So, many of you might realize that I’ve been rewatching Gilmore Girls. I’m doing this in preparation for the Netflix mini series coming in November(!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!).
Now I’ve always loved Jess. He has had a special place in my heart since the moment he appeared on my screen. But I’ve just recently realized how much I hated how Lorelai treated him. Well, almost everyone really.
I’m not saying it was right for him to grab a beer and what not (Jess definitely had his own issues he needed to work on), but for Lorelai to tell him that she knew what he was going through just makes me angry. Here’s this 17 year old boy who for his whole life has had to fend for himself. We know this to be true. His dad split not even days after he was born. His mom is a known drug user and is known to go through men that are losers who have stolen all her money. We know that Liz was kicked out of apartments and had to call Luke for help. Jess has been through a shitload of stuff in his 17 years. We know how little Jess thinks of himself. We know all this. His life has been difficult from the start. So Jess has every right to get mad.
He’s listening to Lorelai tell him how she understands when she doesn’t! She never had to worry about what she was going to eat the next day or even for the next meal. She didn’t have to worry about the new man that was sleeping with her mom. Or wonder what her mommy was doing and why the thing she was smoking smelt funny (or maybe even why she was always sticking needles in herself!). She didn’t have to worry about the rent getting paid so they wouldn’t have to sleep outside or in a shelter again. Lorelai did not have to worry about any of that. She had a family that loved her and cared for her. Yes they were overbearing and yes they didn’t understand where she was coming from. But they were there for her. She decided to leave and go out on her own at 16/17. She was the one who chose that. She had that chip on her shoulder and the screw you world attitude because she didn’t like her parents. At least she had parents.
Jess never got a chance or a choice. He had to grow thick skin fast or suffer the consequences. He had to have that screw you world persona to survive. He never had parents. He was most likely the parent. Jess finally got a sense of what it was like to have someone care about him when he came to Stars Hallow. But a lifetime (literally his whole life, with him not being good enough for either of his parents to clean up their acts and be parents) of seeing he wasn’t good enough couldn’t be erased away in a few months. Even when he was in Stars Hallow, everyone hated him except Luke and Rory. The town never gave him a chance. They never asked about his history. They never gave the benefit of the doubt.
Yet, Jess made something of himself. He got his life together. While almost everyone told him he couldn’t, he listened to the two people (and in the end the one person, Rory) that told him he could. That is the best possible reply to everyone the said he was nothing but a hoodlum or the bad kid that would lead your kids to do bad things.
I just have a lot of feelings about Jess Mariano. I will protect him down to the end of days.