established couple

*Todd and Dirk at a party in 10 years time, holding hands*

Random person: So how did you guys meet?
Todd: He broke into my house and I tried to kill him
Random person: ….
Dirk: *sniffing* So romantic


Jackson: A good husband is one who serves his husband in the morning like a mother does, loves him in the day like a sister does and pleases him like a prostitute in the night.

Mark: Gaga, it’s 2am. Shut the fuck up and go to sleep!

Jackson: Okay, baby.

*Tries to cuddle with Mark.

Mark: Get your boner away from my ass!

that pre baseball scene from 3x14 where jane and co don’t want to have maura and her team playing with them baseball and both of them get called and maura says “we’re not done here” and jane just replies with “okay” and her face when maura walks away

what i want to say is that this scene would have been even more funnier if they were a couple. brickering couple rizzles. 


“shit. way to go rizzoli.”

“i guess this means a week without sex.”

anyway, can we talk about a movie again?

Dear Shield writers, us wishing for fitzsimmons to be a happy couples does not equal them being in the background for half the season and having more scenes separate from each other than together. That is not how you show a couple is together. That’s boring. There actually is a happy medium between “we’re cursed and going to die every episode” and “we’re so happy and peaceful that there’s nothing to write about anymore”. 

((OOC: Sooo I’ve had a few lovely people message me, full of concern, because “MOLLY LIED TO ARTHUR ABOUT A MUGGLE BROTHER. WHAT IS GOING TO HAPPEN WHEN HE FINDS OUT SHE LIIIIED.” which is so sweet, but let’s all look back to Philosopher’s Stone, what Ron said to Harry on the train:

“Are all your family wizards?” asked Harry, who found Ron just as interesting as Ron found him.
“I think Mom’s got a second cousin who’s an accountant, but we never talk about him.”

After they’ve been an established couple for a while, Molly ends up going on this outlandish story of her muggle brother, Jerome, leaving the family for good, because she can’t handle having to keep up the lie, and what if Arthur meets her family and asks about this brother? But she sees how sad it makes him to think this person is just off and alone and abandoned by his family. So a month later she tells him that she’s received a letter from her mother that Jerome is, in a bizarre twist of fate, getting married to some distant cousin! And they talk about how great it would be to be able to attend that wedding, but ultimately, Arthur agrees that it would cause too much strain in the already tense family, but he is absolutely comforted by the knowledge that Jerome is back in the family.

And Molly keeps that lie going for the REST OF HER LIFE. They tell their children about Jerome. Every odd year or so, Molly lets Arthur post a letter to Jerome through one of those wicked cool muggle post boxes (”Who takes the mail? Where does the mail GO?”). Jerome becomes this incredibly nuanced figment of the collective Weasley imagination. And any time Molly feels guilty and thinks about coming clean, she brings up Jerome, and Arthur’s eyes just light up, and she CANNOT DO IT. 

They are pretty much reverse-Dursleys.

And that is my full headcannon vis a vis the muggle brother. ))

Being In A Relationship With Loki Laufeyson Would Go A Little Something Like.....

Requested by @rindulacre! Thanks!!^.^


In The Beginning…

~ Loki avoids you like the plague. There is no way he’s attracted to a weak, fragile, mortal. Even if you do have beautiful eyes and a stunning smile and the way you laugh makes his breath catch in his chest like he’s been hit with his brother’s hammer. Nope. He’s not attracted. Not at all.

~ He does a pretty good job of avoiding you until he sees you talking with Thor one day and it sets him off

~ Loki takes immediate action and interrupts the (completely innocent) conversation your having with Thor to ask you on a date, something that couldn’t make Thor happier

~ Later Loki has to ask Thor what exactly a date entails as he has no idea what he’s doing

~ Your first date consists of Loki arriving right on time with a large bouquet of your favorite flowers. 

~ He takes you to a carnival where you introduce him to all kinds of new foods (most of which he is extremely hesitant to try). You also drag him through the house of mirrors and onto most of the rides. He wins you a huge stuffed tiger at a booth that is obviously rigged (he swears he didn’t use magic though). And at the end of the night you share a kiss at the top of the Ferris Wheel as fireworks go off in the back ground.

~ Loki takes you out on only three more movie worthy dates before asking if you would like to “go steady” 

As A New Couple…

~ Everyone thinks you guys are joking until Loki pulls you in for a deep kiss to prove them wrong

~ Thor is so excited he drags you and Loki out on a double date with him and Jane. (Most of the night is spent with you and Jane in tears of laughter as the two brothers try to top each others embarrassing stories about the other).

~ Loki is constantly sending you flowers and poetic handwritten notes

~  Loki is an extremely jealous person and every time he even sees someone look at you too long he pulls you in for a passionate kiss until he knows whoever was looking gets the point

~ Loki never lets you out of his sight because he knows there’s some serious people after him, and he doesn’t really trust anyone else to protect you like he would

~ After eight months of being together Loki takes you to Asgard to meet his parents. It’s when he sees the approval and excitement in his mother’s eyes that he knows it’s the right time to ask you to move in with him.

As An Established Couple Who Lives Together…

~ Your apartment is absolutely covered in bookshelves which are not only full of books (both Midgardian and Asgardian) but also little trinkets Loki has collected from all nine realms. 

~ Loki talks in his sleep. Sometimes it’s random things, but mostly he quotes really strange lines from poems and books. He once quoted the entire first act of Hamlet

~ Whenever he thinks you’re not looking Loki will “cheat” with his chores and just use magic

~  You two spend a lot of nights on your apartment roof, stargazing as Loki tells you stories about the history of Asgard and the other realms

~ You love getting to introduce Loki to new Midgardian things. The best thing so far has been when you went camping and introduced him to s’mores. Loki ended up freaking out so bad when his marshmellow caught on fire that he ended up freezing your entire fire

~ Loki has come home on more than a handful of occasions to find you using his cape as a blanket

~ Loki has a “hidden” stash of girl scout cookies. He hides them on the top shelf of his closet

~ It’s one of those nights after Loki has read you to sleep when he’s carding his fingers through your hair and he can feel the smile on his face when it hits him. He realizes how much you trust him as you look so happy and peaceful and vulnerable curled into his side without care of who he was or what he did to get here by your side and he feels a warmth in his chest he hasn’t felt in years.

Which Leads To…

~ Loki taking a secret trip to Asgard in order to ask Odin and Frigga if he can permanently borrow one of the many rings locked away in the royal vaults in order to make you his queen


Hope you guys liked it!(:

Shout out to Emerald City for not being afraid to put their couple together early on in the season for fear it would become “stale” or “boring”, and for not saying that “audiences like the chase, they like having a couple pine after each other for 10 seasons, they stop caring when the couple becomes official”. 

Shout out to Emerald City for not relying on the overused and unwanted trope of love triangles. 

Shout out to Emerald City for finding a way to make a couple fall in love early on and have it believable, and to use the opportunity to actually explore the relationship throughout the season as they experience and overcome trials and tribulations together, united and in love.

Shout out to Emerald City for not relying on love triangles or slow burn to make a couple interesting, and actually use their brains and adequate writing skills to keep them fresh and exciting by simply… writing a good narrative.

I am so sick of television being afraid to write a story with an established couple who remain united and in love throughout the series, so thank you Emerald City for taking the leap of faith.


Hands down one of the best couple ever made. Since starting Naruto, Shikamaru became my favorite after the chunin exams. And then Temari came along and I just fell in love with the two. I just love their relationship, even when platonic it was great and when it became romantic it was awesome. All the little jabs Temari made at Shikamaru, their praises for each other throughout the show and then just seeing them together was what got me to love them more and more. Though, the show wasn’t focused on them(seriously I’d watch every episode of Shikamaru Shippuden), just these little moments made my heart burst and killed me over and over. We won’t be able to see them as an established couple before Shikadai but hopefully we see a lot them as parents in Boruto.

You should always check why and how you ship two men. If those two men never/rarely interact, if they are abusive/violent with each other, if there is already an actual established gay couple in the fandom that you choose to ignore because you don’t find them as attractive as your chosen ones (who are more often than not white and straight) - if any of these points apply to your ship, you should try and think whether you are spreading a healthy image of what a real mlm relationship looks like or not. If you don’t care about that, then you are here only to satisfy your fetish. And mlm deserve better than that.

Things that shouldn’t happen in a theoretical Animorphs netflix series, but probably would anyway

Hey since apparently I’m sdkfldkjf in this fandom now or something have a non-exhaustive list of things I think a director/screenwriter would stick into an Animorphs netflix series that they absolutely shouldn’t but would for the drama™ of it all

1. Berenson Brawl

  • Oh my god a Rachel vs Jake all out scrap. In the book it never happens except in Rachel’s fever dream. As much as she sometimes chafes against his leadership and the continual narrative suggestion that there’s a simmering desire to challenge him, having them actually fight to be in charge would be a huge disservice to both their characters as well as their relationship. Rachel and Jake have such a solid thing in which they know exactly their roles and how to work with one another, how to be each other’s anchor, leash-holder, or executioner if they get out of line. Having them brawl for leadership would be terrible, but oh my god it would 100% happen in a netflix adaptation. how could it not? there’d be so many on screen arguments, so many instances of Jake pulling Rachel back, that it would just have to culminate into a super-dramatic, brutal, tiger v.s grizzly bear beatdown that takes up like 20 minutes of the episode and has like 3 scene changes as they crash through buildings, trees, etc. 
  • That said, holy fuck god i would be so into it. Like it’s terrible of me but the second the fight started I’d have to pause to go pop some popcorn and pour myself a glass of wine and get hyped and then settle in for the fucking show. 

2. Traitor Tobias 

  • In Back to Before, Tobias gets Yeerked but mostly does not get his brain-controlled self up in anyone else’s business before having his head shot off. That absolutely would not fly in a netflix adaptation. There would 100% be a confrontation between Yeerk!Tobias and Rachel, and it would be tragic, and Yeerk!Tobias would probably be threatening her with a weapon to the temple, and then they’d look into each other’s eyes or some shit, and there’d be this moment of recognition…before someone, probably Ax or Marco, ices Tobias from behind. He collapses and Rachel catches him automatically, holds him in her arms and stares into his empty eyes, not understanding where this profound pain is coming from…
  • I would be full out weeping. still drinking wine, but also weeping. 

3. Honeypot

  • If you think we’re getting an adaptation involving spying, subterfuge, and teenagers, and not have one of them have to seduce a potential high ranking Yeerk controller who’s attending their school, you do not understand what old men in media think teenage audiences want to see. Someone’s going to a fancy restaurant with a potential enemy while everyone else hides in ridiculous outfits. 
  • I would find this acceptable so long as the one on the date is Jake. 

3. High School

  • Seriously, half the time in the books you forget they were somehow attending school. In a netflix series there would be recurring side characters, and ridiculous club responsibilities that people got sucked into, and the occasional episode climax that takes place at a school football game or pep rally for some reason. it’s the 90s. own the aesthetic.
  • actually I’d legitimately really be into a slightly more expansive social world for the characters. like show Jake and Rachel and Marco shifting away from their friend groups, even though they’re trying to keep up appearances. have minor characters that notice that there’s something drastically different about their friends. 

4. Pair the Spares 

  • It’s unavoidable that whenever Jake/Cassie and Rachel/Tobias get affectionate in the same scene, the camera’s going to pan to Marco and Ax standing awkwardly next to each other. Probably, they’d play it up for laughs. But I’m pretty down for out and undeniably bi Marco completely sincerely making passes at Ax whenever the rest of the team starts pairing up. And Ax just ???????? not understanding human courtship rituals. 
  • It toes a precarious queerbaiting line but so long as it’s completely clear that Marco is actually bi I’m good with a recurring joke of anytime the established couples get mushy, Marco starts wiggling his eyebrows at Ax

love triangles and on again-off again relationships are so crusty. i want healthy, stable relationships. giving a firmly established couple difficult obstacles to overcome together is how you make your ships interesting and believable instead of frustrating and obnoxious 

Legit Tip #176

or - “Writing Characters in Established Relationships”

The majority of time, when relationships are prominent in fiction, they cover the beginnings of relationships - how couples get together. First meetings and the difficulties that people face in getting to know each other and falling in love. And there’s definitely something magical and special and lovely about that.

But there’s something just as special and lovely about couples who have been together for a while - who have already had the time to get to know each other and grow together. Which is why I love it when stories open with characters who are already in established relationships. I think it goes without saying, though, that there are special challenges that come with writing characters who are already in established relationships.

First things first  - I think anybody writing a couple in an established relationship needs to realize that there is always going to be a history there. And just like you can’t infodump with the worldbuilding of a story, you can’t infodump with a couple and tell the reader everything there is to know about how they got together, and what they’ve been through. So that leads me to one of my first major points.

Reveal backstory through interaction. One of my favorite couples is Tess and Joel from Naughty Dog’s “The Last of Us.” Though they were never officially confirmed as a couple, it was pretty obvious that they were together romantically in some sense. And really, it was the fact that it was never made explicit that makes them such a good example for this point.

Apart from a few lines of dialogue and the fact that they’re working together on a mission to retrieve stolen weapons, there isn’t much to tell you that they’re “together” - not even body language. (There’s not the chance for that sort of thing). What we do see is that they’ve had a hard life together. That they’re partners in criminal activity. That they’ve been together for several years. And we know that they’re both hard people. 

So how can you do the same? As a writer, you can reveal your characters’ backstory in the same way through your characters’ shared experiences. Remember that they’ve lived a life together by this point, so use that to your advantage. When the chance arises, have them remember some little detail that gives you the opportunity to bring up something from their past. 

How are couples who have been together for a while different from “established” couples? Hoo boy. This is actually a tricky question to answer because, well, every couple is different. But as I already said, remember that any couple who has been together for a while has had the chance to get to know each other - has had the chance to merge their lives and established patterns, routines, and a sense of domesticity. 

Showing your reader the way that your characters live can help give them a sense of who they are together - who they are as a couple. To give you another video game example, there are some great scenes in “Uncharted 4″ where we get to see Nate and Elena in their home, living their lives together. It’s awesome because in the earlier games we are getting to see the beginning of their relationship, and now we’re seeing them as a couple who have been together for a while. 

Honestly, these details aren’t boring to readers if you present them in a way that isn’t boring. (I know, easier said than done…) But showing your reader just a little bit of insight into the way that your characters live is a great way to invite readers in. 

Romances with established couples honestly shouldn’t be as rare as they are. They’re a great way of inviting readers into the “ever after” part of the Happily Ever After. And even if it’s not all bliss, it’s interesting and dynamic and can make for great storytelling, no matter the genre that you decide to insert it into. 

Poly Terms

I’m trying to compile a list of terms related to polyamory for newcomers to the community and anyone else who’s interested in learning about it (I practically had a google tab open whenever I was reading about poly stuff). If you think anything should be added or changed, please let me know.

  • Bigamy: being married (in a legal sense) while already married to another person (usually illegal)
  • Bipoly: a shortened term for bisexual polyamorous
  • Closed relationship: any configuration in which partners are not allowed to seek other partners outside the configuration
  • Compersion: the opposite of jealousy; an empathetic response to a partner’s happiness with their other partner(s)
  • Hierarchical relationship: a polycule configuration in which there is a primary partnership which takes priority over one or more secondary arrangements 
  • Metamour: your partner’s partner that you are not otherwise involved with non-platonically
  • Monogamish: a term used to describe a relationship which is a closed couple most of the time, but has exceptions
  • Monogamy: the practice or state of having a non-platonic relationship with only one partner
  • Non-platonic: a relationship that has a romantic and/or sexual nature
  • Nonmonogamy: blanket term which covers several types of interpersonal relationships in which an individual forms multiple and simultaneous sexual or romantic bonds with informed consent from all involved
  • NRE: acronym for new relationship energy, the feeling of euphoria associated with the beginning of a relationship
  • Open relationship: any configuration in which partners are allowed to seek other partners
  • Polyamory spectrum: a continuum of monogamy to polyamory
  • Polyamory: the philosophy or state of being non-platonically involved with more than one person at the same time with informed consent from all involved
  • Polyandry: polygamy in which a woman has more than one husband
  • Polycule: a network of people who are involved in non-platonic relationships and their metamours
  • Polyfidelity: three or more people in a closed relationship
  • Polygamy: the practice or custom of having more than one wife or husband at the same time
  • Polygyny: polygamy in which a man has more than one wife
  • Polysexual: someone who has the capacity to be attracted to multiple genders, usually more than two (frequently confused with polyamorous)
  • Relationship orientation: a person’s identity as related to their preference for monogamy or polyamory
  • Serial monogamy: not included under the polyamory umbrella; multiple monogamous relationships one after the other
  • Swinging: a configuration in which a couple has a relationship that is open strictly for sexual flings
  • Unicorn hunters: a couple looking for a woman to be their “unicorn” (usually has a negative connotation)
  • Unicorn: a bisexual polyamorous woman who is open to forming a (usually closed) triad with an established couple; referred to as a unicorn because women as described above are extremely rare

Someone recently emailed me to point out how rarely we see Jimmy and Kim being physically affectionate, and suggested that if a newcomer were to tune into the show, they might be surprised to learn that they’re a couple. Where do you see their relationship standing at this moment at the end of the season, and how do you think the news about Chuck will affect them as a couple?

I think they’re pretty united at this point. We do not show them being very physically affectionate, which to me reads more as an established couple. They’ve known each other for so long, it’s a relationship they almost fell into. But I do think there’s always a bit of a distance between them, in the sense that Kim is such a controlled person. And though he should understand that Kim does know who he is and accepts that, there’s that thing of, “I don’t want her to see this dark, bad part of me that I know is inside.” He’s really internalized what Chuck told him. So that’s always affected the relationship. But I do think they are united at the end. The accident did bring them closer together. x

swagness2001  asked:

I was reading your headcanons for Hikaku and. Mito and Hikaku? She may have married Hashirama, but come on. A Sensible Being. From the Uchiha clan? What god sent this gift? Hashirama didn't realize the only reason he made peace with the Uchiha was because Mito married them to Hikaku.

Omg I LOVE this. Have some ridiculousness, I couldn’t resist. 

“He’s pretty, isn’t he?” Mito asks thoughtfully, eyeing the Uchiha currently arguing—more or less politely—with Izuna. Hashirama caught enough of their conversation earlier to know that Hikaku is the main reason Izuna even agreed to peace talks, though those talks look like they’re going to go up in smoke if something doesn’t change drastically.

Hashirama blinks at his wife, then glances back at Hikaku, wondering if this is one of those things established couples are supposed to do. Looking at other people is healthy, right? And Hikaku is definitely worth looking at—all the Uchiha are pretty, but Hikaku has finer bones than most of them, and the high ponytail emphasizes the delicate angles of his face. Hashirama caught a glimpse of him smiling at his younger cousin earlier—the cousin who then attached himself to a bewildered Tobirama and refused to be shaken loose—and he was lovely indeed.

“Very,” he agrees, offering Mito a smile, happy to make her happy.

“Hmm,” Mito offers thoughtfully, and snaps her fan shut. She glides away with the poise of a queen, cutting right through the Uchihas’ argument and somehow coming out on the other side with Hikaku on one arm and Izuna gaping behind them. Hikaku doesn’t look like he has any clue how it happened, either, but when Mito turns her empress smile on him he flushes and doesn’t try to pull away.

Hashirama might have looked deeper into it, because it’s Mito and she never does anything without a reason, but that’s the moment Madara and Tobirama get into another hair-pulling match and he has to bolt over and break them up. Wrangling them back to their respective corners pushes the matter entirely out of mind, and Hashirama forgets all about it.

It stays forgotten right up until he steps into their bedroom that night and finds Hikaku tied to the headboard with Mito perched on the mattress beside him, smiling like a tigress.

“Oh,” Hashirama says dumbly, and then “Oh,” as the pieces connect, because he might not have his wife’s mind for politics but he’s gotten a lot better at reading through the layers in each of her actions, and this one is clear. He chuckles, leaning over to kiss her gently, and then offers Hikaku a warm smile. “Hello. Just her, or both of us?”

Hikaku goes crimson, stutters, and then groans in clear mortification and closes his eyes, tipping his head back against the pillows. “Both of you,” he manages, almost a squeak.

“This is a test run,” Mito says cheerfully, and stands up to drop her robe to the floor. Hashirama watches her with admiration and no little hunger, because Mito is the most beautiful woman he’s ever seen and so devastatingly brilliant he can barely breathe when he looks at her sometimes.

From the sound Hikaku makes, he entirely agrees.

Mito laughs, leaning in to kiss Hashirama teasingly before she bends to offer Hikaku the same. Hashirama watches them, feeling the heat crawl through his blood and curl up his spine, and then prompts, “Test run?”

“Mmm.” Mito leans forward, the cascade of her scarlet hair tumbling free of its buns, and sprawls on the far side of Hikaku, sliding a possessive hand down his bare chest as she gives Hashirama a wicked smile. “If we all have fun and there are no objections, I can have a wedding scheduled within the week.”

His wife is an evil mastermind, Hashirama thinks fondly. He’s so glad she’s on his side, though he does feel a bit of pity for Madara, who keeps trying to oppose her. Leaning forward, he unknots the ropes holding Hikaku, and at Mito’s pout reminds her gently, “Bondage on the second date, Mito. Let’s see how he is with his hands this time.”

One of the hands in question slides up Hashirama’s shoulder, tentative but determined, and curls around the back of his neck. Hikaku puts just enough pressure behind the gesture to make it a question, and Hashirama goes gladly, kissing him thoroughly.

“I’m very good with them,” Hikaku promises, faintly breathless, when they separate, and his eyes are crimson and black in the low light of the bedroom.

Mito chuckles, looping an arm through Hashirama’s to pull him close. “Prove it,” she challenges, and tumbles Hashirama onto the bed with them.

(It’s a good night, and the look on Madara’s face the next morning when he bursts in to complain about Tobirama is very nearly better.)