Do I look friendlier with a kitten? The past few years there have been several major media campaigns by LGBTQ+ organizations around the country on transgender access to restrooms. I was in meetings for some of these projects. One of the most common requests among them was to only present the most feminine, gender-conforming trans women in their advertisements. Effectively, while appealing to the general public, the ads would erase gender nonconforming people entirely. Gender nonconforming people are not scary. I hope that through drawing more attention to the failure of these strategies, we can help build more support for our whole communities.