I’m not attracted to women because they align with stereotypical gender roles and femininity. I happen to have a preference for butch women and don’t date women who embody expectations of femininity - *gasp* am I still lesbian??? If anything, my feminism is about breaking free of gender roles, which position women as subordinate to men. This is a complete reversal of feminism, is a regressive and Eurocentric discourse based on upholding gender essentialism and a fantasy of lesbian sexuality.

Gender roles for women under patriarchy subordinate women and they demand women be tied in a submissive, heterosexual relationship with men! To be a woman in this system is to be heterosexual, gender roles and femininity upholds heterosexism. Lesbian woman are also denied womanhood and violently policed - especially butch black women - because we subvert [undermine the power and authority of/destabilise] expectations of what it is to be a woman based on femininity.

Furthermore, gender + white supremacy + colourism upholds European features, forms, beauty as the ideal expression of femininity and black women have been denied womahood on the basis of our race. Outside of the West (darker-skinned) African women are still characterised by how we don’t live-up to light skin, straight hair and other Ethnocentric and Northern ideals of femininity. Diverse cultural codes of dress as far expectations for women don’t align globally, so my lesbian sexuality would depend on what you mean exactly by appearing feminine, but it simply does not. Outside of the West, gender and femininity in relation to socio-cultural gender roles, are also used to remind African women of ‘our place’ and say we must remain subordinate to men.

I don’t align with gender, I am attracted to humxn, female people who are not feminine. I don’t date femininity, I don’t date gender roles, I date women. Lesbians date women, whether we align with femininity or not.

The Guarani have no term for the word nature, because that term implies a division between beings. We divide living beings into thinking and non-thinking. In this logic, nature is that which we can use in service to a thinking being. This in a certain way governs our society and tells us we are beings superior to nature, that we are endowed with intelligence and soul to dominate it. In theology, this served as one of the creation narratives, which says to the human being: “Dominate the earth.” For the indigenous peoples, this relationship does not exist.
Let's all take a moment to appreciate Rhea
  • Apollo:How could we not know about this? We are gods!
  • Rhea:Apollo, Grandson, beautiful child...has being a god ever stopped someone from being stupid?
  • Apollo:...They can't all be immortal?
  • Rhea:They live in human memory, man. That's what keeps them alive. Same as us, really. They're tied to the course of Western civilization, even though the whole concept is imperialist Eurocentric propaganda, man.

i stalked a skinny white guy and now my internalized racism is showing i hate my nose and my curlyhair and i hate my dark eyes and i hate being chubby and i will neverlook manly enough i look bad however i present and honeslty i want to die i wish i didnt hate my appearence im tired of hating how i look bc stupid ass eurocentric beauty standards my english is bad leave me alone

also some white kid asked if i stuck a fork in an outlet when i wore my hair out and i wanted to punch him in his fucking face. my hair fucking grows out of my scalp like that… sorry i don’t have the same hair texture as white people but i am black in case you didn’t fucking notice. sorry my hair isn’t straight and flat and whatever. i love my afro so fuck him and his eurocentric standards for what my natural hair should look like.


Why are we forced to conform to societal norms that do not benefit us directly?
feeling like your skin tone defines who you are because thats what we have been taught
that “redbones” are more appealing or you know, “lightskin is the right skin.” Witnessing all this just irks me as a young lady, as it makes me ruminate on the possibility of our next generation of dark skins feeling condemned.

People give off the impression that being black is bad enough, and being dark skinned is just a disgusting reminder of it. It is a pity we live in such a society, where some of our fellow black people would even denounce their darker skinned folks, in order to live in their comfort of meeting a Eurocentric beauty standard. Love yourself my dark skin sisters, you are made of sweet honey and golden fairy dust. Now I say sisters because some dark skinned men are the ones fueling this misconception, as they have a “preference” for lighter skinned or white girls. It is just sad because this conveys the strong inferiority complex they possess, as they themselves demonstrate internalized racism.

I feel like black people are not unified in various ways, that’s probably why movements such as Feminism would not work as well for black women, as they do not have the full support of black men who are focused on the ‘more classy’ white or mixed race women. Personally speaking, I have had a few African-Americans and black people talk to me in a degrading manner, as though being African was some insult. Like my darker skin was some joke to be made fun of. It is saddening, because in the eyes of many we are still seen as black, regardless of where I am from or where they are from. No matter the labels we impose on ourselves, our oppressors would still look at us the same. Your explanation of mixed heritage would be simply irrelevant to their perception of you.

In conclusion, demonstrating such negative behavior towards each other, whether it be a joke or not only sets us further away from our goal, and the earlier we address this issue the more progress we shall make.

- Nicole Poku

Brazilian academic books and articles are so eurocentrics, so colonialists, so generalists, so tendentious, so intentionally biased, so racists against Indigenous peoples that it is almost impossible to read them: without appearing whip scars on the back; without hair loss; without taking a horrible Iberian baptized last name; and without vomiting a crucifix.

Female Korean-American Teenager

Hi, I’m Caroline, and as the title states, I’m a female Korean-American teen currently living in a town that’s 80% white. The majority of East Asians living here are Japanese, and over the years, there have been a few sprinklings of new Korean or Chinese families moving in. For the most part, however, my family was the only Korean family in town when we first came here. This heavily impacted my childhood - made me ashamed of my culture and ethnicity - and of course, the racism that I constantly faced from classmates, parents, teachers, and sometimes even friends, was exhausting. 

It means so much to me to see Korean-American characters - or any person of color, really - be represented in today’s books, TV shows, movies, etc. For once, I’d like to see fully-fleshed out, complex characters who are people of color - not just the 2D stereotypes that too many forms of media put them out to be. So if a few more writers out there become less ignorant due to this post, I’ll be forever grateful. 

So. Let’s do this thing!

Beauty Standards 

Most East Asians represented in today’s media have extremely straight, practically black hair. And while it’s true that straight, black hair is the most common trait regarding hair amongst Koreans, there are (*gasp*) a few of us with curly hair, too. (Moi.) To the Koreans I knew, anyways, my hair was always an object of envy. I’d frequently be asked if I got the perm, and whenever I said I had naturally curly hair, there’d be a lot of “oh, how lucky"s going around. That made me feel pretty special, only it’d last for a short while before the reality of living in a mostly-white neighborhood kicked in, where my curly hair was usually made fun of. (Usually saying that Asians don’t have curly hair. Whatever. On the whole scale of racist comments I’ve been sent, the one about my hair is the least bothersome. When I was a kid, it bothered me a lot, though, and I think to some extent, it still bothers me at least a teeny bit - I actually started to straighten my hair when I went into eighth grade. Yup, give me the Hypocrite of the Year Award. I still need some adjustments.) 

Amongst Koreans, there’s also a lot of emphasis on having a small face, long and skinny legs, a fairly short torso…essentially, Koreans thrive for the typical European figure. Koreans, however, have pretty round faces, short and stalky legs, and long torsos for the most part. (With the exception of a few - and of course, the option for plastic surgery is always out there. I shit you not, almost every Korean woman I know have at least either (a) known someone who went through plastic surgery or (b) have been in plastic surgery myself. It’s a big deal in South Korea. My grandma had surgery done to her eyes twice, my mom’s friend had surgery done to her nose and her eyes, and my aunt’s brother is actually a plastic surgeon who does operations a number of times a day.) 


Growing up, I wore the typical American clothing - except for on special occasions, like my first birthday or New Year’s. On those days, I’d wear a hanbok, which is a traditional Korean gown with lots of colors and embroidery. The men would wear traditional clothing as well, and it’s customary for Koreans to wear these especially on New Year’s. Now, since my brothers and I have outgrown our hanboks, we just stick to American clothes on New Year’s. 

Daily Struggles 

Though I tell all my white friends and classmates that my first language is English, my first language was actually Korean. I don’t say that my first language is Korean anymore because firstly, I don’t want people to think of me as someone who only speaks Korean and secondly, I don’t know how to speak Korean anymore. It’s sad, really, because I can understand Korean much better than my siblings and my cousins, and there are moments when I can almost remember a phrase, but as of now, speaking the language is an extreme difficulty and embarrassment to me, especially when I’m surrounded by elders. (And usually, the only things I can say to them are ‘hello’ and ‘thank you’ and ‘goodbye’.) It’s frustrating to speak to older Koreans and know exactly what they’re saying but only being able to respond in English. 

That being said, growing up, I often had to translate - more specifically, re-translate - for my mother, who didn’t know English at all when I was a child. She used to feel incredibly lonely for it, and often times, she’d feel frustrated and cry about how all of the white mothers acted like she was an idiot for not knowing English. As an extreme social butterfly, this really hurt my mother, and it hurt her even more when her own children were starting to distance themselves because of the language barrier. I remember having to sit with my mother on the couch and help her learn English - and it was, to be honest, one of the saddest experiences I’ve ever had to go through. She’d grow frustrated with herself, and she’d hate every bit of it, I could tell, but she kept going because she wanted to be there for her kids. (She eventually got her American citizenship, too, but by doing so, she had to give up her Korean citizenship. Most East Asian countries don’t allow dual citizenships.) And though I don’t speak Korean anymore, I actually continue to re-translate things for my mother - in other words, I just have to simplify the English a little bit to get her to understand what someone else is saying. (This method works for anyone else who is struggling with English. Simplify the words, that’s all - but don’t treat the person with disrespect.) 

And, of course, there’s the very exhausting series of questions that come with being Korean. The most annoying and frustrating are (but not limited to) - 

  • “Oh, so are you South Korean or North Korean?” (Bruh. If I was North Korean, there’s a VERY slim chance I’d be in America right now. I’d still be stuck in North Korea, wouldn’t I?) 
  • “But what’s your nationality?” (American.) “No, I mean your REAL nationality.“ 
  • “What are you? Japanese? Chinese? Vietnamese?” (For some reason, NO ONE GUESSES KOREAN.) 
  • “Wow, your English is great!” (???) 
  • “English is your best subject? Wait, then what about math?” (…) 
  • “I bet you’re super smart!” (…I study hard, yeah, but that has nothing to do with the fact that I’m Korean.) 
  • “Oh, my God, Koreans are SO hot.” (Ew. Times a thousand.) 

Dating and Relationships 

My parents are pretty strict about my nonexistent love life. If my dad had it his way, I wouldn’t be allowed to date until I’m out of college. But for real talk, my mom’s actually the one who’s much pickier on who I date. She told me since I was a kid that it’d be best for me to date (and marry) another Korean-American. She means this out of the goodness of her heart - mostly that she wants me to marry someone who I can connect with culturally. (“Regular Koreans will be too grounded into Korea. You need someone with similar experiences.”) My dad just doesn’t want me to date anyone Japanese - and while I find this wrong, it’s mostly due to the bad blood between Korea and Japan. (World War II, the Korean War, comfort women, etc.) 

And because of this prejudice against Japanese people, my dad always found it difficult to accept that I had a few Japanese friends. He often wanted me to stray away from other Eastern-Asians in general, American or not. (Unless, of course, it was for dating/marrying.) This was because he didn’t want me to become a part of “THAT Asian group”, which, let me just say, is pretty sad, because when there’s a group of white kids hanging around, no one finds it strange. When there’s a big group of x friends of x race, it’s suddenly SUCH an odd sight. 


This is where I try to restrain myself for real. 

The most common foods you’ll find at a Korean dinner table are rice, kimchi (which is basically spicy pickled cabbage - lots of Koreans eat it, but I personally never did. And I still don’t. Oops), kim (pronounced keem - basically roasted and dried, slightly salted seaweed strips. Which are really good), along with a number of side-dishes and maybe one big, main dish. (Mostly meat.) 

Favorite Korean dishes include

  • seolleongtang, a lightly salted broth with oxtail meat, or sometimes some other kind of meat. There’s usually a sprinkling of scallions, and rice or noodles can be served inside. 
  • kalbi, the famous Korean BBQ. Just imagine meat being prepared directly in front of you served with veggies. Delicious, but be warned - your burps will stink - and I mean stink - afterwards. Its variant, kalbi jim, are slow-cooked short ribs served often with Korean-style steamed potatoes and carrots. Just as good. 
  • tangsuyuk, sweet and sour (mostly sweet, I think, anyways,) pork. The pork is covered with a batter that is fried and then typically dunked in sweet sauce. Some people like to have the sauce on the side so they can dip it in - and still save the crunch. It’s a personal preference. 
  • buchimgae, otherwise known as Kimchi Pancakes. Korean pancakes are not your typical breakfast pancakes. They’re made in a pan, like regular breakfast pancakes, but inside, there’s an assortment of seafood, veggies, and in this version, kimchi. (There are spicy and non-spicy versions). 
  • tteokbokki, spicy rice cakes. Very chewy and again, pretty spicy. 

Favorite Korean sweets/desserts/snacks include 

  • tteok, sweet rice cakes. There are many different kinds of rice cake, usually with flavors of classical red bean or green tea. The favorite of many children is the classical rainbow tteok, where the rice cakes are dyed with strips of green, pink, and yellow. The flavor of plain tteok is actually not too sweet, but it’s still a very classic, very traditional and cultural Korean dessert that cannot be skipped over. 
  • yakbap, a very special type of sweet rice cake all on its own. This is a favorite amongst many, and the rice is prepared in a way that it’s sticky and brown. Pine nuts, chestnuts, and jujubes as well as raisins are mixed in. 
  • patbingsu, a frozen dessert. Think of an evolved form of shave ice with toppings like red bean paste, nuts, and fruit. Extremely popular in South Korea, not to mention one of its most iconic desserts. 
  • saeoosnek, shrimp-flavored crackers. Again, a very popular snack that’s exactly what it sounds like. Crackers. With. Shrimp. Flavoring. 
  • choco pie, a popular chocolate-marshmallow cake that looks similar to America’s moon pie. Extremely popular amongst children. 


In my family, we never celebrated the direct Korean celebrations, but we always celebrated the Korean New Year the traditional way. Again, usually dressed in hanbok, children (and parents) would bow down to the oldest members of the family and pay their respects with a traditional phrase. They also have to perform a special bow three times while saying this phrase. (There are two different bows - one for men, one for women.) Once doing so, the elder usually gives a blessing to the family members and presents them with an envelope of money, very similar to the traditional Chinese red envelope they receive on their New Year’s celebration. 

Another traditional Korean celebration my family - and many other Korean families, I’m sure - celebrate is the 100 Days birthday. 

A brief history lesson - back when Korea was suffering due to the economy failing, it was a rare occurrence to ever see a child live past one hundred days. Once one hundred days had passed, then the family would rejoice and throw a large celebration, inviting friends, extended family members. There’d be lots of food and laughter and different rituals all dedicated to the child. Now, of course, Korea’s economic situation is not the same as it was back then, but we still hold these celebrations for tradition and cultural reasons. 

One of the most important rituals in the 100 Days birthday is sitting the baby down in front of a variety of items - usually a coin, a pen, a length of twine, a book, food, and sometimes other variants of those items. If the child picks up a coin, then it is to be predicted that this child will live a wealthy life. If the child picks up a pen or a book, then it is to be predicted that this child will grow to become a scholar. If the child picks up food, then it is to be predicted that this child will never go hungry. If the child picks up the length of twine (or sometimes string or a spool of thread), then it is to be predicted that this child will live a long life. Some families believe in this, others don’t, but either way, this ritual is performed because hey, tradition! (And besides, it makes for pretty cute pictures.) 

Home/Family Life 

Korean families and Korean home-life, I feel, will always have a different atmosphere from white families. Most Korean parents are very reserved when it comes to public displays of affection for their children, though like all families, this can vary. Independence and learning how to grow an outer shell is very important to the Korean lifestyle. This doesn’t mean that Korean parents don’t love their children - of course they do, and again, all Korean families work differently. However, this pattern and discipline is a common thing to find in most Korean families. 

There’s a certain emphasis on studying - and no, not all Korean parents are super strict about grades and threaten to beat their children if they get a B on a report card. (At least, my parents didn’t.) However, education is still considered a top priority. Studying is encouraged, and most Korean parents want to see their children secure a good job (ie doctor, lawyer, engineer, etc). Most of the time, Korean parents just want to see their children live a secured life. That’s it. At least, with my parents, everything they ever taught me or told me had something to do with me learning to survive when I become older. I used to resent this when I was a kid, but now that I’ve grown more mature, I actually find myself appreciating everything my parents have ever taught me. 

Another note - when a Korean woman marries, she is cut off from her birth family and is considered to only be a part of her husband’s family. This limits her visits to her own birth family - and though this was a common thing before, I believe many Korean families don’t operate the same way anymore. (Some traditions last longer than others.) 

Elders are respected. Period. Even if s/he’s getting on your nerves, you ALWAYS RESPECT THE ELDERS. 

Shoes are taken off before entering a house. No exceptions to this rule. If you wanna impress your Korean friend, take off your damn shoes. This will be appreciated. 

Things I’d like to see less of. 

  • people thinking that “all Koreans get hot when they’re older”. (FETISHIZATION IS A BIG NO-NO.)
  • Koreans being seen as submissive and docile creatures. (Note how I said creatures and not humans. Because that’s how some people treat Koreans and other East Asians. Like we’re creatures, rather than actual human beings.) 
  • Koreans being seen as kickass ninjas. (It’s either docile creatures or kickass ninjas. There’s never a line between the two, and it’s exhausting.) 
  • “Koreans are so romantic!” (Sorry, that’s the K-drama binge talking. If anything, Koreans are pretty reserved when it comes to PDA and again, affection in general. Of course, I can’t speak for all Koreans, but at least with my family, PDA was always kept to a minimum. Usually a quick peck on the lips, kisses on the cheek, hand-holding, etc. Never an actual full kiss in public. Forget about make-out sessions.) 
  • Stone-cold Koreans. (Again, there’s either the romantic Korean or the Terminator Korean. Never an in-between. Yes, keep in mind that due to cultural reasons, Koreans don’t typically display affection. THAT DOES NOT MEAN THAT WE DON’T DISPLAY EMOTIONS.) 
  • Straight-A Koreans. Typically good at math and science. (While yes, many East Asian countries and families put emphasis on these subjects, not all Koreans happen to be extreme nerds who cry at a B on a report card. Example A - I happen to stink at math. And I know many other Asian-Americans who also stink at math. So.) 
  • Assuming Korean parents are abusive. (While there are many abusive Korean parents out there, people need to stop assuming that right off the bat. Stop. It’s extremely disrespectful, not to mention just wrong?!) 

Things i’d like to see more of. 

  • complex, well-rounded Korean characters. (Give me a Korean character who hates math but still tries to do well in class. Give me a Korean character who’s bisexual and surrounded by loving family members. Give me a Korean character who likes roller-skating and getting high in the bathroom stalls and sings Jackson 5 all day. Give me a Korean character who goes out to be homecoming queen and buffs her nails while fighting demons. Give me a Korean character who cries, laughs, talks, breathes, LIVES like an actual human being, and you’ll get the respect of hundreds - maybe thousands - of readers and viewers who’ve been waiting for so long to be properly represented.) 
Queer theory colonises

I use to rock with queer theory, especially since some African, black women were/are attempting to decolonise it but I personally don’t think this is possible. Brenda Cossman does a great job in meeting queer theory with feminism & de-colonial discourse but I don’t think queer theory can be saved. Queer theory comes out of the centre of European academia. And you know what? I happily engage in robust debate around these issues, with my peers.

As far as queer theory, I see knowledge & opinion still flowing from the West & North to the East & South (see ‘cis privilege’). Queer theory originated in Western, Euro-American discourse. It is uplifted by all people, regardless of race, because we are all still mistaken that Westerners are the arbiters of revolutionary knowledge. West goes beyond white skin, it is also specific epistemologies (knowledge systems) & ontologies (nature of being).

Third gender identities, which is how it has for centuries been described & understood in many societies outside of European societies & the European continent, is not simply a synonym for transgender or transsexual. Transgender & transsexual are contemporary cultural understandings, ‘cis’ as an idea as far as gender, is a European (male), cultural perspective. Two spirit, Hijra, Third gender=/=transgender or transsexual, don’t Euro-wash other cultures & understandings.

Women in the Global South can’t opt out or identify out of our oppressions, our oppressions are based on our materiality - brown skin, female bodies - & we sit on the labour & raw material side of the international division of labour. Women in the East & South represent some of the most oppressed groups & sit at the bottom of the barrel. The idea that women benefit from being women, that there is some benefit because we don’t 'identify outside of our sex’ is the biggest load of white, male-centric nonsense I have ever heard. That there are African feminist women who agree with this, constantly astounds me.

The idea of some sort of privilege women have because we don’t 'identify outside of our sex’ was obviously created by someone who has zero clue of the vast struggles women face because of our sex, sexual orientation, race, class, mental health issues, disabilities et cetera & who has a very narrow understanding & view of gender. You have to be incredibly naive of or just not care about the struggles faced by those of us born into the humxn, female sex, to think there is 'cis privilege’ in not 'identifying outside of’ being a girl or woman as in, some privilege in being marked as a second-class humxn from birth, because you are female.

Whoever first thought that gender inherently positions trans male people (transwomen) across the board as more oppressed on the basis of sex & gender, has in no way understood nor considered how gender hurts humxn, female people. Note that female is materiality, like skin colour & genetics is materiality & gendered & racial heirarchies are social constructs - my perspective.

I’ve read many examples of 'cis privilege’ articles - you have to be purposefully naive & coming from a middle-class, non-immigrant, Eurocentric pov, to think those issues don’t affect women, & are something we identify into as a class.

You’re going tell me African lesbian women as a class, have 'cis privilege’ over European-American trans male people (transwoman) as a class - get. out. Furthermore, 'cis’ used within gender discourse (a European idea) is used within a specific framework of understanding & viewing gender - it is one cultural & epistemological pov, an idea, an ideology. No, I do not agree with your views regarding sex & gender.

I desire no allyship to your sexist erasure & positioning of women as privileged within this system of oppression that is gender. I don’t identify with the same side of the construction of woman in a genderered system which is to be feminine (femininity is far more than aesthetic, it is the expectation of women to be submissive to men), compulsory heterosexuality, to be the sexual property of men et cetera. I don’t have a gender, gender is imposed on me.

Since gender is a construct, there can be no natural or 'normal’ gendered ways of being, just repetitions made into social law. 'Cis’ is not a problem because it others people in relation to how trans people are othered; I’m a homosexual African woman, I’m already othered in multiple ways. 'Cisgender’ is a problem because it discards the vast debates feminist women have BEEN having regarding sex & gender. It is a problem because it displaces gender & it’s heirarchies as a system of oppression & solely locates it as a mode of (self) identification. 'Cis’ naturalises & upholds heterosexual-patriarchal views of gender yet gender oppresses women. 'Cis’ requires some 'aligning with gender’ in order to make any sense, but for humxn female people to align with gender, is to maintain the system which oppresses us as a class. Gender essentialism is required in order to be able to construct a cis-trans binary view of gender. Femininity=/=womanhood.

Black women are inherently denied womanhood because of our race, lesbians because of our sexual orientation. Systems of gender position 'woman’ as heterosexualy tied in a submissive relationship to 'man’. Ideal womahood denies blackness, declares the ideal woman is more aesthetically based in Northern, European ideals of beauty & constructs black women as hyper-sexual.

As far as trans people’s pain & oppressions, who is being horrifically murdered? Black & Latina trans people. Yet there’s white, male phallocentrism at the centre of transgender discourse, I’m supposed to act like I don’t see it? If trans means not conforming to sex stereotypes, there are so many ways to understand & unpack this as far as gender. There are spiritual experiences & points of view regarding being third gender. If trans means someone who is dysphoric, there is much to be discussed as far as the European, medical model. Given the history of how European 'medical’ (cultural) points of view have pathologised everyone who is not white, male, & heterosexual & doesn’t in some way align with sex stereotypes, the European medical model leaves much to be desired.

White male trans people (transwomen) weaponise deaths of black & Latina trans people. Black trans people, I’m not aligning with this homophobic, sexist, anti-female person, Eurocentric mess.

If I didn’t have a black trans female friend (transman) & intersex trans friend who I’d seen debate & disagree with American queer theorists upon my 1st experience of “lesbian is not female-female vulva sexed materiality,” (before penises are female took over) I likely would not have had one of my first “this is bs” moments. If I didn’t come across trans people who reject dominant, trans discourse, it might have taken me longer to reject this discourse. I’m not rejecting the people who are characterised through this discourse, whose vast modes of being subvert expectations of gender based on one’s sex & who suffer from dysphoria.

No African woman (no woman) has 'cis privilege’ you cannot opt into & out of oppressions based on materiality - sex is materiality. Oppression is not a opt into & out of. Gender oppresses African women from birth, it is a system of heterosexual-patriarchal dominance. It imposes restrictive (Northern & European ideals of ) femininity onto girls & women, a femininity designed to service heterosexual, male desires, limit women & position us as submissive & subordinate to men’s masculinity.

Gender is a hierarchy, hegemonic masculinity & femininity heirarchies are constructed via gender. Gender is founded on a patriarchal male>female system of oppression. Yes, power’s also situational & relational (hence hegemonic masculinity & femininity) but this doesn’t disappear superstructures & you can’t just identify out of privileges & oppressions.

To say that male anatomy is female (a penis is female) is just another act of patriarchy which denies & obscures how we are oppressed, oppressed because we do NOT have penises (not because we are feminine), because we are not male. Femininity is used TO construct women’s subordination.

There are issues globally & in different societal contexts affecting people born into the humxn, female sex class (intersex girls & women too) in *specific ways, because of our materiality. No ID will spare all humxn, female people unwanted pregnancy & being denied access to abortions. A male person within a particular societal context, will not be kicked out of their home every time they menstruate.

Also, don’t appropriate intersex people!

Of course male people face gross oppressions too.

However, there are very specific, female oppressions we face because of our materiality. You don’t get to erase centuries of our lives, experiences, stories, love, pain & oppressions because you feel a certain way & suffer in a certain way.

Are you even going to factor in feminists like Oyewumi saying Gender is a Western invension (I agree & disagree with her, life & history of North meets South is not so black & white)? Feminists like Bakare-Yusuf who critique her work & map out various perspectives regarding African feminisms, sex & gender? You can’t impose LGBTQ across different contexts.

There are complex, diverse debates & layered views of feminist women across the world’s second largest continent, alone. How you can declare there’s no debate is beyond me! African feminist women have been debating gender for a long time & we are just getting started, you don’t get to declare your knowledge as the most valid & reliable. African feminist women have been debating the idea of 'woman’ & 'womahood’ for a long time, you don’t get to declare a boundary on points of view, world sense & opinions.

It is queer theory & this type of gender discourse which is actually deeply embedded in Western, Euro-American discourse. I’m sick & tired of having to accept Western discourse because reasons, this isn’t the 1800s, I don’t have to accept nor agree with sh.

Stop creating this myth that rejecting this discourse is an act of white supremacy & that queer theory is inherently de-colonial in nature.

Just in case anyone still hasn’t come across that Der Spiegel interview in which Slavoj Zizek basically outs himself as a “New Right” thinker, here are some quotes from it:

“Why do we Europeans feel that our unfortunate situation is a full-fledged crisis? I think what we are feeling is not a question of yes or no to capitalism, but that of the future of our Western democracy. Something dark is forming on the horizon and the first wind storms have already reached us.”

“I am a eurocentric leftist. It has become fashionable in leftist circles to criticize eurocentrism in the name of multiculturalism. But I am convinced that we need Europe more than ever. Just imagine a world without Europe.”

“There is no way back to communism. Stalinism was in a certain sense worse than fascism, especially considering that the communist ideal was for Enlightenment to ultimately result in the self-liberation of the people. But that’s also the tragedy of the dialectic of Enlightenment. Stalinism still remains a puzzle to me. Fascism never had Enlightenment ambitions, it exclusively pursued conservative modernization using criminal means. To some extent, Hitler wasn’t radical or violent enough.”

“We feel too guilty in Europe – our multicultural tolerance is the effluent of a bad conscience, of a guilt complex that could cause Europe to perish.”

“It becomes an explosive problem if two ethnic or religious groups live together in close vicinity who have irreconcilable ways of life and, as such, perceive criticism of their religion or way of life as being an attack on their very identity.”

“What we need is what the Germans call a Leitkultur, a higher leading culture that regulates the way in which the subcultures interact. Multiculturalism, with its mutual respect for the sensitivities of the others, no longer works when it gets to this “impossible-à-supporter” stage…That’s why I, as a Leftist, argue that we need to create our own leading culture.”

The question of Eurocentricism is now entirely blase. Of course Europeans are Eurocentric and see the world from their vantage point, and why should they not? They are the inheritors of multiple defunct empires and they still carry within them the phantom hubris of those empires and they think their particular philosophy is “philosophy’"and their particular thinking is “thinking"
—  Hamid Dabashi. Professor of literature, Columbia University.

I’ve heard far too many brown-skinned girls talk about how they stay in the shade when the sun is out because they don’t want to get “too dark”. I’ve heard far to many brown-skinned girls say how they hate summer because their skin turns “browner than it needs to be”. I’ve seen far too many brown-skinned girls too self-conscious to get a sun-tan because of the remarks people will make. I’ve heard far too many white people say that they want to be tanned, but not “too” tanned.

I hope to God that one day all you girls of colour learn to love every inch of yourself and your skin, because it’s the skin you will be in for the rest of your life.

Enjoy summer, does it really matter if your skin gets darker? Sit in the sun, it’s good for you; so what if your melanin glows brighter? Get a tan, what’s wrong with turning golden brown? Or deep mahogany?

Your skin is laced and embedded with such beautiful tones, ranging from soft caramel, to sweet brown sugar, to warm chestnut, to dark chocolate. But yet you can’t see just how breathtaking and rich in colour you all are?

This isn’t just for the black girls, this is for girls of colour everywhere. This is for the latinx girls, who wished their features were different. This is for the filipino girls who played with white dolls when they were younger because that was pretty much the only colour they came in. This is for the mixed-race girls who questioned why they didn’t look like the girls on TV. This is for the indian girls who wished they had blue eyes and blonde hair instead. This is for the black girls who hoped to have lighter skin and wished away their dark skin. This is for the the girls who have been told they’re pretty “for a dark-skin girl”.

This is for all the girls who grew up hating their hair and/or their skin tone because of the Eurocentric ideas of beauty that so many young girls are brought up in this world believing is the only kind of beauty. Embrace your own beauty, your own culture, your own features. Brown is beautiful.

“We live, we fight!
To death, to death!
We who guard and roam these lands,
Who come from shores eternal, 
Widen your gaze, stamp your feet,
Beat your chest and cry once more!
We live, we fight!
To death, to death!”

Preliminary character work and study for a bigger project. Been wanting to do more designs/stories that subvert standard fantasy tropes and ideas. As an Asian American and Pacific Islander (Hawaiian), I felt like PI and Polynesians need more representation in fantasy. I looked at Maori (Aotearoa/New Zealand) people for inspiration in this design, the Ka Mate Haka war dance as a particular point of interest. 

Elves are a fantasy standard, always described as wise, regal, lithe and elegant. But as frequent as this group appears in stories, the variation in character is often limited to fair skin and variations of Eurocentric features. I like the idea that the Elves of this world are very different; brown skin, black hair, broad noses, wide shoulders, etc. 

They’re also not ones to shy-away from battle, unlike their counterparts who often choose to avoid conflicts when possible. Chanting ancient war cries and wearing fierce expressions during battle, these people are every bit as powerful warriors as they are noble, wise and compassionate. 



Why does this generation want everything big: asses, lips, boobs etc but not bodies. Why are we shamed for being bigger and unapologetic about it? Why can some other white girl go round wearing flower crowns and crop tops but when a fat person does it or a person of colour does it, it’s unacceptable? Why is the standard of beauty thin and white? Why must there even be beauty standards, why can we all be beautiful in our own way? I don’t understand

I have a few thoughts on lil kim’s drastic appearance change that has made headlines recently.
First of all, I don’t want to see any of you bashing her for conforming to eurocentric beauty standards by going under the knife to get rid of her black features and bleaching her skin. The reason is because most people who comment on this are shocked and disappointed (and understandably so) but dont realize that this woman is a VICTIM of a society that tells black women that they are inherently less attractive for being black. Instead of acting like she is a monster for reinforcing this ideal, understand that this wouldn’t be happening if antiblackness weren’t so strong in our society. Frankly I can’t blame the woman when people have been overlooking her in favor of lighter skinned artists with ‘good hair’

Second of all, if I see a light skinned girl bashing kim I will roast you. You wouldn’t know how badly colorism affects darker skinned girls and therefore lack perspective to tell dark skinned girls how they “should” be feeling about themselves. If you’re a cis man of any ethnicity you don’t get an opinion either for the same reason.

“We live, we fight!
To death, to death!
We who guard and roam these lands,
Who come from shores eternal,
Widen your gaze, stamp your feet,
Beat your chest and cry once more!
We live, we fight!
To death, to death!”

Preliminary character work and study for a bigger project. Been wanting to do more designs/stories that subvert standard fantasy tropes and ideas. As an Asian American and Pacific Islander (Hawaiian), I felt like PI and Polynesians need more representation in fantasy. I looked at Maori (Aotearoa/New Zealand) people for inspiration in this design, the Ka Mate Haka war dance as a particular point of interest.

Elves are a fantasy standard, always described as wise, regal, lithe and elegant. But as frequent as this group appears in stories, the variation in character is often limited to fair skin and variations of Eurocentric features. I like the idea that the Elves of this world are very different; brown skin, black hair, broad noses, wide shoulders, etc.

They’re also not ones to shy-away from battle, unlike their counterparts who often choose to avoid conflicts when possible. Chanting ancient war cries and wearing fierce expressions during battle, these people are every bit as powerful warriors as they are noble, wise and compassionate.