect young fat girls
• protect older fat girls
• protect neuroatypical fat girls
• protect fat girls in bikinis
• protect fat girls in turtlenecks
• protect sex-worker fat girls
• protect over-sexualized fat girls
• protect insecure fat girls
• protect scrutinized fat girls
• protect fat girls who can’t protect themselves
• PROTECT FAT GIRLS

i wish bi/pan kids had a cute appellation like gay or lesbian to describe their identity without a big fat “-sexual” suffix hanging off the end. ten-year-olds are not sexual beings and need to be able to express their identity without implying that they are.

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NYMPHOMANIAC (2014, DIR. LARS VON TRIER); CONCUSSION (2013, DIR. STACIE PASSON)

[CW diet talk, discussion of consensual sex]

Two recent films, Nymphomaniac and Concussion, spend ample time exploring the marginalized sexualities of their (thin) female protagonists. Joe (Charlotte Gainsboug/Stacy Martin), the titular character of von Trier’s epic, labels herself as a nymphomaniac and constructs her life around her insatiable libido; Abby (Robin Weigert), the heroine of Passon’s directorial debut, is a lesbian who subverts her life as a mainstream upper middle-class homemaker by involving herself in sex work. Both women have fat sex partners over the course of their respective stories, neither of whom function as a source of comedy or disgust.

anonymous asked:

Thoughts on Degrassi?

I’ve never seen it. I was a little to young when it came out and I was never interested. Ren’s seen and liked it, though.

-pink

I’m guessing you mean the incarnation that began with The Next Generation?

I grew up with Degrassi when I was the age as the actual characters and that played a huge formative role in my life. Seeing Hazel deal with racism and Islamaphobia. Seeing Marco come out and deal with homophobia and bullying. School shootings. Fat shaming, self-harm, sexual assault: you name it, they covered it.

To paraphrase the old tagline, Degrassi “went” there. 

I say “went” because I stopped watching somewhere after the last of the original cast of the sequel series left the show. Still, though, they did some really huge things after I stopped watching, including introducing the first teenage trans character I’ve ever seen, a young man named Adam. 

Some episodes are classics. So, yeah. Love “old” Degrassi (which is funny because old Degrassi isn’t even the original Degrassi) and I appreciate “new” Degrassi even if I’m not into the show anymore.

-ren

anonymous asked:

I know you're not feeling well now, and that even if you did feel well, you might not want to or be able to respond, so if I don't get a response, I understand why and won't be upset. I wanted to ask, though, if you have advice for seeing a gynecologist when you're fat, have sexual trauma, and are continually talked to like a child and treated badly by doctors because you're cognitively disabled? How can I make sure I find a gynecologist who's respectful and safe?

Oh geez.  I have no idea. 

I got my last gynecologist because I had a friend who recommended her as amazing.  Then she retired and now I’m still looking for one (as in, I’m unsure whether to remain with her successor at her practice or whether to try and find a new one, especially after some stuff that happened with billing that was really screwed up and has left me in permanent debt), and kind of freaked out about the whole thing. 

There’s a Planned Parenthood within walking distance of me, I’ve thought of going there out of convenience, but I don’t know how respectful they’d be.  I have a horrible time with gynecological exams, and sometimes have had to go under anesthesia for procedures that don’t normally require it, so… yeah.  I have no idea how to find someone respectful, and right now I’m right in the middle of that problem myself. 

It might be possible to interview different doctors and see which one would be a good fit before consenting to any exams, but that could also prove impossibly expensive if insurance wasn’t covering the visits (which they might not if no exam was taking place, I don’t know a lot about things like that). 

So the short answer is:  I wish I knew.  Myself – I’m fat, hairy (which always comes up with gyns as a “holy crap are your hormones okay!?!!” thing), genderless, a sexual abuse survivor, and cognitively disabled myself, as well as having what seem to be physical issues that make exams excruciatingly painful (like I can handle a nerve block in my face without flinching but I can’t handle a speculum without screaming my head off, it feels as if they’re tearing flesh, and even if they knock me out first it’s excruciatingly painful when I wake up so their constant idea that I must be tensing the muscles is probably wrong, unless I can tense muscles in my sleep).  And I don’t have periods since I was 28 or so (I’m turning 35 next month), so I need gyn care to avoid cancer (because of the particular causes of this for me), plus I really do have pituitary problems (including severe adrenal insufficiency) that might be contributing to some of this.  And all of those things have made gynecological stuff really difficult.  I didn’t even start getting exams until a later age than I should have, because of all that, and I can’t get the same kind of exams most people get, because of all that, and it’s a serious pain in the butt at minimum.

I’m posting this in case anyone knows this sort of thing better than I do.

What Fat Activism is About

What it is about

  • Fighting for fat rights
  • Fighting to stop fatphobia
  • Showing big is beautiful in an none sexual way
  • Fat acceptance
  • Fat art ( to an extent)
  • Showning it is acceptible to be fat in public without being judged
  • That another persons size is nobody’s business but there own
  • That all bodies are good no matter how big or small

What it is not about!

  • Feederism
  • Fat fetishishim
  • Glorifying obesity
  • Fat porn

One Tree Hill

So you’re probably looking at this and making fun of my outfit, right? Anyway here’s alll you really need to know about today; if… you’re fat, dumb, sexual and a guy, you’re OK. If you’re a girl, not so much. Please tell me that’s changed in the future. Somebody tell me you’ve got love figured out, because I got news for you; it’s pretty darn messy right now. But I guess it has always been that way. Wanting to be loved, to find somebody that makes your heart ache in a good way… feel understood. So… if you’re robots, or aliens, or something and you’re watching this right now and that feeling no longer exists; well… you missed it… and I feel sorry for you. ‘Cuz as far as I can tell, that’s what it’s all about. And that’s what I know it should be about.

sanjuromartell asked:

Do you actually enjoy laughing at those?

It intrigues me why you enjoy being so fat. Albeit I sorta respect that position, as IMO the one benefit to being a fat fuck is being sexually invisible. I found when I was fat less men harass me. I kinda miss that power to be invisible.