I am a blonde Goth and other Goths I know tease me because of that. My parents won´t let me dye my hair so I´m stuck like this and I don´t know what to do. It makes me feel like a poseur.
Oh gosh, I’m sorry it has taken me so long to reply to this.
I understand where you’re coming from, since I spent multiple years as a brown-haired goth and I won’t be able to afford to upkeep the purple very long, so eventually I will be back to my natural hair. As sad as it is, there will always be those who will make fun of us who don’t fit the stereotype, but the important thing to remember is that they’re wrong. Your hair colour has nothing to do with your ability to enjoy goth music or anything in the scene, and having blonde hair doesn’t make you a poseur. Loads of the original goths in the 80s rocked natural hair, including blonde and many of them chose to have that colour as well! It can’t be denied that as far as fashion goes we are inclined to all things black, but the “all-black-everything-is-a-must-for-a-goth” stereotype is not a part of the original concept and you should not feel or be made to feel bad for not following it.
We’re all different but we still stick together and that’s what makes the subculture great! And maybe in a few years you’ll be able to start expressing yourself through things like dyeing your hair but in the meantime try to find those small things that make you feel more comfortable with yourself. Even a new, more alternative haircut might help or finding a really cool hair accessory. You could also try to compromise with your parents and ask them if it would be okay to try out a hair dye that washes out in a few weeks and doesn’t require any bleaching so no permanent damage is done. (There are loads of brands and loads of colours to choose from: Manic Panic, Directions, Stargazer, Arctic Fox, Schwarzkopf… Just look up anything that’s semi-permanent.)
Hopefully things will look up for you soon! Remember that any gother-than-thou people who tease you because of your hair are in the wrong doing that and you are not a poseur for being blonde!