I have a feeling my latest Facebook status is going to piss off some of my relatives.
If the church and the state were two people in a relationship it would go like this:
Church & State: “Hey, we tried our best to make this work in the past (aka, before we came to this country), but it’s really best that we go our separate ways. I mean seriously, our whole relationship has been a mess from the start. So, let’s exist separately as friends and just try to get along.”
All their friends except one or two people with issues: “Oh, thank god. They were bad for each other.”
Some time goes on, and slowly Church realizes all the cool friends are hanging out with State, and they aren’t as popular as they once were. Not as many people are coming to their dinner parties.
Church: “Hey, State, I’ve been thinking about this, and I really miss you. We had some good times together. We should like try again. We should like get married again. It will be awesome!”
State: “Idk, I mean you mean a lot to me, but I think we do better as friends. I mean, I love you and all but this will just never work.”
Church: “After everything I’ve done for you, all we’ve meant to each other, all those times I supported you, I can’t believe you won’t give me another chance.”
State: “Hey look, I know you mean well, but we really want different things.”
Church: “You used to want what I want, and you will again! I’m going to MAKE you love me.”
And then State just goes on trying to be amicable for the sake of appearances, while Church gets as many of their mutual friends on it’s side as possible and everyone gets caught awkwardly caught in the middle and tries to keep their head down or feels compelled to pick sides.