external control

8 Tools for Managing Your Anger

1. Learn to recognize when you are feeling stressed – This will help you to reduce your stress before it is expressed as destructive anger.

2. Work on developing your empathy – Trying to see things from another’s perspective often helps to dissipate intense emotions.

3. Decide to respond instead of react – Although the way we react often feels automatic, we can actually choose how we’ll think, feel and respond. This is empowering, and the road to freedom.

4. Change your self talk - Listen to the conversation in your head and learn to modify extreme, unbalanced thoughts. Look for exceptions to “you always” thinking, and reframe “you must” or “you should” demands.

5. Learn to be assertive – Honest and open communication about your wishes, needs and preferences can stop resentment building – so it doesn’t turn to anger.

6. Adjust your expectations – Often anger is triggered by a difference between our expectations and what we actually get. Thus, sometimes it is better to adjust our expectations so they’re more in line with reality.

7. Forgiving doesn’t also mean forgetting – Although it is healthy to sometimes let things go, that doesn’t mean we weren’t hurt, upset or offended. The difference is we’re choosing to move on with our lives, and we’re not being controlled by external events.

8. Remove yourself from the situation – Retreating temporarily or “taking time-out” provides some space to think about the “best thing to do”. Thus you maintain control of yourself and circumstances.

HOW TO STAY MOTIVATED AS AN ENTREPRENEUR

I believe motivation is highly subjective and that each person has a unique motivational catalyst. So this post isn’t actually written to motivate you (LOL). What this post will do, however, is give you 3 distinct suggestions on how you can generally stay motivated by yourself. These are based on observations made in my brief time working with entrepreneurs. Of course, like with anything, this is not a closed list.


1. Have Passion For What You Do:

You’ve heard this plenty of times, I know, it’s annoying to me too. But we wouldn’t hear it so often if it wasn’t so important.

Steve Jobs, when addressing a crowd at his alma mater, famously said “You’ve got to find what you love. And that is as true for your work as it is for your lovers.

Do what you love, and not in an airy fairy, kumbaya kind of way. If you derive actual pleasure from what you do, you are likely to be more motivated than the average person. It follows that people who do what they love will approach their work with a guaranteed level of enthusiasm. I don’t think this needs a great deal of explanation.


2. Find A Suitable Co-Founder:

Some of the best companies in the world were started by co-founders (e.g. Apple, Microsoft, Procter & Gamble, etc.). Often, a start-up is launched and maintained through a combination of expertise, which, for complex projects, is hardly ever held by a single person. Sometimes it takes 2 or 3 people to start a project. So the importance of compatible co-founders cannot be stressed enough.

Like with every endeavour, there will be challenges that dampen the passion. The honeymoon period WILL end, and co-founders need to understand their effect on each other because this can serve as the necessary spark to push each other forward. During a slump in motivation, if you don’t feel more motivated after speaking with your co-founder, he or she may not be the right person for you to work with.

Some questions you should ask about your co-founder - When you are not feeling your best will they be able to take control? Do they create a mood which is conducive to productivity? How do you feel after talking to them about a hurdle you are facing? Do they actually have the capacity to perform the tasks that are needed to drive the project forward?

To achieve the best results, be brutally honest with yourself when answering these questions. Based on your answers, you may need to make some changes.

I left the first business I started at University because I could no longer work with my co-founder. The person whom I had originally chosen as my co-founder because of his technical knowledge of the (media) industry became the reason for my loss of enthusiasm. I am not sure what the root cause was, but my co-founder started developing a habit of killing the business relationships I had worked hard to build (and other bad habits, which are best left unmentioned). In turn, our reputation as a serious business began to take a knock. But this wasn’t yet the issue. The real issue was his inability to realise his problem, and then act in accordance with such realisation. 

Needless to say, I was brutally honest with myself - I just did not believe that he had the capacity to perform necessary tasks anymore, so I cut all professional ties with him.


3. Figure Out Your Motivational Currency

I define motivational currency as: a positive response which fuels the desire to be productive.

For example, I run a consulting business. Now, as much as I love what I do, there are mornings which feel completely hopeless (because - life) and my reason for continuing has escaped me. However, my mood suddenly changes when I get up from my bed, check my mail, and find an email from an entrepreneur requesting my services. After viewing this email, I feel a new energy, a sense of purpose, which prompts me to keep going. I am motivated, and the email is my motivational currency. 

If you are an outdoor event organiser whose event receives good reviews on social media and in the local papers, such reviews are your motivational currency because they prompt you to repeat the amount of effort put into your work, in pursuit of the same or an even better response from your market. 

This type of “currency” is different for different businesses, and is usually controlled by external factors. We cannot determine when motivational currency will be forthcoming, but the more work we put in, the more motivational currency we are likely to receive. (i.e. the more good work I do for my existing clients, the more likely I am to wake up to an email requesting my services.)


Conclusion:

Staying motivated is, in my opinion, the most important thing for any entrepreneur. You can do anything you set your mind to with the right amount of motivation. Conversely, you can do very little without it. This is why it is crucial for entrepreneurs to find what motivates them, and have ready access to it whenever it’s needed.

So print this. Put it on your wall, and highlight the points which speak to you the most. Every time you feel demotivated, give it a quick read, and remind yourself of the ways in which you can regain your motivation.

As always, thanks for reading. I promise to make it a shorter read next time.

I will no longer be a victim to my circumstances. I will no longer be controlled by external events. I will take back control. I will remember that I am in control of the thoughts I choose to think about any situation. I will choose happy thoughts, healing thoughts, loving thoughts. I will stop living the life I wanted to escape. And I will begin to wake up wanting to live again.

Hate it or Love it: 50 quotes from MLK that white people can use besides ‘hate cannot drive out hate’

Every year around Martin Luther King Jr. Day everyone likes to drop an inspirational quote from Dr. King. Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King, Jr. was a multifaceted philosopher and an amazing orator with a plethora of accessible speeches, sermons and books; yet, somewhere along the way it seems as if a rule was created, restricting white people to one quote in particular:

Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.”

I don’t know the reason behind the restriction; perhaps because this is one of the better quotes to try to push the “I don’t see color; we’re one race – the human race” agenda. Or perhaps the darkness and the light can be used to represent black and white and thus play into the white savior movement. Whatever the reason may be! BlackHistoryDay.tumblr.com is here today to give you 50 quotes from Dr. King that I encourage you to keep in mind for your future references:

1. “No movement of essentially revolutionary quality can be neat and tidy.”

2. “The only answer that one can give to those who would question the readiness of the Negro for integration is that the standards of the Negro lag behind at times not because of an inherent inferiority, but because of the fact that segregation and discrimination do exist.” 

3. “There is no more torturous logic than to use the tragic effects of segregation as an argument for its continuation.”

4. “It is one of the ironies of history that in a nation founded on the principle that all men are created equal, we’re still arguing over whether the color of a man’s skin determines the content of his character.”

5. “There comes a time, my friends, when people get tired of being plunged across the abyss of humiliation, where they experience the bleakness of nagging despair. There comes a time when people get tired of being pushed out of the glittering sunlight of life’s July and left standing amid the piercing chill of an alpine November.”

6. “There are some things that we’ve got to learn to sacrifice for. And we’ve got to come to the point that we are determined not to accept a lot of things that we have been accepting in the past.” 

7. “We can never be satisfied as long as the Negro is the victim of the unspeakable horrors of police brutality…”

8. “We must see now that the evils of racism, economic exploitation and militarism are all tied together… you can’t really get rid of one without getting rid of the others… the whole structure of American life must be changed. America is a hypocritical nation and [we] must put [our] own house in order.”

9. “What good is having the right to sit at a lunch counter if you can’t afford to buy a hamburger?” 

10. “Increasingly, by choice or by accident, this is the role our nation has taken, the role of those who make peaceful revolution impossible by refusing to give up the privileges and the pleasures that come from the immense profits of overseas investments.”

11. “If we will but make the right choice, we will be able to speed up the day, all over America and all over the world, when justice will roll down like waters, and righteousness like a mighty stream.”

12. “That the poor white has been put into this position, where through blindness and prejudice, he is forced to support his oppressors. And the only thing he has going for him is the false feeling that he’s superior because his skin is white—and can’t hardly eat and make his ends meet week in and week out.” 

13. “Through our scientific and technological developments we have lifted our heads to the skies, and yet our feet are still firmly planted in the muck of barbarism and racial hatred. Indeed this is America’s chief moral dilemma.”

14. “To keep a group of people confined to nasty slums and dirty hovels is not a State Right, but a State Wrong.”

15. “It may be true that morals cannot be legislated, but behavior can be regulated.”

16. “It may be true that laws and federal action cannot change bad internal attitudes, but they can control the external effects of those internal attitudes.”

17. “The law may not be able to make a man love me, but it can keep him from lynching me.”

18. “Even this nation came into being with a massive act of law breaking; for what implied more civil disobedience than the Boston tea party…there’s nothing new about law breaking.”

19. “God has brought us here for this hour to tell us to save America because our white brothers is carrying it more and more to destruction and damnation.”

20. “We’re called to do it so that means we can’t stop. This should make us more determined than ever before.”

21. “Now they always tell us to cool off and I know that when you get people cooling off too much they will end up in a deep freeze. They tell us to slow up and some of them even say that the Negros in Albany out to go home and be quiet because there’s a political campaign going on and you may help elect some particular candidate that shouldn’t be in office. Well I don’t know if you have an answer for them and I don‘t know if I have an absolute answer but I want to say to those who are telling us to stop merely because a political campaign is going on that this is a moral issue for us. We’re moving on towards freedom’s land. We cannot stop our legitimate aspirations for freedom merely because some immoral person will use this for his own political aggrandizements…”

22. “We worked in this very nation 2 centuries without wages. We made cotton king; we built our homes and the homes of our masters in the midst of injustice and exploitation. Yet out of a bottomless vitality we continue to grow and to live and if the inexpressible cruelties of slavery didn’t stop us, the opposition that we now face cannot stop us.”

23. “The absence of brutality and unregenerate evil is not the presence of justice.”

24. “As the nation passes from opposing extremist behavior to the deeper and more pervasive elements of equality, white america reaffirms its bonds to the status quo.”

25. “Whites, it must frankly be said, are not putting in a similar mass effort to reeducate themselves out of their racial ignorance.”

26. “It is an aspect of their sense of superiority that the white people of America believe they have so little to learn.”

27. “To find the origins of the Negro problem we must turn to the white man’s problem.”

28. “It seems to be a fact of life that human beings cannot continue to do wrong without eventually reaching out for some rationalization to clothe their acts in the garments of righteousness.”

29. “The greatest blasphemy of the whole ugly process was that the white man ended up making God his partner in the exploitation of the Negro.”

30. “Just as the ambivalence of white Americans grows out of their oppressor status, the predicament of Negro Americans grows out of their oppressed status.”

31. “Negroes have grown accustomed now to hearing unfeeling and insensitive whites say: ‘other immigrant groups such as the Irish, the Jews and the Italians started out with similar handicaps, and yet they made it. Why haven’t the Negroes done the same?’ These questioners refuse to see that the situation of other immigrant groups a hundred years ago and the situation of the Negro today cannot be usefully compared.”

32. “The Negro was crushed, battered and brutalized, but he never gave up. He proves again that life is stronger than death.”

33. “A riot is at bottom the language of the unheard. It is the desperate, suicidal cry of one who is so fed up with the powerlessness of his cave existence that he asserts that he would rather be dead than ignored.”

34. “What is needed today on the part of white America is a committed altruism which recognizes this truth.”

35. “True altruism is more than the capacity to pity; it is the capacity to empathize. Pity is feeling sorry for someone; empathy is feeling sorry with someone. Empathy is fellow feeling for the person in need— his pain, agony and burdens.” 

36. “I can never be who I ought to be until you are what you ought to be. This is the way our world is made.”

37. “True education helps us on the one hand to know truth, but more than that it helps us to love truth and sacrifice for it. It gives us not only knowledge, which is power, but wisdom, which is control.”

38. “If you can’t fly, run; if you can’t run, walk; if you can’t walk, crawl; but by all means keep moving.”

39. “We will move out of these mountains that have so often impeded our progress, the mountain of moral and ethical relativism, the mountain of practical materialism, the mountain of corroding hatred, bitterness and violence, and the mountain of racial segregation.”

40. “…Always have faith in the possibility of getting over to the Promised Land. Don’t become a pessimist and feel that we cannot get there; it is difficult sometimes, it is hard sometimes, but always have faith that the Promised Land can be achieved and that we can possess this land of brotherhood and peace and understanding.”

41. “An individual who is not concerned about his selfhood and his freedom is at that moment committing moral and spiritual suicide…”

42. “But I know, somehow, that only when it is dark enough can you see the stars.”

43. “There comes a time when one must take a position that is neither safe, nor politic, nor popular but he must take it because conscience tells him it is right.”

44. “Many people fear nothing more terribly than to take a position which stands out sharply and clearly from the prevailing opinion.”

45. “Many sincere white people in the south privately oppose segregation and discrimination, but they are apprehensive lest they be publicly condemned.”

46. “’Do not conform’ is difficult advice in a generation when crowd pressures have unconsciously conditioned our minds and feet to move to the rhythmic drum beat of the status quo.”

47. “This tragic attempt to give moral sanction to an economically profitable system gave birth to the doctrine of white supremacy.”

48. “Unlike physical blindness that is usually inflicted upon individuals as a result of natural forces beyond their control, intellectual and moral blindness is a dilemma which man inflicts upon himself by his tragic misuse of freedom and his failure to use his mind to its fullest capacity.”

49. “Only through the bringing together of head and heart-intelligence and goodness shall man rise to a fulfillment of his true nature.”

50. “Nothing in all the world is more dangerous than sincere ignorance and conscientious stupidity.”

Enjoy.

The ENTJ (TeNiSeFi)

Extroverted Thinking (Te):

  • Compelled to accumulate and contribute useful, productive, and relevant information
  • May accumulate factual knowledge in matters useful to their chosen field, area of interest, or they suspect may be useful in the future
  • Believes they must know and make sense of how the external environment works to function at an optimal level and maintain control over their experience
  • Constantly searching for and involving themselves in practical projects and other avenues where their knowledge is useful
  • Typically comfortable asserting their knowledge or correcting factual inaccuracies of others
  • Good at offering logical advice or information that can be applied to the external world to produce positive or productive results
  • Often highly pragmatic, diligent, and proactive
  • Often uncomfortable and restless if unable to pursue their goals and productive ventures
  • Inclined toward highly active schedules and lifestyles
  • May tend to find themselves “busy” most of the time (prone to workaholic tendencies)
  • Easily able to arrange, define, or organize the external environment in order to maximize their own or others’ potential
  • Often concerned with matters of efficiency and productivity; able to offer suggestions on improving the environment, under these principles
  • May not actively seek leadership roles, but won’t shun them; prone to stepping in if they feel others are unqualified or that nonintervention would lead to negative outcomes or inefficiency
  • Has a direct, formal style of communication and interaction, tends to speak quickly and to the point
  • Values clear and unambiguous communication; expects the same from others; does not suffer fools lightly, and believes in sharing factually correct information
  • Tends toward strong opinions about others’ ideas
  • May be critical of widely accepted viewpoints, seeing them as grounded in popular mythology rather than fact

Introverted Intuition (Ni):

  • Future-oriented in their thinking
  • Inclined to consider the consequences, implications, and long-term strategies of their actions
  • They pay less attention to the immediate details of carrying out their ideas than the future implications or impact of their idea
  • Often better at big picture thinking than detail-oriented thinking
  • Inclined, due to this, to take the job of consultant or innovator, preferring to leave the details and implementation to others
  • Commonly possess an entrepreneurial spirit and seeks to advance their own vision of a paradigmatic innovation or improvement
  • Feels an internal need to maintain sovereignty over their affairs and schedules
  • Become impatient if outside circumstances limit or hinder their productivity
  • May feel stifled unless they have a degree of flexibility in which to change their plans as situations change
  • Most comfortable when vigorously occupied with many things to do
  • Prone to intense mental activity, which can sometimes manifest in reflective, philosophical or detachedly contemplative behavior
  • Prone to constant reevaluation over practical matters before them
  • Can direct their mental energy toward developing new analogies or metaphors for conceptualizing their understanding, juxtaposing concepts and thinking about the same material in different ways

Extroverted Sensing (Se):

  • Can sometimes get mired in the little details of their work
  • Can be avoidant, neglectful, indecisive or scatterbrained in daily affairs
  • May have trouble motivating themselves through force of will to take care of menial details and decisions
  • May lack the willpower and tenacity to resolutely pursue their goals, and appreciate others who push, encourage, or support them toward these ends
  • Appreciates those who break them out of inactivity
  • Desires a sense of control over their environment; resistant to external control or “interference”
  • Prone toward a desire to “appreciate the finer things in life”
  • May over-indulge in the pleasures life has to offer (sex, food, expensive clothing, fashionable or fast-paced lifestyles)
  • Prone toward occasional impulses and sensory-driven pursuits, sometimes at the cost of a higher purpose or ideal 

Introverted Feeling (Fi):

  • Often poor at gauging others opinions of them or reactions to them
  • May struggle to discern the state of their personal relationships
  • Can underestimate others’ emotions and fail to meet their emotional needs
  • Prone to dismissing emotional decisions as irrational
  • Not naturally in tune with their own internal emotional state
  • May be fixated or perpetually in doubt of the emotional perceptions and hidden motivations of those around them
  • May have difficulty making character judgments or assessing what behavior or intentions they should expect from others
  • Requires sustained and clear discussions of feelings in order to feel secure about their relationships
  • Takes their own feelings seriously
  • Often highly principled
  • May place a great deal of emphasis on personal integrity
  • Drawn toward relationships where personal and private experiences can be shared free of judgment in an atmosphere of mutual trust
  • Comfortable in a relationship where shared sentiments and ethical beliefs make external expressions of emotions unnecessary
  • Often proactive in engaging others but rarely confident of their ability to correctly evaluate emotional intimacy
  • Best complimented by others who establish and reinforce a sense of intimacy
  • May be shy at establishing close friendships
  • Believes actions speak louder than words, and will go to great length to fulfill others’ needs when interacting with those with whom they share kinship and respect
  • May consult others for guidance in actions to ensure they’re following a clear set of ethical principles

 Drawn from MBTI / Socionics descriptions. Compiled by Charity.

anonymous asked:

An Au where Deku has a sibling, either older or younger. The sibling has the ability to control external fire, A combination of mama Deku and Papa Deku quirks. Does this have the potential of a quirkless Villain Deku?

Hi anon, thanks for the question! Here are my thoughts and opinions:

I do rather think having a sibling that has Quirks won’t be enough of a reason to “tilt” Deku into being a Villain. There has to be something else, enough of an impact to destroy Deku’s personality because it’s really not his character.

THAT SAID, I think the effect of having a sibling with Quirks…well. Quite the opposite. Regardless of the sibling’s personality, I think Deku would feel the need to protect, furthering his desire to become a Hero. Quirkless or not.

Now you made me think anon. I’m a sucker for Twin AUs so because of your ask, a Twin OC was born. Meet Kiji!!

He’s a younger twin of Izuku. His name was patterned after their mom, (Inko = Parrot, Kiji = Green Pheasant, also Japan’s national bird). His hair is mostly straight plus the bangs were after his mom, but there’s a still of waviness at the back (probably the curly hair was from their dad). He mostly resembles their dad they say.

Quirk: He can control fire with utmost precision, however he can’t create fire, and he’s not immune to it. So his hands have lots of burns and he wears gloves to protect them when using his Quirk. He has a lighter with him at all times and matchsticks.

His Quirk is different to Shouto’s because Shouto can create huge areas of fire, whereas Kiji can control said fire to pinpoint accuracy. So he can direct Shouto’s fire through small spaces and avoid contact with things that doesn’t need to be burned.

Personality: Incited by Bakugou’s bullying, Kiji became overprotective of Izuku. When they were kids, Kiji was essentially Quirkless because unless there’s a source of fire, he really can’t do anything and can only use his fists to fight back (still gets beaten up through sheer numbers). Even during middle school, carrying around lighters and such is very suspicious and he can only use his Quirk sparingly.

So yeah, Kiji hates Bakugou. Kiji is. Very protective. Of his older twin. Very, very protective.

He’s the leader of the Deku Protection Squad.

“Today, you won’t control the external events that happen. Is that scary? A little, but it’s balanced when we see that we can control our opinion about those events. You decide whether they’re good or bad, whether they’re fair or unfair. You don’t control the situation, but you control what you think about it. See how that works? Every single thing that is outside of your control…still presents a corresponding area that is in your control. This alone gives us plenty to manage…

Best of all, an honest understanding of what is within our control provides real clarity about the world: all we have is our own mind. Remember that today when you try to extend your reach outward—that it’s much better and more appropriately directed inward.” -Ryan Holiday, The Daily Stoic #whatIreadtoday

What sets the existentialist notion of despair apart from the conventional definition is that existentialist despair is a state one is in even when he isn’t overtly in despair. So long as a person’s identity depends on qualities that can crumble, he is in perpetual despair—and as there is, in Sartrean terms, no human essence found in conventional reality on which to constitute the individual’s sense of identity, despair is a universal human condition. As Kierkegaard defines it in Either/Or: “Let each one learn what he can; both of us can learn that a person’s unhappiness never lies in his lack of control over external conditions, since this would only make him completely unhappy.” In Works of Love, he said:

When the God-forsaken worldliness of earthly life shuts itself in complacency, the confined air develops poison, the moment gets stuck and stands still, the prospect is lost, a need is felt for a refreshing, enlivening breeze to cleanse the air and dispel the poisonous vapors lest we suffocate in worldliness. … Lovingly to hope all things is the opposite of despairingly to hope nothing at all. Love hopes all things – yet is never put to shame. To relate oneself expectantly to the possibility of the good is to hope. To relate oneself expectantly to the possibility of  evil is to fear. By the decision to choose hope one decides infinitely more than it seems, because it is an eternal decision. p. 246-250

5 signs of a mature INFP:
1. Being aware if the story that is running, and simultaneously being able to take action in the outside world.
2.Allowing authenticity in others no matter how personally triggering.
3. Able to stay in the feeling of discomfort without making it mean anything.
4. Exploring depth in relationships past the ideal.
5. Stop controlling the external and instead making it into a conscious game.
—  Merja Sumiloff

We Create our Reality

“We cannot always control external events, people and/or things that show up in our lives, but we have the innate power to control what they ‘mean’ to us.”

“The way we feel is based on the ‘meanings’ we create in our minds about things; our realities are based on our perceptions (how we individually perceive, feel and react). No matter what happens to us, the definitions (be it empowering or dis-empowering) we give to our experiences, belong to us.”  ~Anon I mus (Spiritually Anonymous)

I would like to point out, among a few other things, why it wasn’t plausible for Yaldabaoth’s meddling of Akechi to be raised during Akechi’s time (demonstrably) alive, compared to Nyarlathotep’s meddling of Joker. 

That is to say, Persona 2′s Joker. Otherwise known as Jun Kurosu.

To start with- this scene in Caracol, being the confrontation and defeat of Joker. Let’s not forget that this kind of talk right here, is not too dissimilar to the Persona awakenings in Persona 5. ‘Release thy rage’, ‘nothing can be done restrained’, ‘raise your flag and wreak havoc’… and so forth. 

Of course, it takes on a somewhat darker edge, for this was not an ‘awakening’, but rather, it was Nyarlathotep manipulating Jun. Jun- like Akechi, being very capable and calculating as an individual- had his entire reality distorted by a false god. 

Even the words alone suggest a psychological grip that he couldn’t shake off, immediately linking ‘wish for power’ with ‘hate’ and even ‘immolate yourself’- outright stating self destruction. It’s not a stretch to suggest similar things were said to reign in Akechi in his ‘weakness of conviction’, or simply distress and denial in regards to his ‘cause’. 

This is especially notable considering how quickly Akechi descended into his suicidal stint in the engine room.

Plus, we already know that Akechi didn’t awaken to his fullest extent on his own, and his ‘truest form’ even hints at external control. Jun surrendering himself to the ‘Angel Joker’ form doesn’t sound horribly different to how Akechi surrendered to a ‘berserked’ form of himself.

But the main point here, is how this ‘unknown voice’ connected to Jun made itself known as Nyarlathotep in the same scene. We do not have that for Yaldabaoth in the engine room, and for a very good reason:

Unlike Nyarlathotep, we were not supposed to know that Yaldabaoth is the true threat. 

Hell, knowing of a false-god’s meddling at all at this point, would make you question ‘Igor’, which is only supposed to happen later. The seeds of doubt- regarding ‘Igor’s’ decidedly misanthropic commentary- should NOT amount to doubting his identity

Not at this stage, or at least, not with that much clarity.

As for the position of ‘Jun’s father’, like the existence of Yaldabaoth, you have no means to question that until VERY late. You do not even know the full situation with rumours becoming ‘cognitive beings’ at the point of Nyarlathotep’s first appearance, so him showing himself doesn’t throw a proverbial spanner in the narrative works. 

There’s also the matter of Jun’s father being human. Igor on the other hand.. being an otherworldly being, makes it too obvious that something might be up. On top of that: 

Until this point, you did not and should not have known that Akechi was a wild card.

All those ‘dreams’ that Akira had? Akechi would have had similar too, but there’s no way he was going to tell anyone that. That they didn’t come up in the engine room scene either isn’t all that questionable, considering that Akira never feels the need to mention it, either. 

‘Igor’ as an entity is only ever made known when they are all present in the Velvet Room, anyway. More to that, being vague about what ‘god or demon’ Akechi encountered- through whatever means- made for his reveal as a multiple Persona user.

As to what ended up happening though..

Retrospective insight into the meddling was not possible with Akechi out of the picture.

A… very big support for why that ‘engine room death’ shouldn’t have happened. His perspective on the false god appears to be limited, but we do not truly know how limited that was, since he only spoke one line on the matter.

What we do have, however, is a costume extra specifically donning Akechi with Jun’s outfit. Make of that what you will, but the notion that it isn’t a very deliberate and significant thematic parallel between the two is… hard to swallow (hell, even Yusuke doesn’t have one regarding his ‘other school’ situation- which is interesting, because there are two characters in Innocent Sin who come from the same ‘different school’ to the others.. those being Eikichi, and Jun).

Incidentally, Yaldabaoth has been with Akechi rather longer than he has Akira. And although it’s not nearly as long as the time Nyarly has toyed with Jun.. it’s still a sizeable portion. With that in consideration, I have a very, very hard time believing that Yaldabaoth never said or did anything… ‘persuasive’ in that amount of time.

Frankly, you’re going to have to bring hard evidence that he didn’t.

About the Urie cover art of :re vol 10

Quick thought. If the Urie cover for vol 10 of:rei s legit I really like what Ishida did with it. Not only is Urie’s taped mouth a nod to how Urie holds his tongue and does not speak out loud what he thinks, the tapes also seem to make an X shape, which is roman numeral for number 10. 

Also, this is a stretch but I guess one could it see as a nod to the Wheels of Fortune (10/X) tarot card too, which have these meanings:

“Upright: Good luck, karma, life cycles, destiny, a turning point

Reversed: Bad luck, negative external forces, out of control.”

maybe the weirdest thing about The Stanley Parable is how there are so many levels to the in-universe reality, and either the reality itself or how much of it you can perceive depends entirely on the choices you make

like you’ve got

  • the level at which Stanley is an office worker whose coworkers have gone missing
  • the level at which this is all happening in Stanley’s head
  • the level at which the Narrator is a writer trying to tell a story and is frustrated that you won’t play along
  • the level at which the Narrator is the creator of the game and still frustrated that you won’t play along
  • the level at which the Narrator and Stanley are both being controlled by external forces
  • more probably
  • like make up your own explanation for what the hell’s going on here and it wouldn’t be at all weird for the game to imply that’s what’s going on
  • and then it would bulldoze it and replace it with something else in the next 2 seconds

I think a big part of why the game is so jarring (and hilarious) is that you go with the suspension of disbelief that you’re in one reality and then it abruptly switches you to a different level

I’ve never seen anything else ever do that

How to Overcome FAILure

So recently I heard of a great acronym that I thought I should share with you all, and make a post all about it! Here is the acronym

Fail

Assess

Internalize

Learn

And that is how you move past failure! So let’s break that down, shall we?

F is for Fail

As my favorite band, Coldplay, once said,

You have to try in order to fail. Who knows you might just succeed! Always give it your best shot. What is the worst that could actually happen? Some people find it comforting to imagine the worst case scenario or even to journal about it. It can help relieve some of the stress! Another method of anxiety-relief can be coming up with a “Plan B” and “Plan C”!

A is for Assess

When you fail, one of the first steps towards succeeding the next time is assessing what went wrong, and why you failed.

I like to write this out and put it into two categories:

Column 1: External Factors

External factors are things that lead to your failure but were outside of your control. Here are some examples:

1. Being sick while taking a test

2. Someone else’s fault- They got involved when they shouldn’t have, they didn’t do their group work etc. 

3. Bad Luck

There are a lot more examples of external (and internal) factors that can lead to failure. These are just some!

Column 2: Internal Factors:

Be honest! These are the things that were your fault that might have lead to your failure:

1. Lack of Sleep

2. Got distracted (could also be external)

3. Didn’t study or try hard enough

Many things, such as distraction, can be both internal and external. Try to be honest in your analysis of what was actually to blame for this failure. Try to control external factors as much as possible, but also understand that you can’t control everything. Do not be too hard on yourself about the internal!


I is for Internalize.

Come to grips with the fact that you failed, and that some of it might be your fault, and some of it might have been uncontrollable. Take a few moments to be sad if you need it, but then get back up and try again!

L is for Learning

Learn something from your failure! And get up and try again. Either you will have learned to succeed or probably learned another step toward success!


Last tip: Best chance at success, but if you fail, Fail EPICALLY! Put your whole heart into it, in order to give yourself the best chance at success, or in the worst case scenario, a legendary fail.


Originally posted by lovefortelevision

Cognitive Distortions
  • Filtering: We take the negative details and magnify them while filtering out all positive aspects of a situation. For instance, a person may pick out a single, unpleasant detail and dwell on it exclusively so that their vision of reality becomes darkened or distorted.
  • Polarized Thinking (or “Black and White” Thinking): In polarized thinking, things are either “black-or-white.” We have to be perfect or we’re a failure — there is no middle ground. You place people or situations in “either/or” categories, with no shades of gray or allowing for the complexity of most people and situations. If your performance falls short of perfect, you see yourself as a total failure.
  • Overgeneralization: In this cognitive distortion, we come to a general conclusion based on a single incident or a single piece of evidence. If something bad happens only once, we expect it to happen over and over again. A person may see a single, unpleasant event as part of a never-ending pattern of defeat.
  • Jumping to Conclusions: Without individuals saying so, we know what they are feeling and why they act the way they do. In particular, we are able to determine how people are feeling toward us.
  • For example, a person may conclude that someone is reacting negatively toward them but doesn’t actually bother to find out if they are correct. Another example is a person may anticipate that things will turn out badly, and will feel convinced that their prediction is already an established fact.
  • Catastrophizing: We expect disaster to strike, no matter what. This is also referred to as “magnifying or minimizing.” We hear about a problem and use what if questions (e.g., “What if tragedy strikes?” “What if it happens to me?”).
  • For example, a person might exaggerate the importance of insignificant events (such as their mistake, or someone else’s achievement). Or they may inappropriately shrink the magnitude of significant events until they appear tiny (for example, a person’s own desirable qualities or someone else’s imperfections).
  • Personalization: Personalization is a distortion where a person believes that everything others do or say is some kind of direct, personal reaction to the person. We also compare ourselves to others trying to determine who is smarter, better looking, etc.
  • A person engaging in personalization may also see themselves as the cause of some unhealthy external event that they were not responsible for. For example, “We were late to the dinner party and caused the hostess to overcook the meal. If I had only pushed my husband to leave on time, this wouldn’t have happened.”
  • Control Fallacies: If we feel externally controlled, we see ourselves as helpless a victim of fate. For example, “I can’t help it if the quality of the work is poor, my boss demanded I work overtime on it.” The fallacy of internal control has us assuming responsibility for the pain and happiness of everyone around us. For example, “Why aren’t you happy? Is it because of something I did?”
  • Fallacy of Fairness: We feel resentful because we think we know what is fair, but other people won’t agree with us. As our parents tell us when we’re growing up and something doesn’t go our way, “Life isn’t always fair.” People who go through life applying a measuring ruler against every situation judging its “fairness” will often feel badly and negative because of it. Because life isn’t “fair” — things will not always work out in your favor, even when you think they should.
  • Blaming: We hold other people responsible for our pain, or take the other track and blame ourselves for every problem. For example, “Stop making me feel bad about myself!” Nobody can “make” us feel any particular way — only we have control over our own emotions and emotional reactions.
  • Shoulds: We have a list of ironclad rules about how others and we should behave. People who break the rules make us angry, and we feel guilty when we violate these rules. A person may often believe they are trying to motivate themselves with shoulds and shouldn’ts, as if they have to be punished before they can do anything.
  • For example, “I really should exercise. I shouldn’t be so lazy.” Musts and oughts are also offenders. The emotional consequence is guilt. When a person directs should statements toward others, they often feel anger, frustration and resentment.
  • Emotional Reasoning: We believe that what we feel must be true automatically. If we feel stupid and boring, then we must be stupid and boring. You assume that your unhealthy emotions reflect he way things really are — “I feel it, therefore it must be true.”
  • Fallacy of Change: We expect that other people will change to suit us if we just pressure or cajole them enough. We need to change people because our hopes for happiness seem to depend entirely on them.
  • Global Labeling: We generalize one or two qualities into a negative global judgment. These are extreme forms of generalizing, and are also referred to as “labeling” and “mislabeling.” Instead of describing an error in context of a specific situation, a person will attach an unhealthy label to themselves.
  • For example, they may say, “I’m a loser” in a situation where they failed at a specific task. When someone else’s behavior rubs a person the wrong way, they may attach an unhealthy label to him, such as “He’s a real jerk.” Mislabeling involves describing an event with language that is highly colored and emotionally loaded. For example, instead of saying someone drops her children off at daycare every day, a person who is mislabeling might say that “she abandons her children to strangers.”
  • Always Being Right: We are continually on trial to prove that our opinions and actions are correct. Being wrong is unthinkable and we will go to any length to demonstrate our rightness. For example, “I don’t care how badly arguing with me makes you feel, I’m going to win this argument no matter what because I’m right.” Being right often is more important than the feelings of others around a person who engages in this cognitive distortion, even loved ones.
  • Heaven’s Reward Fallacy: We expect our sacrifice and self-denial to pay off, as if someone is keeping score. We feel bitter when the reward doesn’t come.
  • [psychcentral.com/lib/15-common-cognitive-distortions/]

anonymous asked:

i was on youtube rewatching evangelion scenes and i came across a kawoshin scene. i read comments and i wanted to ask you what you think of some of them. one comment talked about how one episode (ep 24) was just about right to have kaworu, cause it shows how shinji seeks for attentions/someone who will love him = he will let his guard down. so it shows how easily he does that if he's 'loved'. and showing kaworu 'betrayal' in the same episode, makes it understand how (-)

(-) kaworu just used shinji and nothing more. another thing i read, connected to this whole thing is, people think kaworu “loved” shinji just to use him and shinji “loved” kaworu just cause he needed someone, not cause its kaworu. he wanted someone to love him and it was enough, which means it could have been anyone else (according to these people). now, i personally don’t think this is how their relationship should be seen. (-) (-) i do not believe kaworu ‘loved’ shinji just to have informations and such. since he preferred to die instead of killing shinji + him wanting shinji happiness in the rebuild. now, i do think shinji loves kaworu cause it’s kaworu and cause he shows him how to be loved. since shinji himself said he found strange that he confessed to him about his problems with his father etc. (i mean it happens to have those connections) (-) so, i wrote this huge comment, to ask you, what do you think and how do you personally see it? i’m sorry if i wrote too much! feel free not to answer if you don’t feel like to!

I feel Kaworu’s importance in episode 24 + 3.33 was more than just that to Shinji.

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If you feel that you have the ability to create your own life, that you have a certain influence or power over what happens to you, then you have an internal locus of control. However, if you feel that what happens to you is beyond your control then you have an external locus of control. Seligman found that depressed patients tended to be people who have an external locus of control; they have lost the belief that they have the power to act on their own behalf, or to influence their own experiential world. They develop a sense of helplessness and hopelessness
—  Development of the personality
Wife of the Saiyan Prince

(Wrote this last year after the Black Arc.)

Bulma startled awake after a second night of troubled sleep. While her future son’s presents had tempered the first night’s ghosts, now that he had left the rain of fire from a laughing sky fully consumed her dreams. Bulma rubbed her eyes and felt her pillow in one quick motion then swiftly flipped and aimlessly fluffed the pillow to hide the reason.

“The wife of the Saiyan prince shouldn’t be crying,” she thought.

But when Bulma went to shift her shoulders back, she discovered another reason her mind went to darker places. Vegeta was not in bed. She looked to the clock.

“2:17? What the hell…” she mumbled as she sat up and looked around.

Even in the dark, she could tell he never came into the room. The faint smells of his sweaty clothes from the “not-as-air-tight-as-advertised” sports equipment hamper and the shower mist from under the bathroom door were completely absent.

She turned on the nightstand lamp. She put her slippers on, walked around the bed to the bathroom and took her robe from the hook to cover her slip. After washing her face and checking that her eyes looked clear, she left for the kitchen.

“You haven’t lost track of time this bad in forever, but with everything… You’re just in the kitchen eating like you normally do before you come to me,” she thought coming down the staircase.

But as she turned the corner to the kitchen she saw no light drifting into the hallway. She almost jogged the rest of the distance to the kitchen.

Bulma turned on the lights. The chair he always sat in was still neatly tucked under the table. No pile of dishes in the sink. She went to the fridge. All his food was there, untouched, jus—just waiting to be reheated in the microwave.

“Is he still training? Wha—?” her brain stopped as she ran from the kitchen, leaving the refrigerator door wide open for the timed motor to eventually close.

Bulma slid slightly and lost her balance trying to come to a stop at the viewing port. She had not noticed she was running. She finally stopped sliding and put her nose to the glass.

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Nya Appreciation Post

Since Nya has been getting a lot of disrespect lately (and I mean by the fandom, not the show’s writers), here is an appreciation post for her!

- She’s really pretty, she has a cute hair style and a wonderful smile.

- She has a really nice voice.

- She’s strong, smart, and dependable, but also very caring.

- She’s the one who saved Ninjago at the end of Season 5.

- She’s gone through a lot of development; from being a damsel in distress in the pilots, to a secret samurai who was just as heroic as the ninja in seasons 1 to 4, and then finally discovering she has water powers and training to become the water ninja in season 5.

- She’s a great part of the team and just as tough–if not moreso–than the others.

- A lot of people say her powers are useless because Zane and Kai can create water. But they have to be together and can only create small amounts of water from the fire and ice they shoot from their hands. Nya, however, can actually control external sources of water. Zane and Kai couldn’t have moved the huge wave that defeated the Pre-imminent.

- She has relatable flaws such as having a tendency to give up on things when she’s not good at them right away, not knowing what she truly wants in life, and feeling as though she doesn’t have a say in her destiny.

- It wasn’t Sensei Wu or anyone who ‘forced’ her to be the water ninja. It was her destiny and she had to learn to embrace it, and she is now a vital part of the team.

- She was the first one to admit she and Cole had been too harsh on Jay in Skybound.

- She taught Jay ‘you are the best you’, helping him reach his full potential.

That’s all I have for now but feel free to add onto this!