Looking for advice here. Basically, a friend of mine keeps reblogging a/phobic posts (usually along the lines of "lol a/phobia isn't real you wusses") and from a/phobic people, and it really upsets me to see on my dash. However, my friend has supported me in being a-spec before, so I don't know how they actually feel about the topic. I don't want to just unfollow, either, since we're friends and all (plus I don't want to deal with conflict, so I'm afraid to bring it up with them). Any advice?
honestly if that happened to me i would just throw them into the dumpster, because i’ve just seen too much of this crap to bother anymore, but i completely understand why it’s difficult when a friend does it especially. if my friend did it, i would be extremely conflicted.
the only options i see here are to talk to them about it, because it doesn’t make sense for them to have supported your aspec-ness if they’re invalidating and hating on it, unless they just want to seem nice. if somehow they actually do support aspecs (like maybe they feel pressured to be an aph////ob////e by tumblr, since it’s the current ~trend~), then you could probably give them resources to prove their arguments wrong, or refer them to someone who’s very knowledgeable about this topic.
if you’re unable to ask them, the only other thing i think you could do here is toss them out. your mental health and happiness comes first, and real friends don’t do this to their friend. you deserve better, so please take care of yourself. do what you have to.