in the regency au does tony ever feel like he's being forgotten (pre-kids)? like sometimes his alpha's are so busy helping run the kingdom that they don't really talk for weeks and tony doesn't have many friends and those he does have are also super busy, so tony feels kinds isolated and forgotten like he essentially was with obidiah? does tony just kinda accept the feeling with a resigned sigh, or does he talk to someone (sarah, or his alphas) about it?
I mean it’s not as if he hadn’t been expecting it? Only a year has passed since the war ended and both the Rogers kingdom and the Stark kingdom-now-absorbed are still recovering. There was a lot of work to be done before they married and somehow there’s even more work now because there’s unrest about Steve and Bucky marrying a Stark and unrest about Tony having been a political prisoner despite the fact that he was also a victim of the war and unrest about the countries merging because now the Rogers kingdom is so large how can they expect to defend it entirely??? There’s… a lot going on. Most of it things Tony can’t help with. But he knew that going into the marriage. He doesn’t remember what all his mother did to help with running a country but what he does remember is that his father did the lion’s share of the work.
Fortunately they don’t go for weeks without talking. At the end of the day, his alphas always stumble back to their bedroom, exhausted but unwilling to slip into bed without greeting Tony, pressing tired kisses to his lips and asking about his day even though they’re usually asleep before Tony finishes answering. Tony doesn’t mind. His alphas work very hard for their country and he’s very proud of that. (He actually finds it really attractive, how hard they work to make sure their people are taken care of.) So maybe he’s a little lonely, maybe he misses their intimate touches, but he can see his mates are tired. They need rest. So he tucks them under the sheets carefully so they stay warm and presses kisses to their foreheads and then crawls into bed between them. It’s okay. Especially since Steve and Bucky always gravitate toward him in sleep, curling around him and sometimes even waking up long enough to press sleepy kisses against whatever skin they can reach before dozing off again. Tony takes what he can get. It would be greedy to push for more. Besides, it’s their duties to take care of their country and his duty to support them. Tony has always been about duty and if his is to silently soldier on and support his husbands then he will do it.
(And it’s not like Steve and Bucky don’t feel awful about it, apologizing for not spending more time with him. They just–want to make sure the former Stark kingdom is doing well. They’d lost almost an entire generation of alphas and betas to the war. Many of their surviving soldiers were injured and crippled. They don’t want what the Starks had built to fall to ruin. While Sarah and Howard hadn’t really known each other, Sarah will admit that Howard was a brilliant (if slightly strange) man who generously shared his agricultural inventions with other countries so that no one would go hungry because of drought or flood or vermin infestation. The Starks weren’t bad people, and their subjects weren’t either. They’d be remiss to abandon them in a time of such great need. And with Tony hearing about how much money and time and effort they’re funneling into his former kingdom, how could he possibly be resentful? All he’s ever wanted was to take care of his people.)
Also Pepper may be busy (she has a lot of valuable information from traveling from her convent to the Rogers kingdom), but Rhodey definitely isn’t, and Tony is taking full advantage of having his best friend back by cuddling him aggressively. They don’t even need to be doing anything–just sitting together with Tony on Rhodey’s lap, clinging to him, whispering about all the good things that had happened to him since he was brought to the Rogers kingdom. Rhodey’s still pretty unimpressed by Steve and Bucky but he’ll admit he would have been unimpressed by any alpha up to and including Sam Wilson because he’s watched out for Tony ever since Tony was two and toddled out in the middle of a tense meeting between the Starks and the Williams to drape himself across Rhodey and say “You’re pretty.” Rhodey was only seven but he’d been fucking smitten with him ever since. There was a reason his parents had allowed him to come stay with the Starks and it was only partly because their friendship had eased tensions with Tony’s parents; the other part was that Rhodey, while a noble, was not high up on the line of succession and he’d have better prospects being the friend and playmate of an omega prince than he would at home. (And in all honesty, if the Starks couldn’t find a suitable match for their son, they probably would have chosen Rhodey.) When the war first broke out with the Rogers his parents had sent for him, but Rhodey had refused to leave Tony behind. His parents had respected that even if their returning letter saying so was tear-stained.
( “You know, my mother’s kind of miffed that she wasn’t invited to the wedding,” Rhodey teases, and then regrets it as soon as it’s out of his mouth because Tony looks horrified and immediately pens a letter full of apologies and regrets for having not invited them. The letter he gets in return is full of question marks and then finally a terse ‘we’re coming to visit dear’ that sounds more threatening than anything. Tony’s terrified until Roberta Rhodes brushes past Tony, his confused husbands, his bewildered mother-in-law, and grabs Rhodey by the ear and starts berating him for making Tony think she was ever upset with him for not being invited to his wedding. “It’s nice to know some things never change,” Terrance Rhodes says fondly, then turns and pats Tony on the shoulder. “Hello, Anthony. It’s good to see you’re doing well.” Tony squeaks but it’s barely heard over Rhodey and Roberta bickering. Sarah likes them and welcomes the Rhodes to her castle at any time. It also helps relations with the Williams so she doesn’t see a downside at all.)
((Steve and Bucky get a little upset that Rhodey’s scent on Tony is stronger than theirs but his mother always frowns severely at them when they complain about it. She’s an omega, though; she wouldn’t understand, kind of like Tony doesn’t understand. Rhodey understands, though. Rhodey understands well.
They can tell, because Rhodey gives them smug smirks as he cuddles Tony while Steve and Bucky are too busy to spend time with him. For the first few months of their marriage, they loathe Rhodey.))