equanimities

The Signs as Pretty Words

Aries: scintilla (n) - a tiny spark

Taurus: serenity (n) - the state of being untroubled, peaceful

Gemini: ebullience (n) - bubbling enthusiasm 

Cancer: limerence (n) - the state of being infatuated with another person

Leo: lilt (v) - to move musically 

Virgo: eloquence (n) - the art of using language in an apt, fluent way

Libra: equanimity (n) - mental calmness, composure, evenness of temper

Scorpio: surreptitious (adj) - kept secret

Sagittarius: hiraeth (n) - a homesickness for a home you can’t return to, or that never was

Capricorn: petrichor (n) - the smell of earth after rain

Aquarius: renaissance (n) - rebirth

Pisces: ethereal (adj) - extremely delicate, light, not of this world

9

 tom hiddleston alphabet | f | fan encounters

“I remember as a young actor being treated contemptuously by people I hoped would be great. And I thought, ‘You’ve got this amazing life, you’ve probably got everything you want, why are you behaving like a cock?’ I knew that if I ever found myself in that position, I’d remember to treat people with equanimity and kindness.” [x]

crystals & the zodiac

capricorn: onyx, magnetite, smoky quartz, galena, white aragonite

  • onyx represents strength-giving & vigor 
  • magnetite is a grounding stone & represents polarities / balance
  • smoky quartz relieves negative energy, helps to tolerate difficult times with equanimity, & gently releases fear within oneself 
  • galena is a stone of spiritual harmony & expansion 
  • white aragonite represents the earth. it helps develop concentration, flexibility, & tolerance to the mind while combating sensitivity or stress 

aquarius: aquamarine, blue obsidian, boji stone, moonstone

  • aquamarine is a stone of calming energy with an affinity to sensitive people, helping to increase intuition  
  • blue obsidian vitalizes the soul & self 
  • boji stone represents feminine energy & awareness of self through clearing blocked or painful emotions & revealing negative thoughts / self-defeating behaviors to the conscious mind 
  • moonstone is a stone of intuition & a reminder of nature’s cycles

pisces: amethyst, moonstone, calcite, fluorite, blue agate, labradorite 

  • amethyst represents calming protection & higher vibrations of spiritual consciousness
  • moonstone is a stone of intuition & a reminder of nature’s cycles
  • calcite represents a connection between emotions / intellect & promotes inspiration 
  • blue agate brings peace of mind, effective in healing the throat chakra (free expression of thoughts & feelings) 
  • labradorite is a bringer of light & mysticism, stimulating intuition & trust in the universe. it balances rationality & emotions by inspiring contemplation & introspection of the self 

aries: diamond, aventurine, jade

  • diamond is a symbol of purity & light, a stone that represents cleansing of the aura & allowing the soul to shine through. the light of the diamond shows negative emotions or thoughts that require transformation, helping with enlightenment & evolution 
  • aventurine reinforces compassion, empathy, & perseverance, calming anger or irritation 
  • jade is a nurturing stone, bringing insight into oneself through calming energy & helping to express passionate emotions in constructive ways 

taurus: emerald, selenite, azurite, lapis lazuli 

  • emerald helps bring to the surface what is unconsciously known. it is a stone of healing, wisdom, & equilibrium 
  • selenite represents deep peace & clarity 
  • azurite cleanses the third eye & helps with intuitive development
  • lapis lazuli opens the third eye, stimulating enlightenment & harmonizing physical, spiritual, emotional, & mental levels 

gemini: green obsidian, serpentine, tiger’s eye, citrine 

  • green obsidian opens the throat chakra 
  • serpentine represents new openings for energy to rise
  • tiger’s eye is a stone of high vibrational energy, helping to promote clarity for scattered emotions, desires, & intentions to make a coherent whole 
  • citrine enhances positive emotions & promotes development of positive energy toward oneself & others 

cancer: amber, brown spinel, opal, pearl  

  • amber encourages trust, wisdom, & warm / bright energies 
  • brown spinel is a grounding stone, signifying rejuvenation of energy
  • opal represents reflection & intensification of feelings, emotional expression, & cohesiveness of emotional energy 
  • pearl represents water & feminine or emotional energy & complexities 

leo: turquoise, larimar, danburite, tiger’s eye, green tourmaline 

  • turquoise provides solace for the spirit. it represents intuition, releasing of inhibitions, & inner peace 
  • larimar is a stone of empowerment through increasing positive energy / thoughts toward oneself & strengthening one’s connection to nature 
  • danburite represents change & growth of the soul through the third eye, releasing of the past & moving forward in a confident direction
  • tiger’s eye is a stone of high vibrational energy, helping to promote clarity for scattered emotions, desires, & intentions to make a coherent whole 
  • green tourmaline reinforces compassion, tenderness, self-confidence, & openness. it is a stone that represents solutions, healing of fears, & rejuvenation  

virgo: moss agate, peridot, moonstone, blue topaz, dioptase 

  • moss agate enables one to see the power in themselves & their emotions through releasing fear & stress
  • peridot represents letting go of negative energies & old vibrations so higher frequencies can begin to guide oneself; it is a stone of necessary change, confidence, & psychological clarity 
  • moonstone is a stone of intuition & a reminder of nature’s cycles
  • blue topaz is a stone of verbalization, opening the throat chakra & healing anxieties 
  • dioptase represents consciousness in the present moment, releasing the need to control & helping the process of healing. it teaches that pain & difficulty in life is a mirroring of an inner separation from the self 

libra: prehnite, jade, opal 

  • prehnite is a stone for connecting with the universe’s energy & a crystal for healing through connecting to the higher self 
  • jade is a nurturing stone, bringing insight into oneself through calming energy & helping to express passionate emotions in constructive ways 
  • opal represents reflection & intensification of feelings, emotional expression, & cohesiveness of emotional energy 

scorpio: malachite, dioptase, moonstone, obsidian 

  • malachite is a toxic stone, intensifying both positive & negative energies 
  • dioptase represents consciousness in the present moment, releasing the need to control & helping the process of healing. it teaches that pain & difficulty in life is a mirroring of an inner separation from the self 
  • moonstone is a stone of intuition & a reminder of nature’s cycles
  • obsidian vitalizes the purpose of the soul, grounding the spirit into the body & exploring the depths of the subconscious mind / emotions 

sagittarius: gold obsidian, okenite, smoky quartz 

  • gold obsidian helps with conflicts of the ego
  • okenite clears obstacles in one’s path, promoting endurance to complete tasks / reach goals. it represents self-forgiveness for mistakes & the cyclical nature of learning 
  • smoky quartz relieves negative energy, helps to tolerate difficult times with equanimity, & gently releases fear within oneself 
Watch how your mind judges. Judgment comes, in part, out of your own fear. You judge other people because you’re not comfortable in your own being. By judging, you find out where you stand in relation to other people. The judging mind is very divisive. It separates. Separation closes your heart. If you close your heart to someone, you are perpetuating your suffering and theirs.
—  Ram Dass

If the people whom we find attractive were intrinsically pleasant, everyone who met them would find them pleasant; and if the people whom we find unattractive were intrinsically unpleasant, everyone who met them would find them unpleasant; but this is not the case. Therefore, rather than following such mistaken minds, we should regard all living beings as our mothers. Whoever we meet, we should think, “This person is my mother.” In this way, we will feel equally warm toward all living beings.

Introduction to Buddhism, by Geshe Kelsang Gyatso

I remember as a young actor being treated contemptuously by people I hoped would be great. And I thought, You’ve got this amazing lifes, you’ve probably got everything you want, why are you behaving like a cock? I knew that if I ever found myself in that position, I’d remember to treat people with equanimity and kindness.
—  Tom Hiddleston - Time Out Magazine
Even a happy life cannot be without a measure of darkness, and the word happy would lose its meaning if it were not balanced by sadness. It is far better to take things as they come along with patience and equanimity.
—   Carl Jung
Everybody can be great…because anybody can serve. You don’t have to have a college degree to serve. You don’t have to make your subject and verb agree to serve. You only need a heart full of grace. A soul generated by love.
—  Martin Luther King Jr.
The Four Elements of True Love

‘According to Buddhism, there are four elements of true love. The first is maitri, which can be translated as loving-kindness or benevolence. Loving-kindness is not only the desire to make someone happy, to bring joy to a beloved person; it is the ability to bring joy and happiness to the person you love, because even if your intention is to love this person, your love might make him or her suffer.

Training is needed in order to love properly; and to be able to give happiness and joy, you must practice deep looking directed towards the person you love. Because if you do not understand this person, you cannot love properly. Understanding is the essence of love. If you cannot understand, you cannot love. That is the message of the Buddha. If a husband, for example, does not understand his wife’s deepest troubles, her deepest aspirations, if he does not understand her suffering, he will not be able to love her in the right way. Without understanding, love is an impossible thing.

What must we do in order to understand a person? We must have time; we must practice looking deeply into this person. We must be there, attentive; we must observe, we must look deeply. And the fruit of this looking deeply is called understanding. Love is a true thing if it is made of a substance called understanding.

The second element of true love is compassion, karuna. This is not only the desire to ease the pain of another person, but the ability to do so. You must practice deep looking in order to gain a good understanding of the nature of the suffering of this person, in order to be able to help him or her to change. Knowledge and understanding are always at the root of practice. The practice of understanding is the practice of meditation. To meditate is to look deeply into the heart of things.

The third element of true love is joy, mudita. If there is no joy in love it is not true love. If you are suffering all the time, if you cry all the time, and if you make the person you love cry, this is not really love, it may even be the opposite. If there is no joy in your love, you can be sure that it is not true love.

The fourth element is upeksha, equanimity or freedom. In true love, you attain freedom. When you love, you bring freedom to the person you love. If the opposite is true, it is not true love. You must love in such a way that the person you love feels free, not only outside but also inside. “Dear one, do you have enough space in your heart and all around you?” This is an intelligent question for testing out whether your love is something real.’

- Thich Nhat Hanh, True Love.

Here’s a run down on the various types of crystal balls:

Clear Quartz – These are the most common and can be used for any type of scrying or gazing. Their electrical properties awaken spiritual insight and vision. A good general purpose ball.

Amethyst – the spiritual and healing stone. Amethyst is from the quartz family and is known for both its healing properties (mental, emotional, spiritual, psychic, and physical) and its ability to channel in the violet ray of highest spirituality. It’s associated with the moon, feminine energy, creativity and intuition. It’s very calming – also very expensive and harder to gaze into than clear quartz, but one of the best spheres for communication with spirit guides. They can give important information into dream activity.

Rose Quartz – the love stone. These are very loving and gentle stones to work with, good for any issue of the heart. Rose quartz will help energize and open you to the wisdom, ecstasy, and equanimity of your open heart. It’s used to help you be vulnerable, to let your distance down between people, and to feel safe. Whenever you feel the need for forgiveness in your readings, use rose quartz. One drawback in gazing with rose quartz is that it can make you feel so emotional that you can’t see past your emotions, especially if you are tired.

Smoky Quartz – the grounding and calming stone. The darker the smoky quartz, the deeper the grounding. It’s a good sphere to use with people who are overemotional or negative, or who have a tendency to throw up blocks consciously or unconsciously to psychic activity. It’s a good ball to use for clarity of dreams and for revealing an individual’s spiritual path and the best way to follow it in the physical. It’s very expensive, though.

Obsidian – Obsidian is a powerful mirror of the soul, one of the most effective for revealing what is truly reflected in the souls of others or yourself. Its blackness helps us go into the hidden places of our own minds and bring out hidden light. The stones often have concentric circles that, when focused upon, can reveal the pattern of our spiritual path and the patterns we much overcome to attain mastery. The images and visions awakened with these spheres are often blunt and always intense. They can be used for great penetration. Use an obsidian ball at Samhain for contact with your ancestors. Not considered a gazing tool for beginners.

Malachite – useful in revealing past-life connections and where present activities and patterns of behaviour are leading to the future. Also for healing issues and relationships. Good for those wishing to establish a strong connection with the earth. It can reveal the best ways of attuning to the beings and creatures of the natural world. (This includes totems, nature spirits, and devas). It can also provide insight into creativity and artistic expression. It’s a very soft stone and can be quite expensive.

Lapis, Sodalite, and Dumotierite – the psychic stones. These stones energize the third eye, the center of intuition and psychic attunement. Used for astral journeys. Lapis was so prized for these abilities that the ancient Egyptians considered it sacred. Sodalite and dumortierite have much the same feeling as lapis, but are a touch more grounding.

Yellow tiger-eye, yellow Citrine, Topaz, Ametrine, and Amber – the sunshine stones. The power of the sun is represented by all yellow stones. They can be used to reveal the brighter side of an issue, charge the reading with energy, or warm your heart.

Yellow tiger-eye – charges with sun qualities and grounds

Yellow citrine – strengthens and disperses clouds in readings

Yellow topaz – charges and lightens things up

Ametrine – mixture of amethyst and citrine, acts as a bridge to join spiritual realities with earth realities

Amber – energizes and helps in birthings, stimulates transformations, warms the heart and draws away from colder mental energies

Green Aventurine, Green Calcite, Emerald, Peridot, and Green Tourmaline – nurturing, prosperity, and abundance. Green is traditionally associated with your heart center. Rather than deal with the emotional part of the heart, green stones are used for the nurturing part of our heart, the part that relates to mother earth and all creation. Whenever you have issues in your readings having to do with money matters, or whether something will thrive, use a green sphere. Green tourmaline is useful in transforming energy states or one emotion into another. Light green spheres are useful for cooling off heated situations.

Aqua Aura, Blue Topaz, Turquoise, Blue Calcite, and Light Blue  Flourite – the sky stones. Because of their lightness and heavenly colours, the sky stones are good for lightening up anything. Use sky-stone spheres to help you uncoil tight knots of anger, lift the heavy feeling of depression, and release you from unhappiness. Unsticks readings, gives balance. Helps in communicating higher truths and visions that come from higher spirit.

Turquoise – absorbs negativity stirred up during a reading

Aqua Aura – angel stone, a clear quartz crystal that has been electronically bonded with gold. Helps connects us with angels. 

Maybe (Taoist story)

A classic ancient story illustrates the importance of equanimity and emotional resilience beautifully. Once upon a time, there was a wise old farmer who had worked on the land for over 40 years. One morning, while walking to his stable, he noticed that his horse had run away. His neighbours came to visit and sympathetically said to the farmer, “Such bad luck”.

“Maybe,” the farmer replied. The following morning, however, the horse returned, bringing with it three other wild horses. “Such good luck,” the neighbours exclaimed.“Maybe,” the farmer replied. The following afternoon, his son tried to ride one of the untamed horses and was thrown off, causing him to break his leg. The neighbours came to visit and tried to show sympathy and said to the farmer, “how unfortunate”. “Maybe,” answered the farmer. The following morning military officials came to the farmer’s village to draft young men into the army to fight in a new war. Observing that the farmer’s son’s leg was broken, they did not draft him into the war. The neighbours congratulated him on his good luck and the farmer calmly replied, “Maybe”.”