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Moon signs in 5 words
  • Aries:Enthusiastic, optimistic, impatient, forgiving and Charming.
  • Taurus:Comfortable, sociable, predictable, romantic and independent.
  • Gemini:Witty, well-informed, restless, organised and anxious.
  • Cancer:Eidetic, devoted, self-absorbed, emotional and awkward.
  • Leo:Comical, sociable, integrity, talented and materialistic.
  • Virgo:Introverted, fussy, routined, analytical and sensitive.
  • Libra:Loving, charming, planner, indecisive and peaceful.
  • Scorpio:Intense, protective, intuitive, tenacious and stubborn.
  • Sagittarius:Free-spirited, optimistic, athletic, impatient and impulsive.
  • Capricorn:Competent, organised, patient, fearful and ambitious.
  • Aquarius:Observant, egotistic, stubborn, compassionate and intellectual.
  • Pisces:Psychic, silly, calm, reckless and empathetic.

“What a gift of grace to be able to take the chaos from within and from it create some semblance of order.”

Libra is an Air sign, harnessing the abstract and intellectual side of life and fusing it with the Venusian creativity and tuneful vibrations. The lyrical thought, imagination and fantasy appeal to the Libra individual, and their sign embodies the beauty of the mind and the integration of right and left brain thinking. The Libra personality expresses chameleon like and involuntarily adopts the beliefs and mannerisms of the surrounding crowd. They view the world through a multi perspective lens and constantly ride a pipeline of distracted thoughts and contradictory values. Libras are the ultimate charmers, and contour miracles with a flash of their divine smile. They readily integrate ideas that have seemingly no cohesion and express as a contradictory, erratic energy bubble - on one hand, they are kind, warm and empathetic, and on the other, detached and aloof. Ever the dazzling host, the Libran’s value system is projected through their relationships and friendship circles. They understand the justice of the universe, and accept fate in a way no other sign does. Acute psychic  intelligence derives from the realm of thought and unseen interpersonal energies. Although they approach most situations with thought and rationale, infatuation sparks their impulsive and reckless fragments. No matter how successful the Libran’s career and bank balance, there cuts a hollowness in their hearts until they find somebody to love. 

-Cherry

my favorite pairs (compatible and incompatible*)
  • ***any relationship can work regardless of what astrology says. some of these pairings are not classically considered compatible due to their elements.
  • compatible:
  • aries/sagittarius - enthusiastic couple
  • aries/gemini - curious couple
  • taurus/virgo - reliable couple
  • taurus/cancer - secure couple
  • gemini/aquarius - open-minded couple
  • gemini/sagittarius - venturesome couple
  • cancer/pisces - emotional couple
  • cancer/virgo - sympathetic couple
  • leo/aries - optimistic couple
  • leo/libra - social couple
  • virgo/capricorn - hard-working couple
  • virgo/scorpio - complex couple
  • libra/gemini - easy-going couple
  • scorpio/capricorn - tenacious couple
  • sagittarius/aquarius - free-spirited couple
  • pisces/taurus - fond couple
  • incompatible:
  • aries/capricorn - determined couple
  • taurus/libra - romantic/affectionate couple
  • gemini/pisces - innovative couple
  • cancer/leo - compassionate couple
  • leo/capricorn - ambitious couple
  • virgo/gemini - intellectual couple
  • libra/pisces - empathetic couple
  • scorpio/leo - passionate couple
  • sagittarius/pisces - creative couple
  • capricorn/gemini - eloquent couple
  • aquarius/scorpio - strong-willed couple
  • pisces/aquarius - visionary couple

anonymous asked:

Why all these "can I use the spoon theory" questions? It's easy enough. If you're unable to do things, or if you can't do things easily, because you're sick or disabled, use it. If you don't have that issue, don't. While I'm being cranky, I really feel like saying "self-diagnosis is okay" without pointing out that pretty much every doctor on the planet will punish you for it is irresponsible.

No, the “can I use the spoon theory” questions aren’t that easy. When people ask these things, it’s less about them knowing if they’re sick, and more about them needing validation. See, because of stigma and discrimination and jerks like you, there’s a ton of chronically ill people in the world who don’t have empathetic people in their lives who will take two seconds to validate their pain and illness. It takes me 10 seconds to help validate a person, and I’m happy to do that. And they shouldn’t be made to feel like shit because they don’t have the support they deserve.

And, please, explain to me how doctors will punish you for self-diagnosis. Everybody in the world self-diagnoses. If you visit a doctor at all, ever, you are self-diagnosing because you’re diagnosing yourself as sick in some way, sick enough to see a doctor. Have you had a cold? Do you visit the doctor every time you have a cold to make sure it’s a cold? No? What about a splinter? A headache? A cut? A bruise? Then, you self-diagnose. And just like people self-diagnose a bruise, they can self-diagnose fibromyalgia, or depression, or anything. Doctors value self-diagnosis because it makes appt times shorter and more efficient because there’s a starting place, and it shows the patient is being proactive about their health. And, let’s not get started on the amount of people who self-diagnose so they can help themselves because they can’t afford to see a doctor, or those whose doctors are incompetent and discriminatory. For example- I self diagnosed myself with fibromyalgia 3 years before I was diagnosed by a doctor. Why wasn’t I diagnosed by a doctor sooner? I couldn’t afford health insurance. Then once I could see a doctor, the first two ‘didn’t believe’ in fibromyalgia, a well-documented, existing illness. This happens to spoonies every day, whether it’s fibro, depression, anxiety, or a zillion other things.

In conclusion, you are a horribly un-empathetic jerk who has clearly not had issues that would make you welcome in our community. Please feel free to not write here again. On your way out the door, please step on a lego, and spend an exorbitant amount of money to see a doctor to make sure that the pain is indeed from stepping on a lego. 

Impression of Grunkle Stan in the beginning of the show: Greedy, selfish, lonely old man that seems to care about his family a bit but overall disregards their wellbeing in exchange for his own satisfaction.

Impression of Grunkle Stan now: His desperation for money roots from living in absolute poverty after being kicked out by his dad and abandoned by his brother, he cares deeply for his family, got himself banned from airplanes trying to remove a date from the calendar because it upset his employee, spent thirty years of his life riddled with guilt trying to get his brother back only to have his efforts scorned when he succeeded, a deeply empathetic and compassionate old man.

Stevenbomb 3 Thoughts

I just realized: early in Cry For Help, Garnet and Steven are watching a snippet of Crying Breakfast Friends that foreshadows later events in the episode: one character lied to another, and the other character immediately forgives her- Steven offers the commentary of “I’d forgive her, wouldn’t you?”

Garnet’s response is a noncommittal noise- not a yes or a no.

Not only does this foreshadow how things go in that episode, it also highlights some very real dynamics, some of which we’ve already seen, and some which are explored in Keystone Motel, the following episode:

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I typed one hundred words about random stuff and this thing came up with “ you are guarded”
Yes, yes I am. How in the world did it know I am empathetic? I am so empathetic I hurt inside for the world!
Seriously, I wrote random stuff in there! It is creeping me out.

*camera for my autodoc pans over my oceanic real estate before closing up on me sitting in my platinum rocking chair* “I have a gift you know, I can find the #relatable in the most obscure concepts” *a bird flies directly into my large solar panel windows and falls into my infinity pool* “ha ,ah thats just so #me, I think it’s a gift,.,.,to be so empathetic.,,so trans-physical.,.,. to find parts of yourself in everything else” 

10 Things You Probably Don’t Know About The INFP

1. We’re not always tuned into other peoples emotions or feelings.

Ok… this one’s a fun one, while it is vastly true that we’re idealists, and enjoy daydreaming. This does not mean we have this magical perception on a person’s emotions and/or feeling, just because my personality type happens to be an INFP, does not mean that I’m both empathetic, and/or sympathetic. To say and think otherwise, is a little unfair. Can we be extremely friendly and get along with anyone around us for the most part? Heck yes.

Often times we have our own emotions to try and sort through, than to bother with some one else’s emotions. We may be having a hard enough time trying to control and sort through our own, darn it. This doesn’t mean we’re not willing to listen, but if we seem less than lively or interested in what you’re saying, it’s usually because we have so many other emotions and thoughts of our own, than to pay attention to yours. We’re not all masters of psychology after all.

2. We can be a walking contradiction.

Ah yes, nothing confuses a person more than being a complete enigma personality wise. We can either not be intelligent, or be very intelligent, and then at some random time, either say/do something really smart, or say/do something really stupid, often times at very strange moments. We can be both very deep thinkers, yet also blurt out something without thinking, and just when a persons idea of us starts to form, we suddenly do something completely unexpected. It doesn’t matter what it is you may think of us, at one moment, at some unforeseen time, and without warning our nature, day to day, may change.

This is perhaps why so many people have a hard time trying to grasp us, there may be a core that they get, but then a multiple of other things they don’t. For us INFP’s sometimes it’s fun to be a wild card, other times extremely annoying, and extremely lonely. After all, the only other person who may get us is another INFP, ENFP, INFJ, or an ENFJ. Cause surprise, we’re not a huge fan of being misunderstood, and yet we can’t exactly explain why we do or say what we do, we just… do.

3. We can be extremely aggressive.

As an INFP, I’ve often been accused of being a big teddy bear, a gentle giant, too nice, and so on. You know because when they say INFP’s want harmony, or want to be nice, for the most part that’s true. That is… until we’ve either been driven to the edge, or have had a core value be targeted. Then that boundary of us avoiding conflict is broken, and we… will… be… in… your… face. Either figuratively, or literally, circumstances depending of course.

4. We can be very negative.

For some strange, unfathomable reason, people always seem to think we’re always optimistic about everything. That every INFP is so cheerful that their farts send out rainbows, and their burps lovely little flowers of joy. Sure we love beauty, all things creative, and can generally say something good about anything. Just because we have this capacity, does not mean we always use it. It may surprise you that even though we can find good in everything, we can also find the bad as well. So depending on how an INFP has been brought up, can very easily depend on which side of the spectrum their emotions allow them to see things.

We’re guided by what we feel, and what we feel may not be sunshine and rainbows, but dark clouds and stormy skies instead. To think that we’re always one way, is a huge misconception that needs to be broken. It’s also not like we want to be negative either, we may simply be pessimistic by nature or then circumstances of life have forced us into such an emotional mind set.

5. It’s not easy to gain our trust, but it’s easy to break it.

In the event that you got an INFP to open up enough to begin to trust you, hurray, you’re one step closer to the INFP accepting you as a friend. Now here comes the tricky part. During this time we will put you under extreme scrutiny, you won’t notice it, but we will. Why? Well for the most part we want to know how far we can trust you, if being a friend is truly a possibility, and a multitude of other things we’re trying to figure out in regards to you.

During this time, that we think you’re a decent enough human being for us to consider accepting you as a friend, is exactly the time when you don’t do anything stupid to break our trust. By stupid I mean attacking or making fun of the things we value, not listening to us when we say yes or no, or forcing us against our will to do something we don’t want to. The moment you decide to do something rash and/or reckless, is the moment during this time, that we decide to put you at a distance again.

6. I don’t think you fully understand how big we are on loyalty.

Loyalty for us is like… huge, I mean super huge. If you’re our friend, family, or anything we care about, we will, once called, be there for you. As a friend it took us a long enough time to accept you, so you better believe we’ll be there when help is asked, if we can. If we can’t, there will be a legitimate, and completely valid reason why we can’t, which we’ll totally feel extremely guilty about. Not only will we be there for you, despite our differences, we will defend you, as you have now become part of what we value. We consider you almost like distant family, and while at times we may hurt your feelings, we’ll never actually abandon the friendship.

As an employee, this means you’re dependable, you’re early, you do your work as best as you can, and you try to get along with co-workers. Does it mean you’ll never leave? Well no, but while you’re there, you remain loyal to them, and when you decide it’s finally time to leave to newer pastures, there’s always a piece of you that is torn when you do. While some people may be able to quit on the spot without hesitation, it may take us several months to come to terms with it, before we actually do.

What to take away from this? If it’s something we care about, and if you’re someone we care about, we’ll be there for the long haul, and it won’t be us who leaves first, it will always be the other person. After all, we hate both betrayal, disloyalty, and abandonment, it doesn’t matter what kind. There are some cases we can come to grips with it, other cases where we can’t.  

7. It is very easy for us to feel guilty.

Since feeling guilty is an emotional response that relates to what you’re feeling, and since INFPs are rather closely tied to their own feelings, it can be very, very, easy to make us feel guilty. We don’t even have to be in the wrong, to feel guilty, and this, once noticed by others, can be, and in some cases, is sadly used and abused by the other person, to get us to do or not do, what they want.

8. We don’t like focusing on solely one thing.

A lot of kids and teenagers growing up, usually only have one thing in mind that they want to be, and one thing only. If they don’t have one thing in mind, they’re usually very unsure about what they want to be. INFPs are very different, in the sense that, mostly thanks to their idealistic nature, they’ll likely have multiple things in which they’d like to be. This is also why we don’t tend to follow the, “Name one thing you want to be when you grow up.” Only one? Why one, when I have so many? Or then when, quite often asked by an adult of any sort what they want to be, the adults tend to be quite taken back when all of a sudden the person is giving them a list of 10 things they’d like to be, and how it’s completely and utterly possible for them to be all 10.

We just find so many things fascinating, that it would be boring to learn, or do one thing for the rest of your life. Sadly most people don’t seem to understand this, as society tells them to only focus on one thing, and one thing alone. I remember while I was studying culinary in College, the teacher asked “What are your goals?” Not surprisingly in a culinary school, most of the responses varied from, “I want to own my own restaurant/bakery” to “I wish to become a chef on tv,” to “I want to become renown in the culinary industry.” All very single minded goals.

When it came to myself, my response was completely different from everyone else’s. My response was, “I have many goals and dreams, one of which is to become a writer.”

The follow up was. “Oh you mean like writing cook books?”

I replied. “No I mean writing fiction such as sci fi, adventure, action and the like.”

To which one very annoyed student said. “Then why are you taking this course if you don’t want to be a chef?”

I simply answered. “I never said I didn’t want to be a chef, becoming a chef, and taking this course I believe will help me to achieve my dreams.” Naturally they all didn’t get it, my point is we don’t like sticking to one thing for the rest of our life.

9. We can be very dedicated.

Going back to the story I just posted. Out of that group, I was one of three who passed with honors, which must of annoyed the students who knew I wasn’t there to be solely a chef. While INFPs can be seen as procrastinators, when we’re actually working towards a goal, we can be very focused and dedicated towards it. We may seem lackadaisical to those around us, yet in private we may be tearing our hair out, and crying, all while trying to do our best. Just because you don’t see us publicly as very dedicated and passionate towards something, doesn’t mean we’re the same when in private.

10. Finally, we can be very effeminate.

Can we all admit that some stereotypes in society can be very annoying? Can we also admit that we are our own person and don’t need to conform to the way society says we should be? Yes? Good. The problem I have with this current issue is the fact that as a guy, I know I’m more effeminate than well… other guys. Yet society and media, and all those wonderful people claim that I must be a homosexual. Which begs the question… why? Why must I be a homosexual? Why can’t I like women? Is it because I like shopping? Or can find beauty in anything regardless of gender? I’ve never really understood this one, I mean just because I happen to be more artistically minded, and act a little girly towards certain things, does not mean I’m gay, if anything it means I’m a little more open to who I am as a person.

To anyone who is being told what to be, or how you really should be, or any of those things that society and the media likes to throw at you because you’re not the norm, and they think it’s due to your sexual orientation, or what ever. I will give you a quote that might help, and it might not help, it of course all depends.

“Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don’t matter and those who matter don’t mind.” – Dr. Seuss

anonymous asked:

Is it bad being empathetic? People praise others for having that quality, but I feel as if it is holding me back and allowing me to get hurt when it is absolutely unnecessary. With that being said it sounds like I'm feeble and emotionally weak but I get over things quick and don't let much bother me except in the spur of the moment when it happens. i don't like how I hold onto that feeling and let it consume me, even if it's for such a short time.

Empathy is a blessing. Sometimes it’s a burden and things weigh heavy on you, sure, but that weight is typically what pushes you to love and help others. Our world has gotten really good at stressing self-reliance at the expense of individual interactions with others. There’s a reason we live in a culture that shames love and emotion, and it’s because everyone’s become obsessed with being their own person. Empathy allows us to see each individual for who they are. I believe recognizing that each individual is made in the image of God will aid in that endeavor as well. If we are all made in the image of God, we are called to love everyone. To love someone is to be their brother or sister in humanity, and even when you feel “consumed” by that love and it may hurt you, rest assured that “greater love has no one than this, than to lay down one’s life for his friends.”

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Drunk and Riotous: troubled and troublesome inebriate women

Newspaper headlines moralising about binge-drinking ‘ladette’ culture and alcohol-fuelled crime are hardly a recent phenomenon. I was reminded recently of my own half-forgotten research about Victorian drunkenness by Nell Darby’s excellent blog post concerning the newspaper reporting of the 400 arrests of Annie Parker in mid nineteenth-century London. This empathetic account of a ‘notorious’ woman whose alcoholism earned her censure, pity, and not a little admiration was a familiar story in the later Victorian and Edwardian period as well. Craig Stafford’s work in nineteenth-century Salford and Rochdale also reflects this fascination and revulsion with these highly visible and noisy women with headlines such as ‘The Worst Woman in Rochdale’.

Record-breaking arrests seem to be the favourite headlines for newspapers, and probably the widest known ‘habitual drunkard’ was Jane Cakebread whose nearly 300 arrests had generated extensive column inches of the ‘Jane Cakebread Again’ sort. She was discussed in the British Medical Journal, and her ‘fame’ spread to the US via a 1897 piece in the North American Review.

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People of the 1% who stand with the 99%

The “Occupy Wall Street” protesters — also known as the “99 percent” — have struck a chord with at least a few members of an unexpected audience: America’s rich and privileged.

United under the banner “We are the 1 percent: We stand with the 99 percent,” a band of entrepreneurs, trust fund babies, professionals and inheritors has taken to the web to share their abhorrence of corporate greed and support for tax code changes that would see them pay a higher share of their considerable wealth.

Among other things, they’re posting their stories on a Tumblr page created by Wealth for the Common Good and Resource Generation, two groups dedicated to working for “fair taxation and just wealth distribution.”

FOLLOW: http://westandwiththe99percent.tumblr.com/

Empathetic Rats Help Each Other Out! (of course they do)

In a new study, laboratory rats repeatedly freed their cage-mates from containers, even though there was no clear reward for doing so. The rodents didn’t bother opening empty containers or those holding stuffed rats. When presented with both a rat-holding container and a one containing chocolate — the rats’ favorite snack — the rodents not only chose to open both containers, but also to share the treats they liberated.

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