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anonymous asked:

I'm starting high school next year and I'm just overall a big ball of anxiety. Any tips just in general (about gym, lockers, people, etc)?

Okay, I’m gonna tell you this now, high school will not be the best experience of your life. Still, there’s nothing to be anxious about as long as you know what to do.

You have so much better shit coming up in your life later on, that high school is gonna be a distant memory, but at the very least try to make it as enjoyable as possible, but remember that your goal is to walk out of there with a diploma. 

So here’s a few tips to make your next few years as easygoing as possible:

  • Upperclassmen are gonna be assholes to you, not much you can do about it, but there are some diamonds in the rough that you’ll come across at some point and they can give you some pretty amazing advice, so take their words to heart.
  • But still most of them are assholes, so just chill out as fresh meat, alright?
  • Also they like to pull pranks.
  • Try not to fall for them.
  • ALSO, DON’T TRY TO BE ASSHOLES TO THE UPPERCLASSMEN EITHER, THEY WILL EAT YOU.
  • Get more than one gym uniform and remember to take them home each week and wash them. You don’t want to be stinking up the locker room, trust me. 
  • Also have toiletries (deodorant, body spray, lotion) in your gym locker or in your backpack at all times. You’re gonna need them.
  • Gum is also a blessing, keep it on you.
  • Also money. Money’s always good to have. Impromptu Starbucks runs after school happen.
  • Your locker is your friend, but you also don’t need to go to it after every class, so get what you need for a few classes at a time. That time used going to your locker can be easily used for going to the bathroom or talking to a teacher. Try to keep it down to 3 visits a day, first in the morning, then around lunch time, then at the end of the day.’
  • Keep some extra clothes in your locker too, you never know what could happen. Especially a jacket.
  • Also if you menstruate, tampons and pads are good to have on you, but never be afraid to go to the nurse and ask for one. They will have some for you, no questions asked.
  • Also if you menstruate, take vitamins. You need your energy, and you lose a lot of nutrients from your cycle. Don’t worry there’s chewable ones out there.
  • ALSO PLEASE EAT BREAKFAST OR AT LEAST A BREAKFAST BAR IN THE MORNING. YOU NEED THE ENERGY.
  • And keep snacks in your backpack and a water bottle. You’re gonna want them. Or at least some change to get something from the vending machine.
  • It’s good to have some friends from middle school going up with you, that way you’re not alone when you’re starting out, but be sure to try and branch out to meet other people. Your original friend group is gonna change by the time you graduate or even by the end of your freshman year, and that’s okay. That’s just how life works.
  • Cliques exist, but there’s a lot of intersection between them, so you can actually have friends of all different creeds believe it or not.
  • Don’t get involved with drama. It’s all trivial and you got better shit to worry about.
  • And don’t go to high school parties, college parties are way better so just wait until then.
  • The dress code is bullshit, but take a look at it anyway to see what you can and cannot wear, some schools and teachers can be really harsh about it. You just gotta deal with it, but believe me, that shit doesn’t matter when you graduate and/or go to college. So just try to wear the stuff you wanna wear.
  • If you’re in a rush, a t-shirt and jeans is always a safe way to go and a universal outfit. 
  • Get to class on time, seriously, those tardies will not only piss of your teachers, but can also cause detentions, which aren’t fun. At all. You can chat with your friends later, I promise.
  • BUT IF YOU’RE LATE GOING TO SCHOOL IN GENERAL, TREAT YOURSELF TO SOME MCDONALD’S OR SOMETHING BECAUSE SCHOOL LUNCHES ARE SHITTY.
  • Be pleasant and respectful to your teachers, and they will most likely respect you back. There’s absolutely no reason to be disrespectful to the person trying to give you an education, and you’ll find that it will be to your benefit when you need college recommendations.
  • WORK IN YOUR CLASSES. I know it seems like the “cool” thing to goof off, but no please pay attention and work during class time, and if you have questions, ASK YOUR TEACHER. There’s no need to feel nervous, but if it’s more comfortable for you, talk to your teacher after class is over. They’re there to help you.
  • SERIOUSLY TALK TO YOUR TEACHERS. THEY DON’T BITE, I PROMISE.
  • Try not to miss too many classes, it adds up and your grade will suffer, so don’t do that too often. Also if you don’t miss too many classes, you don’t have to take the finals which means you get done with the year earlier, woohoo!
  • Still, it’s okay to take a day every once in a while if you need to, if you have work to catch up on or whatnot, or just need to get yourself together. Your sanity and well-being matter too, don’t forget that.
  • Take classes to challenge yourself like Honors, AP, Dual Enrollment, etc., but remember to pace yourself AND DO NOT OVERLOAD YOURSELF OR FEEL PRESSURED TO TAKE CLASSES YOU’RE NOT COMFORTABLE WITH. AS IN, DON’T TAKE AN AP MATH CLASS IF YOU’RE NOT GOOD AT MATH. Colleges don’t want to see your struggle through AP courses on your transcript, they wanna see your best.
  • Get involved with some extracurriculars your freshman year, and try to stick with something all four years, it’ll benefit you in the long run. Still, find something you enjoy, don’t do something because you feel like you have to.
  • Start driving as soon as you’re ready, but you’re gonna hate riding the bus by junior year, so also know who can give you rides in the morning.
  • DO YOUR FUCKING HOMEWORK IF IT’S REQUIRED. JUST DO IT. OR AT LEAST TRY TO. IF YOU HAVE QUESTIONS, ASK YOUR TEACHER THE NEXT DAY. JUST PLEASE DO IT.
  • AND STUDY.
  • FUCKIGN DO IT.
  • PUT ASIDE SOME OF YOUR SOCIAL LIFE FOR LATER.
  • Go to Homecoming, Prom, and other dances while in school. It’s actually a lot of fun if you’re with the right people.
  • Do NOT feel pressured to get into a relationship in high school. It’s not worth it honestly, you got your whole life ahead of you. You can focus on your love life later after you walk across that stage.
  • Still, if your interested in someone, there’s nothing wrong with having a relationship, but don’t let your priorities shatter over it.
  • Sex Ed is also bullshit, please try to do some of your own research to learn about your body, and start thinking about going to see a gynecologist after you turn 16.
  • You don’t have to have sex yet, but if you do, USE A CONDOM. 
  • AND IF HE SAYS NO, GTFO AND DUMP HIS ASS.
  • DON’T TAKE NUDES, THEY’RE ILLEGAL WHICH MEANS BIG TROUBLE. DON’T DO IT.
  • Trust your gut instinct, it’s there for a reason.
  • Football is overrated, but at least try to go to the Homecoming game each year. BUT STAY AWAY FROM THE PAINTED PEOPLE, THEY DON’T SEAL THEIR PAINT.
  • People are gonna be rude asswipes about you in some way or another because they’re immature, but trust me if you just ignore them and stay in your own friend group, you’ll be fine.
  • BUT IF YOU NEED TO TALK TO SOMEONE ABOUT YOUR FEELINGS, PLEASE TALK TO SOMEONE. DO NOT LET YOURSELF SUFFER ALONE, THAT’S THE LAST THING YOU NEED.
  • You don’t need a lot of friends, but be kind and sociable with everyone that you work with or come in contact with!
  • Lastly, don’t forget that you have an entire life ahead of you, this time is gonna be awkward and weird, hell, you’re a pubescent teen trying to understand wtf is going on with yourself while balancing the hells of high school, it’s not easy, but you’re gonna get through it and everything is gonna change for the better. Don’t let anyone try to dictate your happiness except for yourself. And have fun, believe me it’s possible.

Need any other tips? Let me know!