ethnic backgrounds

types of trans people who deserve respect and support for their names, pronouns, and gender identity:

  • trans people who don’t experience dysphoria
  • trans people who experience dysphoria
  • trans people who don’t want surgery
  • trans people who do want surgery
  • trans people who haven’t had surgery
  • trans people who have had surgery
  • trans people who don’t want to take hormones
  • trans people who do want to take hormones
  • trans people who aren’t on hormones
  • trans people who are on hormones
  • trans people who transitioned all at once
  • trans people who transitioned/are transitioning slowly
  • trans people who aren’t transitioning in the traditional sense
  • trans people who aren’t transitioning at all
  • trans people who don’t pass
  • trans people who do pass
  • trans people who are stealth
  • trans people who are closeted
  • trans people who are loud and open about being out
  • trans people who are only out in some contexts
  • trans people who want to come out
  • trans people who don’t want to come out
  • trans people whose presentation doesn’t match that of the expectations surrounding their assigned gender
  • trans people whose presentation matches that of the expectations surrounding their assigned gender
  • trans people whose presentation doesn’t match that of the expectations surrounding their gender identity
  • trans people whose presentation does match that of the expectations surrounding their gender identity
  • trans people who don’t identify with any gender
  • trans people who sometimes or partially identify with their assigned gender
  • trans people who don’t identify as their assigned gender
  • trans people who are binary women
  • trans people who are binary men
  • trans people who are nonbinary
  • trans people who are genderqueer
  • trans people who don’t really know where they fit under the trans umbrella but still know they’re trans
  • trans people who are still figuring out what being trans means to them
  • trans people who use multiple gender labels to describe themselves
  • trans people who use pronouns associated with their assigned gender
  • nonbinary trans people who use she/her and/or he/him pronouns
  • trans people who use they/them pronouns
  • trans people who use it/its pronouns
  • trans people who use nounself pronouns
  • trans people who use neopronouns
  • trans people who use no pronouns
  • trans people who use multiple sets of pronouns
  • trans people who switch between different sets of pronouns
  • trans people who use the name they were given at birth
  • trans people who use a name other than one they were given at birth
  • trans people who use multiple names
  • trans people who use names from their culture or heritage
  • trans people whose ethnic or cultural background plays a role in their trans identity
  • trans people of color
  • jewish trans people
  • muslim trans people
  • rromani trans people
  • trans people with disabilities
  • physically disabled trans people
  • neurodivergent trans people
  • mentally ill trans people
  • chronically ill trans people
  • trans people whose disabilities play a role in their trans identity
  • queer trans people
  • polyamorous trans people
  • aspec trans people
  • mspec trans people
  • gay trans people
  • straight trans people
  • trans people not listed above (feel free to reblog and add on !!)
  • every single trans person ever
  • literally all of them
  • and if you’re trans and reading this, you too !! 💜💜

latinx lance stan: the vlog wasn’t as good as people say it because it made me, and other latinx fans, uncomfortable/angry at the fact that lance was reduced to the brainless latino flirt stereotype when he’s showed so much development through the seasons

gringx “stan”: yeah i know but the vlog uses subtext to break the [brainless latino flirt] stereotype apart!!! it’s all planned ur just not digging hard enough to see it !!1! plus i identify with lance too you know 🙄 i’m insecure too so obviously im going to make my issues a priority over a latinx person’s opinion 🙄

no the truth is the writers just didn’t bother writing lance in a way that would be respectful not only to his personality/character but to his ethnic background. you cannot tell latinx people to “just dig a bit more!! you’ll see that this is actually good representation!! it breaks the stereotype!!” you CANNOT know what is good rep to latinx people, YOU ARE NOT LATINX AND WILL NEVER IDENTIFY WITH LANCE AS MUCH AS US LATINXS, NO MATTER HOW MUCH YOU CLAIM TO LOVE LANCE.

i’m not saying this is a competition to know who loves lance more and if you do think that, you’re missing my point… i’m saying that gringxs claiming the vlog was “amazing” have and will never know how it hurts to see your favorite latinx characters (who are already underdeveloped at the expense of other characters  👀) be treated like they only have 1 facet to their personality who oh so happens to also fit a latinx stereotype we’ve already seen countless times…

i don’t want to rely on subtext or whatever to have good representation. i want to see it upfront, in the very middle of the plot, very explicitly and clearly. i other latinx fans deserve to. fuck your subtext and your stereotypes. don’t be cowards, write about us and experiences and out stories.

Demi Lovato sharing the results of her own DNA test and being like, *woah cool I’m 1% African. I totally didn’t know that* is not problematic and if you think it is please chill. She’s not claiming to be black or trying to make some grand generalization. She’s just curious about her background since she knew she has blood from a lot of places but has been trying to learn about it in recent years. And by the way her birth father, who was mentally ill, compulsively lied to her about it so it’s taken until now, in the years after his death, to figure it out. Stop erasing her Native American/Latina background and let her live?!

I want to see girls with acne scars in the media

I want to see girls with stretch marks in the media

I want to see girls who don’t fit in the curvy or skinny category

I want to see girls who are transgender

I want to see girls with scars

I want to see girls who have different ethnical backgrounds and religions

I want to see girls who have a rough home life

I want to see girls who have disabilities

I want to see girls who others can relate to. Not just the ones the media believes is pretty.

yellow-eyed-monsters  asked:

I have a question that may come out sounding kinda rude, but why can't writers write poc as people, put them through the same trials and tribulations as caucasian characters? This may come out sounding different that what I've asked in my head so if that's the case, I'm terribly sorry

Writing About PoC Trials and Tribulations

I understand where you’re coming from, because it looks unequal when you take it simply as “humans struggle, so why can’t we write about PoC struggling?”

What Topics To Avoid isn’t talking about struggle in general, which is where the confusion comes from.

Yes, you can write PoC struggling. This is not the question at hand.

What that post was pointing out is PoC struggle is rarely individual trials and tribulations like white characters.

When a white character struggles, they are struggling with something that is an individual struggle that is treated as a universal narrative for that person’s individual issues (like, everyone’s felt like an underdog at one point for various reasons). But if you look at the dominant stories for PoC, the struggle is directly because of their ethnicity, such as segregation, or a racial-based war, and/or colonialism, to name a few. The plot falls apart when the ethnicity/situation is changed.

We are asking you to look at why you are attracted to struggles that come directly as a result of being a certain ethnicity. 

Starcrossed lovers are fine, but why does every starcrossed lovers story involving a PoC have to be set at a time when interracial marriage was illegal, and/or in a setting where one side’s family hate the other for their skin tone?

An underdog with less experience is fine, but why does every underdog involving a PoC involve somebody who came from an impoverished background and low quality schools because it’s in a predominantly PoC neighbourhood?

The question we want white writers to ask is: “does my character struggle and experience pain primarily because of their ethnic background, does my character experience a unique struggle because of their ethnic background, or is my struggle primarily because of individual circumstances that are informed by the ethnicities at hand?”

If they experience a struggle primarily because of their ethnic background (ie- segregation), then that is a very nuanced narrative that should be left alone by outsiders because it’s exploiting another person’s pain for your plot.

If they experience a struggle heavily informed because of their ethnic background (ie- underdog because of racism, navigating a system that has particularly potent institutionalized racism like the psychiatric system), then that is an identity story that should be left alone by outsiders because it’s treating various isms (racism, classism, colourism) as a tragic backstory to overcome.

If they experience a struggle where their ethnicity plays a part but only minor events change if you switch around ethnicity (ie- starcrossed lovers where one side is very closed off), then it’s primarily because of individual circumstance that can be written by outsiders who do enough research.

I recently saw a very cute concept where a boy falls in love with a Muslim girl who keeps halal. He tried to win her heart by cooking, but she refused to eat it because it wasn’t halal. Once he discovered what the issue was, he learned all about halal cooking and made her halal meals to win her heart.

This story is only moderately informed by the girl’s customs. The story could be simply that she’s a picky eater, allergic to some foods, or has specific tastes. Because you can swap out a few things for it, this story isn’t About Being Muslim. The plot would’ve changed based on what it was, but the actual plot point could be anything.

But if there was a similar “guy falls for Muslim girl” situation and his family was Islamophobic, that would be using Islamophobia for plot pain and reinforcing all the gross stuff Muslims go through because of Islamophobia.

Hope that clears things up.

~ Mod Lesya

yes it's another humans are space orcs post

So even when you’ve figured out how to deal with humans, it still really helps to be able to anticipate that you’re going to have to deal with humans, and there’s still a major pitfall when you’re operating in mixed-species environments where most people are operating as private individuals rather than as representatives of their respective species or planets:

Humans are so good at social modeling, and human naming conventions are such a mess, that it can be really hard to recognize that a person is human until you actually see a visual of them. Some of them include species on their profiles or biographies, but some skip right past species and list location of childhood home or racial/ethnic background or something instead, like everyone else is just supposed to know that the colony on Zendar Three is a human colony or what “latina” means. Some even make a point of not listing their species.

They pick up languages like nobody’s business. It might take an adult years to reach full fluency in a language - or they might pick it up in a matter of months, if they put their mind to it, and the subadults often don’t even require instruction or study. Even the ones who depend on automatic translation technology tend to be fussy about calibration and sounding as much like natural speakers as possible. In general, they put a lot of emphasis on being able to imitate the social manner of the group; many make a study of the social mores of species they intend to interact with, but even if they’re caught unprepared, most will to some extent mimic the attitude and approach of the people they interact with.

And the names. Most people will say that the typical human has a personal name and a family or clan name, and that’s… more or less accurate. Except that sometimes they list them the other way around. And sometimes they only have a personal name. Or they have multiple family names. And a lot of the time they have a kind of secondary personal name that they don’t even use, but not always, and some have as many as three or four of these “middle names.” There are lists of traditional human names that you can learn, but none of them are exhaustive, because almost every human population center and cultural group has its own traditional names and also humans are constantly adapting old names and inventing new ones.

Even if someone has a name that you recognize as being a traditional name of some other species, that isn’t a 100% guarantee that that person isn’t human. Because there’s such a wide variety of human names, there’s some overlap with other species names, to the point that it’s a kind of played out joke that the token human character in popular media has to be specified to be Human Steve. Plus in a lot of human cultures, one of the highest expressions of respect toward a person is to give that person’s name to one’s offspring, so there’s a small but significant number of humans with names that are definitely not human names because their parents chose to honor an alien friend or benefactor with a namesake.

Some humans are amused to be assumed to be another species. Some don’t seem to care, or are apologetic, apparently assuming that the confusion must be embarrassing or upsetting to the other party. A few get offended, but the other humans tend to agree that those ones are jerks and you shouldn’t feel bad about it.

anonymous asked:

What do you do with Too Many Ideas Syndrome?

At first you embrace it: “I’ll never stop writing ‘cause I’ll never run out of ideas! This is awesome!!!!” And then you realize that with so many ideas, you’re going to have to pick one to run with and then it’s like uh…yeah…  

Too Many Ideas

This question has given me the opportunity to bring back the cute bunny post from 2015. In it I discuss how you bounce back and forth between ideas, so take a look. It might help!

In that post I mention that it’s really a matter of going with whatever idea is most interesting to you at any given time. This could change from day to day, so one day you might work with one idea and the next you work with another. This is really basic advice, so I’m going to try to take it one step further. 

Start with Your Characters

If you’re overwhelmed by how many concept/plot ideas you’ve got, make a list of each concrete idea and set it aside. Then, work on character development. Start with one key character and then work outward. 

You might be wondering, how do I create characters without any kind of plot, but writers do actually do this. We’ve got questions in our inbox right now from writers that have developed characters and are stumped on the plot. So it’s definitely possible. 

This key character you’re starting with? Begin by establishing aspects of them that are separate from plot, things like age, gender ID, racial/ethnic background, sexual ID, and obviously their name. Go as far as you feel compelled to go, but start with these basic facts. 

Then, think about their relationships/friendships. Do they have lifelong friends they knew as children? Do they have siblings they’re close with? A parent they bond well with? Think about those they’re friendly with, and then do the same thing you did when you started with your key character - their age, gender ID, ect. ect.

Next, think about potential future relationships. These don’t have to be romantic relationships. If your key character is an artsy type, maybe you envision them clashing with someone who operates with logic and reason, and then seeing how they become friends or enemies over it. This leads you to create yet another character. 

What you’re doing here is developing character dynamics. You’re thinking about who these characters are first, before you even begin to consider what will happen to them. Having a cast of characters in place before you plot anything out can immediately draw you in. As I’ve said before, this is one reason we write fanfiction. We’re attached to the established characters and we want to imagine them in new situations. 

The Character Quick-Change

Grab the list you made earlier of all your plot ideas and concepts. Start casting them in roles in the ideas you’ve already come up and see how they fit. One of your ideas might be set in a fictional, fantasy world with fairies, werewolves, dragons, while another idea might be an urban fantasy where they are no magical creatures but there is magic. And maybe another idea has no magic at all. So as you plug your characters into each vastly different idea, the two start to mold each other. Your characters drive the plot, and the plot you chose will help you add deeper levels to your existing characters. 

If something doesn’t feel right, move onto the next idea. Imagine your characters are standing on a stage, and you’re simply switching out the scenery and the costumes. You’re giving them opportunities to play different roles, but you’re allowing them to bring their own personalities and backgrounds to each role they take on. 

Eventually you should find something that just fits. And when that happens, you keep going with it. You might run into problems as you’re writing, and you might be tempted to move onto another idea, and that’s okay! Go with your instincts and see what happens. Discipline with an idea is hard to maintain, so don’t feel guilty about it. It’s something all writers struggle with. 

When it comes to frustration during the writing process, the trouble is differentiating between your idea just being dead and the typical writing problems that you’ll see with any idea. But I think that’s a whole other topic that maybe I’ll get into at a later date ;)

Writing = experimentation. Try things out and see what’s working and what isn’t. You’ll know an idea is worth exploring when it happens, because your excitement and enthusiasm will soar. 

And as an afterthought, here’s another post that might be useful to you: Focusing on One Project.


Characteristics & Traits of Borderline Personality Disorder

Alienation - The act of cutting off or interfering with an individual’s relationships with others.

“Always” and “Never” Statements - “Always” and “Never” Statements are declarations containing the words “always” or “never”. They are commonly used but rarely true.

Anger - People who suffer from personality disorders often feel a sense of unresolved anger and a heightened or exaggerated perception that they have been wronged, invalidated, neglected or abused.

Baiting - A provocative act used to solicit an angry, aggressive or emotional response from another individual.

Blaming - The practice of identifying a person or people responsible for creating a problem, rather than identifying ways of dealing with the problem.

Bullying - Any systematic action of hurting a person from a position of relative physical, social, economic or emotional strength.

Catastrophizing - The habit of automatically assuming a “worst case scenario” and inappropriately characterizing minor or moderate problems or issues as catastrophic events.

Chaos Manufacture - Unnecessarily creating or maintaining an environment of risk, destruction, confusion or mess.

Cheating - Sharing a romantic or intimate relationship with somebody when you are already committed to a monogamous relationship with someone else.

Circular Conversations - Arguments which go on almost endlessly, repeating the same patterns with no resolution.

Cognitive Dissonance - A psychological term for the discomfort that most people feel when they encounter information which contradicts their existing set of beliefs or values. People who suffer from personality disorders often experience cognitive dissonance when they are confronted with evidence that their actions have hurt others or have contradicted their stated morals.

“Control-Me” Syndrome - This describes a tendency which some people have to foster relationships with people who have a controlling narcissistic, antisocial or “acting-out” nature.

Denial - Believing or imagining that some painful or traumatic circumstance, event or memory does not exist or did not happen.

Dependency - An inappropriate and chronic reliance by an adult individual on another individual for their health, subsistence, decision making or personal and emotional well-being.

Depression - When you feel sadder than you think you should, for longer than you think you should - but still can’t seem to break out of it - that’s depression. People who suffer from personality disorders are often also diagnosed with depression resulting from mistreatment at the hands of others, low self-worth and the results of their own poor choices.

Dissociation - Dissociation is a psychological term used to describe a mental departure from reality.

Domestic Theft - Consuming or taking control of a resource or asset belonging to (or shared with) a family member, partner or spouse without first obtaining their approval.

Emotional Blackmail - A system of threats and punishments used in an attempt to control someone’s behaviors.

Engulfment - An unhealthy and overwhelming level of attention and dependency on another person, which comes from imagining or believing one exists only within the context of that relationship.

Sense of Entitlement - An unrealistic, unmerited or inappropriate expectation of favorable living conditions and favorable treatment at the hands of others.

False Accusations - Patterns of unwarranted or exaggerated criticism directed towards someone else.

Favoritism - Favoritism is the practice of systematically giving positive, preferential treatment to one child, subordinate or associate among a family or group of peers.

Fear of Abandonment - An irrational belief that one is imminent danger of being personally rejected, discarded or replaced.

Harassment - Any sustained or chronic pattern of unwelcome behavior by one individual towards another.

High and Low-Functioning - A High-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is able to conceal their dysfunctional behavior in certain public settings and maintain a positive public or professional profile while exposing their negative traits to family members behind closed doors. A Low-Functioning Personality-Disordered Individual is one who is unable to conceal their dysfunctional behavior from public view or maintain a positive public or professional profile.

Hoovers & Hoovering - A Hoover is a metaphor taken from the popular brand of vacuum cleaners, to describe how an abuse victim trying to assert their own rights by leaving or limiting contact in a dysfunctional relationship, gets “sucked back in” when the perpetrator temporarily exhibits improved or desirable behavior.

Hysteria - An inappropriate over-reaction to bad news or disappointments, which diverts attention away from the real problem and towards the person who is having the reaction.

Identity Disturbance - A psychological term used to describe a distorted or inconsistent self-view

Impulsiveness - The tendency to act or speak based on current feelings rather than logical reasoning.

Infantilization - Treating a child as if they are much younger than their actual age.

Invalidation - The creation or promotion of an environment which encourages an individual to believe that their thoughts, beliefs, values or physical presence are inferior, flawed, problematic or worthless.

Lack of Object Constancy - An inability to remember that people or objects are consistent, trustworthy and reliable, especially when they are out of your immediate field of vision.

Learned Helplessness - Learned helplessness is when a person begins to believe that they have no control over a situation, even when they do.

Magical Thinking - Looking for supernatural connections between external events and one’s own thoughts, words and actions.

Moments of Clarity - Spontaneous periods when a person with a Personality Disorder becomes more objective and tries to make amends.

Mood Swings - Unpredictable, rapid, dramatic emotional cycles which cannot be readily explained by changes in external circumstances.

Neglect - A passive form of abuse in which the physical or emotional needs of a dependent are disregarded or ignored by the person responsible for them.

Normalizing - Normalizing is a tactic used to desensitize an individual to abusive, coercive or inappropriate behaviors. In essence, normalizing is the manipulation of another human being to get them to agree to, or accept something that is in conflict with the law, social norms or their own basic code of behavior.

No-Win Scenarios - When you are manipulated into choosing between two bad options

Panic Attacks - Short intense episodes of fear or anxiety, often accompanied by physical symptoms, such as hyperventilating, shaking, sweating and chills.

Parentification - A form of role reversal, in which a child is inappropriately given the role of meeting the emotional or physical needs of the parent or of the family’s other children.

Passive-Aggressive Behavior - Expressing negative feelings in an unassertive, passive way.

Pathological Lying - Persistent deception by an individual to serve their own interests and needs with little or no regard to the needs and concerns of others. A pathological liar is a person who habitually lies to serve their own needs.

Projection - The act of attributing one’s own feelings or traits to another person and imagining or believing that the other person has those same feelings or traits.

Push-Pull - A chronic pattern of sabotaging and re-establishing closeness in a relationship without appropriate cause or reason.

Raging, Violence and Impulsive Aggression - Explosive verbal, physical or emotional elevations of a dispute. Rages threaten the security or safety of another individual and violate their personal boundaries.

Sabotage - The spontaneous disruption of calm or status quo in order to serve a personal interest, provoke a conflict or draw attention.

Scapegoating - Singling out an individual or group for unmerited negative treatment or blame.

Selective Competence - The practice of demonstrating different levels of intelligence or ability depending on the situation or environment.

Selective Memory and Selective Amnesia - The use of memory, or a lack of memory, which is selective to the point of reinforcing a bias, belief or desired outcome.

Self-Harm - Self Harm, also known as self-mutilation, self-injury or self-abuse is any form of deliberate, premeditated injury inflicted on oneself, common among adolescents and among people who suffer from Borderline Personality Disorder. The most common forms are cutting and poisoning/overdosing.

Self-Loathing - An extreme hatred of one’s own self, actions or one’s ethnic or demographic background.

Self-Victimization - Self-Victimization or “playing the victim” is the act of casting oneself as a victim in order to control others by soliciting a sympathetic response from them or diverting their attention away from abusive behavior.

Shaming - The difference between blaming and shaming is that in blaming someone tells you that you did something bad, in shaming someone tells you that you are something bad.

Situational Ethics - A philosophy which promotes the idea that, when dealing with a crisis, the end justifies the means and that a rigid interpretation of rules and laws can be set aside if a greater good or lesser evil is served by doing so.

Splitting - The practice of regarding people and situations as either completely “good” or completely “bad”.

Thought Policing - A process of interrogation or attempt to control another individual’s thoughts or feelings.

Threats - Inappropriate, intentional warnings of destructive actions or consequences.

Triangulation - Gaining an advantage over perceived rivals by manipulating them into conflicts with each other.

Triggering - Small, insignificant or minor actions, statements or events that produce a dramatic or inappropriate response.

Tunnel Vision - A tendency to focus on a single concern, while neglecting or ignoring other important priorities.

‘Doubling Down’ Rant.

I feel like one of the most prominent aspects of this episode was the portrayal of the characters’ psychology, the writing and the dialogue did a great job depicting how people get into toxic relationships in the first place, and why it is difficult for them to get away once they’re in.

Kyle for instance, is portrayed as a caring and moral-ridden individual, that although rational, lets his emotions and sense of justice get involved in his course of action. He desired to intervene because he considered it to be the right thing to do, never once questioning his personal interest for Heidi until the girls pointed it out. While all the other kids aknowledge Cartman’s demeanor towards Heidi, none of them are willing to get themselves involved in it, whereas Kyle has always been the one to confront Cartman’s wrong doings and pursuit him, positioning himself as ‘good’ and Cartman as ‘evil’, dynamic that has ultimately served to feed both Cartman’s enthusiasm to torture him, and Kyle’s sense of selfrighteousness and tendency to see himself as a martyr, trait that he shares with Cartman, but as he stated, 'We all wrongly see ourselves as the victim sometimes, but Cartman sees himself as the victim ALL the time’, the main difference being that Kyle is able to aknowledge his mistakes and learn from them, unlike Cartman.

To get some insight into Kyle’s remark: 'In a way, I feel like we’re all going out with Cartman right now’ reflecting on how all of them are, at some degree, and specially Kyle, always been involved in a toxic relationship with Cartman’s mind games. Kyle has been, for a long time now, Cartman’s main sympathizer, he can’t help but look out for his personal improvement, and often attempted to get him to do the right thing and gain counsciousness on his own warped mentality, desire that Cartman would not hesitate to take advantage of, tricking Kyle into commiting to a cause if he could profit from his support.

In this episode, Kyle appears to have come to the conclussion that Cartman is beyond help, and that neither he nor Heidi can do anything to change that, for the best thing they can do for him is not to feed his sociopathic needs, furthermore demonstrated by their encounter on the hallway, with Kyle continuously trying to reason with him and assure him it was all for his own good, Cartman making deaf ears to his claims, finally leaving Kyle no choice but to knock him out in self defense, who apologizes regretful.

Cartman, on the other side, is miserable with Heidi, but also without her. As I stated on my last post concerning their relationship:

'He can’t bring himself to end the relationship and thus giving Heidi freedom of choice, she’s a property and so Cartman can’t stand the idea of his belongings moving on to other people. Cartman thinks of Heidi as a tool that exists with the only purpose of being at his disposition to offer him constant attention and validation, nothing more, nothing less.

Simultaneously, Cartman can’t stand Heidi, because she doesn’t fit the description of Cartman’s ideal image of her. Naturally, Heidi isn’t the tool Cartman expects her to be, she is an human being with her own individual needs. Whereas Cartman looks for a relationship where he is the center of attention, never giving anything in return, and a partner willing to follow him blindly against all the odds, without him having to worry about losing their support; Heidi looks for a functional, healthy romantic relationship, were all the parties involved contribute their part. Cartman is unwilling to fulfill this role, because doing so would position him as an equal of Heidi’s, which means, to him, degrade him from his high-entity status.’

Nearing the end we realize Cartman has found a way of manipulating Heidi into believing she’s in the relationship she craved for, and thus avoiding any sign of resistance from her. He has learned that if he wants to manipulate Heidi successfully, he needs to put a little effort on the relationship every now and then, offering her reassurance. This way, Cartman can act selfishly while at the same time 'rewarding’ Heidi for her subservience, throwing away any doubt she might had in him. He fools her into believing his wrongdoings are common human flaws that need to exist in order to keep improving himself.

Heidi is portrayed as someone who desires to aid the needy, she cannot bring herself to refuse someone’s cries for help, which is, besides the ironic effects of peer pressure, the main reason she continues to be stuck with Cartman and allows herself to be manipulated by him. He sees in Cartman someone who takes bad decisions, but is fundamentally kindhearted. Someone who is in need for her guidance. Even when ditching Kyle after being indoctrinated by Cartman, her kind nature is a definitive trait of her character. Cartman was persuasive enough to convince her of his beliefs, he made sure until the last moment that his ideas appeared to be reasonably fundamented. He told her what she wanted to hear when she was feeling the most guilty, deflecting the blame for the failure of their relationship unto Kyle instead, but reassuring her image of Kyle by telling her he hadn’t been counscious of his actions. He convinced her of attributing her own supposed flaws ('being moody’) to her ethnic background, and this way implying she has no control over ever improving herself, comforting her but making her feel helpess over her situation at the same time, this serves to Cartman as a mechanism to increase her emotional dependence to him, by making her feel he’s the only one who will ever love her despite her imperfections.

Regarding Cartman’s idea of Kyle, I feel like Cartman projects all of his own corruption unto Kyle. He subcounsciously thinks of Kyle as his equal, although he cannot recognize the corruption from within. Kyle’s intentions are never pure in Cartman’s mind, he must always be plotting something against him the same way he himself does to him. To him, Kyle’s purpose in life is to get in Cartman’s way. As the series progressed, we’ve seen Cartman gradually watering down his hostility towards Kyle in latter seasons the more time they spent together, and instead replacing it with an odd sense of familiarity and trust, until this point, Cartman’s friendly demeanor towards Kyle that even manifested itself at one point earlier in the episode, takes a sudden turn the moment Cartman finds out he might have been responsible for his breakup with Heidi. Following this event, we see Cartman’s hatred towards Kyle reach its peak when he goes batshit after his trippy jewish dream sequence, spewing all his resentments against Kyle in spite of the latter’s attempts to excuse himself, Cartman feeling betrayed after letting himself 'fall into Kyle’s claws’ by allowing him the benefit of the doubt previously.

Having stated all this, I think Cartman has taken care of the problems he had with Heidi, and now that the challenge is over, the last scene leads me to believe he has shifted his interest from the pleasure he obtains from having domain over her, to the impact his behaviour towards her has on Kyle instead. He’s using his influence on the people around Kyle to make them into proxys as a mean to inflict pain onto him. Heidi is no longer the tool, his entire relationship with her is now a tool on itself.

It was also interesting to see the conection between B plot and A plot relying on the parallel of the toxic relationship between Cartman, Kyle and Heidi, and that of politicians with their supporters, instead of having each storyline intersecting with the other, though I don’t have a strong stand on the matter, since I’m for the most part ignorant concerning the USA political status.

The weakest point of the episode in my opinion was the introduction of elements that seemingly served no purpose in the narrative, and ultimately aimed for a specific purpose in order to lead the plot in a certain direction. For example, Cartman’s dialogue when making fun of Heidi for gaining weight after tricking her into introducing meat into her vegan diet, indicated he had a goal in mind by doing this, though we never get any insight on what this particular goal may be other than to reassure his dominance over her. Besides this being a dangerous move for Cartman to make just after getting Heidi’s trust back, it seemed like it didn’t serve any purpose other than to incite Kyle into intervening in the relationship. Another example would be Cartman visiting Token’s house, there wasn’t really a point for Cartman to do this besides giving him the chance to make racial remarks some more. Finding out about Kyle being responsible for his breakup with Heidi through Token’s dad seemed too coincidental, though I don’t really mind, even less after being presented with Cartman’s fantastic Kyle delirium sequence.

I really enjoyed the execution of the humor, there were some great jokes, the animation team did an amazing job and overall I think this was a fantastic episode with a rather dark thematic.

If “person-first language” was applied to neurotypicals:
Happy people: “People who feel happiness.”
Blonde people: “People with hair that is the color blonde.”
Left-handed people: “People with a preference for using their left hands.”
Married people: “People afflicted with marriage.”
Gay people: “People affected by same-sex attraction.”
White people: “People with a Caucasian ethnic background.”
Young people: “People who are lacking in age.”
Old people: “People who are affected by excessive age.”
Children: “People who are under the age of eighteen years.”
Parents: “People who have in their care people who are under the age of eighteen years.”
Allistics: “People who suffer from lack of autism.”

you know maybe i haven’t been exposed to enough gay relationships on tv, but i’ve never seen an episode of any show filled with as many nonchanlant yet passionate queer love scenes- wether it be kissing,talking intimately and flirtatiously, making love. the bold type exceeded all my expectations with tonight’s show. they really treated kadena like any other couple. hell, at times even better than jane and pinstripe. i love when representation is so subtle yet so potent. kat doesn’t care about labels while adena finds strength in them. and also the fact that these are woman of different ethnicities and religious backgrounds, it is representation that overcomes any cultural divisions. a completely intersectional experience.

based on current ratings, this show is in great danger of being cancelled. unless there is a significant elevation in viewers, so please if you have a login for the freeform app, or if you have cable, start watching. the show only gets better as we near the end of the season.



BTS Reaction To You Having Anxiety
BTS Reaction When You Are Working (Doctor) And They Come To Visit You At The Hospital
BTS Reaction To You Accidentally Touching Their Boner
BTS Reaction To Their GF Having Curly Hair
BTS Reaction After Your First Time With Them
BTS Reaction To You Crying In Front Of Them For The First Time (Best Friend)
BTS Reaction To You Being A Sleep Hugger
BTS Reaction To Their GF Having Big Boobs
BTS Reaction To You Cosplaying In A Sexy Outfit
BTS Reaction To You Playing With Your lips (Licking, biting, etc.)
BTS Reaction To Their Crush Confessing To Another Member
BTS Reaction On Your Birthday
BTS Reaction/Scenario To You Having Depression And Bipolarity (W/Breakdown)
BTS Reaction To You Not Wearing Makeup On A Daily Basis
BTS Reaction To You Cooking Them Breakfast While Wearing Nothing But Their Shirt And Underwear
BTS Reaction To You Being Drunk
BTS Reaction To You Wanting To Cuddling
BTS Reaction To You Bringing A Stray Dog Home
BTS Reaction When You Walk Into The Room With A Sexy Dress
BTS Reaction When You’re Deathly Scared Of Spiders
BTS Reaction To You Smoking
BTS Reaction Why You Want To Lose Weight (Starving Yourself)
BTS Reaction To Having A Crush On Someone Of A Different Race/Ethnicity/Background
BTS Reaction When They Find Out You’re A Boxer
BTS Reaction When You’re Sick
BTS Reaction/Scenario Talking Dirty To You
- Part 1 Jin - RapMon - Jimin
- Part 2 Suga - V - J-Hope (No Kookie, sorry)
BTS Reaction When You Had A Hard Day At School
BTS Reaction When You Ask Them To Do “I Like It Pt.2″ Choreography
BTS Protecing You From Getting Bullied
- Part 1 Jin - RapMon - Jimin
- Part 2 Suga - V - J-Hope - Jungkook
BTS Comforting Their GF On Their Period
BTS Reaction When You Have An Asthma Attack
BTS Reaction When You Are Sad Because You Were Afraid Of Something
BTS Reaction When You Tell Them Your Parents Are Divorced And You Miss Your Dad
BTS Reaction When Their GF Is Closer To Their Family Than To Him
BTS Reaction When They Are Worried About You (You’re Stressing)
BTS Reaction When They Find Their GF Really upset With Herself (School-wise)
BTS Reaction When Their GF Has A Bug Butt
BTS Reaction When Your Parents Don’t Accept Him Due To His Culture
BTS Reaction When You Are Smarter Than Rap Monster
BTS Reaction When They’re ON Tour For A While And You Are Ignoring Them (Happy Ending)
- Part 1 Jin - RapMon - Jimin - Suga 
- Part 2 V - J-Hope - Jungkook
BTS Cheering You Up
BTS Reaction When You’re Drunk And They Want To Take You Home But You Say You Have A Boyfriend
BTS Reaction When You Have A Hard Time Sleeping
BTS Reaction When You Are Worried About Your Dark Eye Circles
BTS Getting Hate For Dating Someone Biracial
BTS When They Get Jealous/Protective
BTS Reaction When You Get Lost And They Have To Come Find You
BTS Reaction When Their GF’s Braces Hurt To The Point Where She Starts Crying
BTS Reaction When You Tell Them You Are A Surgical Intern But You Messed Up One Of Your Procedures Today And Someone Died Because Of You
BTS Reaction When Come Home To Find You Dancing
BTS Reaction When They Get Come To Their GF Belly Dancing
BTS Reaction When Your Best Friend Is Flirting With Them (They’re Your BF)
BTS Reaction When You Fall Into A Drain
BTS Reaction Of Them Finding You ON Your Free Day Giving Goods (Food, Clothing, etc.) To Homeless (They Have A Crush On You)
BTS Reaction To You Losing Something Important To Them
BTS Reaction When Their GF Plays With Their Hands, Hair, etc. When She’s Bored
BTS Reaction When You Go To The Hospital Because You’re Sick
BTS Reaction When They Think You’re Scared Of Spiders, But You’re Actually Not
BTS Reaction To You Being Clumsy And Once Fall Down And You Scrape Your Knee
BTS Reaction When You Have Short Hair
BTS Reaction To When You’re Having A Diss Rap And You Burn Them
BTS Reaction When You Date Them For Money
BTS Reaction When You Get Your Tongue Pierced
BTS Reaction When Sit On Their Lap
BTS Reaction To You Both Having A Crush On Each Other And He Finds You Drawing Him
BTS Reaction To You Getting In A Minor Car Accident + You Were With Someone He Was Jealous Of
BTS Reaction To You Tickling Them
BTS Reaction When It’s Raining Outside And Your Shirt Gets Wet
BTS Reaction When You Teach Them How To Ballroom Dance
BTS Reaction When They Want A Baby And You Support It
BTS Reaction To Blanket Burrito’s and Hugging Them From Behind
BTS Using Their Skills From AHL To Pick Up Girls That Don’t Speak Korean
BTS Reaction To you Falling Asleep In His Arms During A Movie
BTS Reaction To You Hugging The Wrong Member And They Get Jealous
BTS Helping You Feel Comfortable In Your Body
BTS Reaction When You’re Their Crush And You Moan While Play Fighting
BTS Reaction When They Notice Your Leg Hair
BTS Watching One Of Your Fights
BTS Reaction To You Doing The Splits
BTS Reaction To Finding A Childhood Picture Of You And Teases You About It
BTS Reaction When You Have A Crush ON Them (They Kind Of Like You) And Someone Confesses To You
BTS On Your Anniversary
BTS Reaction When You Have A High Tolerance For Alcohol
BTS Reaction When You’re in The Hospital And Your Heart Rate Monitor Goes Up When They Enter The Room
BTS Reaction To Their GF Telling Them Their Pregnant
BTS Reaction When They Are In We Got Married And Fall In Love With The Girl
BTS Reaction When You Have A Dark Sense Of Humour
[Reaction] Trying To Get Them To Love Your Cat
BTS Reaction To Winning 7th Place In A Dance Concert
BTS Reaction When You Avoid Their Kisses
BTS Reaction To Receiving Hate For Dating an 01 Liner
BTS Reaction To Their Crush Having Tattoos
BTS Reaction When You Move a Lot In Your Sleep
BTS Reaction When You’re Their New Choreographer
BTS Reaction To Meeting a Foreign Who Speaks Korean
BTS Reaction When They Watch a Movie Their Girlfriend And They Cry 
BTS Reaction To Waking Up And Stroking Their Face
BTS Reaction To You Being a Shopaholic
BTS Reaction To You Swearing in Korean 


- Firsts For Everything: Imagine (Fluff)
| Jin | RapMon | Jimin | Suga | V | J-Hope | Jungkook |
- First Date (Fluff)
| Jin | RapMon | Jimin | Suga | V | J-Hope | Jungkook |

- Aegyo - Think About It (Short/Fluff)
- Stress (Short/Fluff)

- Dating RapMon Would Include (Fluff)
| 1 | 2 | 3 |
- Reaction To You Doing Aegyo - RapMon (W/ Jimin)
- Cuddling Close (Fluff)
| 1 | 2 |
- How They Kiss - Rap Monster (Fluff)
- Tough Times At School (RapMon Imagine)

- Reactions To You Doing Aegyo - Jimin (W/ Rapmon)
- Cuddling Close (Fluff)
| 1 | 2 |
- How They Kiss - Jimin (Fluff)
- Occupied - Jimin Ver. (Fluff/Angst)

- Suga Seeing (And Reacting) To You Wearing A Cute Dress (Fluff)
- How They Kiss - Suga (Fluff)
- Occupied - Yoongi Ver. (Fluff/Angst)

- Reactions To You Doing Aegyo - V (Fluff)
- Embarrassed (Short/Fluff)
- Shirtless (Short/Fluff)
- How They Kiss - V (Fluff)

- Reactions To Doing Aegyo - J-Hope (Fluff)
- On My Way (Short/Imagine/Fluff)
- How They Kiss - J-Hope (Fluff)
- Physical (Fluff)

- Jungkook x Oc (Titleless) (Fluff/Angst?)
| 1 | 2 |
- Like What You See? (Imagine) (Fluff)
- How They Kiss - Jungkook (Fluff)


-They Say Something Homophobic And You Get Mad
| 1
- Motivational Taehyung
- Drunk Texts To Your Boyfriend

Last Updated - 09/24/16

Masterlist for BTS Scenarios and Fics

Where Prey(2017) excels in race and gender equality

Originally posted by mys-archive

  • A protagonist who is half German and half Chinese
  • The option to make the protagonist male or female
  • The protagonist’s parents are a male Chinese scientist and a female German Entrepreneur(rare interracial coupling).
  • Our Chinese-German protagonist is an inventor of cutting edge technology and together with his brother are in charge of Talos one and it’s scientific advancements(breaking the ‘Asians are always just karate masters who barely know English’ stereotype)
  • NPCs, both protagonists and antagonists, are from a variety of ethnic groups and sexual orientations
  • A naturally emerging lesbian couple(one of whom is Asian)
  • Voice actors who match the races(or ethnic backgrounds) of their characters.
  • Including an African character with an authentic African accent(this just personally made me happy)
  • The guys did their research to give characters names that match their ethnicity(Igwe is an actual common West African name)
  • The fact that not just the white characters or our protagonist are competent, capable, individuals with skills and well thought out character traits
  • That these massively different people have grouped and work together to operate a massive space station and advance humanity(before it all went to hell)
  • At no point in the narrative are any of the above aspects pointed out or called out on, as if it’s just natural to have that level of equality in Yu’s not-so-far-in-the-future world.
  • One of the game’s soundtracks ‘Semi Sacred Geometry’ has three versions. One sung by a male, one female, and one by both. 

Prey might not be the best game ever, but some wonderful person in the development team did something right, and I hope other games and media can follow suit. 

Feel free to correct me, add points, or tell me of other media that have done this to such an extent in the past.

male partners

if you’re someone who is attracted to males…

mars-sun aspects = your male partners are in a lead position, partners who closely identify with being ‘masculine’, could have a competitive partner. 

example(s): jennifer aniston, sun square mars, married to a director and was also involved with the notable brad pitt. tina turner, sun square mars, married ike turner, a bandleader & producer. fran drescher, sun conjunct mars, married both a director/producer and is currently with an inventor/entrepreneur

sun/mars-moon aspects = your partner will be in touch with his emotions or embraces his sensitive side, a man who is familial and nurturing. 

example(s): evan rachel wood, moon opposite mars, was married to a male ballet dancer. heidi klum, moon square mars, was married to seal and has remarked, “when I first met seal he had a kindness and compassion that was so sincere I knew he’d be a good father”.

sun/mars-mercury aspects = men who are detail-oriented, a writer, men who embrace the sensorial nature of mercury. 

example(s): meryl streep, mercury conjunct mars, long-time marriage to a sculptor. cate blanchett, mercury opposite mars, married to an australian playwright. 

sun/mars-venus aspects = partners are charming, attractive men, partners are hopeless romantics, men that are ‘players’, affectionate lovers.

example(s): tyra banks, venus square mars, has dated aplenty male models. sally field, venus conjunct mars, dated self-admitted womanizer burt reynolds. demi lovato, venus square mars, dates wilmer valderrama, constantly boasts about his previous & excessive romantic endeavors. 

sun/mars-jupiter aspects = partners from across the globe, partners interested in politics, philosophy, philanthropy. men who are ‘believers’, excessively expectant or simply excessive. 

example(s): halle berry, mars conjunct jupiter, has dated several men of varying ethnic background. gwyneth paltrow, mars square jupiter, was married to england native chris martin, “declaring himself an “all-theist”, a word of his invention meaning that he believes in “everything”.

sun/mars-saturn aspects = partners who are paternal or reminiscent of their fathers, older men, men who are aloof, dedicated to their career. 

example(s): natasha richardson, mars opposite saturn, was married to liam neeson, 11 years his junior. linda lovelace, mars quincunx saturn, infamously married to chuck traynor, 12 years his junior and horribly oppressive. rachel mcadams, mars square saturn, dated ryan gosling, one of the most reserved but firm celebs in hollywood who has remarked, “i’d like to be making babies, but I’m not, so I’m making movies”.

sun/mars-uranus aspects = partners engage in spontaneity often, appreciate a partner who is freedom-loving, unpredictable men, men who are a bit odd/quirky or have a superiority-complex stemming from their ‘loner’ ways. 

example(s): meg ryan, mars square uranus, was married to dennis quaid, claims he was inconsistent & unreliable. kim basinger, was married to alec baldwin, known for his public & erratic outbursts. sarah jessica parker, mars conjunct uranus, married to matthew broderick, close friends have commented saying, “(they) call them `the wacky young Lunts'” and that they are “very irreverent”.  

sun/mars-neptune aspects = male suitors may have an addictive-escapist personality (alcohol, drugs, partying, music, etc), men are spiritual or were raised as such, men that are a fantasy or creators of fantasy. 

example(s): jean harlow, mars opposite neptune, married harold rosson, famous cinematographer for ‘the wizard of oz.’ ashlee simpson, mars conjunct neptune, was married to pete wentz, has bipolar disorder and has spoken out on his drug abuse. 

sun/mars-pluto aspects = men who embraces pluto’s private/mysterious nature, potentially destructive fellas, men who are force to be reckoned with, exempt from superficiality 

example(s): scarlett johansson, mars square pluto, married to a journalist, has been said, “mr dauriac, like his fiancee, takes privacy very seriously”. nancy reagan, mars conjunct pluto, known worldwide for her marriage to ronald reagan, “observers described the reagans’ relationship as close, authentic and intimate”.

***you will notice that all the examples are people with ‘harsh’ aspects (conjunctions, squares, oppositions, quincunx) and that’s because squares, oppositions, and inconjunctions give us the feeling of wanting what we can’t have which only makes us want it more. conjunctions work hand in hand with the planet indicator, in this case bc male partners so it’s sun & mars aspects, your ideal man exemplifies the planet that conjuncts either of those.

if you have a lot of aspects to your sun & mars, look to the harsher & tightest aspects (the lowest orb) 

had to edit these posts because for some i put ‘attracted to’ instead of inferring that your partner WILL be like this because you will bring out these traits in them 

also, this is not synastry. this deals with your own chart.

The Problem with Dany

If I had to pick a character who was the most difficult to talk about in this series, it would probably be Daenerys Targaryen.  The intersection of every single conflict and perspective–in world and modern–about her is one that is almost impossible to address without sidelining one element of it.

That her arc relies intensely white saviorism; depictions of the Dothraki are laden with racist tropes; her experience in Slaver’s Bay harkens to (but does not perfectly mirror) white conquest in the 19th century.  This pairs uncomfortably with the fact that she is 13-16 years old (I’m focusing predominantly on book!Daenerys in this–if you are here for show!Daenerys proceed with that in mind), a child sold into sex slavery, a rape victim, and someone who believes firmly and acts upon the belief that any society that relies upon slavery is not society.  As a woman in Martin’s historically inaccurate misogynistic world, she confronts challenges that are designed by the creator of the series to confront her womanhood; as a Targaryen/Valyrian/Westerosi far from her home and without the resources of that home, she is left with little choice but to look forward.


Before even touching on the content of A Song of Ice and Fire, a point that causes trouble, right out of the gate, is where do “problems” with Daenerys arise?  When, for example, does responsibility lie with a character, and when with the architect of her story?  Add into that–when does the responsibility lie with neither character, nor creator, but with instead the fans who are discussing the media in question?

All this is not to absolve Daenerys of whatever sins exist within her storyline. There are choices that the character makes that are reprehensible and for which the ultimate responsibility does lie with her; however it is also to say that many of the things that Daenerys is loathed for are decisions that lie instead at Martin’s feet.

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10 things to ask a potential therapist

So this list is probably more in depth than what a normal person would really ask a therapist before deciding to work with them. I approached it considering what I would want to know about therapists before I would pick one I wanted to work with, which ended up being quite a bit of information. Obviously I love information, so more is always better :) In any case, it’s just fine to figure out what you are looking for in a therapist and what you need to accomplish your goals, and then look carefully to make sure your potential therapist has what it takes. 

1. What is your training background? The point of this question is to know where your potential therapist went to school and received any other training, and what they focused on during their training. Therapists should continue to receive training and education after graduation, so you can ask what kind of training they have focused on. You’re looking for good training that is relevant to therapy and what you want to accomplish in therapy (so if you want to work on eating related issues and this therapist focused on marital therapy, they’re probably not the one for you).

2. What is your speciality area? You want a therapist who has an area of focus that is related to the difficulties you’re currently facing (maybe those eating related issues) or the person you are (maybe LGBT clients). You do not want a therapist who says they can do anything- any person, of any age, of any background, with any issue. Multiple areas of focus is fine (“Adults with depression, anxiety, and trauma”), things that run the whole gamut and don’t make sense together probably indicates the person doesn’t really have up-to-date competency in all of those things (“People 0-99, substance abuse, conduct disorders, marital issues, end of life issues, personality disorders”).

3. What is your theoretical orientation? You probably won’t be familiar with different theoretical orientations, so ask your potential therapist to explain their theoretical orientation and outlook. The point is this is to make sure that: a) your therapist has some kind of orientation (they aren’t just making things up as they go along) and b) at the surface level, their orientation is compatible with you.

4. Tell me about your experience with cultural diversity. (You could tailor this to any particular areas of importance to you). There might be aspects of your life that are important to you and you want your therapist to be comfortable with or understand, so feel free to check on this. This could be a pretty wide set of aspects of your life- anything from your ethnic background to your religion. I tend to think that what is important is that atherapist is comfortable with working with people different from themselves, is competent with those groups, and won’t try to inflict their own opinions on their clients.

5. How long do you typically meet with clients? You want a therapist who meets with clients for as long as they need but does not meet with them forever.

6. How do you monitor outcomes? Your therapist should be working with you to monitor your progress, so the two of you can figure out how you are doing and what you need to do to reach your goals. You want a therapist who can talk about how they generally do this.

7. How involved are your clients in treatment planning and other decisions? You might want to be the person making most or all of the decisions in your mental health. You might want your therapist to make all the decisions about your treatment. You might want to collaborate about decisions. Different therapists approach this in different ways, so make sure your potential therapist does this in a way you are comfortable with.

8. Do you collaborate with other providers (like psychiatrists, general practitioners, case managers, etc)? You might have other providers and it can be really helpful for your therapist to be comfortable with collaboration with them. Some providers particularly work with other providers, so if you do have other providers that you would like to be involved in some way with your therapy or therapist, you might want to check whether your therapist has worked with them before or would be willing to work with them.

9. Do you take my insurance? (And other relevant questions about billing). It’s obviously very important to make sure you will be able to afford therapy. Some therapists take insurance, and others only do cash. Some have sliding scale fees.

10. Are you licensed? What is your license in? What is your license number? Because your therapist should be licensed (or working towards licensure with supervision, or in training with supervision). 

anonymous asked:

as you did it with Yoongi and now Tae as well, could you also explain Jimin's ideal type a bit more? I don't have a good reference to go off, unfortunately

i think jimin’s ideal type confuses him as much as it confuses us lmao. he’s always stuck to the “nice, cute, shorter than me” description which is pretty vague. and recently he even said he no longer has a specific ideal type. with a scorpio venus, i think he focuses more on someone’s aura and if it draws him in. having an emotional connection with someone is the first thing he thinks about rather than physical appearance. someone sensual, maybe a lil curvy, with a powerful aura is his type. and his sagittarius juno makes me believe he’d be into a wide range of types. u can’t forget the heart eyes he was giving that dancer during bv 👀

notice how her “eyes” drew him in. the most scorpio venus thing i’ve ever heard. imo he can find beauty in any ethnicity or background. so yeah i think a connection matters more!

100 Reasons to Study:

I never expected this “reasons to study” thing to get so many submissions, and as it takes me so long to post them all, I decided to do a bulk post of some so here they are:

(If I haven’t included a url, it was submitted by an anon).

  1. To prove people that “bad” students can become excellent students too.
  2. To expand your knowledge of the world.
  3. To look back on your success in ten years time. (Submitted byadxlastudies)
  4. To not let my mental illness define my grades. (Submitted bymusicandmaths)
  5. I study because I am privileged enough to have the opportunity. I study because I have no one getting in my way telling me I can’t. I study because I want to do some real good in this world. I study because I live in a country where being female has no significant disadvantage; and so, I take this opportunity so that I may make future opportunities for those who don’t have them. (Submitted by crimson-voltaire)
  6. My reason for studying is how I’ll get to where I want to be in my life which is successful, comfortable, and happy.
  7. I study to make my mum happy and proud.
  8. I study to prove my anxiety wrong!
  9. I study because I want to save lives.
  10. I study because my grandpa, orphaned during WWII when he was 8, worked 4 days a week in a mine to learn for 2 days. He’s retired after 40 years of working in diplomacy, for the last 5 years as an ambassador. He’s my role model. And I love him so much.
  11. I study because my primary school teacher from when I was 6 replied “Well who would think that?” when my mother informed her I was going to university. I study so I can tell her “Why would you not think that?”
  12. I study because I want to give myself the best future I possibly can as a black woman. (Submitted by n-marlzz)
  13. I study because my dreams are improbable. But not impossible. I will achieve them. (Submitted by redheadbecool)
  14. I study because even though I can’t imagine having a future, I want one. (Submitted by stxdys)
  15. I study so that I can be surrounded by the right people at school, at home, at work, and on Tumblr. You can only walk the path that you choose for yourself, so choose wisely. Pave your path with bricks, not straw.
  16. I study because last year I was in a mental hospital for young people and I discovered that I want my death to mean something.
  17. I study because diseases have haunted my family for long enough, and cancer deserves to be taken down once for all.
  18. I study because my father left school at age 13 to work to provide for his family and he has been working ridiculously hard ever since so I can have an education.
  19. I study to be self reliant and to get more answers. The concept of being independent is attractive to me, and if i study hard enough, i will be able to live freely without relying on my parents. The thought of getting answers is a huge satisfaction.
  20. I study because I told my ex, “Watch me go to Harvard”. So oops.
  21. Because I want to have a well paying job which means I can eventually travel the world one day.
  22. I study because I love to be productive really just in love with the feeling of it being noon and already have gotten everything done that I needed for that day. (Submitted by revision-babe)
  23. I want and I like to study because I believe that we as humans have the responsibility of maintain and grow the knowledge people developed in the past. How could we waist all those efforts to try know this wonderful world a little better?  (Submitted by mochilunar-universe​)
  24. I study because my Dad went through a lot of work to get to this country so that I could have a good life and a good education, and I’m not going to waste all his good efforts and take him and my education for granted.
  25. Because I believe I can do it and I won’t let their words stop me. (Submitted by truly-written-by-me)
  26. I study for my own sense of achievement! I’m also really motivated by my boyfriend who is very clever and works really hard. I want to get a first in my masters this year and I will!  (Submitted by @orchidbeam)
  27. I study for Nicki Minaj, she would be proud of me, and all the other women in the world. I hope that my degree will put me in the position to make a better world for all my sisters out there and the little ones.
  28. I study because my family isn’t as rich as our family friends, and other families always make fun about what my dad does for a living. I want to change that and make sure the only thing others talk about is how amazing we turned out and what a good career I’m going into.
  29. I study to make my parent’s hardships (moving to America, to provide a better life for my siblings and I) worth it.
  30. My reason to study is to show myself and everyone I am stronger than my mental illness and to prove everyone who said it would stop me from getting anywhere wrong.
  31. I study so I can change the world for the better.
  32. I study because I want to help my family, to fulfil my dreams and save lives.
  33. To be a champion.
  34. I want to study in order to prove myself and people that being dyslexic and dysorthographic doesn’t mean being stupid.  (Submitted bybritannicusmyfav)
  35. I love to learn,and I want to know about all the things I missed because of school system. (Submitted by @seshet)
  36. I study because I want to be the first sibling to go straight into uni without transferring from a community college.
  37. I want to study so that I can transfer out from a community college to a really good university so that people won’t think the decision I made to go to community college was bad. Also to make my DAD super proud!
  38. I study because I want to be the best version of myself.
  39. I study to make those who have taken care of me proud, to show them they did a good job. I also study for myself, to prove that I can fulfil my goals and that everyone who has ever made fun of me just pushed me forward instead of putting the boot in. Getting a good job to live with my boyfriend would be a great plus! We all need motivation, and what’s better to motivate oneself than dreams to fulfil! Here are mine. (~Submitted bystudy-littleidlegirl)
  40. I study because I never want to stop learning about myself and the world we live in.
  41. I study so I’m educated enough to take down the haters in an articulate way so I feel accomplished when leaving the situation.
  42. I study to ensure that when I’m actively in politics, only weak minded people will be able to scorn me due to my ethnic background or religion (or something stupid along those lines) instead of the immaculate policies and work I am carrying out.
  43. I study to become successful in my future and because I have a passion for learning. (Submitted by baklavugh)
  44. I study because I don’t have anything else to do. I guess it keeps me so busy that I don’t have time to think how lonely I am.
  45. Because it makes me happy to see my hard work paid off and also ensures a better future than I would have if I didn’t study well. (Submitted by h4rshitaa)
  46. I study to be able to pursue the career I want. For the thrill of knowledge, the security of understanding. For the way it shapes how I interpret the world. I study not because it is something I must do, but because it is something that is a part of who I am.  (Submitted by @audesapare)
  47. I study to improve my mind so I can understand deeply the things people thought I was not capable of understanding. I study so I can live the most fulfilled life possible. I take every second of this life as a chance to learn and improve myself.
  48. Because I’m going to prove girls are useful for more then just looks and a sex object.
  49. I study to open doors of opportunity. I study to improve my and others lives. I study to feel good when I go to sleep. I study to feel confident with my ability. I study to prove to myself what I can do.
  50. Because I want to show to my child that everything needed effort and passion. Also I want to show how important knowledge is, as a mom and as a housewife. (Submitted by studymamapartiallyhousewife)
  51. I study because it makes me happy to know I am in control of my future.
  52. I study because I am curious.
  53. So that I won’t have to struggle like my parents are financially.  (Submitted by study-sugar)
  54. I study because I want my single mother who has worked so hard for my education to live a better life when she’s older. I want her to look at me in the future, sitting in my office in a law firm and telling herself “it was all worth it”.
  56. I study so that I can be proud of the person that I am.
  57. I study because I want independence. After my bachelor’s degree I plan to be able to continue into further study such as an MA and support myself. I am an only child which has always led my family to be over protective and education will always be my way in holding my own in the world.
  58. I study so I can have the freedom to leave where I am now and actually be happy for a change. Without studying I wouldn’t be able to get the job nor satisfaction in life I know I deserve.
  59. I study because it’s the one thing I can decide for myself.
  60. I study because knowledge is power and I never want to feel inferior to anyone or have any regrets. I don’t want anything to hold me back from achieving my dreams. (Submitted by shreestudies)
  61. I study so I’m not so nervous for tests. Also to improve myself and my learning.
  62. I study because I have a huge thirst for knowledge. I love to learn and allow that to change me as a person for the better. I love being able to understand the world around me and contribute my opinions that have been developed from what I’ve learned. (Submitted bymymindssecretpalace)
  63. I want to be a successful person in life. I can use my intelligence to help those in need. Besides, people won’t belittle or pick on my appearance! ✌
  64. I study because I want to help others and make people aware that how important it is to be literate. (Submitted by anashiv)
  65. I study to show that I have potential. I study to show my learning disabilities and adhd is not me. I study because I want to grow. I study to be the person I know I can be, the person I know I am.
  66. I’m so tired of not passing my tests, of feeling like I don’t know the material. I have testing anxiety which prevents me from doing well. I want to study enough that I feel so comfortable with the material and the anxiety goes away. I want to study so I can begin feeling proud of myself and all my accomplishments.
  67. To help those struggling with different mental illnesses and help them see a better light.
  68. Because I want to build that building.
  69. I study because I want to prove all my male teachers and friends, that not only boys are learning the best, and if I want to, I can beat them all!
  70. I want to study to make my parents proud after all the sacrifices they made for me and to succeed so my family and I can live a better life.
  71. I study because I love to learn new things. (Submitted by ki-soonal)
  72. I study to find a solution to stop the passing on of the genes for hereditary diseases. As in to reduce risk of young children being diagnosed with hereditary diseases.
  73. To get that dream job and slay everyone who said it was too difficult for me.
  74. Because education is awesome.
  75. So I can change the world.
  76. To give my mom and dad the life they deserve! (Submitted by samiya-malik)
  77. Because everything is a competition and I must be best. (Submitted by letustudy)
  78. To prove to myself and others that I can do anything I set my mind to. (Submitted by studiousstudying)
  79. So when you are taking a test/exam your anxiety and stress levels are lower. (Submitted by introvertedturtlequeen)
  80. I study because I want to know I’ve earned everything I achieve.
  81. The biggest reason I study is that all of my friends are incredibly smart and when I was younger I wanted to prove to them that I could keep up, but now that I’ve decided that I don’t need to compete, I study just because it makes me feel good. (Submitted by queen-elbow)
  82. I study because the world is an interesting place, and I want to know it as deeply as possible. (Submitted by matchamonstr)
  83. I study because I am so sick and tired of seeing my mom struggle, all because she didn’t have a good education. I don’t want to wake up to a job I absolutely dread, and be paid minimum wage. I want to say “thanks mom, I can take care of you now.”
  84. I study to grow big enough to reach my high hopes. (Submitted by seriousstudygirl)
  85. To see the look on my mum and dad’s face when they see my results. (Submitted by seizethesaturday)
  86. I study because I love to crush my enemies. I like to see the looks on their faces when they see me succeed. (Submitted by dirtylaundry-emptystyrofoam)
  87. I study because I feel the need to prove to the world that I am more than a child prodigy that burnt out one day. I need to prove to myself that I’m just as good, if not better than I used to be. That I’ve got places to go and people to prove wrong.
  88. I study because I love to teach and I want to know everything that I can so that I can more clearly convey things to others, and to be able to make connections across topics to make things personal and interesting to them. (Submitted by the-homework-fandom)
  89. My dream as a little girl was “to be the most smartest person ever” and I still don’t know what else to do. (Submitted by polaroceanographer)
  90. To create room for the real me in the future.
  91. My reason for studying is so I can get into the university I want, and not have to travel away to one. (Submitted by iggythedragonslayer)
  92. To get a well paid job so my children can have the best possible life.
  93. My reason to study is to prove to my parents and myself that I can achieve my goals without the help of others. My reason to study is to gain valuable knowledge, NOT just for a grade.  (Submitted by barbstudies)
  94. To prove to myself that I am strong and can reach my goals. (Submitted by scared-robot
  95. I study so I have a chance of getting into the United States Air Force academy… 
  96. I study so I am offered to meet interesting people that are also studying the same field as I am. (Submitted by ghostsname)
  97. I’ll study so I can live relaxed as a cat in Hokkaido.
  98. *Shia LaBoeuf voice* JUST DO IT
  99. So I can prove myself that I am, indeed, intelligent and not just some bimbo with a hollow head. (Submitted by study-guerassimovna)
  100. Because learning new things and having a more informed view of the world is beautiful. (Submitted by studism)