Do this for every informative/news-related post you want to reblog. The fewer reblogs a false report gets, the less it spreads.
The best thing you can do for a false report is not reblog it at all, OR start your own post to debunk it, with a link to the original. If you reblog to debunk it, your reply will get lost in the huge amount of notes, and you will just end up spreading the misinformation further.
Sometimes a totally unlikely story turns out to be true! It’s even more fun to reblog it when you’ve confirmed that it’s real.
First, take a moment. If you have time to scroll Facebook or watch the news, you probably have a moment to decide if a news story seems credible. Ask some quick questions:
Is the story so outrageous you can’t believe it? Maybe you shouldn’t. Respect the voice inside you that says, “What?”
Is the story so outrageous you do believe it? That’s also a warning sign. Many stories play on your existing beliefs. If the story perfectly confirms your worst suspicions, look for more information.
Does the headline match the article? Many compelling headlines don’t.
Does the article match the news story it’s lifted from? Many sites rewrite other news articles to fit the political slant of their presumed audience. Look for links to original sources and click through and see what the original says.
Are quotes in context? Look for the sentences before and after the quote that makes your blood boil. If the article fails to give them, that’s a warning sign.
Is the story set in the future? It’s hard to get firsthand reporting from there. Any story that tells you what will happen should be marked down 50 percent for this reason alone.
Does the story attack a generic enemy? Vague denunciations of “Washington” or “the media” or “Trump supporters” or “the left” should be marked down 99 percent. Good reporting doesn’t make these kinds of generalizations and is specific about whom is making a claim about what.
Are you asked to rely on one killer factoid? Not a good idea. If a hacked document “proves” an implausible conspiracy, look for the context that shows what the document really means. As for photos and video, use Ronald Reagan’s old slogan: trust but verify. If there’s any doubt about a “stunning” video, see if more traditional sources link to it. They love video clicks as much as anyone. If they refrain, there may be good reason.
Who is the news source, anyway? Traditional news brands may occasionally get it wrong — sometimes hugely wrong — but at least you know where to find them and hold them accountable. Less prominent news sites might carry compelling stories — but expect them to show you who they are and where they gathered information.
Does the news source appear to employ editors? Many news organizations produce stories that are checked before publication. Others don’t. It’s a big deal. Hiring an editorial staff shows the publication’s respect for you, and matters more than “political bias.” The New York Times and the Wall Street Journal, for example, have different owners, audiences, stories, perspectives and obsessions. Both have made mistakes and omissions; but both send reporters out into the world and back them up with an editorial process that catches and corrects many errors. This means both can be informative, regardless of your politics or theirs.
Are you told, “Trust me”? Don’t. It’s the post-trust era! Expect everyone to show where their facts come from, link to underlying articles, and demonstrate that they’ve argued honestly. Here’s a way they may bolster their credibility:
Did the writer engage with anyone who disagrees? Did they call a senator whose legislation bugs them? Did they try to grasp what the president-elect was doing, or merely repeat one of his more outrageous statements? If it’s a broadcast interview, was the guest presented with genuine opposing views and challenged to answer? Those who wrestle with opposing arguments do you a service and often improve their own arguments.
These simple questions should take you a long way toward judging the value of a news story. While applying such questions to any given story, you can also take a few more general steps:
Broaden your palate. Make a point to check sites that do not agree with your politics. You may discover stories that are wrong — but you’ll know what other people are consuming, which will sharpen your own thinking.
Be open to the idea that some falsehoods are sincerely held. In spite of all the warnings here, some inaccurate news stories grow out of haste or misinformation rather than pure cynicism. (But they’re still false.)
If a news source consistently passes the tests in this guide, support it.Gathering reliable information isn’t free. Helping to pay for it aligns the news source’s interests with yours.
If this guide helps you to find some reliable information, that’s great — but remember one more thing: Never stop looking.
Imagine having to choose between Jared and your fiancé
I finish sending the last email, almost throwing my laptop across the room so I wouldn’t have to answer any more questions about Jared’s schedule. It’s almost 6 in the afternoon and I should have been at home at five. Jared still hasn’t appeared and his inbox fills way too fast for me to handle it.
When I hear the front door shut, I sigh in relief, one more minute and I would have gone crazy.
“What are you doing here? People are going to think I exploit you!” Jared laughs, entering the room with bags from Whole Foods, “You look really tired”
I am. But I just forget about everything the minute his eyes lay on mine. I start playing with the ring on my hand, remembering why I can’t allow myself to get consumed by his gaze and the way his body reacts to my intent of distraction.
“Well, you look even prettier when you are tired” He says, leaving his bags on his desk, I can feel all the air in my body stopping, not being able to continue its course, “How is that even possible?”
You can’t, I start saying to myself, stop it.
“Sometimes, when you find something that lightens your day, even the most tired people can… Glow”
Oh no, you did not just say that. So silly.
I can notice a small change on the way his jaw tightens, I know I’m saying this words because of him, but he doesn’t seem to get it. His head points to my hands, and a forced smile appears on his lips.
“You going out with… What’s his name?”
“Kevin” I answer, even though I’m sure he knows my fiancé’s name.
“Right” He sighs, still on his feet by his desk, “What time? Because it’s already 6 o'clock”
I check the clock on my wrist, I have an hour and a half to go home and get ready. Enough time to be able to stay for an extra couple of minutes in here.
“7:30” I say getting on my feet.
We share another look before changing our gaze completely. I save my laptop on my bag, check my phone, put my jacket on, but I’m still not ready to go. Everyday was the same. I would be happy at home, spending the night with Kevin, waking up in the morning to have breakfast together. But then, I would have to come here, hating myself half of the day, not believing the way my heart would race whenever my boss was near me. And by the time I had to go home, go back to my fiancé, to my reality, I just wouldn’t want to leave.
“I’ll see you monday morning“ I mutter, adjusting the bag on my shoulder.
Jared is now sitting on his desk, displaying all his food. His head raises to look me in the eyes, a small smile appearing on his lips. I know I’m smiling too, and it makes me feel like an idiot.
You’re engaged, you’re engaged…
“Have fun tonight“ He says, but I can see in his eyes that he doesn’t really mean it.
I nod, spending at least a whole more minute just staring at him. I have to stop, this is becoming really creepy.
By the time I decide I really need to leave, my phone starts buzzing. Kevin’s name appears on the screen, and I ignore the phone call till I’m inside my car. He sounds so happy, as always, and I try to imitate his tone as best as I can.
Once I get home I start getting ready for my date. A quick shower, dry my hair, pick my outfit and finally make up. My mind should be busy with the task at hand, but I can’t keep Jared’s smile off my head. I start wondering about him. Is he eating alone or did he invite someone else? A friend? A… lover?
The thought makes me uneasy, and I try to find an excuse to just give him a call, something that I forgot to tell him, or something that I may have left on my desk. Anything. By the time I dial his number I still don’t have an excuse, but I’m doing it anyway.
“It’s almost 7:30” He says from the other side of the line.
“I know” I mutter, giving another look at my ring, “I’m ready”
“Loverboy hasn’t appeared yet?”
I stay quiet for a couple of seconds, processing his almost angry tone of voice and the fact that he just called Kevin “Loverboy”.
“He’s on his way” I mutter.
The silence that comes after my answer is awkward, and I just want to punch myself in the face for calling Jared before my date.
“So, why did you call?”
“I think I forgot my… my…” I stutter, trying to think of something, when the thought of actually forgetting something at his house takes over my mind, “My glasses, I think they are in the kitchen”
“Oh, let me see”
I hear how he stands from whenever he’s sitting; his steps, the sound of a door, more steps. My doorbell rings right at the moment I hear the sound of the phone being put back on his ear.
“They are here”
“Good, can I go pick them up?” I ask, starting to walk towards the door.
“Now?” He asks laughing, and the sound of the ring makes him shut, “I think loverboy arrived”
“I have to go, thanks, Jared”
I hang, avoiding hear him say goodbye. I sigh deeply before having the guts to open the door, and change my expression of disappointment to complete happiness.
I’m engaged, I repeat myself.
Kevin doesn’t notice how distracted I am during our way to the restaurant, or how I avoid looking him in the eyes. I feel guilty for having another man in my mind, for wishing it was Jared who was in the car with me. But the night goes on, and I hear him talk about work, and how Jay, his best friend, almost broke a leg trying to get a date with one of their co-workers.
In the middle of dinner, the topic of our marriage starts coming out. Kevin has found a venue and wants me to see it, he thinks that it would be a bit small for all the people we want to invite, but he thinks we can handle it.
I nod, feeling a strange pinch on my chest. Kevin starts to notice how distant I’m being, and I excuse myself to go to the bathroom. The bathroom is not empty, and the eyes of a girl go straight to my face. I don’t know her, but a smile appear on her lips.
“You escaped too?”
I nod, taking my phone out of purse, I have a text from Jared and I’m too on edge to read it right this second.
“I think my boyfriend is going to propose” The girl says, and the black mane falls covering her eyes when she lowers her head, “I’m not ready”
“Why not?” I ask her, leaning on one of the sinks.
“I’m not sure I love him enough to spend the rest of my life by his side” The girl confesses, and the familiarity of the situation makes me gasp, “I love him, I know I do. But what if I say yes and I end up finding the right one when it’s already too late?”
Why know? Right when my mind is already too busy with my own situation.
“If you say yes, and you find the one, what would you do?” I ask her, and I can feel the trembling on my voice.
“I don’t know, what else could I do but make the right decision for my heart?”
I nod, changing my gaze from the girl to my phone, deciding to read Jared’s message.
“Tell loverboy that if he doesn’t buy you champagne and strawberries, tells you how much he loves you, and ends the night with the best sex someone could ever offer, I’m taking you away from him”
“You’re crying” I hear the girl whisper.
I nod, “I think I have to make the right decision for my heart”
“Me too” She says, walking towards me to hold my hand, “Wish me luck”
“Break a leg” I mutter, squeezing her hand for a second.
The nameless girl leaves the bathroom, leaving me alone with my tears. I let them free for a few seconds, finally deciding it’s time to make the right decision.
I don’t even dry the tears, or reapply my make, before I get out of the bathroom. Kevin is finishing his glass of wine when his eyes lay on the state of my face.
“Oh my, did something happened in the bathroom? Are you alright?”
I shake my head, taking my seat in front of him.
I’m engaged, I tell myself, but I just don’t want to be.
“Please, tell me what’s going on, you’re scaring me”
I stay in silent, but my eyes fall to my hands. I play one last time with my ring, taking it off to place it in front of him. Kevin’s eyes dance from my face to the ring, and a nervous laugh escapes his lips.
“What are you doing?”
“I can’t do it” I whisper, “I’m so sorry, Kevin, I can’t”
I stand from my seat, leaving a quick kiss on his forehead before walking outside the restaurant. I’m shaking, my whole body is trembling and I just want to run away from there. I catch the cab I get a glimpse of, almost shouting the address to the driver.
I read Jared’s message another time, thinking of a way to answer it, but there are no words for this. So I just wait.
The driver announces that we have reached destination a few minutes after my almost breakdown. I thank him, giving him a generous tip for having to deal with me in this situation. I stand in front of the door, thinking of ways to explain what I’m doing there when I was supposed to be having dinner with my fiancé. Well, ex fiancé.
I decide that if I don’t right that doorbell right this second, I may end up taking another cab home. I can hear the footsteps on the other side of the door, and Jared’s image appears in front me. He’s shirtless, only wearing pajama pants, and I can feel my soul falling to the ground.
“Hey” I mumble, folding my arms over my belly.
“You came for your glasses?” He asks, and I can see the glimpse of a smile.
“Maybe” I answer.
Jared moves from the door to let me in. When the door shuts behind me, it’s just a matter of seconds before my back is leaning against it. Jared’s body is pressed against mine, his nose caressing my temples.
“Your hand is lacking something” He mutters, and automatically, both of my hands reach for his neck, “I like it”
I use both of my hands to make his lips crash with my own. The kiss is desperate, his thigh getting position between my legs. I can’t even control my body, letting it do whatever it wants, following his movements.
“So…” He whispers out of breath, breaking our kiss to grab my hips, making me fold my legs on his hips, “Loverboy didn’t have champagne?”
“No, he didn’t” I laugh, reaching for his lips again.
“Then, I’m allowed to take you away from him?” He asks, cupping my face with one hand.
“I think you did that a long time ago” I mutter, before receiving another one of his deep kisses.
The kiss rapidly transforms into something else, and right there on the door, his pajama pants falls to the floor, and my dress and panties follow them. We can’t stop kissing, we have a magnet on our mouths that makes them play with each other, even when it gets harder. A moan makes me part from him when he starts filling me. I can feel the growing sensation of completeness in my chest, his body feeling as the missing piece of the puzzle that is my life.
My hands take hold of his arms, finding a way to make me follow his rhythm. His eyes hold my gaze, biting my lips, his hands clenching on my hips. This is everything I wanted, everything I needed, and he knows it.
I can hear myself screaming his name, but at the same time thinking that this is nothing but a dream. But this is real. I know it. I can feel his orgasm and mine crushing in one single moment.
From the moment our lips touched I knew I had make the right decision. But now, looking at his eyes shine, his lips forming a smile just for me, I am completely sure I made the right decision for my heart.
I saw a post that said “If Maria Reynolds had approached Aaron Burr it would have ended in divorce papers not an affair.”
(Which is like not true, I mean there’s Theodosia and Aaron Burr was a known womanizer but okay)
But then again Aaron Burr was faced with a similar situation. He was approached by not a married woman, but a widow who had just lost her husband and one of her sons to Yellow Fever. She sought out Burr for legal help, her husband’s death had not only left her with no estate but also without custody of her only surviving son. She was also a very beautiful widow. She was pretty well known and even just after her husband died men were already lining for a chance with her.
But Burr did pretty much the opposite of pursuing her. She help her get her husbands estate back and custody of her son (she was so grateful she wrote Aaron Burr down as the guardian of her son if something ever happened to her) not only did he do that for her, he also introduced her to a man he was friends with who had noticed the widow, but was too shy to approach her. she would later marry the man Aaron Burr introduced her to.
Who was that man?
Yep, Dolley Madison was hella tight with Aaron Burr.
how do i deal with crippling jealousy? the type triggered by your fp having a fun time without you.
Jealousy can be a very difficult emotion to deal with even for most people, with or without BPD (though the intensity or duration of that intensity is much more extreme for people who have BPD). In DBT, we’re taught to deal with unwanted emotions in a variety of ways, but the “best way” in the eyes of many therapists (and many patients who have mastered the skill I’m about to talk about) is through an Emotion Regulation Skill called Opposite Action.
1. What is Opposite Action?
Opposite Action, at its core, is pretty much just what it sounds like. You use the Opposite Action Skill when your emotions do not fit the facts (see Check the Facts post, and well as Method 1 and Method 2 to help determine if your emotion–or its intensity or duration–fits the facts). You also use Opposite Action when your emotion does fit the facts but it would be ineffective to act on it.
By acting opposite of what your emotions are urging you to do, you are able to change your emotional reactions and possibly your emotional state in the process.
You usually use Opposite Action after first using Check the Facts, a skill that helps you determine whether your problem emotion is justified or not. If your jealousy isn’t warranted or is ineffective (which is what it sounds like in your ask) then you would use the Opposite Action Skill. If your jealous is warranted, then you would use the Problem Solving Skill (link coming soon).
Opposite Action is a fairly straightforward skill but most DBT therapists consider it to be the most difficult skill to master because it requires you to do the exact opposite of what your feelings or thoughts are telling you to do, which often feels unnatural, not genuine/dishonest, or uncomfortable. It’s not always easy, so sometimes it’s best to start small.
2. When does Jealousy “Fit the Facts”?
So, just to let everyone know, the Manual says that Jealousy “fits the facts” of a situation when:
Someone is threatening to take away a very important and desired relationship or object away from you.
An important and desired relationship is in danger of being damaged or lost
(Honestly there are a lot more legitimate feelings for jealousy, but these are the ones DBT focuses on.)
If feelings of jealousy are not justified by the facts or are not effective, you would then use Opposite Action.
3. Opposite Actions for Jealousy
Opposite Actions for Jealousy can include (but are not limited to) the following:
Do the opposite of your jealous action urges (usually specific to the situation causing your jealousy)
Let go of feeling the need to control others’ actions (such as wanting to control who your FP has fun with)
Share the things and people you have in your life.
Distract yourself from your jealousy by doing something you enjoy (even with other people) and allow yourself to have fun without your FP as well, hopefully teaching yourself that you both can have fun without needing to be together for that fun to be positive. Remember, don’t do this to make your FP jealous in response. This involves letting go of pettiness or vengeful feelings.
4. Opposite Action “All the Way”
There’s another “level” of sorts when it comes to Opposite Action (you can look at it like “leveling up”). The following kinds of Opposite Action are called “All The Way Opposite Action”:
Suppress your need to ask your FP (or whoever is the subject of your jealousy) where they were, who they were with, if they like those people better than they like you, etc. That kind of behaviour can get controlling very quickly, so completely resist the urge to do so. (Remember, this applies ONLY IF YOUR JEALOUSY DOES NOT FIT THE FACTS! If you have a valid reason to be jealous, it makes sense to ask these sorts of questions because you’re accurately assessing a threat.)
No avoiding. If you’re with the people who make you feel jealous, rather than withdrawing, you should engage while keeping your eyes open and be MindfullyObserving while Participating in the moment. Observing will help you hopefully see the interaction Non-Judgmentally rather than viewing things with jealousy-tinted lenses.
Change your posture. Jealousy can make us feel very tense and sometimes nervous and sometimes aggressive so to the following things to change your posture: a) Unclench your hands and adopt a Willing Hands posture, b) Relax chest and stomach muscles through Progressive Muscle Relaxation, c) Unclench teeth, d) Relax facial muscles and adopt a Half-Smile
Change your body chemistry by using TIP, especially the Tempterature part to bring down emotional intensity and the Paced Breathing part, to control your breathing and feel calmer and less threatened.
5. Jealousy Vs. Envy
Now, Jealousy and Envy are often confused, so while it sounds to me like you’re experiencing jealousy, it might be beneficial for other followers to give a short breakdown of what Envy is:
Envy fits the facts when another person or group has what you want or need but don’t have.
The Opposite Actions for Envy is based around on “counting your blessings” and doing things to stop you from feeling resentful or bitter towards people who have what you want or need, as well as Checking the Facts to see if they really have so much more than you. (They might. There are lots of cases where certain people might have much more than you and that’s part of living in an inherently unequal society.)
6. What to do When Opposite Action Takes Too Many Spoons or Doesn’t Work for You
Back, to Jealousy, if Opposite Action is takes up too many spoons, or you’re just not in the right psychological place to try working against your jealousy, or the examples of Opposite Action for jealousy don’t really help you (which is totally possible, I feel that way about most of the Opposite Action pages of the DBT Manual), then I have one more skill I can suggest:
Radical Acceptance/Reality Acknowledgement
Reality Acknowledgement, as I like to call it, is a Distress Tolerance Skill that you use when you cannot change your feeling/situation/consequences/etc yet fighting against that reality is ineffective and may just cause you more suffering.
This is especially useful when you’re dealing with overwhelming jealousy and the situation you’re jealous about is not one that you can change. Ultimately, if Opposite Action doesn’t work, you’ll have to learn how to live with your jealousy–which is not an easy thing. Learning to live with an emotion that you don’t like but you have no ability to make it go away is very tough, but Radical Acceptance/Reality Acknowledgement can help you come to terms with these emotions that might be inspiring feelings of self-depreciation or self-hatred inside you for feeling them at all.
Here are some links of posts I’ve previously written about Reality Acknowledgement:
It also helps to be Mindful when practicing Reality Acknowledgement. Use your Wise Mind: is it Effective to feel jealous over this? Is this jealousy helping you in any way? You can use Mindfulness Skills to help you to Observe and Describe the situation in a Non-Judgmentalway, thereby hopefully removing a lot of the assumptions and/or judgements you might be making about the situation or people who are making you jealous. Try to focus on the present moment that you’re in, rather than get sucked into “What if” thinking that focuses on the future or on events that you don’t have any first-hand knowledge of.
(Such as “What if my FP is having so much fun without me because my FP is venting about how terrible I am and they’re having fun laughing at me.” That’s an example of catastrophic thinking–not saying this is something you personally are thinking–and the reason it’s catastrophic thinking is because you have no proof that anything like that is happening at all, but it’s a thought that would absolutely make you feel worse if you were thinking it.)
While being Mindful and accessing your Wise Mind, you can experience the emotion of jealousy like a wave, a wave that comes over you, peaks, and then recedes. (This is called “Mindfulness of Current Emotions” and is a component of Emotion Regulation.) Experience the jealousy you feel as an undeniable part of the present moment, but not a permanent one, and not an emotion you need to push away. Just allow yourself to experience it and let the emotion run its course without clinging to it or pushing it away–because not allowing your emotions to run their natural course often makes them worse.
7. When all Else Fails:
a) Communicate. Communicate with your FP that you feel jealous and why. All healthy relationships are founded on solid and honest communication. Just be honest, not with any intention of coercing them to change their behaviour or stop doing what’s making you jealous, but be honest with the hope of having a conversation where both of you can clarify how you feel and result in reassurance or even a compromise. It’s always important to be open with special people in our lives about our emotional states–this helps mitigate splitting and withdrawal/isolation and fear of abandonment.
b) The other thing you can do after opening up about feeling jealous and after working to accept that your FP’s actions are their own choices that you can’t control, you can look into Distress Tolerance Skills. Jealousy can be an awful emotion to feel. It can also use up a lot of spoons, which you may not have had a lot of in the first place. To replenish spoons as well as mitigate the effects the worst of your jealousy, Distress Tolerance Skills are the best skills for this. Some DBT Distress Tolerance Skills that might be relevant are:
STOP:Stop, Take a step back, Observe, Proceed Mindfully
TIP:Temperature, Intense Exercise, Paced Breathing/Paired Muscle Relaxation/Progressive Muscle Relaxation (used to change your level of distress quickly)
Distract using Wise Mind ACCEPTS: Distract yourself with Activities, Contributing, Comparisons, Emotions, Pushing away, Thoughts, Sensations
Further Reading: You might be interested in looking at our resources that address the “fear of abandonment” symptom that might be an underlying factor of your jealousy, which there are many links in the FAQ on that subject. You can also read all our previous posts pertaining to jealousy here.You might find that reassurance from your FP might help ease your jealousy (or perhaps your potentially underlying fear of abandonment) so here is a post about how to ask for reassurance.
TL;DR: Jealousy, like all emotions, may or may not fit the facts of a situation. If jealousy doesn’t fit the facts of a situation or it would be ineffective to act on the urges associated with the feelings of jealousy. When jealousy does not fit the facts or is ineffective, use the DBT Skill Opposite Action. Opposite Action is a skill you use for a situation like this, where you act in the opposite way than your emotion wants you to. Doing this can change your body chemistry and thus your emotional state.
If Opposite Action doesn’t work, try Reality Acknowledgement, be Mindful, and use Distress Tolerance Skills to diminish the intensity of your jealousy. And, fundamental to any relationship, have an open conversation about your feelings without any intent to control the outcome.
there is a cabinet in chowder and lardo’s shared bathroom full of their favorite snacks from their childhood.
they’ll share pocky and chips when lardo works on her art or when chowder’s busy writing a paper. they’ll wipe off the chocolate from the yan yan and get their fingers all sticky. but it’s worth it because the chocolate is damn delicious
wrappers are everywhere. hello panda and koala bites foil wrappers litter the floors and overflow trash bins. empty bags of shrimp chips are left crumpled at the edges of desks and shelves. they never get around to cleaning it up. they never do
lardo complains about the bin bin rice crackers leaving crumbs everywhere and chowder ends up throwing a half-eaten chocopie at her, leaving even more crumbs everywhere. (lardo wonders if she can use these crumbs in an art piece about cultural identity)
lardo prefers either mogu mogu or the unsweetened jasmine green tea that they sell in japanese stores. chowder loves milky drinks, like milo or calpico
chowder and lardo find a way to make lychee jelly shots and the classic yakult-soju-sprite cocktail. it is the highlight of the party and ransom and holster are begging them to make it again for the next kegster
when life gets a little too rough around the edges, when school gets too stressful or things get too overwhelming, they drive out to boston for comfort food that reminds them of home, pho for lardo, wonton noodle soup for chowder, or even soondubu at their favorite korean restaurant.
they’ll get boba at a cute place, lardo with taro milk tea and chowder with lavender milk tea and sit at the couches while they share popcorn chicken at the highest spice level. sometimes they’ll say nothing or they’ll talk the whole night away until the store is closing and bitty’s texting them asking where they are
the haus has never felt more like a home away from home until now
It may be a remarkable and revolutionary idea to you. But I do not in fact quadruple check every post I put on my blog for every bit of information necessary to entirely understand who I am, what I say or anything. I rarely even spell check it.
I made a personal post on my blog about a word I do not like.
I do not need to list my credentials to you as reasons for why I do or do not like this word.
I am not the one throwing a hissy fit and replying multiple times to multiple posts. In fact, I can not even reply to you.
It’s a word. It’s a combinations of letters that come out in a sound that I do not like because of the sound of it. Because of the way people have used it at me. Because sometimes that happens.
You can say what you like about me. You can go to all your friends and go “OMFG this bitch” but it’s not going to suddenly make me like the sound of this word or the connotations I have with it.
So kindly take your attitude and stuff it back up your ass and go cuddle a kitten, eat a cookie, take a nap, and when you wake up find a better cause than harassing people you’ve never met because they don’t like a word. A word, by the way, you have multiple other words for. Goy is not exactly your only word for “Non-Jew” in the god damn world. I’m not telling you to stop using it. I’m not even asking mutual’s to stop using it. I don’t even ask my friends to stop using it. Use it to your hearts content. Tattoo it to your forehead if it makes you happy. I don’t actually give a flying fuck.
Go find something better to do with your god damn time.