It’s not an easy burden to bear if someone you cared about walks out of your life and you don’t know why.
It’s not easy to forget when friendships and relationships are severed over issues that could have been resolved.
It doesn’t always feel possible to “move on,” when you still feel like there was so much that needed to be said.
Perhaps you’ve find yourself wondering what they would’ve said had they know how you really felt. Maybe you wonder what could’ve been, had that conversation that night played out differently or had certain people never gotten involved. Perhaps you feel guilty for something you said, and you’ve wondered for years if you should send a text or a letter to let them know why you said what you said. Maybe you’re just wishing that after all the pain of what they did, they would be the one to reach out and apologize.
Whatever the variables, a lack of closure can seriously hurt the heart. It can leave you tangled up in emotions that you should have let go of long ago. It can cause you draw conclusions and make assumptions about people you barely know. Because that’s what happens when we’ve been hurt. That’s what happened when we’ve been cut off or shut out.
But you know what? No matter what you didn’t know at the time, no matter who was involved, and no matter how many times you’ve wondered what could’ve been, closure alone will never give you the peace your heart is longing for. Because even if you do finally find out why they did what they did, and even if you were to send that text you’ve always wanted to send, nothing in the world will make the situation perfect, the way it always should’ve been. The only one who is capable of giving you what you were missing all this time is the one who has been there all this time: The Lord. He knows you AND the other person inside and out, and even at that person’s best, they can never give you the peace the Lord gives you! So no matter what the closure ends up looking like, look to the Lord for peace.
“And the peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.” - Phil. 4:7
Written by @morganhnichols for #TheDevoCo