Let’s tell WWE we are sick of them treating the women like they don’t matter as much as the men. Let’s tell them we’re pissed about no Chyna tribute. We’re pissed about going through RAW week after week with no women’s match until over 2/3 of the way through. We’re pissed off that they can spend so long on stretching out and building up feuds in the men’s divisions but can’t give more than 10 minutes to the women alone.
It’s like they think Stephanie McMahon can replace a women’s match. Like Lana coming out with Rusev is equal to the women having more than seven minutes of airtime. Like a silly little graphic is an ok tribute to one of the best female wrestlers of all time. Well fuck that. The women’s division deserves respect dammit! And we will demand it.
So let’s review here. Men are 2X more likely to say they have more family responsibilities than their working spouse or partner, even though they make fewer banking, investment, healthcare, or insurance decisions and do significantly less cooking, grocery or other shopping, coordination of kid activities, and taking care of children when they’re sick. Got it.
And one more thing. Working moms are 20 percent more likely than working dads to say their lives are “Very Stressful.” Maybe that’s because they have so much more responsibility. Or maybe it’s because they live with a man who doesn’t realize it.
Either way, I need to be nicer to my wife. I hate it when our data proves her right.
Do you expect your husband to help with household chores? If you do, that’s totally reasonable! But if the two of you haven’t already talked about it, you really should, because unspoken expectations make healthy relationships a lot harder.
And if your relationship is unhealthy? Well, you probably have a whole lot more work ahead of you than 116 words scribbled in a notebook with a gel pen can solve. And that’s okay
If he helps, great! And if not, it’s time to talk again. Listen to his expectations and clearly communicate yours. (It’s okay if you don’t feel cheerful about this stuff. Doing life together is hard and sometimes messy. Keep your focus on explaining your side in a non-combative way, and be candid about how you feel.)
Remember, you didn’t marry your husband to help with the household chores. Hopefully. And hopefully that’s not why he married you, either. Ideally, both of you are in it together, each of you doing your part to protect your family, make provision for your family, and clean up after your family.
The way that breaks down looks different in each home (which is awesome), but rigid, archetypal roles are joy-killers, so don’t box your spouse in with a weird label that they may not have actually signed up for (hellooo, unspoken expectations!).
I sincerely hope that you married your husband because you love him—and because he loves you—and you both want to help one another, to make life together better, not worse. Because you want to share the burdens that life piles on by shouldering them together. Because marriage isn’t about blaming him, blaming yourself, or comparing the value of your work to his. It’s about building a home life that is safe, loving, and healthy for both of you. And that takes time, effort, and sometimes arguments.
Life isn’t always easy or happy, but marriage gives us the unique opportunity to get through the uneasy, unhappy times together and to relish the good times with someone we love. Make every moment count! <3
honestly I’m just…so relieved that the plebiscite is dead. It was so bad. As Bill said, “This isn’t a bill that delivers equality, this is a bill than entrenches discrimination.” And now, thanks to Labor, it’s something that won’t happen.
Cannes Film Festival | Palme d'Or Winners | The 2000’s
“The final image is the end of the film and the beginning of the debate.”
The Palme d'Or, being the film industry’s most prestigious accolade, has without question been awarded to a selection of some of the finest filmmakers in recent history. It is with this in mind that, in the first of a series of ongoing posts, we focus on the films that were awarded the honor within the 2000’s.
The División Azul (Blue Division) of Spanish volunteers in the German Army during WWII, formally known as the 250. Infanterie-Division within the Wehrmacht.
Hitler referred to the division as “equal to the best German ones”. During his table talks, he also said:
To troops, the Spaniards are a crew of ragamuffins. They regard a rifle as an instrument that should not be cleaned under any pretext. Their sentries exist only in principle. They don’t take up their posts, or, if they do take them up, they do so in their sleep. When the Russians arrive, the natives have to wake them up. But the Spaniards have never yielded an inch of ground. One can’t imagine more fearless fellows. They scarcely take cover. They flout death. I know, in any case, that our men are always glad to have Spaniards as neighbours in their sector.
“modern feminism has killed chivalry! you know there are nice men out there who would like to buy you a meal, or open the door for you. I think that being TOTALLY equal would create more division than you think.” -actual youtube comments from real(?) people
(Off the back of this post that talks about how there’s much more femslash in programmes dominated by female characters)
This is a screenshot of all the Agents of Shield fanfiction on AO3. I picked AoS to look at because it has a very equal gender division and it has well written women.
First I’d like to point out that it has no cannon same-sex relations (it did include Victoria Hand in a couple of episodes but neglected to reference the fact that she’s queer), which I suspect might contribute to the lower number of F/F and M/M ships (I mean it’s pretty hard to make a study when there are fuck all other programmes with even gender representation). Interestingly, Sleepy Hollow, the only other TV programme I can think of with such obvious equality, tells a similar story: 342 F/M, 36 M/M, and 19 F/F. A pretty even split of slash and femslash, with het pairings being dominant. Sleepy Hollow has a higher percentage of Gen fics though - perhaps expected for a show that shies away so completely from romance.
For anyone who wants a bit of analysis, Agents of Shield fanfiction is 16.9% M/M and 12.1% F/F. Which is pretty even, especially when you take into account:
1. The long, long tradition of M/M shipping that seriously disadvantages female shippers. Slash shipping is like a community. Femslash shipping is like that table in the corner in highschool where only the total outcasts hang out. F/F shipping is… not unacceptable, but it’s far less encouraged and commonplace than slash shipping.
2. The fact that AoS is part of the Marvel universe, which is strongly dominated by male characters (especially important with characters like Coulson, who is a character in both AoS and in the rest of the Marvel universe and was very commonly shipped with other male characters before AoS was even created (coughclintandstevecough). 463 works are Coulson/Clint, and Clint doesn’t even feature in the show (that’s about 10% of the entire works. If you excluded those, femslash would probably actually be more popular than slash in Agents of Shield). The only other slash/femslash pairing in more than 5% of the works is Skimmons, a femslash ship. The rest of the popular pairings are all het.
So I don’t know if anyone finds it interesting that the number of femslash and het ships skyrocket when there are more female characters. I just think it’s really something that should be taken into account when people talk about the prevalence of slash and femslash shipping.
So I thought it would be a good idea to go on Tumblr (to check up on Miraculous Ladybug news) while I was at work. I knew there was going to be a new episode today so I was like “What the hey, I’m bored!” And the first thing I saw was THIS. ALYA. WHUT!?
Personally, I’m not surprised. For one thing, Miraculous Ladybug has been pretty good when it comes to their villains. They’re not all male-centric for thing, there’s an almost equal division between male and female villains. And, according to my math, we were a bit overdue for another female villain. On top of that, I had a feeling that either Alya or Chloe would get a “villain episode” for themselves, just based off the fact that Adrien’s best friend Nino got one.
So, until I get off work, don’t mind me as I internally scream for the rest of the day. I can’t wait to watch the new episode when I get home! Hopefully it’ll be fansubbed by that time…or, at least, a transcript is posted!
Sometimes I lose hope in Turkey, and in my people. I do. I shake my head in disappointment and anger at what we have become. I laugh in hysteria whenever I hear that a fellow Turkish brother or sister supports Erdoğan and his actions. Sometimes I shut myself off from my people altogether. Because there is too much dispute, too much disagreement, and I want no part in it.
But then, I remember the LGBT pride march that is held every year without fail, the Gezi Park protests, the rallies that were held for a young woman after she was raped and murdered, the riots after a TRANSGENDER woman was raped and burnt to death.
And instantly my heart swells up in so much pride for my people. There are those of us who do fight for what we believe is unfair, cruel, or unjustifiable.
Most importantly, I remember Müstafa Kemal Atatürk. He is the man who gave women of Turkey equal rights to men, and the one who declared every child was to receive education. He is the person who taught us that religion and culture do not need to be one thing, that you could have one without the other. He taught us to be proud, to stand tall for the blood that rushes through our veins. He is the one who taught us to FIGHT, for our freedom of speech and our rights.
After remembering all of this do I lower my head in shame, for ever thinking of giving up on my people, for neglecting those who continued to fight, for thinking that the majority defined us all.
I am not proud of some of my people. However I stand tall with those who continue to fight for our freedom of speech, for our democracy, and most importantly for equality. I will never allow myself to think of Turkey as a single individual ever again, nor will I allow anyone else to. We do not all share the same values, and the same beliefs. We are all multiple individuals. Do not EVER group us as one. Not whilst we are fighting each other.
“Like Breda O'Brien, I too think that not everybody should be allowed to marry”, the letter reads. “As a Cork woman, I think that Dubliners should not be afforded this right”.
Chalmers continues: “They are different to us, their relationships are not of the same worth as ours and can sometimes be sinful. Please understand that this does not mean that I have anything against Dubliners or that I am racist"
"I love people from Dublin. Some of them are my best friends. I merely want the superior nature of Corkonians to be protected and recognised by the Irish state”, she writes before delivering the knock-out blow: “Ideally, I would have a quarter page of a national newspaper to espouse my views, but I don’t. Hence the need for a letter.”
And THAT is how you school a hypocrite. With hypocrisy. And a hint of sarcasm.
Would Mr. Nedham be responsible that, if all were to be decided by a vote of the majority, the eight or nine millions who have no property, would not think of usurping over the rights of the one or two millions who have? … Perhaps, at first, prejudice, habit, shame or fear, principle or religion, would restrain the poor from attacking the rich, and the idle from usurping on the industrious; but the time would not be long before courage and enterprise would come, and pretexts be invented by degrees, to countenance the majority in dividing all the property among them, or at least, in sharing it equally with its present possessors. Debts would be abolished first; taxes laid heavy on the rich, and not at all on the others; and at last a downright equal division of every thing be demanded, and voted. What would be the consequence of this? The idle, the vicious, the intemperate, would rush into the utmost extravagance of debauchery, sell and spend all their share, and then demand a new division of those who purchased from them. The moment the idea is admitted into society, that property is not as sacred as the laws of God, and that there is not a force of law and public justice to protect it, anarchy and tyranny commence. If “Thou shalt not covet,” and “Thou shalt not steal,” were not commandments of Heaven, they must be made inviolable precepts in every society, before it can be civilized or made free.
John Adams, Defence of the Constitutions of Government of the United States