anonymous asked:

Sheila I am Mexican too and I have thought about skin bleaching a lot. I know I shouldn't but sometimes I think it might be easier to be whiter. What was your experience with it?

Hey friendo. 

Let me tell you right now that I’m not going to yell at you. Or make you feel guilty. If your like me, you already feel really guilty for even THINKING about bleaching. A lot of the small, discreet forums I ran too when I first started bleaching were these tiny corners of the internet where mexican, hispanic, and black girls talked on forum about where to buy bleaches, how they got lighter. And they were always interspliced with us trying to tell each other to be strong, to stop, to not feel bad about what they were doing but also encouraging others not to start. It’s a sucky, sucky place to be, but I understand that you’re there. You know? And sometimes the act of controlling the shade of your skin can feel like overcoming the insecurity (its not.) 

Instead Imma tell you the realities of skin bleaching. 

First off, most of the brightening and bleaching products ARENT frederally regulated. I mean, they are super fucking dangerous. Just fyi. These companies are super shady and the ingrediants to even the FDA approved over-the-counter prescriptions of lighteners, have been linked to causing cancer. Over extended periods of time, it has been known to give a higher risk of, and even cause, cancer. They are still banned in a lot of countries. Yes, these are products that are used to help patients with post-sugery spotting, scarring, that are prescribed whiteners. Or even Vitilago patients, but even they are told the serious dangers and they are just using it for exactly that. SPOTTING. Not slathering it on your whole body.

Aside from being really fucking expensive, the ultimate thing that stopped me and others was this. 

You can’t actually strip your skin of melanin/pigment. 

It’s just not scientifically possible. Bleaching doesn’t actually BLEACH your skin. It just -delays and stops the melanin from forming- thats it. And in some whiteners, like the soap bar whitener, its actually peeling off layers of your skin to the non tanned cells beneath, and delaying melanin. This leads to redness, allergies, skin infections, and itchyness like a mutherfucker. It can be really painful.

But that also means that no matter how much you whiten, because you are only stopping melanin from forming instead of stripping, you will always be as tan as you are to begin with. You can only peel back and stop your layers so much before you reach your base shade. 

So guess what that means?

Your shade will always come back. 

Unless you plan on bleaching forever (see above about cancer) you will never reach a point that you won’t be tan, or won’t be in ‘need’ of bleaching. It will always, always come back. Because as soon as you stop using it, your melanin starts producing again. Unless of course, you damage your skin so badly you start DARKENING.

Yup, skin bleaching can also cause you to darken. 

And I don’t mean, it makes you get tanner. It blackens you. It’s called exogenous ochronosis. It’s when your skin gets damaged by the use of whiteners/bleachers and starts BLACKENING. Mostly in the thinner areas of your skin. Around your eyes is the most common one. Its practically unrepairable. Unless you want to sit under lasers at the dermatogloist weeks on end.

And finally, the shades you whiten never feel like enough. We all experienced this. It’ s a paranoia from your insecurity. As white as you get, you’ll still be staring at the mirror thinking ‘im too dark, im too dark.’ Because in the end it’s in your head, not in your skin. You’ll be endlessly torturing your body to try and fix your mind. I still struggle with this, despite having used it for 4-5 years and now stopped for another 4. And I realized that even though I was actively getting lighter, I was still not happy. Still not satisfied. That’s when I realized that I wasn’t targeting the right problem. What I had been made to think. Not what I had been made AS. 

And now, because I had beat up my skin so badly, I notice how much more easily I scar, I darken, I sun spot. The exact opposite of what I wanted. But i made my skin so tender, its more prone to tanning than not. 

I hope this helps. I know that when I realized all these things it turned me off completely, and many of the other girls that helped me stopped other from using just by explaining what they might be getting into. 

I’m always, always here to talk about this! On anon or privately! 

*sees folk are complaining about Rocknaldo again...*

I wonder if most people who claim to hate the episode are rather fixated on the opening two minutes and the ridiculous, out of the blue “THEY HATE MEN?!” joke, the actual conflict itself (which yes - does get rather spiteful but that’s kind of the point…), or just decided to not watch or bother paying attention to any of it. The important development is in the last two minutes, because there is an important difference in behaviours and attitudes. The “conflict” some claim is missing from the show is very much apparent, albeit not the Monster of the Week type, and this conflict is resolved in a very Steveny way indeed. By befriending all he sees! Bless his cotton socks.. uh… plastic sandals…

Anyways, the last scene goes like this:

Ronaldo: Hey, but, uh… Ronalphlets aside, can I ask you something?

Steven: Yeah?

Ronaldo: Why don’t you use your Gem name?

Steven: Oh. My Gem name is my mom’s name. Actually, the only time Gems really call me that is if they’re about to kidnap me or beat me up.

Ronaldo: That’s rough, buddy. You want me to put that in the Ronalphlet?

Steven: Eh… maybe not.

Ronaldo: Got it.

The first thing is that Steven seems comfortable talking about Gem stuff, very personal Gem stuff to do with his mom that he himself is only just figuring out. This is raw shit, stuff that he’s not really been willing to talk about much (besides with his dad and Connie), and he’s OK telling Ronaldo this, the guy he just had an incredibly trying time with. Steven may have been pushed to his limits on accepting crappy behaviour from others and finally acted on it (and rightly so!), but he hasn’t compromised his core beliefs and still has the capacity to forgive.The kid is a champ, and the audience shouldn’t forget that. Plus, this is him showing that he is coming to terms with and is able to talk about his own troubled feelings about being part Gem and being Rose Quartz’s son, without ending up angry, confused, or crying - the whole overriding theme of season four. It’s baby steps but Steven’s getting there.

Then there’s that Ronaldo asks permission to ask a personal question, one which is very much relevant to the problems he caused Steven, that he is a Gem, at least partially. The guy learned something, and not just the bags of Gem lore and the correction of his previous “theories” on “Rock People” (which by the way, he did entirely on his own with no help or direction from a Gem or someone with knowledge of Gems - unless Greg or Connie have been helping out off-screen, haha).  Asking someone permission to ask further questions shows regard for someone else - do you really think that this had occurred to Ronaldo before being Steven Truthed?! I don’t think so - he has a habit of butting into people’s lives for this sake of his own interests, and it’s not just limited to Steven and Gem stuff:

Look at all this oblivious behaviour! Marching right into other people’s business and doing things without considering other peoples’ feelings… so those last few lines show Ronaldo learning and adjusting to new ways of approaching things. And if I am honest, while all the fandom bickers over what constitutes plot and what doesn’t, here’s me wondering when this adorkable doofus is gonna show up again so we can see just how much of Steven’s message he’s taken on board. This is development, guys - just because it’s not of the type you’re looking for or happening to characters you prefer, doesn’t mean it’s not there in the show. And that this is development occurring to a human character is still very relevant to the show and one of season four’s general themes - this is what Rose Quartz herself was obsessed with!

“But you, you’re supposed to change. You’re never the same even moment to moment – you’re allowed and expected to invent who you are. What an incredible power – the ability to grow up.“

So please, enough with the OMG WORST EPISODE/CHARACTER EVER! shit. At least watch the episode again without all the exogenous crap like the schedule, leaks, and CN putting out badly thought-through promotion material. The stuff that makes you feel bad is there for a reason - it’s the conflict you’re looking for! And the development/plot comes from Steven helping people to improve themselves.

anonymous asked:

Have you noticed any difference in the size of your genitals as you took roids?

REAL TALK. Here we go again. Happily to speak openly where people have misinformation and talk about the real side effects of anabolics.

It is inevitable unless you also take certain precautionary drugs such as HCG that by introducing exogenous testosterone into your system, your body is going to send the signal to your balls that they don’t need to manufacture any test themselves, and shut down production. This leads to a noticeable difference in the size of your scrotum. Some can be quite sensitive and it’ll happen immediately, others the effect is only evident at higher dosages of injected testosterone.

So yes; balls shrink during a cycle. But, given a proper course of PCT (post cycle therapy) they soon recover. It’s possible to fuck up your system and get to a point where your testosterone production is permanently suppressed, but the goal of sensible anabolic use is to avoid that.

And need I say, while the balls are affected, the rest of the package isn’t. In fact AAS generally leads to increased blood count which gives better pumps in the gym… and in the bedroom ;-)

- Beast 2017

anonymous asked:

Personal HC #2: Her family & the FBI believed Scully's decision to stay in her apartment was an act of defiance against Melissa's killer. To her, the daily cruel reminder of where her sister had lain was penance for her failure to protect, her guilt. When she fled in the middle of night to run with Mulder, a small part was relieved as the burden had become too much with the memories of her short time with William. But she didn't realise exogenous scars are easier to discard than internal ones

I think we forget that Mulder isn’t the only person who self-flagellates. Scully’s been doing it almost as long. Also, cue me crying into my coffee, that finally getting to leave that apartment to go on the run felt like a relief instead of a burden.

mrs-red-fox  asked:

Tylenol has always been pretty much useless to me. It helps *a little* if the issue is a fever, but it's useless as an analgesic. I never understood why it's people's go-to analgesic, and now I feel better about staying away from it.

Huh that’s interesting! Individuals can be pretty unique in their ability to metabolize drugs. You could be a “super metabolizer” when it comes to acetaminophen (or other drugs). 

I think the use of Tylenol is so popular because it’s just so.. pervasive. It’s just always been the “go to” for many many people for many many years, and most of them never have any adverse effects to it. 

but honestly any exogenous chemical can be dangerous to anyone in high enough concentrations. even something like H2O

but yeah, the slow agonizing death of acetaminophen overdose is a noooo thank u. lets just both stay away from that!

So something that’s been confusing Me lately:

I know that mixed-origin systems are a thing, and I know that there are systems that are unsure of or can’t agree on their origins.

But has anyone (else) had the experience of not being able to tell what your own origins are as a member of the system? It’s especially difficult for Me b/c I know Our system is traumagenic, and My host can even pinpoint when and kind of why I ended up in the system, which was also trauma-related.

But I know that some people in systems see themselves as being split off from trauma, or otherwise created by the brain, while others see themselves as being “drawn in” or some such from outside, like another realm or dimension, but sometimes still in response to trauma.

So I know My origin here, like the system as a whole, is traumagenic, but I don’t know how to tell if I’m a psychologically-created headmate or a spiritual (exogenic? lmao) one. (The issues I have with recovering/making sense of past life/canon memories are related, but I’ll avoid going into that for now.)

Essentially what I want to know is this: does it make sense (My host is going “like, are You allowed to” and that’s…lol, not what I was asking thanks) to define My particular origin as some sort of blend of traumagenic and…idk, quoigenic? (I feel like that’s not exactly the right use of quoi- here but I have yet to work out My opinion on the divide between psych vs. spiritual origins b/c whooo that’s a lot.) But does this splitting-up of My origin-related terms…make sense? Has anyone else done/considered this?

TL;DR: Can I define My origins in a such a way as to indicate “I came here b/c of trauma but I don’t know/can’t tell where I came from”??


Hi, this month the cover of National Geographic, one of the covers, is a 9 year old trans girl who has been socially transitioned since the age of 4 and that was upsetting to me on a number of levels. First of all because National Geographic is a magazine that mostly is associated with showing exotic animals to people and National Geographic is a magazine that has a really, really bad track record historically with presenting people as exotic spectacles. And you know I think that as a magazine they’ve made an effort not to do that as much but I don’t think it’s particularly progressive or accepting to put a trans kid on the cover of National Geographic.

You know, one of the things that I experienced while I was trans is that it was really hard for other people to remember about me that I was a full human being and that this wasn’t some kind of spectacle, some kind of stunt, some kind of entertainment thing. And um mostly the people who I experienced treating me as like, I don’t know, some kind of circus act were people who considered themselves trans allies and I think you can see all the time how trans allies in both how they talk about trans people and how they present them visually that they on some level don’t really believe that people who experience gender dysphoria are full human beings. That we can think things through, that we want the same things out of life, that we’re motivated by the same things they are. So that was one of the things I hated about being trans, there were lots of things I hated about being trans, but one of the things I hated was being treated as a spectacle. And so I don’t think that putting a little kid on the cover of National Geographic is somehow a demonstration of progressive acceptance. I think it’s creepy and weird.

But ok, all that being said, and I’m not even gonna talk about the parental decision to put your kid’s shit blast like that, to put your kid on the cover of a magazine like that. There’s so much to say about that but I am not gonna do that right now. I wanted to talk about why I so strongly feel that people under 18 should not be empowered to make these medical decisions. Now at the base level, I don’t think they should be empowered because I got that shit wrong at 30, so if I could be 30 and think that my best life was a trans guy who has to get his ass to the doctor every 6 months, and then come to understand that on so many levels that life didn’t work for me and on so many levels that life caused its own problems for me and just worsened my anxiety and put me in social situations that were not ok, on so many levels that life didn’t work for me, if I could get it wrong at 30, I’m not the smartest kid on the block, like I got my own problems, if I could get it wrong at 30 a 9 year old for sure can get it wrong. A 13 year old for sure can get it wrong. Absolutely I think an 18 year old can get it wrong but the thing about 18 is that that’s the age that we let you go off to war. So I guess that’s the age that we accept that that’s when you get to start making real decisions about the unsafe circumstances you want to put your body through.

Ok. A lot has been said by other people about how incorrect and troubling the idea that kids’ gender identities are somehow stable is. There’s a lot of research out there that actually lots and lots of kids feel strongly that they have a transgender identity and then going through puberty they stop believing that. I’m not going to talk about that angle actually. For this video I just want to use the framework that indeed Avery on the cover of National Geographic knows herself and this gender identity that she has been supported and affirmed in since the age of 4 is stable and not the result of socialization and this is not a social system thing, for this video, even though I don’t actually believe this, I think you can see all kinds of social systems feeding into the affirmation of this identity, but for this video I want to work with the framework that Avery knows herself. And that this trans identity is going to be permanent and stable and the best life for Avery is one in which she gets to occupy the social role of woman. And another framework that I’m going to use for this video is the idea that the way that this affects Avery’s fertility, let’s just for this video use the framework that Avery also knows herself very very well in terms of what she’s going to want in terms of parenthood in the future.

Puberty blockers, what the leaders of developing this puberty blocking protocol for kids with gender dysphoria recommend is that you don’t start the puberty blockers until Tanner stage 2 and 3 that will give you a chance to harvest eggs and sperm. And if someone has the money to pay for this, in these equations I never know who people think are paying for this, but then that child can both medically transition and have those sperm and eggs banked, so that when they’re 20,30,40 they can choose to be biological parents. That seems to be the recommendation but I keep seeing articles about 9 year olds being started on puberty blockers, which…like 9 year olds are already at Tanner stage 2, like I know precocious puberty is a trending, troubling thing but like it seems like actually what’s happening is that kids are not even being given the chance to Tanner stage 2 before they are put on puberty blockers, which is awful.

But for the framework of this video, let’s just assume Avery is this super wise kid when it comes to her own gender identity and this super wise kid when it comes to her own future with fertility, because I see other people making those critiques and that’s not the critique I want to make. Using the framework that we are going to buy into the idea that a 9 year old knows herself very deeply on those two levels I’ll tell you what that 9 year old does not understand. That 9 year old does not understand economics and and doctor’s appointments. Ok?

When I was 30 and I believed I had a trans identity I thought that I understood what it meant to sign up for a life where you gotta get to the doctor every 6 months. I thought I totally got it. It wasn’t until I worked at that clinic that I realized that I didn’t get it at all and that it seemed that lots of members of my generation didn’t really get it until we had already gone far enough along in the process that we were in it whether we understood it or not. When you put a kid on puberty blockers and then you put them on cross sex hormones that damages their endocrine system permanently. And so what that means is that for the rest of that child’s life they will have to have a life long relationship with their endocrinologist and they will have to get to the doctor twice yearly.

That’s if there are no complications and we don’t know what complications are likely for kids who do puberty blocking and then cross sex hormones because there are none, there is not one study that follows up with these kids. That study has partly not been done because those kids haven’t gotten there yet. This generation of kids has not made it to their twenties yet. And when that first study comes out what that study is going to look like is just following up with kids in their twenties and asking them about health outcomes. So that’s a pretty experimental thing to put a kid through.

And the thing about GnRH agonists, which are what puberty blocking drugs are, they weren’t developed for kids, they were developed for adults and specifically for adult conditions where it would be helpful to have your hormonal system pretty much turned off, is that there are adults out there who really regret taking GnRH agonists. If you google “lupron” you will very quickly come to lupron victims hub which is a website run by a woman who took lupron as part of IVF therapy in the 80’s or 90’s and documents cases where people strongly suspect that taking GnRH agonists have given them long term health consequences. So these are not a class of drugs that are without controversy in adult patients.

When I was working at the clinic what I realized is that just for exogenous testosterone use doctors are not, the ideas that doctors have about the care that is appropriate for patients, are not coming from medical literature. So if you have a complication, like vaginal prolapse and it comes from, it has happened because of your testosterone use, there is medical literature on vaginal prolapse, your doctor will use that to treat you, there is not any medical literature about patients who are taking transition levels of testosterone and vaginal prolapse. So your doctor is working from medical literature that is not really about patients like you, so your doctor is kind of filling in the gaps with their own knowledge and you know it seems like a lot of doctors who do trans care feel confident about filling in those gaps just from kind of like their anecdotal experience treating trans patients. As a patient and as someone whose body I have put through some medical intervention, I don’t think that that’s good enough.

After working at that clinic I was really upset at myself for not respecting my body more in terms of demanding that the medical interventions I put it through had been found safe through research. And you know, I had the idea that my body was wrong, that it was disgusting, that it was incorrect and that it kept people from seeing the real me, and so I think on some level I just believed, I just felt like kind of a hostility towards my body and so I didn’t really care. I didn’t care if like…I didn’t care to know what the rates of ovarian cancer were, I didn’t care to know what the rates of stroke were. I think on some level I felt like my body was my enemy. But once I saw that disrespect reflected in medical professionals for the bodies of people who experience gender dysphoria than I got pissed.

If you look at the relationship between people with gender dysphoria and doctors what you’ll see through the history is that doctors are very willing to do experiments on us. And that’s very normalized for us. There’s the film “The Danish Girl” which is about a doctor doing an experiment on a trans woman, or doing a surgery that the doctor knows full well has killed other people, and going ahead and doing that on her, because I guess her desperation justified him doing a surgery he knew would kill her.

There’s a website that just recently got created out of Toronto which is to encourage primary care doctors to feel confident prescribing hormones for gender transition and I think the idea is that primary care doctors are less expensive and thus more accessible to more people and that’s why there’s this push to have them prescribing the hormones. I really think that you should go to someone who really knows the endocrine system, I think that this is specialty care and you should see an endocrinologist, but so, I think the motivation behind this website is suspect already, but it’s interesting because if you go look through what this website has about the complications from testosterone use this website says about ovarian cancer that there have been studies that have found that women whose bodies just naturally produce more testosterone have higher rates of ovarian cancer, but there have been no studies linking transition levels of testosterone and ovarian cancer, because no one’s bothered to do the study. It’s one thing to say, “hey we did a study looking at whether people who used testosterone to transition get more ovarian cancer and we didn’t see a link,” that’s one thing. It’s another thing to say there isn’t a link when no one has bothered to do the study. And it makes sense that no one has bothered to do the study because who has the incentive to do the study?

Pharmaceutical companies, they didn’t make these hormones with the idea that people would transition genders with them, this is an off-label use, and then you have this highly motivated population that wants to do the interventions regardless of cancer rates and stroke rates and prolapse rates. But I’ll tell you what when those complications are a possibility it might be worth it to you, when those complications are a reality in your life you might feel way differently about things.

And I feel really, really blessed to have gotten to work at that clinic and seen, and be given the chance to see complications and to see how very difficult to manage those complications as a patient, because if I hadn’t been given that opportunity it wouldn’t have been real to me that I didn’t actually want to be on the receiving end of medical interventions that don’t have a body of literature that tells doctors how to do this safely and how to treat complications resulting from it. I think that doctors in trans care act way more confident than they have any reason to act confident about these things. So that was the understanding I came to about my own feelings about what my body deserved, and I feel that this body that I’m in deserves medical care that is substantiated by literature, and I do feel like that is more important to me than anything about an identity that other people affirm. All that stuff is secondary to my body like getting medical care that is safe and well researched. I’m not trying to be a danish girl over here. I am not.

So if I could discover in my thirties that actually my standards of medical care that I was on the receiving end for were more important to me than having an identity affirmed, how would a 9 year old over come to that realization? How does a 9 year old, does a 9 year old understand that in the normal course of american adulthood it’s super normal for people to not be able to get to the doctor for years because they don’t have the money? Does a 9 year old understand that like, when we finally get to the point when these kids are in their twenties to do a study about health outcomes, that’s going to be the first time? That they are really like the first class of doing this experiment? I don’t know, what if that 9 year old gets to their twenties and they’re like, “oh you know what, I don’t trust doctors at all and I don’t want to see them and I really would’ve liked a life where I didn’t have to be dependent on an endocrinologist to keep living.”

This is assuming that the gender identity stays the same, it is assuming that the feelings about biological parenthood stay the same. Just because a person has gender dysphoria and just because a person is trans-identified doesn’t mean that it’s ok to try out new interventions on us. I don’t think- I think that you can clearly see in the medical system that the people who get experimented on are people who are not considered valuable. They tend to experiment on poor people, they tend to experiment on people of color, they tend to experiment on female people, and so honestly I see this push for pediatric medical transition as just another instance that shows, much like us being featured on the cover of National Geographic, how much people with gender dysphoria are really seen as not fully human. Because I don’t think that you would just do this to a kid that you really saw as a full person, who had a right to as much of an adulthood as other people get.

One of the things about being dependent on your doctor to make your endocrine system work is that it really limits your ability to travel. Because you gotta get back to your doctor every 6 months, you gotta. And when I was working at the clinic that was a thing that man, lots of people who had not come to terms with the fact that they had chosen a life that limited their ability to travel. It was really hard for people, it was really hard for people to understand that no, it’s not that simple to call in a prescription to England, it’s not that simple to tell you what clinics to go to across Europe, like, you know you signed up for a life where you gotta have consistent medical care, and generally that life is lot more sedentary and a lot more tied to making good money and making sure that you have medical access than other people’s lives.

And I got an email from someone who really wanted to transition because they really want to travel all over the world and have adventures, and they perceived that that is safer and easier for men, so they wanted to be a man. Here’s the thing, maybe that is true for cis men, maybe that is a true thing for men who came into this world with an endocrine system that when it does it’s own thing gives you a beard and gives you broad shoulders, and like, I think it’s pretty true that like if you’re that kind of person and you have that kind of body then yeah, it’s safer to travel the world. You don’t get that body when you transition, what you get is a body that has to go to the doctor all the time to give you that beard and give you the broad shoulders and the same substance that is giving you the beard and giving you the broad shoulders is also changing the chemical composition that all your organs are dealing with, and no one has done studies on how, generally, our organs react to that. And so, sure, if you’re a cis guy things might be easier in terms of world travel, being trans and world travelling don’t go together. Like, I’m not saying it’s pick one or the other, but I’m saying if you choose one the other becomes much harder. It’s not just about money and funding travel anymore, it’s about how are you going to get your blood tested, who’s gonna prescribe the hormones? And that’s the kind of logistical thing that really ends up limiting people’s lives and it’s the kind of logistical thing that adults who make these decisions don’t consider until they’re in it, so I know for sure that like a 9 year old can’t consider that stuff.

So that’s why I don’t think that people under 18 should make these decisions. I don’t think I got it at 30, I wish that everyone thinking about these decisions could go spend a half a year working at a clinic for trans people, I think that people would have a much better sense of what they were signing up for if they did that. But if we can’t do that for people then we can at least say that you gotta be a legal adult before you make these big decisions.

Ok, well that’s it, take care of yourself, take care of your kids, keep them off the cover of National Geographic, don’t, don’t do this thing where like, if you have a trans kid you put them on blast, you make it a big part of your identity that you have a trans kid. Get your own shit, do something for yourself that you can be proud of, it’s weird to like make the fact that you had a trans kid the most important thing about you, ugh, like seriously, get some self esteem. Bye.

anonymous asked:

Do you use birth control? If so, what is the most natural birth control method?

Nope! I went off the bc pill a few years ago for my health. I don’t recommend it to anyone!

I use the FAM method (and use condoms as well), which would be the most natural form of birth control as you’re not putting any exogenous hormones or anything into your body! You can also use a fertility computer :)

anonymous asked:

Trans men are men and trans women are women. Terfs like you are the reason trans people are killed in hate crimes for being themselves.

Really? And here I thought males were the ones who committed hate crimes against gender non-conforming people! How silly of me - it was clearly random women on the internet not buying into heterosexual bullshit that was the *real* hate crime all along! Everyone knows that violent heterosexual males who murder GNC males listen to radical feminists *literally all the time*.

Also, jsyk? “Being yourself” doesn’t require thousands of dollars in exogenous hormones and surgeries. If y’all were “being yourselves” you wouldn’t need to change your pronouns and go on hormones and shit to do it. (And, if dysphoric, y’all would like. Find therapy and shit that doesn’t focus on transition as cure.)

Day 78: What is Folk Magic?

What is folk magic? I’m not 78 days into this project and I’m not sure I’ve talked about this yet. For me it’s not hard to understand, but I can see where there might be a lot of confusion about the subject. “Folk magic” is commonly defined as “The practice of using charms, spells, or rituals to attempt to control natural or chance events or to influence the behavior or emotions of others.” That’s pretty broad though isn’t it? Well, yes, but that’s the point. Folk magic is often called “low magic” and separated from the more “ceremonial” types of work, at least in terms of traditional European magic. It’s the work of the common folk, passed down orally from generation to generation rather than be written down. The work of folk magic deals with everyday ills and sicknesses; blood stopping, wart curing, burn soothing, are all a part of the folk magician’s work. So often what we see with folk magic crosses paths with what some would call “witchcraft” although I’ve already talked about my stance on this term in another post. In brief, from the perspective of Ozark folk culture (and many, many other folk cultures around the world) “witchcraft”, but whatever word you choose to use, is always seen in a negative way as the use of some supernatural ability to cause harm to others. Even the term “folk magic” because of its use of “magic” would often be condemned by more traditional healers. 

So then, what is folk magic if we often can’t even use that term to define what we’re doing? For me it’s a term that’s helpful when referring to traditional practices of healing as a way of separating it from more harmful forms of “witchcraft”. It’s a way of lumping in a lot of related practices under one heading, and tells people that I am interested in and a part of a folk culture, that is a culture that has been predominately rural and isolated from what would be considered “mainstream” society.  

Folk magic is hard to define as it is common to so many different cultures around the world. It’s become a sort of catch all (much like the term shamanism) used to lump together similar folk practices without having to name them all individually. Where I see the problem with the use of this term, or the use of “folkways” or “folk culture” in general is that it is applying an exogenic term to a culture; it’s not using the names and terms the culture themselves use. Which is why you have things like “smudging” being applied across the board to lots of different traditions of smoke purification. Most of the time I just say that’s laziness, but I always try to give people a chance to do their research.
If you’re a part of a living folk culture than chances are you already know the terms your culture uses for its individual folkways, and if you’re trying to revive a folk culture than I would encourage you to always DO YOUR RESEARCH! Don’t be lazy and just blindly take the offered terms. If something makes you uncomfortable, for instance if you’re reading a book on the folk culture you’re trying to revive and you see something like, “witchcraft” or “smudging” or “totem” or “fetish” being used (these are words I see misused a lot, especially in older works) and that makes you uncomfortable, throw it out! Don’t use them because some writer or professor is using them, throw it out! If you can’t find culturally appropriate words to use than make up your own, you’re allowed to do that. Use your language and creativity when all else fails. 

Folk magic and folk culture are complicated subjects, let’s not misuse the terms as a way of lazily getting out of doing research. If you’re talking about a system of folk magic, religion or culture, than do your best to use the terms from within the culture itself. Don’t assume that because some anthropologist is using a term that they are using it correctly, always verify information with multiple sources, preferably sources that are still alive and from the culture you’re researching.

MBTI & Ideas
Introverted feeling (Fi) and authenticity

“Hauptman’s paper tells of a Mr A who refused exogenous treatment for the depression he felt consequent on the end of a romantic relationship because such treatment appeared inauthentic and despicable. 

It appeared this way because the depression felt like an apt response to the loss of the beloved.

Like Hauptman I have some sympathy with Mr A’s position. To medicate away authentic emotional reactions to the trials of living is, it seems to me, to promote a form of self-alienation and radical inauthenticity. (…)

My sadness, it could be said, is my lived body’s acknowledgement of the loss of my beloved.

My emotional reaction is the form that my understanding takes – it is the wrenching apart and readjustment of that set of living dispositions and expectations that constituted the embodied ground of that relationship. (…)

‘Moving on from’ or ‘getting over’ someone would now start to look like a mere process of devaluing through forgetting - and indeed, as Mr A suggests, there really is something despicable about such an approach to romantic relationship, whether or not facilitated by medical interventions.”

Source: Gipps, Richard GT. “Depression, sadness and authenticity.” Philosophy, Psychiatry, & Psychology 22.4 (2015): 307-308.

I’m literally gonna start screaming and throwing shit if I see one more dumbass privileged white wealthy hetero trans call elective exogenous hormones “””life saving medication””” I s2g I will fucking end someone, I have relatives who literally worry about having money and access to actually life saving medication that it will actually kill them if they do not have (to say nothing of medical procedures!!!) and seeing these fucking first world rich ass Wonderbreads call their estrogen pills “life saving treatment” they can’t live without makes me feel like breaking bones


Hi everyone, it has been a little over six months since I made my blog and to celebrate that I decided to make my first ever follow forever. The number of amazing people on this website is huge and I am lucky enough to have gotten to know some of you. Thank you all for making my days brighter and for putting up with me! I love you all ~

☆ ~ thank you for always talking to me and making me smile

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I have a really bad memory and some of you changed your URL quite a lot so if you’re not on here I’m sorry I suck, I really do love all of you okay? ~

Saque el máximo provecho con Southwest

Vamos a cortar por lo sano. ¿Cómo encontrar los mejores asientos de una aerolínea que no los asigna? Usted no consigue las primeras cinco horas y la fila? No es una buena idea, ya que está obligado a quedarse dormido de pie y luego alguien cortó delante de usted. Si usted dice, oye yo estaba en el frente de batalla. “ Que se estaba soñando ”, puede responder con la realidad es que obtener los mejores asientos es muy fácil si usted volar con Southwest Airlines y he aquí cómo. Al suroeste asigna pasajeros en cuatro secciones: las familias antes de a bordo con niños menores de siete años, o personas con necesidades especiales y las secciones A, B y C y las personas a bordo del avión en ese orden. El tiempo para comprobar que lleva la sección que usted recibe. Normalmente, las personas su entrada al llegar al aeropuerto y se le dan su propia sección, pero si usted tiene un boleto de reserva puede proteger a la medianoche hora local, la noche antes del vuelo. Ir a la página web y haga clic en Southwest Airlines ‘check-in online “en la barra de herramientas en la parte superior de la página. Puede seguir para registrarse en línea hasta una hora antes de la salida del vuelo. Asegúrese de tener su número de confirmación listo y tiene una impresora con papel para que pueda imprimir su tarjeta de embarque. Con la facturación en línea, tan pronto como sea posible, es muy probable que sea colocado en la sección A. Si usted no tiene una reserva de un pasaje se recomienda el check-in en el aeropuerto cerca de dos horas y media de anticipación si desea que la sección A. Incluso después de que se asignan a una sección, sigue compitiendo con el resto de la sección A para obtener el lugar deseado. Algunas personas les importa donde usted se sienta en un avión de un extremo y algunos pasajeros están haciendo todo lo posible para conseguir un asiento. Si quieres ser el primero o segundo en la línea de la sección A, estar dispuesto a hacer cola una hora antes de la salida del vuelo. Dado que las bolsas no se pueden dejar solos en un aeropuerto de los Estados Unidos, esto significa que no puedes tirar las bolsas en línea y luego ir por un café con leche. Usted debe ser el pie en una línea, no su equipaje. Así pues, ahora usted sabe cómo conseguir los mejores asientos en Southwest Airlines. Es ’s todo es cuestión de hacer la reserva sin pasaje y la facturación en línea a la medianoche la noche antes de la salida del vuelo. No te olvides de llegar al aeropuerto temprano y asegurar su lugar en la fila una hora antes de que el vuelo despegue. Buen viaje - volar con comodidad!

anonymous asked:

That Paragard thing was so unscientific and crap. I'm surprised that you would post it! 'Since there are no hormones there are no chemicals to interfere with your body' what is that supposed to mean? Since when is copper not a chemical and since when are hormonal contraceptives considered bad when there's medically no reason not to use them (except by hippies who don't understand what hormones are)?




You need to sit down, shut up, and listen to me. I do not like your bullshit know-it-all condescending prick attitude one bit and I do not put up with that business. Not here in the Medblrsphere.

First off. It is scientific. It was developed by scientists. It is an available FDA approved birth control option that any patient can request. It has been proven that it works. Because it’s scientific.

Second, in case the finer elements of English punctuation aren’t your strong suit, the slide in question says ’…there are no “chemicals” to interfere with the rest of your body.’ Those quotation marks are very important! Because, when most people use the word “chemicals” in this context they are NOT talking about the periodic table of elements. They are usually referring to unwanted substances that are part of foods or medicines or household cleaners or other things around them. No one is trying to say copper isn’t an elemental chemical.

Finally, yes, some people do not want hormonal contraceptives just because they don’t want to put exogenous hormones in their bodies. You know what? That’s ok! They may perfectly understand how hormones work and still decide that is not a birth control option that is right for them. You know what? That’s their business, not yours.

Feel free to unfollow me, you might find some sympathetic ears over on SDN.