“He may leave one day,” she says, “and it may hurt.” She pauses, collecting herself.

“But I think I will be okay. He’s given me the gift of hope. I’m glad I’ve extracted that much.”

—  Excerpt from a book I’ll never write #27 // lily rose.
Me when Magnus and Alec kiss for the first time:

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The New Reflections go on #38
Weezer, The World has Turned and Left Me Here
Basile Pesso-my BCN © June 2 014-First broadcast then here in link
My Blip / My web magazine : Yes We Are (links) with Mathias Hohn as The Side Look of a Barcelonese #350

…and thanks a lot to Styro Foam Indie, Rethob (Dothob), JlWerpin and Shuuichi Kawamura for the reblog of The New Abstracts #71(link) !

Agape Love

Words by Johanna Loh

We are part of a world that places much emphasis on the concept of love. It is something so celebrated, yet simultaneously something that can be hard to grasp. We get exposed to many different kinds of love. The most familiar loves we know consist of familial love, friendship and romantic love. And then there is the agape love of God – a sacrificial and unconditional love. Love is familiar because we all know it in one form or another. But it can be easily twisted if we do not have agape love as the foundational motivation for the other three key loves.

As human beings, one of our defining attributes regarding love is hard-wiring for companionship.  As the famous opening phrase by the poet John Donne emphatically states, “No man is an island, entire of itself”. We find fulfilment in loving others and having love returned to us. Even being in the presence of one friend near and dear to us counts for plenty. We are not built to be alone. Another key attribute of how we are attuned to love would be our emotional response to people and situations. A large aspect of our relationships are built on emotions. Happiness shared, tears shed in sadness, pride in another’s achievements, anger at something gone wrong… the list goes on.  

Yet, our humanness has consequences. We don’t always behave as how we should. Arguments happen. Frustration and dissatisfaction set in. Our relationships with others disintegrate despite much investment. We make bad choices, hurting ourselves and others. Sometimes, we end up losing people we value and love - a family member, a friend or a significant other. And we are left wondering at the mistakes, trying to figure things out and patch the pieces back together.

There is nothing wrong with desiring company with others, or relating emotionally to others. Those attitudes are innate parts of us as human beings. But at one point, they won’t be enough to sustain us. They are components of real love. They are important aspects of how we understand love. But these attitudes do not form a roadmap to real love itself. We always long for something more. A relationship of greater depth. Something that goes beyond emotion because somewhere deep inside us, we understand that emotion can only last for so long as the fuel for a relationship. We know that at one point, human mindsets will not be enough for real love. We’re all looking and longing for a love that never fails us. A love that doesn’t wax and wane under time a circumstances. Something steadfast and true. And that is the crucial nature of agape love.

Let’s go back to the definition of agape. In Greek, agape literally means love. It is a love that has its origin in God and not man. In Romans 5:8, it is noted, “But God demonstrates his own love (agape) for us in this: While we were still sinners, Christ died for us.” William Barclay (1974) stated that, “Agape has to do with the mind: it is not simply an emotion which rises unbidden in our hearts; it is a principle by which we deliberately live.”  The whole notion of agape runs contrary to human nature. It calls us to be better than ourselves. It calls us not to live by our feelings, but to live beyond them. It would have been a painful and torturous death on the cross, yet Jesus willingly did it out of agape love for us. He didn’t die for a specific “good” group of people, but for everyone. The world has a way of branding people based on their misdeeds or lack of accomplishments. Liar. Thief. Useless. Average Joe… Yet the agape that Jesus demonstrated appoints everyone as exceedingly valued and loved. And when we know Jesus and love him, we in turn start to see people ever more through his eyes.

The whole notion of agape runs contrary to human nature. It calls us to be better than ourselves. It calls us not to live by our feelings, but to live beyond them.

Only agape can motivate us to sincerely love others the same way as Jesus, not just in word but also in action. We start to love people just as they are; we also see more clearly their potential beyond who they are now to who they can be. It is a not shallow love. It hangs in there for the long run. It teaches us how to give sacrificially and weeds out a mentality of judgment. We learn to be more humble and less self-conscious. Other people become more important to us than ourselves. When we apply agape love to our relationships and situations, transformation occurs. It might be gradual or it could radically change a life overnight. Either way, the key thing is that we are putting it in action. When we love people with an attitude of agape, we deliberately choose to give them all with have without expecting anything in return. It is the noblest form of love that we could possibly offer. As a matter of fact, God’s agape is the sole love that can thoroughly fill us, and at the same moment empower us to love others.

Know that you are called to love powerfully and transformationally. You don’t have to perform big, crazy or wild gestures. Agape love can be as simple as spending time with someone who needs it. It could be really listening to a person with the aim of understanding his/her situation, rather aiming to reply. It might consist of doing a good deed in anonymity, or being pleasant to someone who makes it a chronic struggle for you to be nice. Little deeds done with a big heart count for much. As St. Teresa of Avila aptly pronounced, “The smallest thing when done for the love of God is priceless.”

Mood Swings

Unreliable sorts
Come and go
Mostly unsolicited.

Marauding anger
Shoots word bullets
Creating untold
Damage in its wake.

Pitiful twins
Guilt and regret
Make allowances
For all that mudslinging.

Oh to see joy,
Such a gleeful fellow,
Never around
Long enough.

Rueful sadness
Always lamenting about
Something or other,
Gave me a case
Of the blue devils
Last time.

Invited happiness
To stay on permanently,
But it couldn’t
Tolerate all those
Temperamental fools
Swinging by at
All hours.


I used to talk about you all the time.

But not anymore.
Now when I hear your name or when someone mentions you- I cringe. My eyes go blank and my body goes numb. You’d think that all the hurt in the world was forced into my body. My heart becomes melancholic and shuts down. It’ll skip a few beats. All of which, within a blink of an eye. I’ll smile so widely and hoping they’d change the subject.

//There are still days where I’d be staring out of the classroom door hoping you’d pass by. My eyes go inky black and it hits me in full force. I didn’t just like you. I loved you. Do I still love you? I don’t know it’s been awhile since you’ve passed by.

>inspired from a post I read but can’t find it anymore