I am so glad that they addressed the flower analogy in this episode and just how damaging it can be.
You know I really applauded this show for exploring virginity with Jane. For so many years the sexual revolution has been defined by a woman’s right to have sex and not be judged for it. And I found it so interesting that for once a show explored a woman’s right to NOT have sex and not be judged for that. The fact that Jane was allowed to make the decision to wait for marriage and stick with it, is something that I don’t think I’ve ever seen on contemporary TV. They explored how hard it was for her to stick with that decision but also how accepting every around her was of that decision. Over the series I don’t think anyone told her she was wrong for it or that it was ridiculous to stick with it. Even the men she dated were remarkably okay with her decision. Even if they floundered at first, they all respected that choice. That was great to see on television.
That being said I’m so happy they addressed the damaging flower analogy.
When Jane was 12 years old her grandma tells her to crumple up a flower and then try to make it perfect and new again. When she can’t Alba tells her that’s what it’s like when you lose your virginity and you can’t go back.
That’s horrible. It’s an awful message and certainly not one that you should drill into the head of a preteen.
And even though Jane consciously knows better, and even though she waited until marriage like her grandma told her to, after she has sex with her husband she feels like that crumpled up flower. She feel like she’s lost something, or that she’s less special because she’s no longer a virgin. And that’s not only sad, but untrue. And having those thoughts in her head affected her ability to enjoy sex with her husband.
I am so happy that Xo came to her and explained that no longer being a virgin doesn’t mean that she’s lost something. It means that she’s gained something. By having sex with Michael she’s opening herself to explore and discover a new side of herself and also a new side of her relationship with Michael. I think what Xo said was pretty much Mother goals in terms of the sex talk.
There’s a powerful connection between characters and the fans who love them.
Anyone who scribbled Harry Potter fanfiction or dissected the latest teen drama with their friends knows. And the line between actor and character is often completely muddled for viewers that live far beyond the realities of Hollywood.
But what if those same fans were stuck on a road trip with the object of their obsessions? That’s the idea behind the most recent book from Glee star and bestselling author Chris Colfer, Stranger than Fanfiction.
Colfer is best known in the literary world for his popular middle grade series The Land of Stories. In his latest novel, Colfer explores the world of television fandom and the trials and tribulations of teenagers on the brink of major life changes.
Stranger than Fanfiction follows four best friends who’ve bonded over nearly a decade of watching their favorite sci-fi show. As the group embarks on an end-of-high-school road trip, they impulsively invite the star of said show. When he actually shows up to join them, all five begin a journey full of misadventures, mayhem, and secrets revealed.
In a special episode of the MashReads Podcast, MashReads spoke to Colfer about his return to YA and the inspirations behind the story, from both sides of passionate fandoms.
Then, as always, we close the show with recommendations. Colfer recommends:
The Demonologist by Gerald Bittle, which explores the career of the famous paranormal investigators Ed and Lorraine Warren in a documentary fashion. “The facts are scary enough by themselves,” said Colfer.
Intimacy Idiot by Isaac Oliver, a collections of essays and stories about finding love and intimacy in New York. To Colfer, “It’s the gay man’s manifesto, in a way.”
Wishful Drinking by Carrie Fisher, the first memoir by the late actress, based on her one-woman show. It’s also one of Colfer’s all-time favorite books. “Parts of that book I felt she wrote just for me”
Sage-ing While Age-ing by Shirley MacLaine, a book that is part memoir and part life advice from the actress. “It’s just fantastic.”
y'all need to stop obsessing over every male character on this show and instead appreciate this show's good depiction of issues that are rarely explored on tv like that - like mental illness among other things.
me after seeing last week's episode:
💖💕❤💘😍 mr. santa ana winds 😍😚💜💕💗