everyday sexism

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When it comes to children’s animation creating multimillion dollar franchises in worlds of infinite imagination, surely gender equality should be a cert? Discuss.

PASS:

The Incredibles, Brave, Toy Story 3, A Bug’s Life

FAIL:

Up, WALL-E, Ratatouille, Finding Nemo, Monsters, Inc., Monsters University, Toy Story and Toy Story 2, Cars and Cars 2.

Today's disturbing experience of the patriarchy

Was that I came across at 10:30pm two prepubescent boys on scooters heading towards me as I walked home. And one said “Excuse me, he wants to know if you’re single” while scootering past. And as a grown woman I’m almost in tears for not knowing how to respond. I’m angry but full of despair. Like the world is a totally fucked up place and humans are the worst.

Σκατ维 στην πατριαρχ委α

Γιατί μου την σπάει να καθορίζουν το τι αξίζω και τι όχι ανάλογα με το πόσα πουλιά έχουν μπει στον κόλπο μου.

Γιατί όταν ντύνεται μια κοπέλα καλείται να προσέχει πιο πολύ μην θίξει την “αισθητική” κανενός παρά την άνεσή της

Γιατί όταν έχει ζέστη και φοράω σορτσάκι -συγνώμη και οι γυναίκες ζεσταίνονται επίσης- είμαι η κοπέλα που της αξίζει να βιαστεί.

Γιατί όταν πήγαν να βιάσουν μια κοπέλα στην γειτονιά μου ήταν πιο σημαντικό το τι φόραγε και ότι κατάφερε να αμυνθεί από το γεγονός ότι ένας άγνωστος την είχε κολλήσει στον τοίχο λέγοντάς “Σκάσε θα σου αρέσει”.

Γιατί ο ομοφυλόφιλος φίλος μου φοβάται να φιλήσει το αγόρι του δημόσια.

Γιατί εγώ είμαι η πουτάνα που τις αρέσει να πηδιέται με τον καθένα -και αυτό είναι κακό- και η φίλη μου είναι η αγάμητη μυξοπαρθένα -και αυτό είναι κακό επίσης.

Γιατί βαρέθηκα τα βλέμματα που μου λένε ότι είμαι ένα κομμάτι κρέας κάθε φορά φαίνεται το δέρμα μου.

Γιατί όταν μιλάω για αυτά είμαι υπερβολική και έχω νεύρα επειδή έχω περίοδο.

Γιατί θα έπρεπε να είμαι ικανοποιημένη που ψηφίζω και να αγνοώ ότι πάνω από το 50% των γυναικών στην ΕΕ έχουν υποστεί ενδοοικογενειακή βία.

Γιατί πρέπει να νιώθω τυχερή που γεννήθηκα στην ευρώπη και όχι σε κάποια “μουσουλμανική χώρα” κι ας ξέρω ότι ένα στα τρία έφηβα κορίτσια θα βιώσει σεξουαλική κακοποίηση.

Γιατί το μάκρος της φούστας μου υποτίθεται πως είναι συνώνυμο της αξίας μου.

Γιατί έχω δει ανθρώπους να ξαφνιάζονται που μια κοπέλα η οποία βάφεται και φτιάχνει τα μαλλιά της ασχολείται με την πολιτική.

Γιατί έχω ακούσει σε συνελεύσεις να λένε πως δεν πρέπει να ασχολούμαι με τον φεμινισμό γιατί το να ρίξουμε τον καπιταλισμό προέχει.

Γιατί αυτή η φράση με καταπιέζει όπως ακριβώς με καταπιέζει και ο καπιταλισμός.

Γιατί μου έχουν πει πως δεν μπορώ να ασχολούμαι με την πολιτική αν κάνω “πολύ σεξ”.

Γιατί υπάρχουν άτομα που πιστεύουν πως δεν μπορώ να είμαι μαχητική αντιφασίστρια λόγω του φύλου μου.

Γιατί όταν πήγαινα γυμνάσιο θυμάμαι να φωνάζουν “Όχι κορίτσι στο δεκαπενταμελές”.

Γιατί αυτό δεν αντιπροσωπεύει την καφρίλα κάποιων ατόμων αλλά την λογική μιας ολόκληρης κοινωνίας.

Γιατί η αμφιφυλόφιλη φίλη μου “πρέπει επιτέλους να διαλέξει”.

Γιατί τα τρανς άτομα θεωρούνται ανέκδοτο.

Γιατί στις στο b-fest (αντιεξουσιαστικό φεστιβάλ) έπαιζε ο ΛΕΞ που στα τραγούδια του λέει “ όταν η πουτάνα προκαλεί δεν φταίει ο βιαστής”.

Γιατί οι λέξεις πούστης, πουτάνα, τραβέλι είναι βρισιές.

Γιατί χρειάζεται ακόμα να αναλύω την σημασία της αυτοδιάθεσης του σώματος.

Γιατί υπάρχουν άτομα που αυτοκτόνησαν/αποπειράθηκαν να αυτοκτονήσουν επειδή δεχόντουσαν σεξιστική βία.

Γιατί  ο κολλητός μου τρώει κράξιμο επειδή δεν είναι “αρκετά άντρας”.

Γιατί το σώμα σεξουαλικοποιήται συνεχώς.

Γιατί οι bi κοπέλες αντιμετωπίζονται από τους str8 άντρες σαν sex toys.

Γιατί ξέρω πως υπάρχουν άνθρωποι που θα τα διαβάσουν την παραπάνω φράση και θα πουν “όχι από όλους του str8 άνδρες” αντί να εστιάσουν το πρόβλημα.

Γιατί κάθε φορά που μιλάω για φεμινισμό πρέπει να προσέχω μην θίξω το προνόμιο κάποιου άλλου.

Γιατί για εμένα το να είμαι ενάντια στο σύστημα σημαίνει να είμαι ενάντια σε κάθε έκφανσή του.

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The horrible way broadcasters are talking about female Olympians is a great example of everyday sexism

So far this Olympics, Katinka Hosszu broke the world record in the 400-meter individual medley. Shooter Corey Cogdell won her second bronze medal. Katie Ledecky broke her own world record in the 400-meter freestyle. The headlines write themselves, right? Well, not if you’re concerned with the real stars of these stories — men!

Images: Twitter/Chicago Tribune/Washington Post

Dear men, don’t talk at me, don’t talk over me, don’t talk down to me and don’t talk despite me. Just talk to me.
—  Jade Crimson (Youtube.com/jadedculture)
Some cat-callers just learned very early on what happens when you mess with women

I was going on a walk and there were these lads fishing, and when I walked past them the first time they were shouting stuff at me but I had my headphones in so couldn’t tell what it was, only that it definitely wasn’t pleasant.

Anyway I had a great walk but when I came back in this really good mood and walked past the same spot I heard the same lad who seemed to be like the boss of his mates shout “hey gorgeous” at me.

Bearing in mind that these kids looked about thirteen, fourteen at a push. And there was only about two of them on my side of the canal. This was pretty much the only time that I was ever going to be cat called in a situation where I didn’t have to genuinely fear for my safety. So naturally I took my opportunity…

I turned round to this one kid, and beamed at him. This big, angelic, sunshine and rainbows smile that I held for about three seconds. And he kind of sheepishly grinned back at me as if he thought he’d somehow seduced me with his charming words. And I leaned down just a little bit to be as condescending as I possibly could and went “do you think that ever actually works on anybody?”

Of course he got all defensive and his voice got deeper and he was like “yeah” scoffing at his mates and I had this whole routine prepared but then something better happened - the little bastard’s fishing wire got wrapped around my foot. His mates all stared laughing

“Arrr now you’re going to have to bend down to take it off”

So I just smiled sweetly and said “or, OR, I *could* just walk away :))))” and I turned right around and with about three strides of my best heeled boots I fucking snapped the bastard’s fishing rod. I turned the corner just in time to hear their cries of anger and dismay disappear behind me.

So now those lads are going to grow up with a subconscious ingrained fear that if you cat-call an angry woman, you get your fucking ‘rod’ snapped 🔪🍆

Women should be able to show emotions without being reduced to racist and sexist stereotypes.
—  Jade Crimson (youtube.com/jadedculture)

TW: men being assholes, ish verbal harassment, vague references to past abuse.

 An open letter to the men who purposefully screamed at me through their car window while I was walking home alone at around 1.15AM tonight, proceeded to watch me jump and scream, and then speed off while laughing:

Fuck. You. 

Fuck you so much for doing that to me and reducing me to cowering behind the lamp post a few feet in front of me. Fuck you for making me want to hide behind a piece of steel so I couldn’t be seen by any more of the other cars driving down the road so they wouldn’t do the same thing.

Fuck you for being the cause of me to hyperventilate in an empty residential street about ten minutes walk from my house. Fuck you for making me feel like that walk was an eternity away.

Fuck you for making me scared of the other two middle aged men walking behind me. Fuck you for putting me in the mental place that I perceived two pretty normal/sober(ish) looking men to be a potential threat.

Fuck you for the rawness that is my throat now from gasping in air badly like a fish out of water for the next forty minutes after you had your thirty seconds of fun and drove away.

Fuck you for the way I couldn’t control my fingers and hands as they were shaking trying to scroll through my phone contacts. Fuck you for the way I shook as I tried to jam my keys into my front door lock. Fuck you for the way that I ran down my front path because I suddenly had the idea that something could rip me away from safety when I was so close.

 Fuck you for making me afraid to open my bedroom door even though that is the most irrational thing because obviously, obviously, no-one was going to be in my bedroom. Fuck you for making me remember the time in my life when I definitely wasn’t safe in my bedroom. Fuck you for making me remember him. Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you.

Fuck you for making me cry. Fuck you for making me think he was right when he told me I couldn’t make it ‘in the real world’ for a justification for everything he did to me.

 Fuck you scaring me.

 Fuck you for reminding me.

Fuck you for laughing at me.

Fuck you for hurting me.

Fuck you, fuck you, fuck you

Sexist Reactions To When A Women Rejects a Man’s Advances

Random Guy at Bar: Wanna come back to my place?

Response One:
You: sorry, I’m not interested
Them: Come on Babbbby, I can change your mind 

Response Two:
You: Sorry, I have a girlfriend
Them: Maybe we can have a three way?

Response Three:
You: Sorry, you’re not my type
Them: Bitch

Response Four:
You: No thanks, maybe we can exchange numbers though?
Them: C’mon, you’ve been flirting with me all night, don’t be such a tease 

Response Five:
You: No thank you, I’m asexual. But maybe we can get coffee sometime?
Them: You’re only asexual because you haven’t met the right guy *winks*

Response Six:
You: Sorry, I have a boyfriend
Them: Okay, sorry for bothering you.

Because men respect the fact that another man is dating you more then they respect a women’s right to say no or to have a sexual orientation that isn’t straight. 

 youtube.com/jadedculture 

Because I'm a girl.

Because I’m a girl if I go out with my friends and I don’t text someone back everyone assumes that something bad has happened.
Because I’m a girl if my phone dies and I can’t reply to someone there is suddenly a search party under the impression that I have been abducted.
Because I’m a girl if I take charge of the situation I’m a bitch not a leader.
Because I’m a girl I can act as mature as possible and I’ll still be treated like a child, being asked to check in and constantly share my location.
Because I’m a girl every man that approaches me when I am alone is immediately perceived as a threat to my safety.
Because I’m a girl if I hook up with someone I’m a whore, not someone trying to find companionship.
Because I’m a girl people don’t respect me when I ask them to do things because I don’t have a physical advantage.
Because I’m a girl when people want me to do something and I say no they overpower me physically.
Because I’m a girl I can’t wear the clothes I want without being told “I’m asking for it.”
Because I’m a girl I get sexually harassed, and instead of someone saying sorry, like they should, they ask me what I did to deserve it.

Because I’m a girl I am forced to follow a dress code that is built on the principle that boys should not be distracted in school Because I’m a girl more than half the worlds extremist religions regard me as nothing but a child bearer

Because I’m a girl I’m constantly reminded that society views me as less.

I appreciated this point about prioritizing the social model of disability, over the medical model, which Laura Bates explains in Everyday Sexism:

Medical Model of Disability: “…a person is disabled by their impairment (i.e. mental-health issue prevents them from getting a job, or a physical impairment restricts their ability to access certain venues)…”

Social Model of Disability: “…it is not the impairment in itself but the lack of accessibility created by our [ableist] society that makes a person disabled (i.e. our stigma around mental health issues prevents that person from getting a job, or a lack of adequate measures to make a venue fully accessible prevents certain people being able to enter).”

two guys catcalled laurenular and I in the street earlier

5 minutes later we ended up driving past them

naturally, wound the window down and whooped and hollered at them as we passed

I have NEVER seen two teenage boys more confused and offended in my life

amazing