encouragment

“Fat” is usually the first insult a girl throws at another girl when she wants to hurt her

I mean, is ‘fat’ really the worst thing a human being can be? Is ‘fat’ worse than ‘vindictive’, ‘jealous’, ‘shallow’, ‘vain’, ‘boring’ or ‘cruel’? Not to me; but then, you might retort, what do I know about the pressure to be skinny? I’m not in the business of being judged on my looks, what with being a writer and earning my living by using my brain…

I went to the British Book Awards that evening. After the award ceremony I bumped into a woman I hadn’t seen for nearly three years. The first thing she said to me? ‘You’ve lost a lot of weight since the last time I saw you!’

‘Well,’ I said, slightly nonplussed, ‘the last time you saw me I’d just had a baby.’

What I felt like saying was, ‘I’ve produced my third child and my sixth novel since I last saw you. Aren’t either of those things more important, more interesting, than my size?’ But no – my waist looked smaller! Forget the kid and the book: finally, something to celebrate!

I’d rather they were independent, interesting, idealistic, kind, opinionated, original, funny – a thousand things, before ‘thin’. And frankly, I’d rather they didn’t give a gust of stinking chihuahua flatulence whether the woman standing next to them has fleshier knees than they do. Let my girls be Hermiones, rather than Pansy Parkinsons.

- Jk. Rowling

Some people, no matter what you do, are not going to be for you. Even if you changed, met all their demands and did everything they asked, they would still find something wrong. I’ve learned that we can all save a lot of heartache and pain by learning to ignore those critical voices. You don’t need those people’s approval. You don’t have to have them cheering you on. They may try to make you look bad, but if you will stay on the high road and let God fight your battles, the more they talk the more God will bless you. They may try to take you down, but God will use it to take you up. Keep focused on your future, keep focused on the Word, and let His truth strengthen you to ignore the critics and move forward into the life of blessing He has prepared for you!

1. stop fucking thinking you can’t post a selfie. you’re not trying to impress anyone, fuck it. go fucking do it.
2. stop thinking you’re inferior to everyone. you are an equal. don’t worry what they think, it doesn’t matter. you’re worth more than you think.
3. dare yourself. push yourself. it’s okay to be afraid but it’s just as okay to be brave.
4. value your opinions before others’, especially if it’s about you. in the end no one knows you better than you.
5. do what YOU think is right. no one is going to hold you hand your whole life. hold your own hand and lead yourself.
6. don’t fear the unknown. try new things. buy that dress. wear that dark lipstick. try that organic ice cream. read.
7. don’t always do what’s expected of you. you’re your own individual and you can do things your own way. it’s okay.
8. life goes on. let it go. hold your loved ones close but hold yourself closer. breathe. cry. let it out. and love.
9. nothing is permanent. people change, lives change, and you will change. embrace it and make the best of it.
10. keep your mind open. hug a little longer. kiss cheeks. think outside the box. and love with every fiber in your being.
11. 2015 is yours. kick its ass.
—  i started listing my new years resolutions on twitter and it kind of turned into a motivational spiral
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Most of us know that feeling of drawing something that you really like but never being noticed for it. I drew this not only for other but also for myself for I am no where near excluded from this.

I have this habit of comparing my art to other people’s art and getting upset and downing myself when it gets alot of attention and I get little/none. I know I shouldn’t do that but I do it anyway. But for a matter of fact, I do not suck. And I have been told this many of times. I may not be as detailed as other people or popular or anything. But what really matters is that you are happy and that you know you are improving. We dont need hundreds of notes, thousands of messages and billions of fans to assure us that our work is up to par. We can do that all on our own. If your drawing could come to life, they would tell you that you dont suck. You put in the time and effort to give them life, I would be pretty grateful for that. 

And I hope that someday, I will be able to accept this. I know that someday, I will have more confidence in myself and my abilities. And when that day does come, no matter where my artistic abilities stand, I will look at it and say “I did fucking good” and I wont need anyone for clarification. I will be able to accept praise generously, and criticism humbly.

And I will know, for a fact that I dont suck.

The Greek word for “encouragement” in the New Testament means to “come alongside” or to engage. It’s two words smushed together. The single form of the word means you say something nice from far off, like “good luck.” But with the addition of the extra word, it means to draw in and fight together. The word had a military connotation, because when a Roman unit of soldiers lost morale, the commander would “come alongside” the soldiers and inspire them. In the same way, the Holy Spirit is called the “Encourager,” and He comes alongside us to fight this fight together. He is not far off but with us in the fray, the commander come down to reside in our soldier hearts.
—  J.S.