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Lines by @gaylalondes 

Rose Lalonde being in a little gothic outfit that the colors are based on  Velvet outfit. I also tried to do some stretch marks on her belly….Look at me trying to do detail on a girl. I mean I have them why not show them? Cause most of the art you do is of skinnier people who might not have those markings. Sad but true but luckily this artist does provide a lot of different body types and lets me experiment. -happy noises-

nytimes.com
The Thrill and Fear of ‘Hey, Beautiful’ - NYTimes.com

“I am a black trans femme, happy to be alive and grateful that a man’s desire for my body has not led to violence, which is all too common for trans women and gender-nonconforming people of color.

And to complicate this even further: Black, fat and gender-deviant are the targets I wear on my back as I move throughout the world. People feel a sense of entitlement toward my body — whether they are random men on the street, goofy teenagers in Brooklyn, police officers, women and children on the subway, or people on the internet.”

You don’t know how important this song and video is.

Colbie Caillat was mad ‘cause of the amount of photoshop that was used on her, so she decided to take action. 

This video is about  how women have to live up to the fucked up society standards where make up and fake things, where your perfect slim and toned body, where your skin color will make you prettier for the world to see. 

Now, I’m aware that yes, everyone have their own 'pretty standards’ but why, ¿Why do make up have to be used to be prettier? ¿Why do chemicals make you prettier? ¿Why women who don’t use make up are considered as tomboys or just not feminine enough? ¿Why your skin color defines who you are? ¿Why your body form defines who you are? ¿Why do people have to be bullied because they are not pretty enough for the society standards? ¿WHY CAN’T YOU BE WHO YOU LIKE TO BE? Its just so fucked up..

  If you want to wear make up, or not, if you want to be slim or chubby, if you want to spend all your money on clothes or not, if you want long or short hair, want to comb your hair or just leave it messy DO IT BECAUSE YOU WANT TO, AND NOT BECAUSE THE SOCIETY TELLS YOU THAT YOU HAVE TO DO IT. And this is for both women and men.

(All rights to Colbie Caillat)

Thoughts I am having-

TW for weight loss surgery and diet talk.

So I just wanted to let you all in on my thought process about the news that Gabby Sidibe has not only had weight loss surgery but is promoting it in interviews as a good thing.

I’m really disappointed. Fat women don’t get to have many icons and that is even more true for fat black women and other fat women of color. 

Whenever a fat woman makes it as an entertainer, she always loses weight. Always. It sucks and it hurts. 

I have other things to say about weight loss surgery in general, and specifically addressing certain scolding attitudes that people who do not participate in fat activism have towards the community, but that will be in other posts.

But I probably won’t be featuring photos of Gabby going forward because I can’t be on board with celebrating weight loss surgery. 

I am sorry she felt like she had to do this, sorry for the people who will get a harmful message out of what she is doing right now, and I hope she is ok long term, because a lot of people aren’t after they have the surgery.

And I wanted you to know if you found this out and you’re upset by it, you are not alone. 

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Happiness comes from within. I’ve loved myself at 100 and I’ve loved myself at 200 and I’ll continue to love myself until the day I die. I refuse to follow the trend of women shrinking as though they are not allowed the space they deserve. I stand here assuming the space that I am entitled to, and I will not falter. Furthermore -no matter their size- whether it be short, tall, fat, skinny, #curvy, or lanky. No matter what they are, women deserve #respect, #equality, and #equity I am proud because I say so. I am beautiful because I say so. #selflove

Writing characters of color without making their ethnicity clear


400daydream​ asked:

Hello! I’m new at writing and I want to write POC. Is there a way to write them without mentioning their skin color or origins? Mentioning traces that will lead the reader to just know they are? (Am I making sense?)

Because we live in a world where white media dominates, even in countries where white people are a minority, if you never describe your characters or give obvious clues to their origins, even people of color will read your characters as white. It’s best not to leave room for any doubt because racist people and even well-meaning clueless people will imagine that they have plausible deniability.

There’s an assumed default due to the skewed nature of mass-consumed fiction, in which everyone unless mentioned otherwise is thought to be white, straight, male (which is REALLY weird because it’s not like women are actually in the minority), and come from either a Christian or Christian-based areligious background.

Try this little thought experiment:

The chef cleaned the last of the knives and put it away in the block.

Who did you picture? A white man? A woman? What color was their skin? Were they fat or thin?

I bet you didn’t picture a heavy-ish brown Middle-Eastern-coded woman. But a chef just like that is a major character in my series.

Let’s try another one.

The commander scowled at his team before handing out a fresh set of weapons.

I was thinking of a Black man with an ocular disability. What, you didn’t get that from my sentence? You couldn’t tell I was totally fangirling over Nick Fury again? (He’s dreamy. This is a factual statement.)

In addition, there’s no reason not to describe your characters. It’s not offensive to say someone has dark brown skin, “medium brown skin” (I have a lot of that in my books), is Korean-American, is Black, is Navajo, etc. Just try to stay away from food words or any kind of description that sounds like you’re literally turning a human being into an object or consumable product.

Here’s my description of a man who owns a music shop in my latest book:

He was tall, and broad, and very fat, and he seemed nonthreatening and kind. Shulamit studied his appearance, trying to parse his ethnicity. His skin was the same medium brown as her own and that of her people, but his hair was thick and coarse and pulled into the rough locks that looked like braids but weren’t, like the people to the south whose skin was darker.

Would you have gotten any of that if I hadn’t described him? You would have assumed that both of them were white and that Tzuriel was thin, most likely. It matters to me that they look the way they’re supposed to look, so I had no qualms about describing them plainly.

Here are some of the ways Fiona Zedde describes some of the characters in her Black lesbian short story anthology When She Says Yes:

skin like the bark of a baobab tree

the ascetic lines of her face hewn in rich tones of rosewood

My short Afro wouldn’t wilt in the rain.

I knew what I must have looked like to her – a petite, brown-skinned girl with wide, long-lashed eyes and rounded cheeks who’d never seen the inside of a tattoo parlor, much less wanted a tattoo.

>> Mentioning traces that will lead the reader to just know they are? 

You have to be careful with that. A lot of my readers, including women with dark skin and my own mother, thought that the Perachis were supposed to be Black, not brown. One of my best friends got all the way through my book four draft and thought my Portuguese-coded characters were supposed to be in Spain. And there are people who read Hunger Games and didn’t know Rue was Black, although I feel weird mentioning that because I haven’t read or seen them myself.

In short (too late!) there’s no reason not to mention it and a lot of reasons mentioning it is actually vital if you want the representation to be meaningful.

–Shira

As a Chinese-American person who writes Chinese/Chinese-American characters, even if their heritage has little bearing on the plot, I make a point of  describing them as Chinese, whether it’s through cultural markers (surnames, or speaking Chinese dialects) or appearance.

We live in a world where readers will default to white unless it’s specifically spelled out for them: otherwise they will bend over backwards trying to justify why this character is white and not PoC. Here’s an example: a book I read in middle school featured a Japanese-American teacher whose only marker was her surname, and yet when we had to do collages depicting her, everyone used a photo of a white woman instead.

I strongly recommend against using traces to describe your PoC characters: we suffer from enough invisibility as is, and your method implies that describing our races would be shameful.

–mod Jess 

it’s important to point out that makeup and skincare culture are not inherently “empowering” for women and are necessarily pushed by a heteropatriarchal capitalist society upon women and use pressure and judgment in order to both collect our money and our compliance. i will never argue that fact.

but i’m tired of seeing certain people make that statement and then go on with their day, failing to account for any nuance or complex experiences related to this. and by that i mean, i’m tired of seeing thin, conventionally attractive, cishet, white, able-bodied women shame fat women, lgbt women, gnc women, women of color, disabled women, and women who are in other ways not “conventionally attractive” for not simply eschewing makeup and choosing not to shave their body hair.

the reason for this is because a thin white conventionally-attractive cishet able-bodied woman will have a MUCH easier time not using makeup and not shaving her body hair than, say, a fat disabled trans butch lesbian of color. will the first woman still likely face judgment and criticism for choosing to reject those beauty standards and practices? of course. but not nearly as much.

for example, i’m a fat bisexual woman. i’m white, able-bodied, and i’m not trans. i have it comparatively easy compared to disabled women, visibly gnc women, women of color, trans women, etc. and still i notice glaring differences in how my refusal to constantly perform femininity at the expected level differs from that of thin, straight, white women.

i’ve been bullied for my weight for my entire life. fat women are expected to OVER-perform femininity, or run the risk of coming off as sloppy, as slobs, as “letting ourselves go.” those thin women who can wear sweats everywhere and joke about how much she loves cheeseburgers are still considered cute, desirable, and acceptable. if a fat woman were to wear that same outfit and eat that same food she would be judged so fucking harshly. and of course the effects are compounded when that woman is also lgbt, gnc, disabled, a woc, etc. i won’t discuss those specific challenges here simply bc most of them are not challenges that i face personally and therefore don’t feel like i should speak on at length, and also this post is long already.

and yes, a lot of this is based off of whether or not men will still find a given woman desirable, and no, we absolutely should NOT be living our lives according to that standard. but the fact is that a lot of what society expects from women in general IS based on what men find desirable (aka which women men will still want to fuck.)

so yes, please point out that women can’t really be empowered by “eyeliner sharp enough to kill a man” or whatever, that beauty and makeup culture are capitalist ploys to take women’s money and force us to conform to standards we don’t choose or ask for. but if you’re not taking into account the extra difficulties that fat women, lgbt women, gnc women, women of color, disabled women, etc face in addition to the standards faced by all women, you’re not helping anybody.

Wakeup Call To Tumblr Feminists

Men are people too.

White people are people too.

Cisgender people are people too.

Straight people are people too.

Skinny people are people too.


Just like how a trans, gay, fat, woman of color shouldn’t be treated like shit because of how she is, a skinny cishet white man shouldn’t be either.

I’m trying to become the newest face of TORRID FASHION, this video was sent in with my application.

As a WOMAN OF COLOR that has overcome depression while dealing with my disease and as a PLUS-SIZE WOMAN that doesn’t even fit the typical plus sized model look, I’m hoping to make strides and make my dream a reality. Please send prayers/good vibes my way. It’s hard to think that at one point I didn’t even want to be alive, and now I’ve never felt like I’m living truly more than I do. I look at life with a brand new outlook and I hope to support women that are just like me as well as all women that are nothing like me. We are all beautiful. We are all worthy of living beautiful lives.

If/When there is a Harley Quinn movie with Poison Ivy there are three things that would make it great in my book

1. Harley Quinn and Poison Ivy are shown as a couple on screen not hints or anything I want them to kiss
2. Poison Ivy is a woman of color
3. Poison ivy has muscles/chub/fat/whatever you want to call it. (Played by Leslie Jones is my choice or Beyoncé)

PSA

Women are art.
Their bodies are truly amazing. I’m not talking just about sexually, but the curves and glow is just gorgeous.
I’m in awe with the creation of women. How we are sensitive and carry heavy pains for our entire lives. How we deal with excruciating pain every month and carry and produce a human from our bodies.
Women are beautiful in every way. We carry something special. We are living art and we make more of it every day.
Ladies, you are beautiful. I don’t care about your acne, fat, stretch marks, skin color, race, if you identify as a woman and “weren’t born that way”. You’re showing signs of development and I’m so proud of you.
Thank you for existing.