me: hey cats aren’t unpredictable maniacs that attack people for no reason; you’re either petting them wrong, they have behavioral issues and associate humans with things to attack, or they’re understimulated and taking out their energy in the only way they know how
yall here on tungle.piss: actually my aunt’s ex-boyfriend’s cat who was a feral his entire life and now lives in an isolated dorm room will attack your legs from under the table if you walk by and that’s why i don’t like cats
A couple weeks ago I had to say goodbye to my beloved cat of 17 years, and it was one of the worst days of my life. She was a part of me as much as my own limbs, and I knew that I would need to pay my respects to her in some kind of formal way. I wasn’t satisfied with pet release rituals I’d found online, so I created my own. I sincerely hope that no one will ever have to use this, but if you do, I hope it brings you some peace, or at least puts you on the path to getting through your grief. This ritual is in three parts, but not everyone will be able to do the first part. That’s okay. Do what you can, take parts of this and make them your own, etc. The more personal to you, the more powerful.
Part One: Keepsakes & Intent
This part of the ritual is meant to be done in the time leading up to your pets passing.
For yourself: If you have a beloved pet and you feel that their time may be coming soon, you might consider creating a salt dough mold of their paw print to keep. I’ve found that these are much more meaningful if you create it yourself while your pet is still alive (if you have the chance), rather than letting the vet make you one. If you make it yourself, you can add your intent into the dough. Kneading it can be therapeutic as well.
Recipe for Salt Dough:
1 cup flour
½ cup salt
½ cup water
1 tbs herb(s) of choice [some herbs/flowers that are good for comfort could be cinnamon, roses, or chamomile]
Preheat oven to 200 degrees.
Mix all dry ingredients first (flour, salt, herbs)
Gradually stir in water until the dough begins to form.
On a floured surface, knead dough until it is firmed up and workable. Using a rolling pin or cylindrical object, roll out your dough. Use a round cookie cutter or rounded bowl (consider the size of your pets paw when choosing a shape) , cut out as many circles of the dough as you think you’ll need.
Gently, press your pet’s paw into the dough. This may take a couple attempts until you’re satisfied with the way it looks. As you do this, think about the love your pet has given you over time, and imagine some of that love being pressed into the dough.
Bake for 2 hours, or until dough is hardened. After it cools down, you can paint it or write your pets name in Sharpie.
Keep it with you, or make it into an ornament or decoration. When you need to feel a little part of your pet’s love, hold your palm to it and remember their paw pressing into the dough, how their love is sealed into it.
For your pet: Think about your pet’s favorite things: places, toys, blankets, etc. Take some time to enchant those areas or items with some loving intent - that your pet will feel at peace and comfortable during their last days whenever they lay in their bed or sit with their toys.
Personally, I enchanted my cat’s favorite blanket, and on her last day with us, she spent the entire day resting on it, and she was still on it when she passed. I know she was comfortable and felt safe in her last few hours. Of course, the blanket was in my lap all day, which helped too. It’s important to spend as much time with your pet at the end as you possibly can - they deserve that for loving us. Even though it’s hard, it’s an important part of the entire process.
Part Two: Ritual of Release
This part of the ritual is meant to be done after your pet has passed.
Around sunset, when the light is soft, make yourself a little altar for your pet, and conduct this passing ritual. Make sure that you can be alone for a good chunk of time and you’ll be undisturbed. This is basically a small funeral for your pet, and it is meant to be extremely personal so that you can begin to grieve.
My ritual was extremely simple. You can follow what I did or create your own using what you have. To follow mine, you will need:
one tealight candle (to represent your pet’s life)
a picture of your pet (to invoke memories)
amethyst pieces (to aid in meditation & balance emotions)
one piece of tumbled rose quartz (for comfort - not required but it helps to have something to hold)
vanilla incense (attracting love, aids in memory) - or any scented incense or candle that brings you comfort
tissues (you’re gonna need them, trust me)
Place the photo of your pet in the middle of the space. On top of that, set your tealight candle. Surround the photo and candle with the amethyst pieces, like a sort of crystal grid. Play your calming music. Once you’re all set up, light your incense and then take a few deep breaths. Next, light your candle and hold your rose quartz for extra comfort if you need it.
Now you’ll take time to meditate on your pet - fond memories, what you loved about them, etc. Let yourself cry if you need to. There is no limit to this - take as long as you need to. Crying is cathartic - letting yourself feel these strong emotions will aid the grieving process. When you’re ready, you can move on to the next part.
After meditating on your pet, take some time to talk to them, as though they were still right there with you. It helps to look at their picture during this time. Tell them how much you love them, how you will never forget them, that you are sorry for what happened to them, and that you are releasing their spirit from this world - that you are letting them go. It may be helpful to recite something like this:
Dear ____________, as dust returns to dust, so now does your spirit return to the earth. May you be at peace forevermore.
Recite that as much as you need to, or keep talking to your pet, until you feel that shift of energy around you that lets you know the ritual is over. I also took a moment to thank God for putting her in my life in the first place, and for letting me keep her as long as I did.
Either let your candle burn down on its own, or blow it out yourself.
Part Three: Spell Jar for Grief
This final part is a spell jar, to aid in the process of grieving your pet. Even if you’ve done the ritual and released them, there is still a process of grief you have to go through. This spell jar is meant to make that process a little smoother, a little more bearable.
sea salt (purification, protection)
herb to represent your pet (ex: catnip for cats, cumin [represents loyalty] for dogs, etc)
rose petals (love)
something to represent death - I used black glitter
one of the amethyst chips used in the release ritual
As you place each component in the jar, think about your pet and use the following incantation:
Dear one, I must let you go, as hard as it may be. But though your spirit may be gone, I know you are always with me.
Repeat this spell as many times as you need to. Seal your jar with the wax from your ritual candle or another if you don’t have it anymore. Place by your bedside until you feel ready to move past your grieving phase (it may take a long time, but you will know when you’re ready). When you’re ready, bury the jar either near your pet’s grave if applicable or somewhere in your backyard to seal your decision to let go.
Supercat. Kara realises her feelings for Cat when Cat's beautiful ex girlfriend visits National City for a few days and she can't quite hide her jealousy
“I’m sorry, do you
have an appointment?” This isn’t the first time that Kara has had to face
down someone determined to make it into Cat’s office, but something is
different about the woman in front of her. There’s a confidence to her step, an
unconscious ease that few carry with them when facing Cat Grant.
“I’m afraid I
don’t, but Cat always said I’d be welcome to drop by,” the mystery woman
says with a smile and wink, not bothering to hide a searching glance up and
down Kara’s figure. “If I’d known she’d finally hired someone decent, I
might have stopped by sooner.”