ending-friendships

  • What She Says:I'm fine.
  • What She Means:While he was willing to accept that his father was evil and in need of help and forgiveness, did Luke actually know the details of what Anakin did the night he attacked the Jedi Temple? Was Luke aware that his father ignited his lightsaber on a roomful of defenseless children and slaughtered each and every one of them? Did he know that Vader strangled Luke's mother? Did he know what all occurred between Anakin and Obi-Wan on Mustafar, and the battle that tragically ended a friendship...and marriage? When Luke looked on the bodies of his murdered students, was it a grim reminder of what his father had once done, or was it a complete and horrific shock when Anakin's ghost sadly admitted that this was very similar to his own actions?
"I think we both established that you cared more than I did"

We met in university and became close during the brief year that we had classes together. We eventually moved on to our respective fields in uni, but we kept in touch over the years and became closer as a result. She was always flirtatious during our friendship (at least I thought she was) and I often wondered if she actually felt something for me, but because she had a boyfriend for most of our friendship, I simply ignored it mostly, although there were moments where I felt things. However; by my final year of university, she was single and I thought it would have been a good opportunity to explore the attraction that we both felt for each other. Long story short, we had a tryst for a few weeks and whilst it wasn’t entirely emotional at first (at least for me), it eventually developed into a complicated mess of feelings and jealousy; which eventually ended with a broken friendship and unanswered questions.

The saddest part is; she doesn’t even remember saying that to me and she still doesn’t understand why I cut her off. The other sad part is; she moved on in less than a month and I’m still here… confused about what I feel and why I still care; almost a whole year since we last saw each other face to face. 

anonymous asked:

In New Jersey the rival chains that ends friendships is wawa vs Dunkin donuts. This is purely based off of where you get your coffee in the morning, as they are otherwise two completely different stores.

thats so sad… the real coffee is in the friendships you have

anonymous asked:

There's a reason the girls and their families all distanced from C when they were all close af with her before so she must have done something but the girls would never say which is good in a way but if it was that bad to make them all end their friendships then 👀

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You know what, can I just say that I am so fucking sick and tired of cis men thinking that when I, a young, mildly attractive cis woman, am nice and polite that that somehow means I am attracted to them and want to date them. Every interaction that I have had with a cis man, where I want to deepen a relationship from acquaintance to friendship, has ended with me never speaking to said cis man again, because they all assumed that I wanted to date them. This last one I even explicitly told while I identify as poly, I’m not as into dating men as I am women, and that I do not date coworkers, ever. His response was to constantly message me on FB and through text for 2 days straight, scroll so far back through FB that he read and quoted back to me a post I made four months ago. He also said to me and I quote “I really want to see where this thing goes between us”. Oh, did I mention that he asked around at work, got my first and last name from coworkers and added me on FB without us ever having exchanged more than ‘hellos’ in passing? Honestly, this is the fourth guy to stalk me, either in person or via FB and I’m so tired of it. Can cis men just please not assume a woman is interested in dating you if they’re just talking to you and having a friendly conversation, jesus fucking christ how is that so hard to understand? 

anonymous asked:

daniel radcliffe & similar ppl w/ super gross friends - i'm genuinely confused how the racism/transphobia/homophobia etc doesn't change their opinion of their friends. i understand, to an extent, not ending friendships over uh ~casual -isms bc all of us are guilty of them though it's important that we're making an effor to unlearn them. but having 'really fucking racist friends' as danrad says? or close friends being trump supporters? i really wonder how someone can stay friends w/ sb like that.

like, how can you witness ur friends being disgusting like that and then have completely the same relationship as before. bc when someone of my friends/acquaintances says sth really racist/transphobic/ableist etc, it really changes my perception of them. i really can’t think of them the same after hearing/seeing shit like that. i definitely can’t be friends with them anymore, it doesn’t matter if we have the same taste in movies music whatever or that we never mention anything “controversial”.

yeah like i can understand little things that we all need to work on changing and like those don’t go unexcused but i won’t end a relationship over something super small that can be fixed quickly but like yo

like i’ve cut people off for that heavy and terrible shit, i’ll stop laughing in the middle of a joke for ugly things that i catch in conversations and if they don’t change their act quickly then it’s a wrap like how can you just let shit like that be a ‘minor inconvenience’ or some shit like what? 

Daniel Radcliffe discussing how he has racist friends but won’t end a friendship over their racist beliefs is exactly why we have a hard time trusting white “allies” and why we’re sick and tired of hearing white “allies” talk about how THEY aren’t racist.

Radcliffe’s exact quote is: “And I’m still friends with them because I don’t think that friendship should be drawn along those lines.”

And like… This is exactly what we mean when we talk about how being an ally means you have to actively help dismantle racism, especially within your communities and with other white people. If you’ve ever said “But I’M not racist so what do you want me to do??????” then this shit right here is what the fuck you’re supposed to do.

Pretending like your white friends holding racist beliefs is just some minor thing you disagree with like what toppings go best on pizza or if Coke is better than Pepsi is, to be quite honest, fucking disgusting.

And if you think that severing a friendship over racism is going too far then you perhaps need to re-evaluate how much of an ally you actually are.

It’s a huge goddamn privilege for racism to just be a minor inconvenience to a friendship and I can guarantee that your friends of color are wondering how you can be an ally when you sit there and allow your other friends to actively dehumanize them

An Open Letter To My Former Best Friend...

Dear Stranger,

I miss you. I miss texting you about every single stupid thing that happens in my life. I miss laughing with you and all of our inside jokes. I miss looking over at you and knowing exactly what you are thinking. I miss your family and the way you used to fill me in on their daily happenings and what crazy, judgmental things they said this time. I miss knowing that, at the end of the day, I had you– that when push came to shove, no matter how bad the situation might be, I knew you would be there. I miss my person, my other half and my best friend.

I hate that when people ask me how you are doing, and I genuinely don’t know. I hate that our conversations that once used to be so natural and seemingly endless are now just formal “how-do-you-do’s,” and “hope-you’re-doing-well’s.”

I hate that your face, the face I was so accustomed to seeing almost every single day, has become just another one in the crowd. I hate that we no longer speak, and that when we do, all of our conversations are awkward and now start with “OMG! I haven’t talked to you in forever!”

I’m mad at us for letting our friendship become this far gone. What happened? How did we not see this coming? How did we not feel ourselves starting to drift? I am mad at us for not fighting harder for the friendship that we had. It wasn’t like most friendships. It was the kind of friendship that neither of us could have anticipated coming to an end. It was us against the world, and now it is nothing. I am mad at us for letting it become nothing but a collection of memories.

I am sad because I don’t even know where to go from here. I don’t know what there is to be said. Nothing really happened to make it change, so how would we fix it? How do I make this horrible yearning for you go away? How do I shake the dreadful feeling of knowing that my best friend is no longer just a phone call away? We don’t even know each other anymore. How do we find a way to fall back together just as easily as we fell apart?

I hate that it probably can’t be fixed. I am hurt that you will probably never again be a huge part of my life. It hurts that when I threw my first housewarming party at the home my fiancé and I just bought, you weren’t there. That when I look around on my wedding day at all the faces in the crowd, it will hurt just as badly then as it does now to find that yours may not be there. But what hurts the most, and what I’m most scared of, is that you probably don’t even care at all. I am scared that maybe you haven’t noticed my absence in your life, or that maybe you have, but it just doesn’t matter to you.

I’m not naïve… I know that you have by now replaced me. I am scared that you don’t look back on our friendship as fondly as I do. I’m scared that our lack of a future doesn’t hurt you just as badly as it hurts me. I’m scared that you don’t miss me as much as I miss you.

However, even if that is the case, I like to hope that we will find our way back to each other, no matter how unlikely that now seems. I will never stop caring about you and wishing you well in life. I will silently smile from a distant sideline as you go out into the world and kick ass.

You will always hold a special place in my heart, even though I may no longer hold one in yours. I will never stop looking back on our friendship fondly and will always only have kind things to say.

I don’t know what the future holds for us, but I do know one thing is for certain, I will never find another friend like the friend I found in you. Thank you for everything. I miss you more than you could ever possibly know.

All the best,

Your Former Best Friend

Breakups are okay. Friendships ending are also okay.

Very okay. The last thing you should do is hate someone that just left you. You likely only hate them in the heat of the moment. You’ve been with them for however long you’ve been with them. Think about this. Usually, after an end, what do you do with all the photos you’ve taken? All of the memories that were made? I’m not sure about you, but I don’t delete them or burn them. I keep them. Memories are really the only lasting things in this world. You had your happy times, your high points, and even though it all comes to an end, you should be glad it happened. 

Don’t dwell on the sadness of things being over. Be happy that it happened. More good times will come. Everything will be okay. It always ends up that way, no matter how bleak the future may seem.

This post was mostly for my own good, but if it helps anyone else, I am glad to extend my reach. I’m glad we shared that time. I hate that it’s over, but it’s been a great two years. Even if all I have left are memories, they were amazing ones and I want to thank you for that.