expand your view

anonymous asked:

what is your definition of 'perfect'?

i place a lot of emphasis on growth and progress in my life. so my version of ‘perfect’ reflects that. something is perfect to me because it’s the best it can be at that moment and within those limits. something is perfect to me if there’s the promise of growing and striving to be better. perfection is always on a moving scale for me.

you as a person are perfect to me if you’re doing the best you can. if you’re working at being kind and compassionate. if you’re interested in learning and expanding your views. if you’re treating your body and self with care. those are the things that are important to me. not everyday is going to be the same. there are going to be days where someone’s best is minimal but that in itself is perfect to me. surviving & healing are perfect, messy parts of life. tomorrow is the opportunity to be better.

How to de-escalate any argument and transform it into a discussion.

This is so obvious, but I’m posting it because I never see it used.

Odds are your “opponent” in an argument will say at least one good counter to your stance. Tell them, “that’s a good point.” And think about it.

If they use your contemplative silence to expand on their good point, you now have more time to expand on your point of view.

Rinse and repeat.

You now are no longer arguing to be right, but are together on the path to truth! Also, mutual respect often will occur.

Lessons I’ve learned in 2015
  1. Unexpected things will happen. You can never predict what is going to come your way.
  2. Anyone can hide their true feelings and intentions. Always look for the hidden actions or motives. They may say this but don’t necessarily mean it, they just don’t want you to know the truth.
  3. A lot of things can change in just 3 months.
  4. Sometimes you just have to prioritize yourself and decide if this person is worth it for your efforts.
  5. What seems to be acceptable around your known peers might be considered crude or mean to your new peers, especially friendly insults and jokes. Always watch yourself before you say anything you might regret.
  6. Friends with tight bonds like the ones you have always known - doing everything together and always be there when needed - those don’t exist here. Everyone is for themselves in the end, no matter how nice they seem.
  7. Don’t judge people based on the one thing you find annoying about them. Expand your view and look at them objectively as a whole person.
  8. Everything is temporary. That person who told you how much they love you - they really meant it, but only in that moment. Don’t be surprised when it ends.
  9. Family is family no matter what. Learn to appreciate them.

It must be so boring to be one of those people who believes that there is only man and woman, and only gay and straight. What a dull life view. Expand your horizons. Go outside. Eat a cookie. 

anonymous asked:

when are you gonna expand your views outside of a liberal defending obama and hilary to the death and supporting the human rights campaign which has had a history of excluding and harming trans people/movements, or even blaming minorities for not always speaking up when they're literally in danger for existing?

i’m so confused like don’t get me wrong, i love me some obama but i’ve made it quite clear that i’ve never exactly liked hilary. i’ve always been all for bernie, but seeing how the election ended up it’s clear that i wasn’t going to be for the baby carrot nazi lmao. i did, however, not know that about HRC. thanks for the enlightenment!!

Lesson #1

People outgrow each other. We do it all the time and it’s not such an awful thing. Sometimes you just have to learn to accept that some people can never be more than fleeting moments. Sometimes you’re just going to have to accept that not everyone you meet is destined to walk beside you for the rest of your life and that’s okay.
Only then will you understand that everybody in your life serves a purpose, whether good or bad. Everybody in your life teaches you something important. However, it’s not always easy to see, so you’re going to have to expand your views and try to understand that shit just doesn’t work out sometimes.
So it’s okay to lose people along the way. Just keep on growing. Be a better you and stop worrying about everybody who couldn’t grow with you. Grow for you.
Remember, “To be great, is to be misunderstood.” -Ralph Waldo Emerson

Well, it’s been a couple of months of on and off reading and I’m finally finished this amazing book. You can tell by all the quotes and excerpts that I’ve posted that this book is off the charts in regards to Jacques ideas on the UFO phenomenon. He proposes that human belief structures and consciousness itself are being shaped by whatever mechanism is behind this phenomenon and after reading this, I tend to agree. There is something more mysterious behind this phenomenon then visitors from another galaxy. Go get this book if you’re interested in expanding your view about the UFO phenomenon. You won’t be disappointed.

it seems that anytime racism is brought up during any discussion that only white people get uncomfortable and want to shut it down to avoid taking about it and it’s so fucking ANNOYING. Like, okay, you’re part of the problem because racism isn’t just the n-word and segregation it’s much bigger than that and you trying to not expand your knowledge and views past the point of “the president is black so things are better now” then you are contributing to the problem of racism that plagues our shitty society