I live in Japan too, but yeah, tbh, a lot of the western guys that you meet here aren’t the greatest. Blah blah not all western guys blah blah but so many that I’ve met here have been the type who came over because they found themselves being rejected at home. Like, men who are into super subservient women come over because they think Japanese women are like that and are therefore so much better than ones at home. It’s a way for them to feel empowered in relationships in a way they wouldn’t in their own home countries. My own cousin is that type and it makes me really mad. Japanese women deserve better than these douchebags whose initial attraction to them is based on thinking that they’re push overs.
Sorry, got way off topic, but yeah. Westerners (not only the guys either) that you meet here can get pretty awful. People with attitudes that would meet confrontation at home come over here and find that suddenly, no one calls them out on their bullshit. There’s plenty of decent ones, I’ve just noticed a more than average dose of assholes in my life here.