esp for women

yo being black and depressed is hard as fuck. being black with anxiety is hard as fuck. being black with a chronic illness or disability is hard a fuck. everybody expects you to be ‘strong’ at all times and no one sees black people as complex or nuanced enough to be capable of suffering. no one ever thinks we could possibly need help. and if you’re a black woman, the moment you stop thinking about others and try to tend to yourself you’re a selfish lazy ungrateful bitch.

support black people, esp women, who need help. don’t just call us strong or tell us we’ll get through it, help us. protect us. uplift us. allow us to be beings capable of suffering. give us the same space you’d give white women to express our pain and be there for us like you would for anyone else. 

it never ceases to amaze me when gbtq dudes who understand the concept of saying “i hate straight people/i hate cis people” as a way to vent frustration with a homo/transphobic culture and not a direct statement about individually hating every straight/cis person in the world still shit themselves when women (esp lbtq women) say “i hate men”

and when i say it amazes me i mean it doesn’t surprise me at fucking all

us: stripping gay people of the sexual part and attraction of our identities is and always has been a way to make homophobes more comfortable with gay people, as they buy into “love the sinner, hate the sin” rhetorics, where the ‘sin’ always refers to gay sex and sexual attraction between gay people is seen as dirty by default

headcanoning gay characters as asexual supports this trope and takes away representation from gay people who are already shamed enough for our sex

plus in the case of yuri from yuri on ice it’s plainly dismissing his character arch, which is about him coming to terms with his sexual attraction to a man; not to mention has ableist and racist connotations and plays into the desexualization of east asian men

yall: but ace people can have sex! let people hc characters as ace in peace!

us: if you dont want a character to feel sexual attraction, why do you still want to force them into sexual situations? it’s almost as if you want to enjoy smut that involves them while still retaining your view of them as “pure” and untouched by the ~dirty~ sexual attraction

and why do we never see straight characters be headcanoned as ace? it’s always gay (or gay coded) characters, poc (esp. asian men and black women) and ND/mentally ill characters, all of which play into societally established bigoted beliefs (homophobia, racism, ableism)

yall: ????? [cricket noises i guess, i’ve never fucking seen this addressed]

Fun fact: it is possible to (and best to) complain about m/m fetishisation by straight women WITHOUT comparing it to the rampant violence women (esp wlw) face by the porn industry

Straight women’s homophobia/biphobia/lesbophobia isn’t like….. Lesser because they’re women.

Straight women will push gay girls boundaries and then pull the rug out and complain “ew ur hitting on me” or “ew ur being really creepy” or [wow u predatory fuck get away from me]

Many gay women have lots of trauma from real actual self identified 100% straight women. Straight women (esp straight white women) are not helpless victims of gay women’s ~nasty predatory desire~

Not even getting in to how nasty and racist and homophobic it is for straight white women to posture wlwoc as predators

Straight women suck.

*shrugs* maybe people point out OP is a terf/terf-supporter because it can change the context (or rather, make it more clear) of the post, or maybe some people just really don’t want to interact with someone who supports people who are actively against them/hate them for who they are and I mean you can think whatever you want about that but dismissing them as childish/derailing is kinda naive

anonymous asked:

100% agree on your analysis of Jimin as a Slytherin!!! I know a lot of people (including myself) are shocked Namjoon put himself in Griffindoor over Ravenclaw though. I'm dying to hear your thoughts on this!!

HELLO and thank you! I’m glad you agree! And if anyone is curious here is a link to my thoughts on why jimin is the perfect slytherin. EDIT: And here is why Jungkook is a Ravenclaw!

//cracks knuckles MY TIME HAS COME

So… Namjoon. I, like you and a ton of other people, was really confused about him being in Gryffindor. But, the more I thought about it, the more I really came to not only accept it, but believe that he is a Gryffindor through and through. And please be advised this is going to devolve in to me gawking over how great of a human being Namjoon is, so if you don’t want to read about that please close your browser and think about why you don’t agree that he’s better than everyone else. okay?


Namjoon is a Gryffindor to the core, not a Ravenclaw

First of all, Namjoon supposedly sorted everyone else, but I have a small sneaking suspicion that he may not have sorted himself. We know he’s a fan of the movies at least, and he’s fluent in English, so if he’s a fan and he has access to sorting quizzes on Pottermore and other sites, is it so hard to believe that he hasn’t at least tried a few? Seriously, even the most casual of fans have tried getting sorted. It’s not that crazy of a thought. So… What if they put him in Gryffindor over Ravenclaw?

(I mean, when asked to do a British accent the first thing that he quotes was “Shut up Malfoy!”. If that ain’t the most Gryffindor thing…)

Also, Namjoon is a really humble guy. If he DID sort himself, I feel like he’d be the type of person who would shy away from saying “I’m smart, so I should be in Ravenclaw”. He’s always been pretty modest about his intelligence. And just because he is, doesn’t mean we should be. Seriously, Namjoon can be a goof but if you’re ever in doubt about how crazy smart he is, please watch this.

He has no problems recognizing the intelligence of others though – he raves about Jungkook being good at everything he does, and even gave him the nickname “Golden Maknae”,  so is it such a wonder he put Jungkook in Ravenclaw? (It should be noted that Ravenclaws also have a reputation for being eccentric and quirky. Prime example, Luna. If that isn’t a perfect descriptor for Jungkook idk what is)

So let’s look at what the common traits of Gryffindor are, shall we?

Such character traits of students sorted into Gryffindor are courage, chivalry, and determination. They can also be short-tempered. [x]

Okay so, courage. I could go on and on about how brave Namjoon is but like… we’ll be here all day. So let me keep this short and point you in the direction of one thing in particular that he has done. THIS TWEET.

It’s Rap Monster. A song about homosexuality. I heard this song before but I didn’t know the lyrics, now I know them and I like the song twice as much. I recommend Macklemore & Ryan Lewis - Same Love.

I have a lot of feelings about this tweet. And a lot of theories about WHY he tweeted that too – but no one wants to hear about those so that’s for another life post.

First – speaking out in support of homosexuality in Korea is a pretty huge deal, because homosexuality isn’t a really accepted lifestyle there. (It isn’t really accepted anywhere, truly, but you all know that.)

Here’s a pretty recent list on idols who support LGBT communities.  It’s a pretty god damn short list. I use the term ‘support’ loosely bc this article seems to equate ‘having gay friends’ as being a supportive ally. But Namjoon stands out pretty hard in this list because he doesn’t just say ‘i love my gay friends!’, he outright spoke out in support of homosexuality.

But Kiki, you say… Namjoon is hugely popular. He’s one of the biggest stars in Kpop. He could say whatever he wants now, right?

Well yeah, he can. But here’s the kicker! Look at the timestamp on that tweet. He tweeted that before they debuted

Namjoon was months away from launching his dream career, something he’d worked his entire life for. He was from a pretty small unknown company whose only claim to fame before that was that group that had two members blackmail an actor over something or another. He couldn’t afford bad press, and yet here comes Kim fucking Namjoon with his balls of steel willing to throw that all down the drain because god dammit he was going to tell the entire world about how much he supported the LGBT community and anyone who wanted to stand in his way of doing so could eat a fuckin dick. He could have kept his heckin mouth shut but he didn’t??? 


moving on.


Chivalry is defined as:

1.the combination of qualities expected of an ideal knight, esp courage,honour, justice, and a readiness to help the weak

2.courteous behaviour, esp towards women

Courage, honor, justice, what I just talked about describes those things pretty perfectly.

I’d like to talk about honor for a sec though. Let’s look at a pretty famous Gryffindor – Ron. Ron was one of a shitload of children in his family. He outwardly always grumbled about not getting attention or whatever, but as a person, he was all about family. He put his family first, he didn’t gripe too hard about hand-me-downs to his parents because he knew they were trying their best, and he defends people he cares about.

There’s that famous scene (that I’m still salty they changed in the movies) where Hermione wants to answer a question and Snape gets mad at her for it. And he defends her – why ask the question if you’re not looking for an answer?

Ron always, always put his family first. So does Namjoon.

Take this gifset for example. The whole set is great and shows how much he really takes care of his members, his family, but this is what he does when he’s around them and also in front of people. Not all that surprsiing.

But please, please please please pay attention to the first gif. For people who don’t know the context, he was asked if he’d choose going solo or bangtan. He DID NOT KNOW HE WAS BEING FILMED. He could have shown his true colors and said that he preferred a solo career and all the glory, but even when given the chance to be completely open, his heart was still with Bangtan.

Another great example of Namjoon being completely selfless. Everyone here is praising themselves (and they have a right too, don’t get me wrong, you’re all great four for all of you) but when it gets to him, Namjoon says “We’ve always been pretty good.” We. Not I, not me, we. Everyone else is giving themselves some much deserved praise, but Namjoon is stuck on we are good, we’ve always been good.

Also don’t forget how important blood-related family is to him too.

And don’t you dare forget how important you, his extended family, is to him either.

Readiness to help the weak. I mean this goes without saying right?

And if you want to take courteous behaviour, esp towards women, literally, look at their glass-ceiling line in Not Today, that they said they used specifically knowing what it meant. and look who is credited for writing the lyrics! What’s that? It’s Namjoon? Wow, I did not see that one coming.

Speaking of lyrics – talk about having courage. Look at the lyrics he wrote for Reflection and Always.

They can also be short-tempered.

Okay so this doesn’t really apply to Namjoon. But I wanted to include it in there because it fittingly applies to another Gryffindor we know of… Namjoon wasn’t playing around when he sorted these guys. Bonus, here you can observe a hufflepuff and (fond) gryffindor in their natural habitat.

So let’s recap. Namjoon is pretty selfless, extremely caring of his friends and family, a feminist, an outspoken ally for those who are mistreated, and is so god damn intelligent everyone REALLY thought he belonged in Ravenclaw.

Wait a minute, I feel like I’ve heard about this person before… There was another Gryffindor like this, I’m sure of it… it’s on the tip of my tongue…

Ah right. 

I’m not saying Namjoon is our version Hermione Granger, but… that’s exactly what I’m saying.

my sophomore speech on the need for sex-segregated bathrooms!!

i wrote and performed this for a required speech at my high school!! a lot of people told me they found it very convincing or at least made them think about the issue more! i hope you enjoy!!

A Feminist Perspective on the Trans Bathroom Debate

July 15, 2011: man rapes 19-year-old girl twice in college bathroom (Morse)

January 7, 2014: 10-year-old girl sexually assaulted in a Denny’s bathroom (Bennett)

February 26, 2014: man sentenced to indefinite prison sentence after abusing women in two Toronto women’s shelters after gaining access by claiming to be transgender (Pazzano)

December 17, 2014: LA police issue warning to women after 3 attempted rapes in bathrooms in the last two months (Baldonado)

April 13, 2015: man rapes woman inside the bathroom of a NYC sports bar (“Stranger Grabs Woman by Throat, Rapes Her in Bathroom of Manhattan Bar: NYPD.” )

May 9, 2015: LA woman raped in park bathroom (Navarro)

July 8, 2015: Phoenix man rapes woman in park bathroom (Mahoney)

August 28, 2015: woman attacked and rape attempted by man in mall bathroom (Brilliant)

September 13, 2015: woman raped in downtown Annapolis restroom (Belt)

October 16, 2015: 12-year-old girl raped in CVS bathroom (Robinson)

October 17, 2015: man rapes 50-year-old woman in bathroom (“Woman (50) Raped in Chloorkop Toilet.”)

October 18, 2015: man tries to rape a 63-year-old woman in NYC bathroom (Sit)

October 23, 2015: woman raped in Vermont courthouse bathroom (“Woman Raped in Vermont Courthouse Bathroom.”)

July 21, 2016: man tries to rape woman in church bathroom during quinceañera (“NYPD: Man Tries To Rape Woman Inside Staten Island Church Bathroom.”)

September 2, 2016: man drags woman into group home bathroom and rapes her (WHAM)

In the last five years, there have been at least 15 incidents of men attempting or succeeding in raping women and girls in bathrooms. Most likely, there were significantly more. According to the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, out of every 1000 rapes, only 310 are reported to the police and only six will result in the rapist going to jail. (“The Criminal Justice System: Statistics.”) From that data, as well as the fact that these 15 cases are only the ones interesting enough for there to be a news article about and easily found on the internet, there are hundreds, maybe thousands of sexual assaults in bathrooms per year, the vast majority of which will be committed by men. According to the US Bureau of Justice Statistics, a department of the US government that collects and analyzes crime statistics, males perpetrate a whopping 97% of all rapes (Langton). This omnipresent danger is one of the many reasons sex segregated bathrooms and intimate facilities like locker rooms exist.

Despite this clear threat, women’s right to safe places to pee and change are being taken away by well-meaning, but misguided attempts to stop discrimination.

This saga began by the complete and utter elimination of females as a protected group by the Obama administration on May 13, 2016. On that day, the US Departments of Justice and Education sent a letter to schools across the country regarding Title IX of the Education Amendments of 1972, which is described by the DOJ as “a comprehensive federal law that prohibits discrimination on the basis of sex in any federally funded education program or activity.” Basically, this legislation is what requires schools to have women’s sports teams, math and science classes that females can attend, and punishment for sexual harassment. In this message, the departments released what they called “significant guidance” to this law, which served to redefine the word “sex” in the legislation to a student’s personal “gender identity” which is defined by the DOJ as “an individual’s internal sense of gender” even if this “identity” is different than their biological sex. Students don’t need to present any “proof” of this disparate identity as schools cannot ask for any identification documents of a gender change such as “medical diagnosis or treatment requirement” without now violating a student’s so called right to being treated as their “gender identity” (Lhamon).

That means a school cannot prevent a male student from playing on a female sports team as long as they claim to have a “female” gender identity even if he still 100% physically male with all the athletic advantages that has. Even something as small as the difference in height and bone structure could allow a male to physically dominate in  athletics like women’s basketball team. The same male student would also be allowed to use the girls’ locker room, which in some sports are used for showering. This puts women and girls in the uncomfortable situation of having to see male genitalia up close and personal, which could be considered sexual assault (“Sexual Assault.”). The inevitable consequences of this legislation change are already being felt. A school district in Minnesota that has just enacted the “inclusive” gender identity policies demanded by the DOJ and DOE is already being sued by the families for failing to protect their daughters from a transgender male student who was “twerking, grinding, and lifting up his skirt to reveal his underwear” in the girls’ locker room. The same boy asked a girl who was changing about her bra size and “to “trade body parts” with him”. He also is said to have followed two girls to a different locker room when they sought privacy from him and undressed in front of them (Richardson). This school is just one of many school districts and institutions that now have to deal with the repercussions.

Not only has this legislature caused specific instances of insecurity and danger, it also is completely against the law. The decision to change “sex” to gender identity was decided not as a democratically voted upon law, but rather released as what was called “significant guidance.” This information is supposed to clarify an existing law with examples on specific scenarios, but not change the meaning of legislature. The Obama administration said that the phrasing “sex” was ambiguous, but it’s simply not (Lhamon). Humans (and actually, all mammals) are a sexually dimorphic species, meaning that there are two distinct sexes. Sex is an observable trait defined by one’s chromosomes, genitalia and what kind of gamete one produces. Although intersex individuals, meaning those with some sort of disorder causing errors in some aspect of sex, exist, their conditions are rare, noticeably a medical disorder, and in most cases, still observably male or female. Only 0.018%, which is less than a 50th of a percent of the population is unable to be classified as male or female (Sax). Redefining sex to gender completely changes the meaning of Title IX by fully eliminating the sex protections fought for by women for decades by allowing anyone to identify into these protections. This significant guidance is significant enough that it needs to be democratically elected by both the House of Representatives and the Senate before it can be enacted.

But what if it does pass? It’s not impossible; President-elect Trump said that Caitlyn Jenner could use any bathroom “she” wanted in the Trump Tower (Smith). My first point stands; men are dangerous, no matter what they identify as, if they’re wearing a t-shirt, a three piece suit, or a dress. According to the FBI, men commit almost 75% of all crime, and 97% of sexual assaults, which is one of the greatest risks of allowing males into women’s intimate facilities like bathrooms and locker rooms (“Table 4.2: Arrests by Sex, 2014.”). women and girls have been and continue to be raped in bathrooms by men. According to a 2010 study by the Center for Disease Control, 1 of 5 women will be raped in her lifetime. That means that just in this room at least 2 of the girl will be raped in her lifetime. For our entire school that’s almost 200 girls. And an entire 45% of females face other sexual violence in their lifetime, so 5 of us will be sexually assaulted as well (Black). This danger is posed by all men, even if they identify as women. The Karolinska Institutet, a Swedish medical university that is considered “one of the largest and most prestigious medical schools in the world” and decides who wins the Nobel Prize in Physiology or Medicine (“Karolinska Institutet.”), conducted a 30 year study of transgender individuals (such that they took cross-sex hormones and underwent sex “reassignment” surgery) in Sweden from 1973 to 2003 and compared them to non-trans male and female controls. They concluded that transgender males were just as likely to commit crimes as non-transgender men, which is 18 times higher than that of females (Dhejne). That means that women are now legally required to allow potentially dangerous males into their bathrooms, which is against the very concept of having sex-segregated bathrooms: that is to say, to guarantee the safety of those at the highest risk of sexual violence (which is women) by separation from those who are likely to commit it (a.k.a men). However, many people also worry about the possible violence transgender people could face in a bathroom they don’t identify with. This could be prevented by the creation of single occupancy sex neutral bathrooms, which would negate the possibility of violence against both women and transgender people.

So now the question is: what can you do? How can we combat these dangerous changes? The first and most obvious thing you can do is also the hardest: speak out. Do not allow these laws to go unobstructed. Call your representatives, sign a petition, go to a protest, even just talk to your friends and spread the word. You can also support the Women’s Liberation Front in their court case against the DOJ and DOE for endangering women and girls. They are relying completely on donations and need support. Finally, use the single most important political statement you possess, vote! Not all of us can, but most soon will be able to. In 2018, the so-called “bathroom bill” law will appear on our voting ballots, and give us our right as American citizens to change our laws until they are just for all (News). We need to work together and stand strong to fight for women’s rights.

Works Cited (link)

Back when I thought I was bi, I’d say things like ‘guys are fine and all but wow girls are so amazing, I love girls so much’ and talk about how I 'liked men and women, but in a different way? Like I’ll just see a girl and feel happy and fluttery, but I have to be around a guy for a while to like him’

And honestly? How did I not realize I was a lesbian sooner?

bi women are so great goddamn i lov bi women so much. u all make my life so much better and u make me proud to be a woman and esp a woman who loves women!!! 

anonymous asked:

OK but are we gonna talk about the bi erasure with Waverly? She didn't want to kiss Perry but we know she had/enjoyed sex with Champ, plus she's made comments about Doc and Dolls in the past. She's bi and that comment about her being gay was erasure of that fact.

i knew this would happen when we finally got some kind of confirmation on waverly’s sexuality. (i mean, bi people often call themselves gay, but not in a context such as we saw waves say it). look, i personally headcanoned her as bi, but tbh dom has been calling her gay in interviews for a long time. waverly dating perry and champ or making flirty comments about doc and dolls are basically just the product of compulsory heterosexuality. which is something that is by no means uncommon, esp in gay women. in fact, her comments about men actually stop after she starts dating nicole. that’s not her bisexuality being erased. that’s her realizing she doesn’t have to put on a façade. that’s her understanding something she didn’t before.

now maybe she is bi. this is an alternate timeline and she was just realizing things as she said it. so maybe she is bi but was just realizing she liked girls too. that’s still okay. that’s not bi erasure. but they made a point to have her say it the way she did. she didn’t say “i might like girls” or “i might like girls too.” she said “i think i’m gay,” and i think they had her say it that way on purpose, and we should probably respect that. just my two cents.

Michael Tracey is a correspondent of The Young Turks, a far left media outlet with a large “alt-left” following….but sure, “liberal centrists” are the neo-nazi sympathizers.

anonymous asked:

Bts reaction to crush having ADHD?

A/N: I respect you so much rn anon. You’re speaking to my people (i.e. me). To all readers: there are many different symptoms of ADHD, and not all people have the same symptoms (esp. women compared to men). I know I sure as hell don’t. I mean, I’m a walking contradiction! I’m both ADHD and OCD.


Originally posted by exoticmaknae

Yoongi finds your hyperactive and bounciness endearing as it is frustrating as sometimes he cannot get your attention to fully focus on him. Sometimes he wishes you’d just sit down because your hyperactivity makes him nervous (not to mention tired by just watching you), but besides that he likes that you can be so crazy, as it gives you a fun personality in his opinion.


Originally posted by ktaejin

It would excite Hoseok how exuberant and lively you can be, and your occasional mad spell would not deter him, but rather assure him that you two would have a blast together. He hates seeing other people get annoyed with you for being too hyper. 


Originally posted by btskimtaehyung

(let’s be honest with ourselves here; Tae is totally ADHD) Tae loves that you’re so hyper because you can keep up with him in ways others cannot. He understands your scatterbrained mind almost as well as his own, but he craves attention from you sometimes when you are too distant (despite how he’s no better, really).


Originally posted by hajimajimin

It would confuse Jimin at times because he wouldn’t understand why you were so distant, or why you were so frantic and fidgety, but he would like to think of it as one of your many quirks that he absolutely adores. He likes your quirks because it gives him more reason to play and fun with you.


Originally posted by rapnamu

Your distance and scatterbrained-ness can be incredibly frustrating for Namjoon whenever he wants to have a regular or meaningful conversation with you because you can’t seem to stay focused on the topic, getting distracted by the smallest of things, and going off on tangents more than once in just one conversation. There are times, though, where Namjoon likes to watch (and not disturb) you buzz about in your domain, humming or talking to yourself just because you’re so cute.


Originally posted by crimsonspeedsterr

Jin is really supportive of your hyperactive and fidgety-ness because he understands that you can’t help it, and while, yes, it can get on his nerves at times, no he is not going to let that stop him from liking you. Your little habits are freaking adorable and he loves to secretly listen to the little conversations you have with yourself as you’re hilarious when you think you’re alone, only teasing you about them just to see you get flustered.


Originally posted by bangtanofarmys

(probs ADHD too) Jungkook would find your energetic side really exciting because he’d think you’d be up for anything active (not really lol), but he’d also be really curious as to why you can’t stay in one spot for an allotted amount of time like him. He’d ask you questions, curious about what you’re really like behind the scatterbrained-ness and fidgeting, and really admire how much you manage to keep it together (even when you’re really not). 

anonymous asked:

Sasha is non binary though....

…..okay and?

being not cis in such a gender queer space as drag is isn’t inherently revolutionary, esp not with trans women being purposely hindered and prevented from full inclusion in that space.
uhh ive been seeing this a lot lately and its gotta stop somewhere

okay i realise im sayin all this as a white-passing afab but

HOOOLY SHIT i am so TIRED of seeing all these white afabs harrassing twoc esp black women on my dash abt how “””binary privilege””” is real and therefore these trans black women have privilege over the white afabs like

1. i NEVER fckin see you go after the white trans guys abt this. huh. wonder why that is. its not like society has ingrained in you the need to tear woc down at every opportunity and you hafta actually PUT IN THE WORK and THINK ABT UR ACTIONS to be an ally right??

2. SHUT UP oppression and transphobia are an aspect of every non-cis persons experience and different people may experience it differently but it all comes from the same place. “””enbyphobia””” and the like is NOT REAL its just a different flavor of transphobia. and before you come in saying “well i know someone who accepts binary trans people but not nobinary people!!” THAT PERSON IS A TRANSPHOBE AND IF YOU DIG DEEPER THEY PROBABLY DONT REALLY ACCEPT “BINARY” TRANS PEOPLE ANYWAY

3. yes every person’s experience is their own and you are really the gender you identify as but wtf is a “binary” trans person?? being trans is literally already rejecting the standard gender binary even if you identify as a man or a woman, and claiming to be nonbinary while trying to create a new binary of “binary vs. nonbinary” is uhh fckin redundant and ridiculous

4. pretending many “binary” trans people especially trans women dont have a complicated and maybe not strictly binary relationship with their gender just bc theyre a woman and not nb is just ignorant and naive. 


thanks thats all


P.S. i speak for myself and idk bout the other mods tho i would hope they agree with me

TBH as much as i hate white ppl calling south asia a backwards misogynist region im not gonna respond to them by minimising our real problem with misogyny. like imo living in australia and also being in south asia i recognise south asia’s problem is worse, but it’s only because factors such as colonisation made it so (not just british colonisation btw). 

but like, white women need not centre themselves in discussions of south asia’s misogyny. neither do affluent south asian women (however affluent SA women have a space in the discussion, white women don’t). we need to centre oppressed castes esp. dalit women, trans women, working class women, darker skinned women. they are the ones who face the worst of the worst, they are at greater risk of misogynist violence.