“It’s the type of performance that drives one to incessantly wonder, ‘What is she thinking?’ But this is uncertainty shrouded in personal mystery, not vagueness. And like the headiest and most involving mysteries, Keough refuses to settle for any quick and tidy resolutions, luring us in without ever emerging too far from her own protective shell. In this instance, answers hardly matter. Her suspense is enthralling enough.”
I took my dad to watch “Love, Simon” one week after coming out. #Awkward
So yeah… that happened. I took my dad to the cinema to watch Love, Simon just after a week on coming out to him.
So I can’t talk for every gay or bi guy, but coming out to your father is one of the most nerve-racking things you have to do. Maybe because you feel like you’ll disappoint him or he just won’t accept this about you.
A little back story about my dad: he’s in his late 50s, hardcore Catholic, very conservative, married with my mom for more than 25 years now, etc. but also a very loving and caring Dad. I think that my relationship with both of my parents is a very good one, in fact I do a lot of stuff with my dad, we fix things, we build stuff, we even play sports together. I think out of my 2 straight brothers and me, I’m the closest to him. The point is that I have a good relationship with him… also with my mom obviously in a different way, I can’t complaint about my parents.
I’m not gonna go into details with my coming out story yet, I’ll leave that for another post. But a few months ago, I came out to my parents, both of them hardcore catholics. So it was a huge shook for them. Surprisingly I was more nervous to tell my mom than my dad, and in fact my dad even if he couldn’t understand he was and he is still trying, my mom is a bit in denial still but she’s trying too. So this happened on April and the movie “Love, Simon” was in the theatres at the time so I wanted to watch so badly! and I didn’t want to end up watching it on streaming… I wanted the full cinema experience because for me this movie was huge. By that time I had only came out to two of my best friends and they were both straight guys so I couldn’t take them to the cinema to watch that movie because they would’ve gotten judged and I didn’t want that for them so I never even considered asking them. So of course there was the option on going by myself, but I just felt like I couldn’t do it alone. I took the courage and asked my Dad cause I was sure that my mom wasn’t ready yet. It took me a while to convince my dad but he ended up accepting. I’m not gonna lie haha It was a bit weird being with my dad watching that movie… I’m 24 going with my dad to watch a gay high school movie… anyway there were literally 5 people in the whole room…
My dad actually enjoyed the movie. He wasn’t ready for the kissing scenes though, I could tell by the look on his face but I totally get it… this was a week after me coming out. What I loved about going to that movie with him is that he actually took some words from the movie in order to make me feel better about myself, he even quoted Simon’s mom when she said “you are still you…” and that coming out of my dad’s mouth meant so much to me. So that’s basically it