Apparently there’s been some confusion over what you should and shouldn’t say to your plus-size friends.Well, I’m here to try to help you out. Now, I’m not saying I speak for all plus-size girls out there. Heck, some of us don’t even like to be called plus-size. But I do feel like I speak for at least a fraction of us so I’m gonna go ahead and say this: Sometimes people say stuff to us that freaking sucks.
There. I said it. It doesn’t matter if the person is not trying to be mean or condescending, it can still come off that way. And no, I’m not being “oversensitive” today. I’m just saying, it’s nice to be treated somewhat like a human being every now and then.
What you say: “Wow, you’re soooo confident with your body.” What we hear: “Wow, it’s amazing how you choose to live life somewhat happily even though you’re fat.”
What you say: “Aren’t you worried about your health?” What we hear: “Apparently, I’ve magically apparated into your doctor’s office, looked through your files, and deemed that your doctor was incorrect in proclaiming you to be a perfectly healthy human being.”
What you say: “Do you need workout tips?” What we hear: “I’m assuming you don’t workout and I don’t realize that pointing out your size is probably not the best incentive to get your self-confidence in a good enough place that you’ll even want to work out.”
What you say: “Do you have a thyroid condition?” What we hear: “So what’s your excuse?”
What you say: “Are you just lazy?” What we hear: “Fat = Doing nothing but eating all day. This is an equation I’ve known for years yet your body is giving me a different result.”
What you say: “Don’t worry, some guys/girls are into that.” What we hear: “I don’t want you think you’ll end up alone, some people will lower their standards.”
What you say: “Ugh, I feel sooooo fat today.” What we hear: “I’m feeling self-conscious about myself and choosing to discuss this with my friend who is at least eight sizes larger than me without thinking about how it’ll make her feel.”
What you say: “I just want you to be happy.” What we hear: “Because there’s no way anyone would be happy at your size, right?”
the leaves are falling and the sweaters have come out, autumn is here. I wore this cute little outfit to college today and felt super comfy, got lots of compliments about the leggings which made me smile :)
sweater - H&M
leggings - TK Max
bag - thrifted
shoes - Urban Outfitters