What are some ways that you can see the functions (either introverted or extroverted) in a conversation or through body language? Perhaps not accurate typing, but subtle hints will do, if there are any.
From personal experience (and in healthy types)…
Ne/Si: rambles all over the place, changes topics without warning, has trouble staying on track and not being hypothetical, generalizing, or vague (often accused of staring everywhere except into your eyes).
Si/Ne: wants to stay on topic, fond of “sharing personal experiences” (I’ve done that, we all got in the family van and…), focuses on the here and now, and who did what, expresses sentiment, sometimes complains about too much change all at once or longs for “the old days” (good eye contact, but “soft”).
Ni/Se: can become abstract easily (psychology, instinct, hunches, behind-the-scenes insights), often asserts opinions or premonitions as facts (they’re certain this will happen, or this person’s motive is that), is forever focused on pointing out the long-term consequences of decisions (often stares through you, or into your soul).
Se/Ni: has little patience for wholly abstract concepts for hours on end, tends to focus on the here and now, may encourage you to try new things, emphasis on personal appearance and, often, how other people look (since aesthetics matter to them); sometimes very self-contained and quiet (the introverts more than the extroverts), with occasional delving into the future (again, a steady stare, but much more aware of the environment).
Fe/Ti: tries to lure you into a sense of “us” by including you in the conversation, trying to elicit an emotional response, or find a consensus; if turned negative, may try to shame you into better behavior; often good at smoothing things over or knowing the right thing to say at the right time, but there’s always a sense of inclusion and a desire for you to merge with them or be involved (Fe’s often smile and look to you for your reaction, hoping you’ll mirror it).
Ti/Fe: will often point out the inconsistencies or flaws in your logic, and depending on the level of Fe involved, will do so obnoxiously without much regard for your feelings (low emotional intelligence) or in a way where you get the sense they cannot help it, but they’re hoping you’re not totally offended (high emotional intelligence). Often wants to clarify a point before moving forward (be more specific please; when you say, “Do you believe in God, which God are you talking about?” - true story, saw Terry Pratchett do it in a video once, where he then proceeded to go off on a side Ti tangent of clarifying the exact question before he ever started answering it). In unhealthy types, may push your buttons just to make you angry.
Fi/Te: often avoids any kind of overt emotionalism with people they don’t know, but displays a decent sense of self-awareness in terms of what their core beliefs are or what bothers them; depending on their health levels (is their Fi immature and selfish, or “others-aware” and considerate?), they may exert frankness on a frequent basis, and bristle when others attempt to “tell them who they are”; Fi’s in conversation are prone to sharp judgments, but also semi-disinterest in changing other people’s minds after a certain conversational point (less balanced Fi-doms may resort to, “Well, you’re an IDIOT,” and retreat into angry silence; higher unhealthy FiTe’s may want “control” - Te - over the situation and try to strong-arm or argue into their moral point of view). (Often “out of sync” with the people around them, body-wise, or four steps behind in mirroring people – and that’s only if they consciously decide to do it.)
Te/Fi: always, always, always brings the conversation around to facts, logic, evidence, or rationality, usually frowning on hyperbole or exaggeration in the process – may stop the conversation to (politely, if they are well-developed) correct misconceptions, rational errors, or misinformation (actually, the body weight of the average whale is _______, not “a ton”). Sometimes expresses frustration over others’ emotionally-driven decisions. Direct, straightforward, and oriented toward success; if asked, will give you a blunt answer. Often articulate, and able to condense opinions into short, coherent statements.
Please take with a grain of salt, and try not to choke on it.
- ENFP Mod