Why aren’t the real perils of fat athleticism ever shown in print or video?
I mean, raise your hand if you’re fat and you’ve ever been
disrespected while innocently exercising. Um, me too.
Don’t know what we’re talking about? Close your eyes and
imagine our fat woman du jour, smiling while standing next to an elliptical
machine. Or maybe she’s gleefully jogging through a random park, bundled up in
unnecessarily bulky sweatshirts and baggin, saggin’ sweatpants.
But quick- what’s left out of these shots? How about the
other gym patrons, who are usually quick to rudely ogle and/or offer
unsolicited advice to our fat heroine. Also left out of the spotlight? The
passerby who decides that it’s appropriate to cat-call our heroine while she finishes
her jog in the park. On a regular basis, fat athletes are mocked,
discriminated, and emotionally assaulted.
So what’s the deal? Are fat women supposed to be grateful
for the opportunity to be disrespected? Nah, I don’t think so. Instead of waiting
around for the rest of the world get with the program, I’m just going to
continue embodying the worst living nightmare of fat shamers and haters.
I will continue to wear sport bras (like this very
comfortable and functional little number from Catherine’s) while exercising
outdoors. I will continue to show my stretch marks. I will continue to wear cute,
form fitting leggings that show off my curves. I shouldn’t have to hide my body
because it makes other people uncomfortable.
Furthermore, I don’t need weight loss as a goal in order to
enjoy a healthy and fulfilling lifestyle. Wellness isn’t about body size- it’s
simply a commitment to being a happy and joyful creature, both inside and
out. So even when the gym patrons gawk and passerby cat call, I resolve to
decline the opportunity to be disrespected. I’m gonna hold my head high and
know that I don’t need the approval of people who hate happiness and want to
breed negativity. Everything I need in order to be happy and healthy is inside
[Image: Three pastel pink color blocks with white text in a vertical row. They read “support fat people with belly rolls” / “support fat people with cellulite” / “support fat people who can’t afford expensive clothes and makeup”]
• there are only two genders
• black people can be racist
• women can be sexist
• not wanting to date someone because they are trans is not transphobic
• gender is not a social construct
• gender is not a spectrum
• biological sex is indeed a thing
• transage is disturbing
• otherkin is insane and not real
• women can rape and abuse
• you have to have dysphoria to be trans
• there are only four sexualities.
• micro aggressions are ridiculous
• fat acceptance is harmful
• women in the west are not oppressed
• there is no rape culture
• it is not sexual harassment or objectification to compliment a woman’s appearance
• men are not scary or aggressive
• women aren’t angels
• men and women aren’t the same
• dysphoria is a mental illness
• trans people should go to the bathroom of the gender they pass as.
-from a bisexual transman who is sick of your bullshit.
hey w valentine’s day coming up here’s a reminder to my fat sisters: it’s okay to eat chocolate and candy. you’re not disgusting or unattractive for eating foods society consciously associates with your body. even if you’re not in a relationship, it’s okay to buy some. treat yourself for once.
Fat women with small breasts, fat women who are covered in cellulite, fat women who carry it all in their back rolls and love handles, fat women with bulging pubic mounds, fat women with saggy breasts, fat women with body hair and facial hair, fat women who are covered in angry red stretch marks, fat women who use canes and walkers and wheelchairs, fat women with fat faces, fat women with no asses and narrow hips, fat trans women, fat women with fat waists and fat arms and fat knees and every other thing, they all deserve your body positivity. All of them deserve respect.
If your body positivity only includes bodies you personally find attractive and palatable you are not body positive at all.