How can I unlearn my anger when I'm riding? I get very frustrated when I'm asking for something I know I (& my horse) can do, what can I do to be patient is what I'm asking. (I'm on mobile)
okay this ask is over 2 years old so don’t shoot me just yet.
I struggle with this too. And honestly, the best advice I can give you is to:
a) ALWAYS have a plan. If you’re a novice rider or trainer (for context, I consider myself a novice) Its extremely beneficial/ almost essential to make a game plan. Go over what it is that you want to work on during your training session. For instance, I might want to work on developing lateral work at the walk. Ill think about the steps I need to take to warm up my horse so he will be ready to do walking laterals, and I need to think about how I will apply my aids to get those behaviors Im asking for, and I need to asses whether my horse understands those aids well enough to be able to preform the exercises correctly. To get to that point in my session, I may warm up at the trot, and canter to loosen him up. I may begin with a simple leg yield. As I do this exercise, I asses if my horse is responding to me in a way id like. Even though I KNOW my horse can yield away from my leg, if he isn’t responding the way id like him to, I need tell myself to take a step back and go over each little behavior that constitutes a leg yield. I may hop off and work on sensitizing him to my leg by touching a whip to where my leg would be and rewarding him for responding to it. I may also sensitize him to rein aids, were if I pick up the inside rein, he should shift weight to the outside shoulder and calmly drift away from me. I could even break these steps into smaller steps if he’s still not responding etc. etc. Its a little complicated, but training requires extensive theoretical knowledge, and if you make a plan on how to address a horse who isn’t doing what you’d like it to, you’ll be able to stay calm and reasonable in your requests. If you don’t make a plan, you risk “escalation”, where instead of trying to explain yourself either more clearly or in a different way, you just make your aids bigger, bolder, and increasingly more aggressive if the horse continues to “disobey” you. This is NOT the path to harmony with your horse lol. Easier said than done FOR SURE, but practice this and you’ll get better. Having a backup plan is really helpful too. If something isn’t going well and you feel yourself becoming frustrated, its best to move onto plan B and start “fresh” with a new behavior. As you gain more experience, you can be more flexible with your initial plan and adjust your training session as you go to suit how your horse feels on that day. Flexibility is a learned skill essential to training animals and it takes time to develop, so don’t beat yourself up for not being able to to it. I still struggle haha.
and b) break the behavior into super small steps that make it easy for the horse to understand. If you’re struggling to work on something that you know you or your horse is capable of, its completely OKAY to go back a few steps and work on it like you just introduced the behavior. Thats called building a better basic. It doesn’t mean that your horse “forgot” the training you’ve done in the past. Think of this as an opportunity to build up the foundation of your training that allows you to move on to more difficult things that require greater degrees of balance and control. Heres my shitty example:
Say you’ve been working on getting your horse to walk on an accurate circle without leaning to one side or the other (its difficult!) You’ve done it and you feel that your ready to move on to trot. Now you’re working on trotting on the circle, and then you feel ready for the canter. You work on this for a few weeks, but one day, all of the sudden, your horse is leaning to the inside and just will not yield to your inside rein or leg. Instead of fighting the horse in the canter, go back to walking (or trotting) on a circle. There are SO many variations of walking/trotting on a circle and so many useful exercises you can do at the walk/trot on a circle. If you work on these, you may very well find that not only has your walk work improved, but so has your trot and canter!
See how in the “after”, the base is wider? This represents the better foundation you’ve just put under your more advanced training.
I know a lot of people on here reading this will probably roll their eyes thinking “this is common sense”, but you have no idea how many professional instructors I’ve watched or taken a lesson with have insisted that their students and horses “already know how to do that” and make their students reprimand their horses for not obeying aids that their horse clearly never had a good fundamental understanding in… an example I’ve seen is when a trainer insist that their student keep their very crooked/ physically asymmetrical horse “straight” at the trot and canter when jumping a line of jumps, even when said horse hasn’t even the slightest clue on how to be straight and even at the walk!
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Today it’s been a year since I uploaded the pictures that gave me the most satisfaction. After a year, the fate would have the same fog and I could not stay home. I went to create a new photo.
This is my last work.
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