essentialism

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Steve using the shield on Tony’s heart   ||   Thor using Mjolnir on Tony’s heart

Tbh the best way I manage my adhd to keep my room clean is to just. Have baskets/bins everywhere. A dirty laundry basket and a not-quite-dirty-I-can-wear-this-again laundry basket (both within throwing distance of where I normally dress and undress), a snacks basket by my chair, a bowl by the door for pins/rings/bracelets, multiple trashcans in strategic locations, etc

When things have a place to go, and that place is conveniently located near where I would otherwise drop the things, I can take advantage of the principle of Might As Well because putting it in the Correct place takes exactly as much energy as it would to just drop it wherever

“Might as well put this in the trashcan that’s two feet away from me,” “Might as well drop this shirt in the laundry basket by my feet,” “Might as well put the bag of chips back into the snack basket next to my chair,” etc etc etc

Doesn’t help with everything (there are currently several things around my room that could probably be put away) but it does help with the big offenders like clothes and trash

I just. wanna draw these two being happy & soft ❄️

Herbs, Incense and Oils

Chamomile- healing, babies, children, animals, reversing bad luck, attracts money, helpful in family matters 

Basil- fidelity, prosperity, protection, fear of flying 

Cedar/Cedarwood- healing, cleansing bad influences, negative thoughts, harmony 

Allspice- money, passion, swift moving or urgent matters

Cinnamon- passion, regaining money after loss, urgently needing money, psychic awareness 

Dragon’s Blood- fierce protection, anti-curse, any major enterprise, male potency

Fennel- travel, house sales, moves , banish/keep harm away 

Frankincense- wealth, courage, joy, career, success, travel

Hyssop- love commitment, healing, spirituality, protection, (infusion of hyssop) cleansing artefacts 

Juniper- purifies homes; protects against accidents, thieves and illness; and male potency 

Lemongrass/Lemon- repels spite, malice and gossip; helps with psychic awareness and travel

Lemon verbena- breaking bad luck; protection against negativity, Evil eye and ill-wishing 

Mint/Peppermint- drives negativity from objects and places; brings money, health, love and success 

Myrtle- lasting marriage, mature love, domestic happiness, property and security

Myrrh- healing, peace, purification, overcoming grief, protection against evil

Pine- drives away harm from home and family, cleansing negativity and malice, guarding property and premises, Immortality

Rosemary- Learning, love, fidelity, prosperity, banish malevolence 

Sage- longevity, good health, examinations, interviews, tests, protection of the home and family, slow growing prosperity and wisdom 

Sandalwood- spiritual awareness and healing, leadership, justice, compensation, sexuality

Tarragon- courage, anti-bullying; shedding of old burdens, guilt, fears and destructive relationships 

Thyme- psychic cleansing of land and possessions, health, memories of past worlds, drives away night terrors

Vetivert- love, breaking bad luck, protect against theft and negativity 

Vanilla- calming, soothing, vitalises energy, happy/healthy environment, good fortune, enhances physical energy and mental stimulation

Earlier on I visited a brick-and-mortar, “real life” queer space (they self-describe as queer) and I’d just like to reassure everyone again that the nasty anti-queer, anti-inclusion infighting so typical of this website is generally not representative of reality in queer/LGBTQ+ organizations. This place had, among other things, zines about all the supposedly ~controversial issues like respectability politics, cissexism and biphobia from cis LG people, gender policing, assimilationism in the guise of rights, ace and aro exclusion from the community, intersectionality of being LGBTQ+ with other oppressions and how it creates its own issues, and so on. None of it was treated as controversial at all; on the contrary, you could talk about it with the premise that these are all real problems having already been accepted.

Gatekeepers know they’re a fringe group. Like truscum, TERFs and other essentialists, their “solution” then is to make more of a racket and engage in more harassment that they try to pass off as a good cause (supposedly safeguarding the community from whoever they imagine to be Evil Straight Interlopers that month). But outside their little jerk circle? Inclusion is the norm. Don’t forget it.

I know that policing ableist language can often create too close a focus on saying the right words instead of doing the right things to help/support/accommodate mentally ill, ND, and disabled people, but every time i see someone say that lacking empathy makes you evil (or that having empathy is necessary for you to be moral) because they don’t know the difference/can’t be bothered to differentiate between empathy and compassion, it’s like a punch to the fucking gut, and i want followers to know i didn’t choose this hill to die on just to be pedantic. it’s upsetting. it feels dehumanizing. and in this current political climate, well-meaning people are doing it goddamn everywhere.

i don’t even have a conclusion for this post

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Girl in the Fireplace // The Witchfinders

honestly if you believe there are certain bodily prerequisites you need to meet to be a real wo/man, you might as well call yourself a homophobe as well as a transphobe. bc the way we understand binary sexgender today ties directly into straight ideology, namely that there are two “opposite” sexes (constituted solely by genitalia) that are destined to unite and become One, producing offspring and thus reproducing the same society that made them.

any politic that claims to support lgbtq+ ppl but still reifies sexgender as binary and immutable ultimately keeps in place a foundational element of heterosexism as we know it

Separatism brings ease onto my soul. I no longer rack my brain wondering what is wrong with men. I no longer lament over why they won’t change. I no longer waste my energy trying to converse with them, have them in my life or change them. I no longer try to appeal to their humanity for the sake of women (spoiler alert, men have no humanity and are morally bankrupt).

I look back and see how much energy being a reformist took out of me. I felt so depressed, stuck in a loop, so hopeless. There was no end point to feminism, it felt like endless attempts to fix men and failing only to try again. It was exhausting. I hated it.

I look at other women and see a spring of life in them.

Separatism gives women something they have never had in other forms of feminism, it gives them an answer. In the here and now, something doable and independent. Something that works. Most of all it gives us peace knowing we don’t have to waste lifetimes trying to get semen dispensers to change. What a relief.