@wintersoldieringg you asked for it so here it is: the really disturbing subtext in T/ony Stark and P/eter Parker’s first encounter in C/aptain America: Civil War.
Tony shows up at Peter’s apartment and when Peter comes home, Tony asks to be alone with Peter and even locks the door to his bedroom. Tony then makes a snide remark about Peter’s computer being “retro”, probably as a not-so-subtle reminder that Tony has way more money and resources than Peter ever will.
Then Tony shows him the video, confirming that this grown man who has locked himself alone in a room with a teenage boy has been spying on said teenage boy for up to six months (this is how long Peter has had his powers at this point).
He then proceeds to poke at the ceiling tiles and go through his things, making more snide remarks along the way. Tony asks if Peter is “Spider-boy” or “Spider-thing”, and when Peter replies that he’s “Spider-man”, Stark’s response is “Not in that onesie you’re not.”
All the aforementioned interactions take place almost like an interrogation, with Stark seeming more like a villain than a hero.
Then we move on to the emotional manipulation. It’s unclear whether or not Tony knows about the death of Uncle Ben at this point, but the whole “What’s your MO/why do you do this” portion of the scene could be read as further exploiting Peter’s guilt over his uncle’s death (by insinuating that C/aptain America is another bad guy that Peter is responsible for stopping)
This, of course, culminates with Tony threatening to tell Aunt May Peter’s secret, and Peter shooting his web at Tony’s hand in order to stop him. At this point, Tony calls him “Spider-Man”.
So aside from outright blackmail, we have an adult man trying to exacerbate and take advantage of an adolescent boy’s insecurities, invading his private space, and implying that he’s only a “man” if he does what Tony asks him to do. Read between the lines here, people.