falling for someone who is in love with someone else

There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn't need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn't any less beautiful, I promise.
—  Emery Allen 
Long Way Down // Spencer Reid x Reader

Warnings: A little bit of everything really


The end had finally come and despite the amount of time you spent preparing for it, it still felt like a punch in your stomach. The knot in your throat was painful and your lungs still struggled for air to breathe. Tears clouded your eyes and turned your vision blurry until his face was unrecognizable.

“You’re a coward,” you cried. “A fucking coward!”

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Heartbreak Means...

Aries: Having to desperately do so much but being given so little time 

Taurus: Falling apart every time you go to bed, but needing to have the strength every morning to put yourself back together 

Gemini: Passing by a stranger who used to mean so much more 

Cancer: Losing your mind over someone who doesn’t even mind you at all

Leo: That sharp, abrupt feeling of suffocating emptiness that could hit you at anytime 

Virgo: Making a promise with someone you know is going to break it anyway 

Libra: Feeling the need to lie about yourself so you might gain other peoples’ approval

Scorpio: Not being able to share your secrets with someone else 

Sagittarius: Loving someone who you know is only holding you back 

Capricorn: Looking at the past and wondering how the hell you got to where you are now 

Aquarius: Drowning out the sound of your weeping with loud music at 3 in the morning

Pisces: Falling in love only to fall hard on the ground

Ask time!

It’s a nice rainy day and I feel like answering questions cx put a number in my ask !


1:Is there a boy/girl in your life?
2:Think of the last person who hurt you; do you forgive them?
3:What do you think of when you hear the word “meow?”
4:What’s something you really want right now?
5:Are you afraid of falling in love?
6:Do you like the beach?
7:Have you ever slept on a couch with someone else?
8:What’s the background on your cell?
9:If someone came to your house weekly to do one chore for you, what chore would you have them do?
10:Do you like your phone?
11:Honestly, are things going the way you planned?
12:Who was the last person whose phone number you added to your contacts?
13:Would you rather have a poodle or a Rottweiler?
14:Which hurts the most, physical or emotional pain?
15:Would you rather visit a zoo or an art museum?
16:Are you tired?
17:How long have you known your 1st phone contact?
18:Are they a relative?
19:Would you ever consider getting back together with any of your exes?
20:When did you last talk to the last person you shared a kiss with?
21:If you knew you had the right person, would you marry them today?
22:Would you kiss the last person you kissed again?
23:How many bracelets do you have on your wrists right now?
24:Is there a certain quote you live by?
25:What’s on your mind?
26:Do you have any tattoos?
27:What is your favorite color?
28:Next time you will kiss someone on the lips?
29:Who are you texting?
30:Think to the last person you kissed, have you ever kissed them on a couch?
31:Have you ever had the feeling something bad was going to happen and you were right?
32:Who is one person that you miss talking to, and why?
33:Do you think anyone has feelings for you?
34:Has anyone ever told you you have pretty eyes?
35:Say the last person you kissed was kissing someone right in front of you?
36:Were you single on Valentines Day?
37:Are you friends with the last person you kissed?
38:What do your friends call you?
39:Has anyone upset you in the last week?
40:Have you ever cried over a text?
41:Where’s your last bruise located?
42:If you could take a roadtrip somewhere, where would you go and why?
43:Last time you wanted to be away from somewhere really bad?
44:Who was the last person you were on the phone with?
45:Do you have a favourite pair of shoes?
46:Do you wear hats if your having a bad hair day?
47:Would you ever go bald if it was the style?
48:Do you make supper for your family?
49:Does your bedroom have a door?
50:Top 3 web-pages?
51:Do you know anyone who hates shopping?
52:Does anything on your body hurt?
53:Are goodbyes hard for you?
54:What was the last beverage you spilled on yourself?
55:How is your hair?
56:What do you usually do first in the morning?
57:Do you think two people can last forever?
58:Who has been your all-time favorite celebrity crush?
59:Green or purple grapes?
60:When’s the next time you will give someone a BIG hug?
61:Do you wish you were somewhere else right now?
62:When will be the next time you text someone?
63:What is your favorite meal?
64:What were you doing at 8 this morning.
65:This time last year, can you remember who you liked?
66:Is there one person in your life that can always make you smile?
67:Did you kiss or hug anyone today?
68:What was your last thought before you went to bed last night?
69:Have you ever tried your hardest and then gotten disappointed in the end?
70: List your favorite Youtubers
71:If you could travel anywhere in the world, where would you visit and why?
72:What is your ringtone?
73:How old are you?
74:Where is your Mum right now?
75:Why aren’t you with the person you were first in love with or almost in love?
76:Have you held hands with somebody in the past three days?
77:Are you friends with the people you were friends with two years ago?
78:Do you remember who you had a crush on in year 7?
79:If you could choose anywhere in the world to live, where would you live and why?
80:Have you ever fallen asleep in someones arms?
81:How many people have you liked in the past three months?
82:Has anyone seen you in your underwear in the last 3 days?
83:Will you talk to the person you like tonight?
84:You’re drunk and yelling at hot guys/girls out of your car window, you’re with?
85:If your BF/GF was into drugs would you care?
86:What was the most eventful thing that happened last time you went to see a movie?
87:Who was your last received call from?
88:If someone gave you $1,000 to burn a butterfly over a candle, would you?
89:What is something you wish you had more of?
90:Have you ever trusted someone too much?
91:Do you sleep with your window open?
92:Do you get along with girls?
93:Are you keeping a secret from someone who needs to know the truth?
94:Does sex mean love?
95:You’re locked in a room with the last person you kissed, is that a problem?
96:What is your favorite book, and why?
97:Did you sleep alone this week?
98:Everybody has somebody that makes them happy, do you?
99:Do you believe in love at first sight?
100:What do you do for a career, and what would you love to be doing if you could do anything for a career

There’s so much more to life than finding someone who will want you, or being sad over someone who doesn’t. There’s a lot of wonderful time to be spent discovering yourself without hoping someone will fall in love with you along the way, and it doesn’t need to be painful or empty. You need to fill yourself up with love. Not anyone else. Become a whole being on your own. Go on adventures, fall asleep in the woods with friends, wander around the city at night, sit in a coffee shop on your own, write on bathroom stalls, leave notes in library books, dress up for yourself, give to others, smile a lot. Do all things with love, but don’t romanticize life like you can’t survive without it. Live for yourself and be happy on your own. It isn’t any less beautiful, I promise.
—  via @wizdomly
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“And like a rook, I mate for life

I never imagined myself as strong as I’ve grown to be. I never imagined I could shoulder the responsibilities that have been thrust upon me. I never imagined I could be the type of person to fall in love, to give myself completely, to trust someone else without hesitation. I never thought I would be able to make selfless decisions. To put someone else’s needs before my own. I never knew I could be the type of person to abstain even when it hurts so badly. To survive. To keep surviving. This is who I am now, and I am okay with who that woman is.

Live for yourself not for someone else! Live your life on your own rules not with others. Do not fall in love, rise in love together with someone who helps you discover the idea and simplicity of love. Or else rise in love with your passion, your dream, with anything that gives you immense delight

find someone 
who knows 
you’re sad
just by the change 
of tone in your 
voice

be with someone
who loves the
feature that
you hate the most

fall inlove with
someone who
looks at you and
knows they don’t
want anyone else

R’J

Love Advice For The Venus Signs
  • Aries: It's okay to fall hard but remember that you're enough with or without someone else. Get some perspective on your current situation before making any big decisions
  • Taurus: Make sure the person you invest all your time and trust in will give you the relationship you deserve. You're much better off without people who are going to only be there when it's convenient for them
  • Gemini: Avoid routine and the mundane in your love life. You are too bright to be wasted on someone who feeds off the light of others and creates none of their own
  • Cancer: If you think someone is lying to you, trust your instincts. You have every right to walk away from someone who hurts you and never look back. Your sensitivity is a good thing, don't lose or bury it
  • Leo: Your partner is not the sun, so don't make them the center of your universe. Allow imperfection and give as much as you take
  • Virgo: Take as much time as you need and if someone pushes you, push back. Be confident in yourself and don't compare yourself to others because it's a disservice to all your good qualities
  • Libra: Don't let people think your love is a right and not a privilege. Nobody is entitled to you, and the moment someone starts acting like they are is the moment you should take your heart somewhere else
  • Scorpio: Your feelings are very real but are never going to be acknowledged if you never talk about them, so tell people how you feel while you can. Not everything is going to be perfect, but you will still be complete no matter what happens
  • Sagittarius: Find someone who challenges you and don't settle for less. Allow yourself to care as much as you want and don't brush off things that could make you happy
  • Capricorn: You act like you have so much to hide but it's okay to open up. When someone says they care about you, believe them and don't dismiss it. You won't always be in control and that's alright
  • Aquarius: It's not your fault they can't always understand you, so keep being proud of who you are. You will fall in love when you find someone who loves you for your mind and grows with you
  • Pisces: In your life, you will encounter some people who don't deserve to be forgiven. Unconditional love is a beautiful thing to give, just make sure you find someone who has it for you in return

“My generation is gruesomely lonely, but in response, we don’t need another handout, another kind gesture, or a better bible study. We don’t need more people that will merely know our name and address or care for us sporadically and at arms length.

We need big, re-imagined, Jesus kind of love, and people willing to sacrifice themselves in order to live it with us. We need people who will love us enough to get messy.

So be deeply involved. Be covered in someone’s tears. Be the person who gets the call at midnight. Be the person who hears the gory details when someone’s marriage or career falls apart. Be the person who tells someone the hard stuff that they need to hear but no one wants to say. Be the person who repeatedly gets someone else’s mud and blood all over you. Be the person who goes home a little uncomfortable at night, not because of your behavior and thoughts, but because you’ve been near enough to someone else’s. Be a family member to the lonely, messy people of this world, and to my generation.”

—  Josh Riebock
I’d never really fallen in love with a boy who loved me back at the same time. I’d never flirted with someone I barely knew, but I could already feel the energy between us. We clicked as if we belonged together and I always want to be close to you. You messed up my mind and I don’t know how we should go on.
It feels so right to be next to you, but I thought I belonged to someone else.
—  excerpt from a book I’ll never write #5
I’ve Given Up on You (Rick x Reader x Daryl)

Originally posted by chatnoirs-baton


Synopsis: By focusing on the man who ignored you, you ignored the man who wanted you.

Pairing: Rick Grimes x Reader x Daryl Dixon

Tags: Angst

Song: I’ve Given Up on You - Real Friends


You used to make me feel like I could walk on water

Now most nights I’m just sinking down and down

You didn’t know where you had lost him. You had been his confidant, someone who always had his back. Somewhere, between the fall of  the prison and your arrival at Alexandria, the lines that established your relationship became blurred and in the uncertainty, someone else had captured his heart.

You loved Rick, Rick didn’t love you. It was a cliche found in a million love stories. During your stay with the group, you had developed feelings for him. You never left his side, hoping to become a permanent fixture in his life. You had even shared a kiss with him, in the middle of the night.

You hadn’t been able to sleep, choosing to wander the prison instead. You had stumbled upon Rick, sitting outside, gazing at the starlit sky. It was a brief kiss, innocent and chaste. He had insisted it was a mistake, that he didn’t mean to. He apologized for leading you on while you shook your head, saying that it meant nothing to you. Rick had gone on to say he didn’t want to risk a relationship in the apocalypse. You solemnly agreed.

That night, you cried yourself to sleep, heartbroken.

I write songs about you all the time

I bet I don’t run through your mind

It had been a while since your brief stint with the man. Now you lived in the safety of Alexandria, preoccupying yourself with any activity possible to avoid Rick. Sometimes you passed him on the street, he barely paid attention to you outside of the curt “hellos” he gave. It hurt.

You became a stranger in his life, watching from the outside made the pain duller. Everyday you saw the traits that caused you to fall in love with him. Everyday you felt your heartbreak in another way. It wasn’t easy, watching from the sidelines when he had once been so prominent in your life.

I’ve given up on you, but it still hurts to know you’re not alone

Don’t worry, I’ll keep out of your life and stay awake at night

You knew he didn’t want you in his life, you knew he didn’t want your love. As much as it hurt, you knew you couldn’t take it personally. After all, the potential heartbreak of losing a loved one scared him just as much as it did you. The risk was too great.

So, when you caught wind of his relationship with Michonne, your heart shattered. His words from the prison echoed around in your head. It was maddening. You could see how he looked at her, the love and admiration in his eyes were obvious. It mirrored the way you looked at him and how someone else (who you did not notice) looked at you.

It’s 4am and you’re keeping me from closing these sleepy eyes

Does the thought of me keep you up at night?

That night, you realized, he didn’t care about you. Thoughts of him plagued your mind, latching onto every pleasant memory, planting seeds of self doubt. How could you have been so stupid, you thought. You sat on your front porch step, hands muffling your soft cries. You couldn’t sleep knowing that the man you loved, would never feel the same.

You felt silly, the dead rose from the Earth and your worried if the man you liked you or not. You wondered if he ever thought of you. Did he ever contemplate what could have been if he chose you? Did he ever want you? Even lust for you? These questions raged on in your mind.

I’ve given up on you, and my skin, and my bones

It wasn’t worth it, you thought. The pain and longing was a vicious cycle, every night was the same.

However, your bout of self pity was briefly interrupted as a voice spoke up, “What’s wrong with you?”

You looked up, eyes red and dull. There Daryl stood, signature glare in place. You shared a home with him, after all. Waving a hand at him, you shook your head, “Nothing, I’m just being stupid.”

The grass under Daryl’s feet crunched as he made his way towards the porch before he plopped himself down next to you. He slowly moved his arm around your shoulder pulling you towards him. You cried harder, hand moving up to clutch his vest in your hands.

Daryl knew how you felt about Rick. It was painfully obvious to everyone in the group and he was jealous. To him, you were perfect, you didn’t whine about the circumstances, you didn’t dwell on the time before the apocalypse, you just moved forward and did anything to help the group.

His other arm snaked around your body, pulling you tighter to his chest. He wasn’t going to give up on you.

I wish I could find the correct words to use so that I could string them together to formulate beautifully flowing sentences to explain how I feel right now. I know it’s not love, I am not the kind of individual to fall fast anymore.. Sometimes I wonder if I can fall at all. Relationships mean too much to me now. I hate that our generation is full of people who doubt love and themselves so much that we just “talk,” to people and have a good thing going until someone cheats on someone else and we break hearts or get broken and it’s a vicious cycle. It feels like everything is so temporary and I crave.. No I need permanency. I want effort to stay even when shit gets hard. I want trust and honesty and reliability. I don’t want small talk and three worded conversations. Tell me about your childhood, and your parents, and the ghosts that haunt you even now. But nobody seems to want that. They want meaningless conversations and meaningless sex for nothing other than something to do to kill the time. So maybe that’s why I’m a little weary now when someone new walks into my life. Maybe that’s why I laugh when people tell me I’m lucky for having people pursue me. Sometimes I wonder why people don’t consider that just because someone wants me doesn’t mean I want them. I wonder even more what it means that “they” were never supposed to be anything other than a new form of conversation and now I’m finding myself wondering how their day is going. I want to know what their biggest fear is and what they think of space and time and me. I suddenly care what they think of me and that’s a foreign feeling. I want to send long texts about how I feel and I find that my heart smiles when I see their name on my phone and their voice does something to me I can’t explain. The best things in life are unexpected, and if I had to use one word to describe you, it would be, unexpected.
Advice to All Zodiacs

Take yourself out on a date. Whether you are a boy or girl. Just treat yourself to a nice date doing something you love. Fall in love with yourself again. I took myself out to Barnes and noble today before buying dinner at a Thai restaurant. I got a few weird looks while at dinner, but who gives a fuck? I was happy as a clam sitting there eating drunken noodles. There is no shame in loving and treating yourself. Do whatever makes you feel happy. You like going to amusement parks? GO! You like shopping at the mall? GO! You like watching a movie? GO! Don’t rely on someone else to do things. Enjoy your absolute freedom until you get to meet someone who will ask you what your favorite thing to do is. You’ll be able to honestly answer “I’ve always done this by myself, but it’s nice to have a partner now”. Love yourself completely so that someone else has a blueprint on how to love you correctly.

Until//Choi Youngjae

Originally posted by parkmyjinyoung

Pairing: Youngjae x Reader

Genre: Fluff

Summary: Hi I love Youngjae this came out of nowhere I hope you all enjoy

xoxo Sara

You had never thought you would fall in love. You had always seen yourself as a hopeless romantic, but you had never thought you would find anyone in your life that would love you the same. Maybe it’s because you truly see yourself as unloveable, someone or something who’s feelings will never be returned.

That was, until you met him.

Somehow, he changed your mind. His bright eyes and his warm, inviting smile, his gentle voice and his beautiful laugh, all things you found impossible not to fall in love with, had made your heart ache for him. When that feeling came on usually, you would be able to ignore it, because you knew that it would never happen. But , it was different with him.

You had never felt someone else give you the type of love that you offer to people, the love where you give that person everything that you have without any thought against it. You had always thought it would alway sbe you giving that to person, but not the other way.

But again, that was only until you met him.

He had made you feel special and loved, something you had never felt in your life, or if you felt that way, it was taken away in an instant. He made you feel as if you were worth it, as if everything you went through was worth it, because it led you to him. It led you into his arms.

If you were ever upset, he would do all in his power to make you feel better. He would run to the ends of the earth to make you smile. It was a love you had never felt, that you had only given to others.

You hadn’t realized that you had let your guard down, until you were laying in his arms, tracing the beautiful featured on his face as you felt his smile lines beneath your fingertips deepen. You had never been so physically close to anyone in your life. Not even just physically, but the your emotions you felt were endearing, almost as your souls had intertwined, even if it were just for a moment.

You felt a spark, you felt something you had never felt before. Not until you met him.

“Youngjae?” you mumbled, watching as his eyes traced your face, just as you were doing to him, “You feel this, right?”

“I do,” he smiled, wrapping his arms tightly around your waist, pulling you as physically close to him as he could possible get you. He tucked your head beneath his chin as you rested your hands on his chest, the feeling of warmth and love circling you as you laid there, content in his arms.

“I’m not crazy,” you mumbled, smiling to yourself as you sighed.

“You’re crazy,” Youngjae giggled softly, earning a soft hit on the chest from you, “But I love you because of it.”

You had never felt so wanted or so loved. You had never felt your heart flutter the way it did when he said those words. You had never felt the sense of being needed in someone’s life, just as he was needed in yours. You had never felt so complete.

Not until you met him.

Unrequited love is not beautiful. There is nothing innately wonderful about words decaying in the back of your throat because they’ll never be set free. Nothing is pure about building romantic fantasies about someone who often belongs to someone else. What is so poetic about feeling the noose tighten around your heart when they don’t look your way? Anyone who has ever felt the raw, soul destroying agony of unrequited feelings will tell you that they wish they had never been afflicted.
—  I wish I wasn’t in love with a shadow

Sometimes The Girl Who Is Always There For Everyone Else, Needs Someone There For Her

When you’re the girl who is always there for others — you feel a lot. You have depths within you, an ocean for a heart, and you keep falling for people who are too scared to swim. You give and you give and you give; tearing pieces of your paper soul into the smallest of fragments just to set someone else aflame.

You hurt. My god, do you hurt. You ache, wondering if someone will ever give you the love you so freely give to others, wondering if there will come a time when someone asks how you are doing, how you are coping, how you are healing.

And when that doesn’t happen, you heal yourself. You find strength in things other than people. You find energy in your solitude, you find hope in your daydreams. You build yourself up, tell yourself that you don’t need anyone to save you, that you don’t need anyone to steady your foundation.

But you do.

See, sometimes the girl who is always there for everyone else, needs someone there for her. Sometimes, the girl who smiles the biggest holds the biggest hurt. Sometimes the girl who is always the person who wipes the tears of others, goes home and cries lakes into the midnight hour. Sometimes the girl who encourages everyone around her needs to be told that she is appreciated, that she matters; sometimes she needs to be encouraged herself.

So, if you’re the girl who is always there for others, know that your heart is rare. Know that you hold within you an ability to calm storms in people, a beautiful gift that has relieved sore eyes and hurt minds. Know that you give people hope, that you inspire them by acknowledging the pieces of them most ignore, that you make people feel wanted, that you make people feel like they have purpose.

However, also remind yourself that you are not invincible. Your heart needs rest. You need rest. Remind yourself that you do not need to carry the weight of the world on your shoulders, that you may not be able to save everyone, that you may not be able to heal every hurt. Remind yourself that you deserve to take all of the energy you put out into the world and invest it back into yourself from time to time. That you are worthy of the love you keep giving to everyone else. Remind yourself, that you don’t always have to be strong, that you don’t always have to be the fixer. Remind yourself that you can be human, that you can ask for help; that you don’t always have to be the one to save yourself.

But, guess what, she dumps you…Months later you are still angry and confused and for the first time very, very heartbroken. You freak out and drive to her house one morning and place a bag containing every letter she ever wrote you on her doorstep. Then you write songs…songs about a love that is so airless, it’s suffocating. Songs about wanting to steal your heart back from someone you feel never deserved it. And thus begins a cycle, of falling in love and then getting hurt, or hurting someone else by falling out of love with them. About trying to maintain closeness despite geographical disparities, then finding inspiration from all the ways you feel splintered and separate, hurt and broken…You are scared of being left even though you are the one who is technically always leaving.
—  Hunger Makes me a Modern Girl by Carrie Brownstein